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#275: The 7 Levels of Availability for ALL Relationships Jan 14, 2025

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a game-changing tool that's about to transform how you evaluate potential relationships - the Availability Scale. Drawing from my new book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts,' we're breaking down the seven levels of availability that determine whether someone is truly ready and able to show up in a relationship.

We're getting practical about how to identify where potential partners fall on the scale, from those who are fully available for deep, meaningful connections (what I call BLP - Best Friend, Lover, Partner availability) to those who present critical dangers to your emotional wellbeing.

In this episode, we cover…

04:26 The Seven Levels of Availability
08:45 Signs of Availability and Unavailability
13:13 Best Friend, Lover, Partner Availability
29:39 Good Friend Level Availability
34:51 Stranger Danger and Other Dangerous Levels

Resources mentioned in the episode:

OrderHow to Pick Partners for Love Addictsbook.
Join the Dating to Win for Love Addicts program.
Check out the No Contact Support Kit.
Watch the FREE Masterclass: 4 Ways to Pick Better Partners as Love Addicts
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#274: 3 Ways to Have the Best Relationships in 2025 Jan 07, 2025

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're kicking off 2025 with a powerful conversation about building stronger, healthier relationships - and yes, we're having this talk even through a 103-degree fever because that's how important this message is!

Whether you're dealing with love addiction, love avoidance, or just want to level up your relationships this year, we're diving into three game-changing strategies that you can start implementing right now. No more waiting for the "perfect time" or the "right moment" - your journey to better relationships starts today.

In this episode, we cover…

01:29 Three ways to improve your relationships
03:20 How to assess availability in relationships
06:03 Stop waiting for the perfect time
14:26 Why you should forgive yourself and allow space for growth
22:49 Be open to changing your mind
26:35 News about upcoming Black Girls Heal events

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Get your own copy of the How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book.
Join The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat
Join the How to Make it Work workshop
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships Dec 26, 2024

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Fear of abandonment can create a lot of insecurity and conflict in a relationship. In this episode, we break down 3 signs to look out for to add to your recovery plan for healing.

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#272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts) Dec 18, 2024

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In this episode, I will go over 3 green flags of availability for healthy partners for love addicts pulling from my new book, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts.

Get the New Book here on Amazon

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

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#271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue Dec 12, 2024

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On top of the normal holiday overwhelm, it seems like many of us are dealing with fatigue that we just can't catch a break. In today's episode, I give 3 tips to help support where you are.

Enroll in the 60 Day Love Avoidant Rehab

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#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary Nov 26, 2024

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into a topic that often brings up complex emotions - recognizing when friendships might be temporary. You know those relationships that feel so intense and meaningful in the moment, but somehow don't stand the test of time? Let's talk about why that happens and why it might actually be perfectly okay.

Through sharing personal stories and insights from my upcoming book 'How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts', we're exploring four key ways to understand the natural ebb and flow of friendships. Whether it's bonding over shared interests, connecting through shared trauma, building relationships in forced environments like work or school, or finding yourself in life transitions - each type of friendship serves its own beautiful purpose.

This isn't about labeling friendships as "less than" because they might be temporary. Instead, we're reframing how we view these connections, understanding that not every friend is meant to be in our lives forever, and that's perfectly okay. From navigating workplace friendships to understanding how religious communities impact our connections, we're getting real about what makes relationships stick or shift.

In this episode, we cover…

03:14 Why temporary friendship exists
04:11 Four signs of temporary friendships
18:16 The complexity of building friendships
34:26 How to navigate transitional friendships
36:57 The importance of clear communication in friendships
44:59 Why you should still embrace temporary friendships
46:17 Upcoming book releases

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Grab copies of my books, How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts and No Contact Support Book
Listen to Episode 263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict
Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode) Nov 19, 2024

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving into something all of us face but nobody really wants to talk about - those seasons when it feels like you're in conflict with EVERYONE. You know those times? When it seems like every conversation is tense, every interaction is challenging, and you're starting to wonder if maybe you're the problem?

First, take a deep breath. Because what if I told you these seasons of conflict aren't here to break you - they're here to build you? What if every misunderstanding, every tough conversation, every moment that makes you want to scream into your pillow is actually an invitation to grow?

We're getting real about how to take care of yourself when it feels like you're swimming in difficult energy. From dealing with current conflicts to processing unresolved issues from your past, I'm sharing four practical strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these stormy seasons.

In this episode, we cover…

01:00 Understanding why seasons of conflict happen
02:52 Opportunities for growth during seasons of conflict
08:14 How to deal with misunderstandings
19:57 Why you should be teachable
25:31 Reflecting on past conflicts

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself Nov 12, 2024

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're taking a moment to celebrate YOU. Yes, you! We're shifting away from our usual conversations about red flags and relationship challenges to focus on something equally important - acknowledging just how far you've come in your healing journey.

You know those moments when you catch a red flag early? When you trust your gut instead of second-guessing yourself? When you look in the mirror and actually like who you see? Those aren't small wins - they're evidence of your incredible growth, and it's time we celebrate them!

Through personal stories and real-life examples, we're diving into the beautiful transformation that happens when we start recognizing our own progress. From being able to spot those red flags quicker (instead of six months down the line!), to actually trusting ourselves more than other people's opinions, to developing that genuine self-love that isn't dependent on anyone else's validation - these are all victories worth celebrating.

This conversation isn't just about patting ourselves on the back - it's about acknowledging that every step forward in our healing journey matters. Whether you're just starting out or you're well along your path, there's something powerful about stopping to recognize how far you've come.

In this episode, we cover…

02:47 Why you should recognize your growth
03:31 Embracing your wisdom
05:13 How to navigate life's challenges
06:30 Understanding self-knowledge
08:26 How to build self-love
09:42 Having faith beyond relationships
19:22 The power of self-liking

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care Nov 05, 2024

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're getting real about something that hits deep - what do you do when someone just stops showing up for you emotionally? You know that feeling when their energy shifts, the care fades, and you're left wondering what happened?

After seeing so many TikTok conversations about love avoidance and no contact, I knew it was time to dive into this topic heart-first. Because let's be honest - whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, or even family, that emotional withdrawal hits different when it comes from someone you truly care about.

This isn't just another "move on" conversation. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of how to hold onto your worth when someone's actions (or lack thereof) have you questioning everything. I'm sharing three powerful strategies that have helped not just my clients, but myself too, in navigating these tough waters.

In this episode, we cover…

04:31 When you grieve the fantasy of relationships
06:35 Your coping toolkit
08:52 Coping Strategy 1
15:57 Coping Strategy 2
21:46 Coping Strategy 3
35:41 The No-Contact Strategy

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Listen toEpisode 266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship
Listen toEpisode 137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation
Get your90-Day No-Contact Kit
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship Oct 29, 2024

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In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.'

I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively.

I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partner, avoiding unhealthy attachments, and building a stronger foundation for your love story.

This episode is perfect for hopeless romantics who want to avoid 'struggle love' and genuinely find a fulfilling relationship.

In this episode, we cover…

00:17 Understanding love addiction and avoidance
2:55 Seven benefits of going slow in relationships
28:36 The impact of sex and affection
34:40 Self-love and building a fulfilling life

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled. Get 25% off enrollment through November 1st using the code NEWSTUDENT.
Enroll in Dating 101 for Love Addicts if you are ready to choose the RIGHT ones to love without losing yourself.
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