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The #1 Thing That's Getting In Your Way of Success Feb 27, 2019

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The science is simple.

Our habits, good or bad, rewire our brains. When we repeat a behavior, like complaining, over and over again it charges those neurological connections to make complaining easier and automatic. The more you complain, the more your brain rewires itself for negativity.

Complaining takes us out of our strongest energy and it doesn't lead us to answers….only more things to complain about. Complaining doesn't solve problems, it's just an attempt by our egos to get some validation.

If complaining is so bad for us, why do we do it? From a young age, we are taught that it's a socially acceptable way to bond with family, friends, and even strangers. For some of us, we thinking venting will make us feel better.

Let's be honest, sometimes we want to host a big ole pity party. But there is a way to bond over shared pain that will lead to comfort, and complaining is NOT it.

Complaining is absolutely keeping you from making progress, from achieving the things you want to achieve. This episode is filled with tangible tips that will stop complaining dead in its tracks.

If you're ready to make a transformation in your life, if you're tired of living in survival mode, book a consult with me!

Book a consult: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

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Who Else is Tired of Doing All The Things? Feb 20, 2019

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This episode is dedicated to all the Superwomen out there feeling forced to do it all. I see ya girl! You're tired of working, taking care of kids, cleaning house, volunteering the list goes on with no help from anyone. It's easy to get stuck in the hamster wheel of the scarcity.

The thought of I have to do this and I have to do that will leave you feeling helpless. Instead of CHOOSING to do these things. Choosing to go to work because you love providing for your family. Choosing to have a clean home because it makes you feel good to be clutter free.

Doesn't that word change make you feel better? Well, I have more where that came from! Today I'm sharing my tiny mindset shifts that will have you saying bye-bye to the sacristy and have you racking in abundance!

Here is the link for the workbook: https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/have-to-choose-to/

Book a consult: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

Email: Kristen@kristenfinch.com

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3 Steps to Achieving Any Goal You Set Feb 13, 2019

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Three lies we tell ourselves about our dream life: I don't know what my dream life looks like, I've tried that before and failed, I don't have the time or money to pursue this.

As soon as we even think about changing our mind comes ups with all these reasons why we can't.

Why is it so hard for us to dream big? Because our negative thoughts are in the driver's seat. We're scared. Scared of failing, scared of reaching for something we'll never achieve. We don't think we deserve spending money on ourselves or living this big awesome life we dream about.

So we settle for, 'just good enough goals,' that will make our lives a tiny bit better. We live a life that's safe.

Today we're breaking out of the ordinary! I'm sharing my three steps to transformation. It's time to dream, decide and do.

If you want to create a life you love I can help! What if you decided right now to hop on a free phone call with me? Click here so we can make it happen.

Email me: kristen@kristenfinch.com

How My Husband's Autism Diagnosis Changed My Life For The Better Feb 06, 2019

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In this episode, I share a little secret. For YEARS I've been hiding it, denying it, and today is my coming out party. And it feels so good to be open and honest!

Now it's your turn. What good thing have you been resisting in your life? How have you let other people's opinions hold you back? Are you feeling stuck? Stopped hiding from the thing that you think people are going to judge you for, or the thing that you think you need more proof in order to help people? What do you need to believe in order to move forward? In order to live that full life that you want to live? What would you need to stop believing about yourself?

I hope sharing my story will help you fully step into your own power. Stop wasting time on fears. Stop wasting time on doubt. Put yourself back in the narrative; take this a step further.

Change it.

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What if it was easy? Jan 30, 2019

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This episode is proof that you just never know when inspiration is gonna hit. The inspiration for this week: a toilet paper roll in a bathroom stall in a hotel in Louisville, Kentucky.

Listen to the episode for the full story, but here's the gist: there are two paths you can take to transformation...the HARD path or the EASY path.

And as humans, we are naturally wired to focus on the HARD way. Our brains are designed that way on purpose. The problem is that when we believe what we want to achieve is too hard...whether it's being happier in your marriage, losing weight, starting a business, or just drinking more water...it becomes hard.

Our thoughts create the results we have.

SO we have to change it.

