The Love Doctor

Latest Episodes:

Do You Need Sex Therapy? feat. Rahim Thawer Mar 18, 2021

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Today on the show I’m answering your questions about IUDs and how to navigate accessing sexual health services, as well as questions about bacterial vaginosis, or BV and why we need to stop shaming ourselves and our bodies.

I also share my interview with clinical social worker and psychotherapist, Rahim Thawer. We talk all about sex therapy, and what it means to actually be sex positive in a pretty sex negative world. Also, I finally have a website!! If you want to know more about the work that I do or dig into all of the amazing resources I share with you, then check out www.leahtidey.com

Resources from the show!

Rahim Thawer: http://www.affectiveconsult.ca/team.php

Instagram: @ladyatavin

Twitter: @RahimThawer

allmylinks.com/ladyativan

New Website! www.leahtidey.com

Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/46045289-sex-after-grief

Myths and The Truth About Sex After Grieving: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201911/myths-and-the-truth-about-sex-after-grieving

Options for Sexual Health www.optionsforsexualhealth.org

Sex Sense Line 1-800-739-7367

Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity: https://www.vitalsource.com/en-ca/products/human-sexuality-in-a-world-of-diversity-sixth-spencer-a-rathus-jeffrey-s-v9780135166390

Taylor Nolan Wants You To Be Kinder To Your Vagina: https://thekit.ca/health/taylor-nolan-vaginal-health/

Bacterial Vaginosis: A Practical Review https://journals.lww.com/jaapa/Fulltext/2017/12000/Bacterial_vaginosis__A_practical_review.3.aspx

Are You in Love or Lust? feat. Dr. Sari van Anders & Will Beischel Feb 11, 2021

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Today on the show I’m answering your questions about love - what is it? How do we know when we’re in it? What is the media telling us about love? And, what is the difference between love and lust? My interview with Dr. Sari van Anders and Will Beischel offers an important dialogue on what that difference is and provides an actually useful theory for us to better understand ourselves in the world.

Resources from the Show!

Dr. Sari van Anders Twitter @sarivananders

Will Beischel Twitter @willbeischel

Van Anders Lab: https://www.queensu.ca/psychology/van-anders-lab/

SCT Gender/Sex Sexuality Video: https://youtu.be/1ejZRlQawVQ

SCT Partner Number Sexuality Video: https://youtu.be/2fRj3T4UazI

SCT & Individual Gender/Sex Video: https://youtu.be/mxzJguDzbnM

A Better Way to Talk About Love by Mandy Len Carton: https://www.ted.com/talks/mandy_len_catron_a_better_way_to_talk_about_love#t-223371

Good Clean Love: We Love The Way You Love: https://goodcleanlove.com/

What is Polyamory? feat. Kassandra Heap Jan 28, 2021

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Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about polyamory, including what resources are out there for finding the polyam community for you, if folks are born polyamorous or monogamous, and how to start normalizing polyamory.

I also share my interview with the brilliant and insightful Kassandra Heap. Kassandra is a registered psychologist whose job is to help you make meaningful connections with yourself and others. We are giving you Polyamory 101 and I couldn’t have asked for a better guest to guide us through it.

Resources from the Show!

Kassandra Heap: https://www.kassandraheap.com/

Instagram: @kassandra.heap.yyc

What I Got Wrong in More Than Two: The Dark Night of the Soul: https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/11/29/what-i-got-wrong-in-more-than-two-the-dark-night-of-the-soul/amp/

Thoughts on the Fifth Anniversary of More Than Two: https://brighterthansunflowers.com/2019/09/02/thoughts-on-the-fifth-anniversary-of-more-than-two/

The Best Polyamory Resources: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/the-best-polyamory-resources-e63caaf40de5

Polyamory on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/

Poly Pages: http://www.polypages.org/researchhub.html#/

Polyamorous Dating Sites: https://daterboy.com/how-to-find-polyamorous-partners-the-ultimate-guide/

Does Penis Size Actually Matter? feat. Dr. Rinaldo Walcott Jan 14, 2021

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Welcome to Season 2 of The Love Doctor! We're kicking things off by talking about dick pics, penises, and how to respond to sex even if it's been a couple years since your last session.

I also share my interview with Dr. Rinaldo Walcott, where we talk about how HIV and Covid-19 actually have a lot in common and he asks a very important question: How do black men fuck? As a black man, he specifically uses this question to call attention to how society and sex researchers have created a pretty narrow script of black men’s sexuality and he offers it as a spark to discussion.

Resources from the Show!

Dr. Rinaldo Walcott

Twitter: @blacklikewho

https://wgsi.utoronto.ca/person/rinaldo-walcott/

Does Penis Size Actually Matter? https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/does-size-matter

How does celibacy affect your health?: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326518#effects-on-the-body

Can You Talk To Your Mom About Sex? feat. Dr. Paige Fisher Nov 26, 2020

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Last episode of Season 1! Today on the show, I answer your questions about how to find sexually and emotionally compatible partners and how advisable it is to get in touch with an ex, especially during Cuffing Season.

