Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

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10: Why you don't stick to your goals. Dec 19, 2018

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It's almost 2019!!! Time for those good old New Years Resolutions.

If you're anything like me, you may have noticed a pattern in your life, though... Get SUPER excited about making changes, write some goals down, dive in and quit.

In a matter of weeks.

Or even days.

That was me, for most of my adult life. Until I found the way that works for me and for my clients.

In today's episode I want to share with you 7 of the main reasons you've been setting goals without achieving them. I want you to understand why you haven't been successful so you can move past those old mistakes and TRULY make 2019 the year that EVERYTHING CHANGES! Yaaaaaasssss!!

If you want to make 2019 your most important year yet, I can help. I know how to guide women through the transformations they really want to achieve. I KNOW I can help you. If you are COMMITTED, click here and we can hop on the phone and see if I'm the right mentor for you!

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9: Grief and sadness: How to feel it without drowning in it Dec 12, 2018

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I've had puhhh-lenty of experience with grief and loss and going through very hard times. But I've learned some really important lessons on how to manage pain...sadness, anger, despair, frustration...that I want to share with you:

~ pain is just a chemical process that lasts 90 seconds

~ the difference between pain and suffering

~ why it's important to stop trying to avoid your sadness

~ how to add EASE and COMFORT to pain

It IS possible to go through horrendous times in your life without drowning in it.

Watch Jill Bolte Taylor's TEDx talk

Read A Stroke Of Insight

Want to work with me to create a life you are head over heels in LOVE with? I'm accepting applications for 2019...click here to apply.

8: My best marriage advice that sucks... Dec 05, 2018

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The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my marriage. And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our neurodivergent (he's Aspergers, I'm not) marriage. Except...my advice sucks.

I mean, it's SOLID gold, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful.

I told you. Sucks.

On today's episode I'm talking about taking radical responsibility for your entire relationship so that you can transform it. I will share:

~ what radical ownership actually looks like

~how taking 100% responsibility for your entire life changes you're entire life

~ why it's so hard to stay in your own lane

~ why letting people BE who they are will make YOU happier

Also...if you are ready to make 2019 the year that you actually CREATE a life you love, transform your relationships, your body, your happiness, your life...I would love to help you.

Click here for a FREE, no obligation consultation call. We'll hop on the phone and see if we're a good fit and how we could work together in 2019.

I want you to stop WAITING for your external circumstances to change and change your life. I did it. I'll help you do it too.

7: Managing Anxiety Nov 28, 2018

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Anxiety keeps us stuck. It prevents us from doing both big things AND little things. In today's episode I'm going to take you through the process I take myself through when I'm feeling anxious.

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6: Becoming the person you really want to be Nov 21, 2018

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Today's episode is all about how to BECOME the woman you want to be. How to move from where you are now to where you WANT to be. Because it's one thing to hope and wish and dream and it's another to take action and BECOME the next version of yourself. I'll take you through:

~ how to tap into the next version so you get crystal clear on what you need to do to level up

~ what to focus on and what to STOP focusing on

~ why appreciation of where you are and where you've been is important

To dive deeper into any of the topics, join the Lounge.

5: Not everyone is gonna like you and that's okay. Nov 14, 2018

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There are 3 types of people in the world: people who like you, people who don't and people who just don't care.

And which people do you spend the most time worrying about?

The people who don't like you! The people you NEED to like you.

When your self worth is based on other people's approval of you, you will lose yourself QUICKLY.

Today's episode is a pep talk over coffee all about why we need to STOP focusing on trying to get people to like us and instead focus on the people who already do!

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4: Create a life you love...even if you don't know how Nov 07, 2018

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In today's episode we're going to talk all about how to create a life that you really love...no matter WHAT you've got going on right now.

We'll discuss:

~ why actually being creative helps with changing your life

~ how to decide what that life looks like

~ how to get past the thoughts that have been blocking you from creating something new

~ why you need to clean up your messes to manifest what you want

~ why the people you surround yourself with are CRITICAL pieces of this puzzle

~ why gratitude is key

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3: What self care ACTUALLY is. Nov 02, 2018

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You already know you're supposed to take care of yourself. And you'd LOVE to. But when? And how? I get it. The way self care is marketed to us women makes us think we need tons of time and boatloads of extra cash lying around. Massages, mani/pedis, girls nights out...they all sound amazing, aaaaaand...totally unrealistic.

Well, guess what? Those things are great if you can get it. But TRUE self care doesn't require money and only requires minutes a day. What I've learned in my own journey from overwhelmed, exhausted hot mess (who N E V E R took care of herself) to a woman whose self care is non-negotiable is that it's not massages, it's daily habits. Small habits you do each day that make your life better. That make you feel better.

That's why we're supposed to practice self-care, right? To feel better.

Here are some of the things I talked about in the show:

Free download: How to create an evening routine

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Why You Feel Resentful (And How to Take Back Control) Nov 02, 2018

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Do you feel like you have no other choice but to feel angry and resentful? Like... you WANT to be happier, but **gestures around wildly**....HOW???

In this episode, we're talking about the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and why your thoughts (not your partner, your boss, or the guy that cut you off) are actually creating how you feel.

And I'll introduce you to my Rewire Process, which will help you identify the thoughts and learn how to shift them into ones that create better, more empowering feelings and therefore, more empowered behaviors. (Because what you think creates how you show up).

This convo will help you see your mind in a completely new way and give you the tools to start changing it.

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Why Fear Takes Over Your Brain (The Lizard Brain Explained) Oct 23, 2018

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New to Calm AF? Start here.

This episode explains the "lizard brain" and why overthinking and anxiety take over your mind. (This was the very first episode of Calm AF—and it's still one of the most downloaded!)

If your brain jumps straight to worst-case scenarios, replays conversations, overthinks every decision, or freezes because you're afraid to make the wrong move, your lizard brain might be running the show.

In this episode of Calm AF, we break down the neuroscience behind fear, anxiety, and the brain's fight-flight-freeze response. You'll learn why fear shuts down your ability to think clearly—and how to calm your nervous system so you can make decisions from a grounded, rational place.

Your brain is divided into three parts: the primitive lizard brain, the limbic brain, and the neocortex—the part responsible for higher-level thinking, creativity, and problem solving.

The problem?

When fear takes over, the lizard brain shuts down the neocortex… which means your smartest thinking disappears exactly when you need it most.

Understanding this changes everything.

In this episode you'll learn:

• why your brain goes into fight-flight-freeze mode • how fear shuts down your ability to think clearly • how to recognize when your lizard brain is running the show • the simple shift that helps calm your nervous system and regain control

If you've ever wondered why you overthink, freeze under pressure, or feel like your brain is working against you—this episode will finally make it make sense.

Daily Recalibration

Ready to reset your dysregulation default setting?

The Daily Recalibration is a short, powerful daily reset designed to train your nervous system to stay steady in neutral.

One clean rep every morning so you spend less time torturing yourself with made-up scenarios and more time regulated, clear, and efficient.

Get it here: The Daily Recalibration

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If you want to practice this work in real life with women who are committed to growth, Calm AF Life is where we do it.

We don't vent. We regulate. We don't rehearse old patterns. We interrupt them. We uplevel our identities one win at a time.

If you're ready to show up that way, join us (or join the waitlist) here → Calm AF Life

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