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Couch Talks: Asking the Question You're Afraid to Ask with Julia Langner Sep 13, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat is doing something a little different because September is National Suicide Prevention Month. Death by suicide has increased by 36% between 2001and 2021 and is the second leading cause of death for people ages 10-14 and 20-34 in the United States.

Kat brings Julia Langner (@theselfcompassioncounselor) on the podcast this week to talk about a recent instagram post she made that addressed one of the biggest misconceptions of suicide: That talking about it increases the likelihood of it happening. It is surprisingly the opposite! Listen to this episode to hear some tips about how you can start these conversations and more about why they are so crucial to have within our communities right now!

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 988

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Diet Culture Lives in the Safe Places with Leslie Schilling Sep 11, 2023

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This week, licensed dietitian, Leslie Schilling, joins Kat on the podcast to talk about the sneaky ways Diet Culture infiltrates our most sacred and safest places (think school and even our places of worship!!!). Leslie Schilling is a Master’s level registered dietitian who specializes in disordered eating, sports nutrition, family nutrition, and weight concerns. She is a wealth of knowledge and you are going to have your mind BLOWN when you hear about some of the myths she is busting in her brand new book, Feed Yourself. In Feed Yourself, Leslie shares her expertise with the masses, guiding readers as they uncover the lies we’ve been told about our bodies. We are so grateful for people like Leslie who continue to fight the uphill battle in order to help those who get caught in the webs of disordered eating + eating disorders. There is hope and this episode is a great place to start.

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: The Science Behind a PSL Sep 06, 2023

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Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat brings you the science behind why Pumpkin Spice Lattes are alllll the rage during the fall. What makes people want this $7+ coffee drink so bad?? Listen this week to find out!

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Karpman (Drama) Triangle Sep 04, 2023

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This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way. In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: Doing What Feels Right Vs. People Pleasing Aug 30, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

This week, Kat talks about the difficulty in doing what feels right and wanting to please others around you. A listener writes in about a friendship dilemma. She asks Kat if she should tell her friend that she did something to support another mutual friend that she believes she will be upset about.

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Family Scapegoat aka The Truth Teller Aug 28, 2023

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Have you ever had a consequence thrown at you for refusing to turn a blind eye? Or have you ever been punished for telling a secret that you never should have been asked to keep? If you answered yes to either of these questions you may have experienced being "scapegoated". This can happen when someone tries to bring order to a dysfunctional system. Doing so can throw off the sense of "order" within that system (even thought it's disordered). Having a scapegoat is a form of protection for that system. It allows them to push blame onto someone else so they can create the delusion that the system is healthier than it is. In this episode, we explore what that can look and feel like and what to do if you find yourself getting the shaft for telling the truth.

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Couch Talks: Best Things My Therapist Said to Me Aug 23, 2023

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When Friends Develop Eating Disorders: with Kellie Tortorich Aug 21, 2023

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This week Kat has one of her best friends on to talk about both of them watching each other develop unhealthy relationships with food and exercise. In this candid conversation both Kat and Kellie share what it was like to see the others behavior change. They talk about what was helpful about how the other responded and what they wish they would have known and said to their friend who was struggling. This episode is a GREAT resource for anyone who has wondered what to say and how to approach a friend or loved one that they think may also be struggling!

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: I Keep Rushing into Relationships! Aug 16, 2023

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathrynyouneedtheapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about why we tend to rush into “defining the relationship” and what we can do to help slow the process down and be more present in the moment!

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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From Denial to an Open Book: A Story of Recovery with Mathias John Aug 14, 2023

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Today we are rounding out our 3 part series on addiction. We started talking about it from a clinical/therapist perspective, then moved to the perspective of a loved one, and now we have a human who has actually walked through the throes of addiction themselves here to share part of their own story.

Mathias John is someone I met years ago through his wife–who actually happens to be a therapist. Through his recovery journey he decided to offer the community something that he wished he had, a story he could relate to; a story about a high functioning addict who hid from himself and others really well. So, he took his ACTUAL PERSONAL JOURNALS and created a book out of them. Yep. He is welcoming us into his real mind- his most personal thoughts- and sharing what it was like for him to move through his life as someone struggling with addiction and someone working towards recovery.

AND to top it off, he actually writes this book alongside his own therapist, Ashley Boyd.

In our conversation we talk about a lot. What I hope you hear in this is something we can all relate to, a story about someone who tried their hardest to run from the truth and eventually found out that telling the truth would set them free. AND a story about that being really freaking hard and possible at the same time.

Mathias’ book comes out September 14th and you can learn more about it HERE!

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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