I also share my interview with the brilliant Dr. Paige Fisher aka my mom. We talk about her journey on being Dr. Fisher and not Dr. Tidey, when I told her about the first time I kissed a girl and basically how I’ve been a sex nerd since I was three years old. To me, it feels like the perfect way to end Season 1 with the woman who has taught me so much about how to hold my head high and share my voice with the world.

Resources from the Show!

Our Ethical Wedding Rings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yx1BNmlNIls&ab_channel=LeviHildebrand

How We Made Our Wedding Zero Waste: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwl1SoAChUw&ab_channel=LeviHildebrand

20 Things to Know About Sexual Compatibility: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexual-compatibility#breakdown

What Does a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex Look Like?: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/healthy-relationship-with-ex-partner/

Why “Cuffing Season” is Reckless and Damaging: https://www.thestar.com/life/relationships/advice/2020/11/09/why-cuffing-season-is-reckless-and-damaging.html

Why You Should Buy A Sex Toy! feat. Jasmine Aziz Nov 12, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about orgasming with a vibrator versus a partner, what lubes you should use with condoms and how to introduce sex toys into your relationship. I also share my interview with the hilarious sex toy aficionado and author of Sex and Samosas, Jasmine Aziz, where we get into our past shitty relationships and her top sex toy recommendations!

Resources from the Show!

Jasmine Aziz: @JasmineAziz

Sex and Samosas: https://www.biblio.com/9780987735706

Here She Comes Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/40RDaEAhqXq44oJF4yXXuG?si=WeNpB9aJRdq13eTPFf6Zrg

Magic Wand: https://wickedwandas.ca/collections/luxury-vibes/products/magic-wand-rechargeable

Satisfyer Pro...You know, that sweet bitch: https://wickedwandas.ca/collections/the-satisfyer-collection/products/the-satisfyer-pro-2

Premium Grip Masturbator (Sleeve): https://wickedwandas.ca/products/apollo-reversible-premium-grip-masturbator?_pos=3&_sid=d5ea7de37&_ss=r

Jasmine’s Review of The Sleeve!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBADmRfcgUo&feature=youtu.be

A Guide to Sex Toys That Don’t Totally Ruin the Planet!: https://www.vice.com/en/article/gyzp43/best-eco-friendly-vibrators-sex-toys

How Sex Toys Impact Relationships: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-truth-about-exercise-addiction/201705/how-sex-toys-impact-relationships

Vibrator Dependence: Can Using a Vibrator Make it Harder to Orgasm with a Real Partner?: http://www.lovesciencemedia.com/love-science-media/vibrator-dependence-can-using-a-vibrator-make-it-harder-to-o.html

The Impact of a Couple’s Vibrator on Men’s Perceptions of Their Own and Their Partner’s Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1097184X15595082

The Best Eco-Friendly Condoms and Lubes, According to Sex Experts: https://nymag.com/strategist/article/best-organic-vegan-condoms-lube.html

The Ultimate Guide to Eco-Friendly Sex: https://theecohub.ca/the-ultimate-guide-to-eco-friendly-sex-toys-lubricant-condoms/

Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity

Ben Wa Balls: https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/ben-wa-balls-c-1015.aspx

Vibrating butt plug: https://kinkazoid.com/vibrating-butt-plugs/

Does Masturbation Help with Period Pain? feat. Crystal Kennings Nov 05, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about masturbation and why it can help relieve period cramps, what kind of hygiene your vulva needs and how weight change affects menstruation. I also share part two of my interview with Crystal Kennings where we talk about zero waste period products and how eating plant-based might just lead to a better sex life. Seriously, avocado toast might be the answer!

Resources from the Show!

Crystal’s Instagram: @crystalkennings

Crystal Comparing Period Products: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acZjAEP7bYs&t=29s&ab_channel=CrystalKennings

Knix Underwear: https://knix.ca/collections/period-underwear

How Tampons and Pads Became So Unsustainable: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/environment/2019/09/how-tampons-pads-became-unsustainable-story-of-plastic/#close

Menstrual Cup Use and Intrauterine Device Expulsion in a Copper Intrauterine Device Contraceptive Efficacy Trial: https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Abstract/2020/05001/Menstrual_Cup_Use_and_Intrauterine_Device.3.aspx

Menstrual Cup Users at Increased Risk of IUD Displacement: https://www.medpagetoday.com/meetingcoverage/acog/86150

Tampon Commercial: Baroness Von Sketch Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoXlxdT5TL4&ab_channel=CBCComedy

Why Masturbation Needs To be Taught in Sex Ed: https://mashable.com/article/masturbation-sex-ed/

Netflix’s Sex Education Prioritizes Female Pleasure: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/netflixs-sex-education-prioritizes-female-pleasure

Put A Cup In It: https://putacupinit.com/

Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity, Sixth Edition: https://www.vitalsource.com/en-ca/products/human-sexuality-in-a-world-of-diversity-sixth-spencer-a-rathus-jeffrey-s-v9780135166390

