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The Unbusy Mom: Because you’re ambitious, you want to grow your business, and you still want a life.

You’re ambitious. You want the money, the challenge, the launches, the strategy, the satisfaction of figuring out a hard problem and thinking, yep, I nailed that.

So how did we end up here?

Working all day and still not getting to the thing you actually wanted to do. Feeling pulled in a million directions. Putting your own projects off again. Being the CEO of your business and somehow also the COO of everybody else’s life.

‘Cause you can make the launch work. The kids’ schedules work. The team work. The Sunday night work. The vacation-with-the-laptop work.

You can make almost anything work.

Until you look up and think… wait. Why am I doing all of this?

I’m Alyssa, and I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out how to build a business I love without making my entire life revolve around keeping it running.

On The Unbusy Mom, we’re going to question some of the things you’ve probably accepted as just how business works.

We’ll talk about motherhood, ambition, Human Design, time management, delegation, productivity…. And the invisible responsibilities that make your business feel heavier than it needs to be.

I.e., what actually has to change when you want a business AND a life. Because I don’t think you’re here to prove how much you can carry.

Because I don’t think you’re here to prove how much you can carry.

You wanted it all – business AND kids.

So you’re going to have to make some changes to the structure of the one you’ve already got.

Copyright: © Alyssa Wolff

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Are you falling for this? Discover the top 3 mistakes business owning moms make in their household cleaning routines! Mar 15, 2022

Show notes

Shall we talk cleaning routines? (No, not in a “what you need to change right now because you’re the worst cleaner ever” way!)

Time to get something off your chest: What’s the worst thing about your current cleaning routine?

Is it the expectations of perfection that weigh you down every time you see someone else’s evening speed cleaning routine, the daily “five cleaning habits you must have to succeed,” a weekly deep clean requirement, and quarterly “clean the whole house like crazy” endeavors?

Or is it the lack of help, that fact that no one (not even your oldest kid) can do a competent job, and your husband’s not joining you in any of the inside chores?

Maybe you’re just exhausted by the demands of your current season (hello, sports practice/newborns/surgery recovery) and you Just. Can’t. Fathom. using your limited energy on scrubbing those baseboards.

I know you know the answer – so just tell me, too. What’s the worst part of your typical cleaning program?

Get it out there.

Because now we can do something about it.

What you’ll learn:

· Cleaning Routine Mistake #1: Picking something that sounds nice, but totally doesn’t fit your life.

· Cleaning Routine Mistake #2: Thinking it’s all about discipline.

· Cleaning Routine Mistake #3: Never asking yourself why it’s not working out.

It’s all yours – the problems, the solutions, the life waiting for you around the corner after these tweaks. What are you going to do with it?

Delay it till it never shows up? (I.e., never make changes in your cleaning habits, and hope someday you’ll just “feel” like cleaning?)

Obsess over perfection, and overlook the fact that you’ve got three under three, or a runny nose, or a bad energy day?

Or are you going to ditch the three cleaning mistakes and start your own scrubbing system – one that’s just right for you?

It’s up to you.

If you’re ready, I challenge you to match your chores to your days, only motivate yourself to do the “tiny cleaning” version of each task, and always ask why when you find yourself cutting corners or skipping out on certain parts of your cleaning routine.

These three things will change your cleaning life. I promise.

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/top-3-mistakes-cleaning-routines/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Interested in skipping all those hours of clean-up just before bed?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

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Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

You have permission: why it’s okay to hit the delete button on anything in your schedule as a work-at-home mom Mar 08, 2022

Show notes

I’ve got a question for you: What would you like to press delete on right now?

Go on, tell me about it.

· Is it a certain sports practice that’s been driving you nuts? (It’s at the most inconvenient time possible to get your kids fed.)

· Maybe a music lesson teacher who rubs you wrong, but you don’t know of anyone else to teach that instrument? (What if I ruined my daughter’s success as a flautist because of a mere personality conflict?)

· Perhaps one of your church volunteer activities that’s gotten to be more and more an exercise in willpower just to show up? (They said they really needed you, but you could really use some downtime, too – if nothing else, to clean the kitchen!)

Whatever it is, we’re going to talk about some strategies for getting out of your can-do-but-hate obligations.

Because newsflash, it’s really important to your overall life happiness to have as few of these as possible.

What you’ll learn:

· Why you should delete vs. manage your time better

· Get off the #momlife hamster wheel vs. run faster

· The only way to fix “doing too much” syndrome is to stop doing a few things

As you reflect back on your week, or mull over the week ahead, where are you seeing the time-and-energy bottlenecks?

Where do you need to press the delete button?

Give yourself the gift of grace and freedom and do it. Hit delete and take a deep breath. Savor the feeling of not having to do it anymore.

Now go live your life with your delete button superpower ready to hand. What three things do you need to delete most this week?

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/permission-to-hit-delete/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Want to quit the busy and de-stress your schedule, right now?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Stop believing the supermom myth! How to ditch the pervasive superwoman mindset when you're working from home Mar 01, 2022

Show notes

Time for some #realmom talk:

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a superhero movie? You know, one where all the cards are stacked against you, and your powers just aren’t materializing?

