Black Girls Heal

#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship Oct 29, 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, we dive into the seven benefits of taking it slow in a relationship — the power of a 'slow burn.'

I discuss the reasons behind why rushing into relationships can be problematic, especially for love addicts, and share practical tips on how to pace relationships effectively.

I also explore how going slow helps in truly understanding your partner, avoiding unhealthy attachments, and building a stronger foundation for your love story.

This episode is perfect for hopeless romantics who want to avoid 'struggle love' and genuinely find a fulfilling relationship.

In this episode, we cover…

00:17 Understanding love addiction and avoidance
2:55 Seven benefits of going slow in relationships
28:36 The impact of sex and affection
34:40 Self-love and building a fulfilling life

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled. Get 25% off enrollment through November 1st using the code NEWSTUDENT.
Enroll in Dating 101 for Love Addicts if you are ready to choose the RIGHT ones to love without losing yourself.
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#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others Oct 23, 2024

In this episode, I review 3 hidden ways we may unknowingly ignore (and encourage) red flags in new people we meet.

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#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal Oct 17, 2024

In this episode, I talk about why I'm quitting and what's coming next for Black Girls Heal!

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Register for the BGH Lover Girl's Weekend Workshop on Saturday,, February 8, 2025 at blackgirlsheal.org/events
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled. Get 25% off enrollment through November 1st using the code NEWSTUDENT
Book a 1:1 private coaching session with Shena until November 2024.
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#263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict Oct 01, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we explore the importance of checking the facts when feeling threatened, especially for those healing from trauma.

We discuss how trauma can heighten our threat response, making it difficult to discern real threats from perceived ones. The episode delves into the skill of 'checking the facts,' a concept derived from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), outlining practical steps to take for regulating emotions and improving conflict resolution.

My personal stories and examples highlight the nuances of threat perception, emotional regulation, and the impact of trauma on relationships.

We also tackle the challenge of making amends if you realize you've misunderstood a situation or person.

Tune in for essential tips on fostering better personal relationships and self-awareness.

In this episode, we cover…

01:06 Understanding trauma and threat response
02:55 The skill of “Checking the Facts”
04:20 Dialectical Behavior Therapy Explained
07:03 Personal reflections on trauma responses
18:42 Steps to check the facts
30:17 Why you should challenge your assumptions
44:36 How to make amends with healthy and available people

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Book a 1:1 private coaching session with Shena until November 2024.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#262: What To Do When You Feel Rejected Sep 25, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the poignant topic of rejection, inspired by heartfelt conversations from my recent cruise trip. Focusing on love addiction, I discuss the fear of abandonment and the insecurities it breeds.

Together, we explore how to cope with rejection, understand its impact, and reclaim our power. You'll learn about the importance of not internalizing rejection, viewing it as a reflection of the other person's issues, and embracing your true self.

Join me as we unravel the layers of rejection and discover ways to heal and grow.

In this episode, we cover…

02:29 How to cope with rejection
05:23 Examples of rejection
07:23 Dealing with rejection
14:39 Why you should embrace your true self
22:01 Avoiding relationship pitfalls

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#261: The Importance of Pacing While Dating + Checking In Sep 17, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately.

I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recently in various aspects of our lives.

Today's episode is all about understanding the importance of pacing in dating for love addicts, discussing how unresolved traumas, father wounds, and touch starvation can lead us to rush into relationships. Learn practical steps on how to pace yourself, maintain your identity, and find joy in your current life while still holding space for the love you desire.

Plus, get updates on the new format of the Recovery School and upcoming changes in my services. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you on your journey to healing and self-love.

In this episode, we cover…

04:09 Navigating personal transitions
06:05 Why you should embrace the unknown
13:22 Healthy Love vs. Love Addiction
19:14 The importance of pacing in relationships
30:06 Leveling up in healing
32:22 How unresolved father wounds affect pacing in relationships
39:09 What is touch starvation?
47:30 How to ground in your own life
54:20 Upcoming changes and announcements to Black Girls Heal

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
Book a 1:1 private coaching session with Shena until November 2024.
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#260: Doing No Contact with a Co-Parent Sep 03, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children.

I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help you stay centered and avoid the emotional triggers that led you to this place.

Disclaimer: This advice is not suitable for relationships involving physical domestic violence; please seek appropriate support if that is your situation.

In this episode, we cover…

01:41 Challenges of co-parenting during no-contact
03:23 An important disclaimer
05:50 Importance of emotional neutrality
11:48 Seeing your co-parent as a co-worker
24:13 Using parenting apps for communication
27:00 How to set boundaries to avoid emotional traps
31:40 How to deal with toxic relationships
39:28 Communicating with children during no contact

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Get the support of our 90-Day No Contact Support Kit to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant Aug 27, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.

Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.

In this episode, we cover…

01:33 Understanding Love Avoidance
02:30 The different archetypes of intimacy disorders
03:22 How to navigate love addiction and avoidance
05:26 Practical tips for love avoidants
10:12 Ways to share your life as a recovering love avoidant
19:00 How to initiate compliments and kindness
25:09 Why you should embrace vulnerability

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Episode 258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict Aug 20, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction.

We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you're in a new relationship or already partnered, these strategies will guide you towards emotional stability and personal growth.

In this episode, we cover…

01:08 Understanding love addiction
02:22 Symptoms of love addiction
04:07 Keys to staying balanced in relationships
13:38 The importance of self-affirmation
21:14 Why you should maintain your own life

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#257: How Fantasy Fuels Unrealistic Expectations Aug 13, 2024

You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks.

We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between your hopes and someone else's reality, and why putting people on pedestals is a one-way ticket to heartbreak.

Tune in to learn how to keep your heart happy and your expectations in check.

In this episode, we cover…

03:32 Understanding why you have unrealistic expectations
04:02 The impact of high expectations in relationships
04:35 How to balance standards and emotional safety
05:43 Why you should see people for who they are
10:16 How to avoid the pedestal trap
15:59 Breaking the cycle of unrealistic expectations

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#256: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Sparks Addictive Relationships Aug 06, 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in.

It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout from not feeling seen or heard as kids. It's like this sneaky little pattern that shows up in our adult lives, making us chase love in all the wrong places. We'll break down what emotional neglect actually looks like, how it sticks with us, and how it sparks addictive relationships.

Don't worry! This episode isn't just about the problem. We're gonna talk about healing too. It's all about understanding where this stuff comes from so we can start breaking those unhealthy patterns and building the love we deserve.

In this episode, we cover…

00:17 What is childhood emotional neglect?
01:47 The impact of childhood emotional neglect on relationships
03:08 What is love addiction?
03:32 Signs of emotional neglect in your life
06:51 How to break the cycle of emotional neglect
09:03 The connection between neglect and love addiction
12:03 Steps to overcome love addiction
24:00 Why you should heal with a community

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.
Running On Empty by Jonice Webb
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#255: Hard Lessons Learned After 10 Years in Love Addiction Recovery Jul 30, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth, and the relationships that have shaped me, culminating in a discussion inspired by a poignant poem that has guided me.

Join me as I share my story, my insights as a therapist, and the lessons that have helped me build a stronger, healthier relationship with myself. Whether you're just starting your journey or have been here for a while, I hope my experiences resonate with you and offer inspiration for your own path to self-acceptance and self-love.

In this episode, we cover…

00:57 My journey of love addiction recovery
02:09 The poem that changed everything
03:37 My personal background and struggles with love addiction
06:56 Lessons from my love addiction recovery journey
13:08 The turning point in my love addiction recovery journey
15:29 How I embraced self-love and independence
39:03 Final reflections and takeaways

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#254: How to Stop Financial Codependency Jul 23, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.

You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey, including workshops on money trauma and no-contact groups.

Join us as we focus on reclaiming control, setting healthy boundaries, and prioritizing self-care in your financial life.

In this episode, we cover…

02:47 What does financial codependency mean?
03:47 How to recognize financial codependency in relationships
08:21 How to start breaking the cycle of financial codependency
25:52 How to implement no-contact with financial codependency
32:34 Practical steps for financial independence
43:16 Resources to support your no-contact journey

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
Start healing the wounds that sabotage financial goals, increase fear and anxiety around money, and interrupt the ability to enjoy financial abundance and prosperity through the Money Rehab workshop.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#253: The 4 Steps of No Contact Jul 16, 2024

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships.

You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen because we keep connections with folks who are bad for us.

In the episode, I'll walk you through four key steps to make no-contact work. We'll talk about the withdrawal symptoms you might experience, both physical and emotional (because yes, this can be a rollercoaster!). I'll also share tips on setting intentions for your no-contact period and how to cut off those lingering fantasies that hold you back.

In this episode, we cover…

00:58 What is No-Contact?
02:45 Why you should take a 90-day break
03:10 Four steps to no-contact
03:47 Withdrawal symptoms you might experience
16:20 What it looks like to cut off all contact
21:17 How to cut off lingering fantasies
29:26 Support resources to start your no-contact journey

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join our 90-Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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Connect with us:

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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#252: Don’t text them - Sit on Your Hands Jul 09, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.