What if you just decided to stop believing that your marriage was hard? What if you just decided to stop believing that decluttering your house was hard?

Do you think you might get unstuck and actually MOVE FORWARD?

Yep.

The lesson I share in this episode is how I've gotten unstuck and achieved every single transformation in my life.

If you want to get unstuck and get your own mind blowing transformations, I can help. Click here so we can make it happen.

How to Marie Kondo Your Mind Jan 23, 2019

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Scientists argue that humans have between 20,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. How many of those thoughts do you think are mindful? Hardly any of them, right?

We collect thoughts. Hoard them and replay them over and over again. Just like those jeans in your closet, they don't fit but maybe they will someday. If there are thoughts that are not serving you that don't represent who you are becoming, don't put them back in your mind. You can change them. Yes, yes, you can change your thoughts!

But how?

In this episode, I'm teaching the four steps that I take every client through that I go through myself every single day to declutter my mind so that I can feel freer so I don't feel overwhelmed or antsy or anxious or stuck, because anytime I'm feeling that way, it means there are some cluttered thoughts happening in my body. And the only way to get rid of clutter is to declutter, right physical mental doesn't matter.

It's time to declutter our thoughts!

Ready to declutter your mind? Click here to see how we can work together: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

Mentioned on the show:

Amanda Gibby Peters: www.simpleshui.com

Uncluttered DIY course with Kristen Finch + Amanda Gibby Peters: https://kristenfinch.teachable.com/p/uncluttered/

Marie Kondo: www.konmari.com

How to Stop Making Excuses & Invest In Yourself Jan 16, 2019

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"One of the only things I wished I did was take care of myself sooner. I felt like it was never the right time to take care of myself mentally."

These are the words of my former client who passed away from pancreatic cancer. As women, we put everyone else first and leave no time for ourselves. We have these thoughts in our heads, "I can do it on my own or I don't have time."

In today's episode, I'm sharing the top 5 reasons why we don't invest in ourselves.

A Sneak Peak:

*Investing SAVES money

*Making time vs creating time

*The wise words of a former client

*Self care isn't selfish

*the more money I put into myself, the better the results are

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Let's connect! You can find me on Facebook or Instagram...send me a message and let me know that you're a listener!

Ready to change your life? I can absolutely help you. Book a free consult. (Don't be afraid...you'll laugh AND have next steps no matter what you decide!). Click here.

How to Live a Happy Life: Actions and Mindset for a Better Life Jan 09, 2019

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On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you?

Could you be happier in your life, career, and relationships—of course!

As a life coach, I noticed that a lot of my clients are settling. They set the bar low so they won't get disappointed or they can't see themselves feeling any better than they do at the moment.

I get it, I've been there gorgeous soul.

Today I share how to get to a 10 on the happiness scale.

I also go over:

*How do you know what a 10 looks like

*Why you're partner cannot control your happiness

*The magic of setting the bar high

*Redefining your intentions to get what you want

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Show Resources:

Free Goal Setting Workshop on January 9th

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How to Achieve Your Goals Jan 02, 2019

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You set your goals. Now what? Now it's time to make changes. Listen to my 6 tips on how to achieve your goals.

Worksheet download: https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/how-to-achieve-your-goals/

Book a consult: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

Amanda Gibby Peters: www.simpleshui.com

Amy Cuddy power pose: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are

11: My goal writing process: how to write goals that STICK Dec 26, 2018

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I spent most of my adult life setting goals that never made it past a week. I always got super excited to sit down on New Years Eve to create new goals, but I just never followed through.

But over the years I've been tweaking my process. Using a combination of traditional goal writing and feeling-driven goals to come up with a process that really works.

I've transformed my entire life because I know how to follow through on my goals and because I know how to manage my thoughts.

In today's episode I'm going to walk you through the steps I go through to create meaningful goals that stick.

To download the workbook click here.

Here's the other thing I know...I am an expert in transformations. I have transformed my entire life and have guided dozens of women to transform theirs. I KNOW how to do this and I can help you do it. One year from now, you won't even recognize your life. Click here and we'll see if I'm the right coach for you!