You’re supposed to be this wonderful, amazing mom – have a great house – be out with friends regularly – get fit and stay fit – have a hobby (to stay interesting) – eat healthy (whatever the latest trend for that is) – have a career/passion project for personal fulfillment – and oh yes, be an awesome wife.

And then, somehow, life doesn’t work out that way.

· Babies come with blowouts and spit-ups and three-times-a-night feedings.

· Toddlers constantly need sippy cup refills, restraint from hitting and throwing, and feeding time clean-up.

· Older kids require character parenting plus a whole slew of “no, math is not stupid” and “yes, you have to pick up your room” reinforcements.

You’re like: “I’m sorry, I think I’m more interested in trying to finish that cup of coffee than brainstorming what personal passion project I should go for and whether I’ve given my husband five loving touches today!”

That’s today’s motherhood.

But: it’s all a myth – and youdon’t have to stay there.

What you’ll learn:

· No one is superwoman IRL

· Sometimes you just need a break

· It’s all about forward progress

You’re getting there. There is a difference.

It’s all small stuff, but three dozen daily tweaks over two months and you’ll have a much different experience of motherhood.

Give yourself a 30-day challenge: what expectation, chore, or routine am I going to change today to make my life better?

And then see where you’re at on Day 31. Go on – it’s going to be amazing.

Stop playing superwoman, try one thing at a time, and watch your life explode. (In a good way, of course.)

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/ditch-the-superwoman-mindset/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Need to right-size your to-do list and stop stressing out about your day?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Do this to reach a new level in your mompreneur mindset! (Aka, why coaching works!) Feb 22, 2022

Show notes

Have you ever wished you could have a coach just for #momlife matters?

Some people are into health coaches, wealth coaches, speaking coaches – but you’d just like a helping hand in your everyday life right now, thank you very much.

No fancy techniques allowed. Just learning all the #momhacks for the mundane, practical matters that make up the moments of your life – and meeting some great people (fellow introverts, of course!) while you’re at it.

If that sounds like an unattainable pipe dream, well, no longer!

You can have personal, peer-to-peer mentoring for no other reason than “I’m a mom and I need help.”

Or, “I’m an introvert and my kids are driving me batty.” Or even, “I’d like one more baby, but I can’t see how I’ll fit everything in, so we haven’t started trying yet.”

Here’s what peer-to-peer mentoring can do for you.

What you’ll learn:

· Jolt you out of your rut

· Force you to change or quit

· Where to find mom-to-mom mentoring

What are you thinking? Is a peer-to-peer mentoring, introvert-moms community, and guaranteed change sounding good right about now?

I love seeing the lightbulb come on. Which means I can’t wait for you to join us here.

See you in the program!

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/boost-yourself-to-a-new-level/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Wishing you could actually like your life (with kids) again?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Your how-to guide for self-improvement as a mompreneur - the easy way! (aka, the fastest way to introduce new habits!) Feb 15, 2022

Show notes

We’re talking habits today!

Which camp are you in when it comes to habits? “Habits are a pain in the neck,” or self-improvement nerd?

If you’re in camp one, you’ll learn why habits aren’t something to be feared, avoided, or put off at all costs. (Hint: If those are your automatic responses, they’re someone else’s habits.)

And if you’re in camp two, today is a refresher for you. Gut check that you still want to do your habits, and you’re set!

What you’ll learn:

· Habits are just the steel girders of who you want to be

· What does your inner self want to do? Be?

· Treat your habits not as unattainable goals, but as helpful reminders of who you want to be

That life you’ve always wanted? It’s right there.

It’s the sculpture in the marble. You just need to set a few reminders – practice a few habits – and you’ll see the sculpture start to emerge.

You’ll start living that awesome, just-right-for-you life.

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/unbusy-habits-how-to-guide/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Want to get 3 hours back in the day for yourself?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Do your kids know how to clean their rooms? (Advice for the busy working mom!) How to choose your family’s cleaning standards (and stick to them!) Dec 28, 2021

Show notes

Have you ever felt like you and your kids must have a cosmic language mismatch when you say the words “pick up?”

They seem to hear “pick up a few things” or “pick up at some point today.”

They certainly don’t hear, “You have 20 minutes to get this room in tip-top order!” (Which is what you’re really meaning.)

So how can you help them help you? (I.e., turn into responsible picker-uppers?)

Here’s a simple 3-step process that I use in my own home to train those little kid helpers. (Willing or no!)

What you’ll learn:

· Are you going to train them to your standards, or accept kid-level results?

· How do you make sure one kid doesn’t get off scot-free while the responsible ones do all the work?

· Don’t make a habit of letting your tidy-up tornado son rescue his siblings (yes, he’s just being nice; no, they have to learn it for themselves)

So yes, momma. You can have a (pretty) clean house, one that your kids helped with.

You’re just going to have to train them how to do it, and then not let them off the hook for doing their share.

But the results are going to be so worth it.

Look back over your current kid expectations. Do you need to adjust to their current ability level, or expect more of them (and train them how to do it)?