We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.

We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.

In this episode, we cover…

01:05 The importance of no contact
05:04 The Sit on Your Hands Challenge
05:28 Who this episode is for and not for
16:34 How to recognize avoidant behavior
21:58 How to start making decisions from a place of wholeness
23:13 Implementing the Sit on Your Hands Challenge
24:06 Handling communication during the challenge
25:08 Ways to focus on yourself and other relationships
28:58 How to respond to their messages
32:42 Ways to engage in self-care and hobbies

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join our 90 Day No Contact Support Group to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

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Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

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#251: Surrender and Letting Go (Just Let Them Be) Jul 02, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips.

We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and mastering the art of balanced surrender.

Additionally, we introduce various support resources including the co-contact support group, love avoidance healing programs, and more. This episode is a heartfelt guide towards self-healing and embracing the goodness life offers.

In this episode, we cover…

01:00 Why surrendering and letting go are necessary
02:32 Poem: Just Let Them by Cassie Phillips
04:17 Reflections on the poem
10:36 Takeaway 1: Realizing you can't control others
16:52 Takeaway 2: Being available to let others in
30:42 Takeaway 3: Why you must surrender
36:44 Program announcements

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#250: How to Feel Deserving Jun 25, 2024

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.

You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love, self-compassion, and clearing stored trauma from your body.

This episode aims to guide you through the first step of the four-step bloom method to help your relationships flourish, ensuring you are on the path to feeling truly deserving of love and happiness.

In this episode, we cover…

01:03 Understanding deservingness
03:04 Identifying emotional weeds
05:13 Clearing emotional blockages
05:29 Identifying energy drains in your relationships
09:43 How perfectionism plays a role in low self-worth
22:39 Tools for healing
27:24 Why you need to consider bodywork to heal trauma

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Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
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#249: Conquering the Fear of Being Seen Jun 18, 2024

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships.

We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears.

Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they manifest in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.

In this episode, we cover…

04:04 Common patterns when you have a fear of being seen
04:48 The risk of personal development
07:55 Using perfectionism and people-pleasing as ways to exempt yourself from criticisms
11:09 Self-abandonment as a means to hide yourself
12:09 Making a list of things you're proud of about yourself
13:16 Why being humble is actually quiet confidence
14:47 Why you're afraid of people getting access to you
15:45 The traumas that lead to fear of being seen
21:08 How the fear of being seen manifests for love addicts
25:04 How the fear of being seen manifests for love avoidants
26:45 Disassociating to keep yourself safe
31:28 How to work on your fear of being seen

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Sign up for the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat waitlist.
Listen to Episode 163: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction
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#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships Jun 10, 2024

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth.

You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on stepping away from unhealthy relationships, identifying roadblocks, and embracing one's personal needs.

In this episode, we cover…

06:45 Why you operate in a deficit in relationships
12:19 How childhood emotional neglect affects you and your relationships
16:54 What it looks like to be in a relationship with a dominant and passive partner
18:44 The risk that happens when you still don't get to the baseline of relationships
22:12 Why you still struggle with low self-worth (even if you don't think that you are)
25:50 Why you need to make yourself available for happiness
31:13 The healed and loved woman standard for relationships
32:40 What it looks like to be in the negative baseline in relationships
33:44 What the baseline standard is for relationships
40:06 Why you're encouraged to do healing work in a community
41:09 Shena's personal story of healing in a community
41:57 Why you need to share your story
42:48 No contact as a healing agent

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Join the FREE Recovery School Open House on Tuesday, June 18th at 6:30 PM CST. Register here.
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
Listen to Episode 239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to Know
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#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier Jun 03, 2024

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships.

We have been very attuned to keep our focus on our shortcomings but rarely do we allow ourselves to celebrate the progress that we’ve been making in our inner work.

Tune in to learn how to acknowledge your progress, appreciate your journey, and break unhealthy patterns for a better tomorrow.

In this episode, we cover…

02:49 The inspiration for this episode
04:00 How labels from your past are keeping you stuck from growing
05:16 Why you should give yourself credit for the progress you've made
06:49 Why you need to pause before reacting
09:15 Are you open to seeing alternative perspectives?
10:21 A tool to use when you're triggered
14:43 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in dating
16:41 Example of seeing the alternative perspectives in inner work
18:38 Feeling your emotions and validating them
20:15 Why people *don't care* about your emotions
21:14 What to do when you don't have safe people around you

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Listen to Episode 208: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
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#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing May 28, 2024

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues.

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