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How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother? Dec 05, 2023

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In this episode, I sit down with Emma and answer the question, “How can I talk about modesty to my tween step-daughter without undermining the contradictory thoughts of her mother?” Emma views modesty as a broad topic that covers how we think and behave, while her step-daughter’s mom ascribes to stricter dress code rules. They have different opinions, and Emma wants to be respectful of that while also upholding different rules in her own home.

I tell Emma that it’s okay for her step-daughter to have different rules at different houses. Kids are resilient. She and her husband can sit down with their daughter’s mom and her husband to see where each couple can give and take to align on the rules, but there will still be some differences between the two houses. And her step-daughter will be okay as she learns to navigate the differences. The most important thing is that she feels loved at each house.

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Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church? Nov 21, 2023

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In this episode, I talk with Beth and answer the question, “Should I try and save a friendship that’s ending because my family left the Church?” Beth’s family has a group of friends that get together several times a year for fun trips. After the news came out that Beth’s family is leaving the Church, it’s felt like these friends want nothing to do with them.

I encourage Beth to go toward the awkward. It’s likely that these friends are making up stories about what leaving the Church means for Beth’s family. By initiating conversations and inviting them to spend time together, Beth and her family can show her friends that they’re still the same people they know and love.

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Bonus: Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard Counting the Costs Pt 2. Nov 17, 2023

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This is part 2 of a 2-part interview with Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard. If you haven’t listened to part 1, I recommend starting there..

In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, we’re doing things a little differently.

Instead of hosting a guest and answering their questions, I am honored to be joined by two special guests who I get to interview: Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard.

You may be familiar with Jill from her time on the hit reality tv show 19 Kids and Counting, but Jill is so much more than a tv personality. She is also a wife, mother, follower of Christ, an author, and so much more.

Before meeting with Jill and Derick, I asked my Instagram audience what questions they had for the couple. Listen for answers to your questions, like “How did you separate God and Christ from the lessons you were taught growing up?” and “How are you doing things differently than you were raised as you teach your own children”?

As you listen, you’ll hear us frequently mention Jill’s latest book, Counting the Cost. I have loved reading more about her life experiences in this book. To get a copy for yourself, click here (affiliate link).

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Bonus: Interview with Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard - On 'Counting the Cost' and Living Life in the Public Eye Nov 14, 2023

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In this special episode of the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast, we’re doing things a little different. Instead of hosting a guest and answering their questions, I am honored to be joined by two special guests who I get to interview: Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard.

As you listen, you’ll hear us frequently mention Jill’s latest book, Counting the Cost. I have loved reading more about her life experiences in this novel. To get a copy for yourself, click here (affiliate link).

This episode went longer than the typical episode on my podcast, so our interview is broken up into two parts. Be sure to subscribe to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast so you don’t miss part 2, which will come out on Friday, November 17th.

And if you don’t want to wait, join my Group Coaching Membership for immediate access to part 2 of this incredible podcast. I’ll even throw in one month free with code JILL. Go to drjuliehanks.com/membership now to join.

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How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be? Nov 07, 2023

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In this episode I meet with Molly and answer the question, “How do I cope with the disappointment that motherhood is not what I expected it to be?” Molly recently finished her graduate studies and was planning on starting a new job, but has instead found herself as a full-time caregiver to her son who was born with health challenges.

On the one hand, Molly is grateful to have this extra time with her son. On the other hand, she feels disappointed she wasn’t able to start work. Part of her feels unfulfilled, and she’s having a hard time navigating the loss of the life she thought she would have.

Molly is carrying a heavy burden, and it sounds like she needs a little more support so she can focus on her own needs. It’s important for Molly’s needs to be met so she can take the best care of her son and they can both thrive. We discuss ways she can build this support into her life, whether it be joining a mother’s group, volunteering, or working a few hours a week.

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Bonus: Empowering children to develop their own spirituality with Valerie Hamaker Oct 31, 2023

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In this episode, I’m joined by Valerie Hamaker from Latter Day Struggles Podcast. We discuss the importance of open dialogue with children, the case-by-case approach to parenting, and the significance of considering a child's well-being and spiritual growth.

We also explore the complexities of navigating religion and belief systems within the family dynamic, addressing topics such as attending church, temple garments, mixed-faith marriages, and teaching children how to think for themselves.

This thought-provoking conversation offers valuable insights on fostering healthy relationships, embracing differing perspectives, and creating a safe and loving environment for children to explore their own spirituality. Don't miss this episode that brings together love, faith, and the intricacies of modern-day parenting.

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How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know now? Oct 24, 2023

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In this episode I meet with Lianne and answer the question, “How can I accept that I would have chosen differently in the past if I knew what I know now?” Lianne is getting ready to re-enter the workforce now that her youngest is in daycare, and she wishes that she had gotten her master’s degree before becoming a full-time mom.

I advise Lianne to find compassion for the young woman she was when she made the decision to not pursue her master’s degree. I also invite her to grieve. It’s okay to wish things were different and to feel sad about it. We discuss how it is possible to have gratitude for her life now and to feel sad that she didn’t get her master’s degree before she had children. One feeling does not negate the other.

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How do I deal with fear of judgment in the Church? Oct 10, 2023

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In this episode I talk with Jess and answer the question, “How do I deal with fear of judgment in the Church?” Jess especially worries about what others think of her clothing choices. This has impeded her from fully enjoying activities ranging from attending Church to going to the beach with her family.

I ask Jess to do the following when she notices herself worrying about her clothing: notice that she is worried, and accept the thought without judgment. I also invite Jess to consider getting a mental health assessment. This perfectionistic mindset has run her life for years, and there are tools out there to help ease that burden of worry.

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How do I prevent burnout as a working mom? Sep 26, 2023

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In this episode I talk with DJ and answer the question, “How do I prevent burnout as a working mom?” DJ is finishing up her maternity leave, and she feels nervous about going back to work. There is so much on her plate, and it feels like something needs to be deprioritized as she re-enters the workspace. The only problem is, there isn’t anything that can be pushed to the side.

I ask DJ how she and her husband share responsibilities at home and advise her to have a conversation with her husband about division of labor. When they’re both home, it’s okay to expect him to do 50% of the work that needs to get done. DJ is going to be working full-time hours; it’s not realistic for her to be in charge of everything at home.

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How can I fall in love with my life again as a new mother? Sep 12, 2023

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In this episode I talk with Angie and answer the question, “How can I fall in love with my life again as a new mother?” Angie sometimes feels grief when she thinks of how her life used to be. It almost feels like she missed out on being young by getting married and having children in her early 20s. Overall, she wants to learn how to live this stage of life and feel like herself again.

Angie shares that before she had her baby, she looked forward to spending time with friends and being social. While she still loves this, it sometimes feels out of reach. Between her old friends not being in the same stage of life and other mothers feeling older or too different to be relatable, Angie feels lonely.

I challenge Angie to be curious about other mothers instead of feeling like they have to be the same age in order to connect. What can she learn from other women? What do they have in common? One great part of motherhood is that it can bond you to other moms, no matter your ages.

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