Align your expectations for success.

Which are you changing today – your tidiness standards, or their participation?

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/your-guide-to-kids-and-clean-rooms/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Are you exhausted from spending naptime cleaning up the house?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

How we do Christmas: a minimalist work-at-home mom's guide to the winter holidays (with 5 kids!) Dec 21, 2021

Show notes

Do you ever wish you could hide from December 23rd till January 2nd?

Just skip the whole holiday celebration thing?

If that’s so, then this article is for you.

Because I’m sharing a little journaling exercise that’ll cut right through the fluff, the should’s, and the perpetual family traditions to the heart of what you want from this holiday.

What you’ll learn:

· What do you look forward to during the holiday season?

· What do you hate doing? If you didn’t have to do it ever again, you’d be singing the Hallelujah chorus?

· Give yourself permission to skip (or outsource) all the stress-inducing activities

Remember – no guilt allowed!

Remember – no guilt allowed!

You’re not somehow celebrating a faux Christmas by skipping out on the hard work of cooking food you don’t like, driving to parties you don’t want to be at, and wrapping presents by the dozen you don’t care about.

You’re doing what’s best for you, while honoring the holiday traditions that mean most to you.

Give yourself permission to do things the easier way – the lighter way – this year.

The rest? It’ll keep – for someone else, some other year.

What are you skipping this Christmas season?

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/how-we-do-christmas/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Do you need some a lot of white space in your calendar?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Are birthdays stressful as a WAHM? Here’s how to host simple, non-stressful birthday parties when you're working from home! Dec 20, 2021

Show notes

Have you ever wanted to skip the party this year with your kids?

Just ditch the hassle, celebrate them simply, and go guilt-free?

Well, you can simplify birthdays – but you don’t need to quit the party hosting to do it. (Unless you want to!)

Read on for three hacks to make birthdays lighter for you.

(Since you’re the one doing the planning, wrapping, buying, and cooking!)

What you’ll learn:

· The most important question to ask yourself when stressed out about party planning

· Find the can’t-skip tradition (s)

· Come up with a new plan – one that blends your must-have list with your avoid-at-all-costs list

Cut out all the things you hate doing, or outsource them to a friend (or the store!), and jump in to the good stuff – the “only our family does this” stuff.

You’ll find planning the next birthday party is a much more joyful process.

What are you ditching from the party planning this year, guilt-free?

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/how-to-make-birthdays-easy/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Interested in letting introverted #momlife be easy?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Chores for kids: why you’re actually doing them a favor by making your kids help out around the house (while you run your business) Dec 20, 2021

Show notes

Tell me if this sounds familiar:

You tell your kids to clean up, they tell you that they’re done, and… it doesn’t look any different.

Oh, boy. Life of a mom, right?

Let me fill you in on the three-step process I use with my own kids – maybe it’ll spark some ideas for you.

Ready?

What you’ll learn:

· Get straight on the importance of a work ethic (for your kids)

· Teach your kids how (because they don’t know, and they don’t want to)

· Decide in advance what the consequences are, and how you’re going to respond

So what do you think – is it time to start nurturing that work ethic in your kids?

Which chores could you delegate to them for that purpose?

And what are you going to do if they balk and refuse to do them?

It’s your family. Your values. And your choices.

What changes are you going to make today?

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/chores-a-secret-favor-for-your-kids/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Want to get 3 hours back in the day for yourself?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

Me time for work-at-home moms: the little-known secret to stop yelling at your kids! (aka, the importance of time out for WAHMs) Dec 20, 2021

Show notes

You feel like you can handle one more thing.

Just one more.

You can handle it. But you cannot speak for yourself and your attitude after that.

You’ve felt this many times, I’m sure. (I sure have – those kids, am I right?)

So – what to do about it?

We're going to talk about yelling and how to stop the boundaries way (not the willpower way), because I'm guessing you've already tried the willpower.

What you’ll learn:

· Have firm, no-guilt boundaries

· Warn your kids when you’re about to lose it

· Know your limits and stop ahead of time

What's going to pull you back from the edge? You need to know that, and build it into your day.

If you think about it, it's really a gift to your kids and their childhoods.

Wouldn't they rather we listened to their playlist for 10 minutes and have that cheerful, smiling mommy, than get to listen to their music for 40 minutes and have mom yell at them the rest of the day?

I know which I'd pick.

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

Episode transcript: https://yourunbusylife.com/stop-yelling-at-your-kids/

Routines for introverted moms:

https://yourunbusylife.com/

Wishing you could actually like your life (with kids) again?

Book your free Work/Life Balance session: https://yourunbusylife.com/free-call/

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nope - you don't actually have to choose between the business you want and the life you want.

That's what the Business Cleanout is for.

You send me the messy version of your business, your responsibilities, your projects, your team, your life.

I'll take your whole pile and turn it around within 30 days.

Because you don't need to spend another month trying to make everything fit.

You need to see what can change so you can crush the goals you've been dreaming about and still be there for the kids.

→ Take a look at the Business Cleanout

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