Black Girls Heal

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#296: Is it Compatibility or Codependency? Jun 10, 2025

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In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#295: 3 Mistakes I made Dating as a Love Avoidant Jun 03, 2025

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When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships.

For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed.

This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#294: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others May 27, 2025

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In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#293: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant May 20, 2025

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What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.

In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available May 13, 2025

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In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands) May 06, 2025

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.

We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.

We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH's Members Club: blackgirlsheal.org/members
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

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#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series) Apr 29, 2025

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Watch our free How to Stop Dating the Wrong People & Fix Your Internal Magnet masterclass: Click here register

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#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series) Apr 23, 2025

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In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addiction

Whether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn't even know you needed and supports you with the right steps you can start taking today

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BOOK: Running on Empty - Dr Jonice Webb

Therecoveryschool.com

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?

Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled

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#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction Apr 15, 2025

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Which love addict archetype do you identify with and how do you begin to heal from it?

In this week’s episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m breaking down the four main archetypes of love addiction and why each of these patterns comes with its own unique set of challenges AND beautiful qualities. Whether you're constantly chasing “the one,” afraid to be alone, losing yourself in relationships, or living in a fantasy that never quite matches reality, you’ll likely see yourself in one (or more) of these types.

In this episode, we cover…

01:15 Understanding the roots of love addiction
07:08 Archetype #1
15:53 Archetype #2
25:10 Archetype #3
30:51 Archetype #4
34:19 The path to becoming love-balanced
40:15 How to go deeper with resources and next steps

Resources mentioned in the episode:

4 Ways to Pick Better Partners as Love Addicts: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/masterclass
The 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmap
How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts book: blackgirlsheal.org/books
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
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#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One Apr 08, 2025

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How do you hold yourself through grief when it feels too heavy to carry?

In this heartfelt episode of Black Girls Heal, I’m sharing my personal reflections and tools for navigating the emotional waves of grief, especially aftera sudden or unexpected loss. Whether it's the loss of a family member, a friend, a beloved pet, or a mentor, grief can shake us to our core. And yet, in the midst of all the confusion, numbness, and pain, we’re still expected to show up for life. This episode is an invitation to slow down and feel what needs to be felt without judgment.

In this episode, we cover…

01:42 My personal experiences with sudden loss
04:19 Why validating your emotions is crucial for healing
14:28 How to navigate the “what ifs” and regrets
27:09 Practical tools to process grief

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the BGH Members Club: https://black-girls-heal.circle.so/checkout/bgh-members-club
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled: blackgirlsheal.org/love-addiction-recovery
Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements: blackgirlsheal.org/retired

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