You Need Therapy

Latest Episodes:

Couch Talks: My Estranged Father Has Cancer, Should I Reach Out? Jul 05, 2023

Show notes

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better!

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Kindness is More Effective Than Shame with Shauna Niequist Jul 03, 2023

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This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others.

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Order Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: Do I need a Trainer, Dietitian, or a Therapist? Jun 28, 2023

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Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

this week Kat answers a question about what kind of professional to turn to when struggling with disordered eating.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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What if the Challenge is FOR You Not Against You? Jun 26, 2023

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Our nervous system needs to be activated in order to become resilient. We cannot become strong without first being tested. We have to have experience to gain experience. This truth is a wakeup call for all of us protective types, the people pleasers, and those who are afraid of the people they love experiencing pain.

If we remove challenge from our lives and the lives of those around us- we also remove opportunity for them to grow strong, resilient and courageous. This week, Kat walks us through how some recent challenges and inconveniences have become opportunities for her to grow in a purposeful way.

Shoutout to Kat’s:

Wedding Photographer: @glenaigilbertphoto

Wedding Coordinators: @simplyGoldenNashville

Hair Stylist: @MargaretJaneBeauty

Bagel Episode

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: What Happens If I Refuse to Acknowledge My Trauma? Jun 21, 2023

Show notes

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listener’s send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.

This week a listener writes in and asks how to start to acknowledge something that was traumatic when there is a part of them that doesn’t want to admit it was harmful.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Spiritual Trauma with Julia Langner MA, NCC Jun 19, 2023

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This week we have one of Three Cords Therapy’s newest team members, Julia Langner, on to talk about something she is passionate about helping others heal through. Religious and spiritual trauma are two phrases that are being talked about now more than ever… and it’s not because it just now became a thing. It’s because we are finally opening up space for individuals to realize that it’s a thing. In this episode Julia helps us understand what religious trauma is, how to know if you’ve experienced it, and what to do if you have. And just like any other topic we cover here- it’s not as black and white as we all hope it to be… so we hope this episode serves as a starting place for you to create more agency in your life.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: How Do I Leave a Relationship with a Narcissist? Jun 14, 2023

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Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener is asking Kat how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist when you feel like you’re already in too deep.

Listen to Kat’s full episodes on Narcissism:

Narcissism

Narcissism at Work

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

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Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Cost of Caring Jun 12, 2023

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We’ve learned that there is enough compassion for us all to validate and feel our own experiences. So, why then… are so many of us experiencing “compassion fatigue”?
If compassion is an infinite resource then how do you run out of it? Well, this week Kat is trying to find an answer to that mystery. And it turns out… maybe it’s not compassion that we are exhausted of… If you are someone who has ever experienced compassion fatigue check out this episode to better understand what is really going on when caring for others starts to feel icky.

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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Couch Talks: Does Burn Out Mean I Need a New Job? Jun 07, 2023

Show notes

Kat answers a listener’s question about compassion fatigue and talks about burn out in helping professions.

Our listener has been having a difficult time coping with work lately – she works with cancer patients trying to help them engage in meaningful leisure activities. The job is so rewarding but she is feeling drained.

She’s finding a lack of motivation in motivating others and asks Kat for advice because compassion fatigue is real!

Most jobs come with their struggles, you can have gratitude for the specific brand of “hard” that you get to deal with but also acknowledge that things are difficult, frustrating and there will be times when you are “over it”.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta

Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast

Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

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The Fun Scale Jun 05, 2023

Show notes

This week is extra fun because we are literally talking about… fun. In this episode, Kat introduces us to “The Fun Scale” which helps to widen our view on fun so we can have more of it! Sometimes the fun of an experience isn’t in the experience at all- which may sound confusing to you but we promise once you listen to this epsiode it will all start making sense!

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Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com

Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!

Produced by: @HoustonTilley

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.