Association between Body Weight Changes and Menstrual Irregularity: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5503870/

A Weight-Loss Program Adapted to the Menstrual Cycle: https://academic.oup.com/ajcn/article/104/1/15/4569669

The Vagina Bible by Dr. Jen Gunter

11 Sustainable Products to Help You Have an Eco-Friendly Period: https://greatist.com/health/eco-friendly-period-products-sustainable-period-products#best-eco-friendly-and-sustainable-period-products

The Science that Proves Vegans Have Better Sex (Best article with actual research cited!): https://lovecomplement.com/blogs/resources/the-science-that-proves-vegans-have-better-sex

Vegans Make Better Lovers - Here’s Why: https://www.peta.org.uk/blog/vegan-lovers/#:~:text=Vegans%20have%20higher%20sex%20drives,looking%20for%20in%20the%20bedroom

Experts Reveal How Going Vegan Can Affect Your Sex Life: https://www.bustle.com/p/how-going-vegan-can-affect-your-sex-life-according-to-experts-18817624

What You Need to Know About Your Period feat. Crystal Kennings Oct 29, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about sustainable lube products, hormones, managing our mental health leading up to sex and what red flags - and green flags - are in sexual relationships. I also share part 1 of my interview with my friend and menstrual wellness educator, Crystal Kennings. We talk about cycle awareness and how it includes so much more than just tracking your period!

Resources from the Show

Crystal’s Information

Instagram: @crystalkennings

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/crystaalk

Levi's Video Exposing Fake Instagram Brands: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2WHUJ9uNbs&ab_channel=LeviHildebrand

Savage Love: You Do Not Need Someone’s Consent to Dump Them: https://nowtoronto.com/lifestyle/advice/savage-love-you-do-not-need-someone-consent-dump-them

Why We Need to Shout About “Green Flags” in Relationships: https://www.stylist.co.uk/opinion/green-flags-red-flags-relationships-toni-tone/407665

Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity, Sixth Edition: https://www.vitalsource.com/en-ca/products/human-sexuality-in-a-world-of-diversity-sixth-spencer-a-rathus-jeffrey-s-v9780135166390

The Vagina Bible: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/the-vagina-bible-the-vulva/9780735277373-item.html

14 Best Natural Lubricants That Won’t Irritate Your Vagina: https://www.prevention.com/sex/g21085349/best-natural-lubricants/

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?: https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral

A Review of Experimental Research on Anxiety and Sexual Arousal: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2043808719847371#:~:text=More%20than%20half%20of%20studies,a%20minority%20observing%20no%20effect

How Does A Sex Podcaster Make Money?! Oct 15, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about romantic versus sexual relationships and how we can balance both, as well as what good communication actually looks like. Also on the show, I’m doing something a little different. Instead of an interview, I’m going to share a bit more about what I do and how the heck I make money as a sexual health and arts-based researcher. I’m attending a conference this week and I thought it was a great opportunity to share a bit more about what I do and how I got into my line of work. I'll even tell you a story about how someone wanted to be my sugar daddy!

References from the Show!

My Research! You’re Doing What?! At Your Age?! Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3aUUHUrQm0w&t=2s&ab_channel=UVic

Her: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1798709/

6 Surprising Ways to Communicate Better With Your Partner: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-couch/201501/6-surprising-ways-communicate-better-your-partner

Talking Dirty: De-Stigmatizing Conversation on Sex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpeNt81dgVI&ab_channel=TEDxTalks

Schitt’s Creek: https://gem.cbc.ca/season/schitts-creek/season-6/4beb167e-f4da-4435-9282-7acb77230775?cmp=sch-schitts

Bisexual & Married to a YouTuber feat. Levi Hildebrand Oct 08, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about figuring out if you’re bisexual or heterosexual or demisexual and what the heck all of that means. I also share my interview with the devastatingly handsome and hilarious, Levi Hildebrand.

You do know we’re married...right? We talk about our relationship, its ups and downs over the years as well as Levi’s recent YouTube video about wearing the same outfit for 30 days and why nobody said anything. So what is the deal with gender expectations and clothing and how does it affect our sex lives?

Resources from the Show!

Levi’s YouTube Video: I Wore the Same Thing for 30 Days! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YGDaEbe0g0s&t=302s&ab_channel=LeviHildebrand

Machismo: How Toxic Masculinity Harms Latinx People - an interview with Laura Carlsen: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics_sexual_identity_gender_etc/machismo%C2%A0how_toxic_masculinity_harms%C2%A0latinx_people_an

Just the Basics Ace: An Asexuality Primer https://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships_sexual_identity_in_your_own_words/just_the_basics_ace_an_asexuality_primer

I Think I Might Be Asexual: English https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-asexual/

I Think I Might Be Asexual: Spanish https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-asexual-spanish/

Everything Sex & Relationships Reading List: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org/parents/adult-reading-list/

Mormons and Shame: https://latterdaysaintmag.com/mormons-and-shame-when-you-dont-measure-up-to-the-lds-ideal/

'Conditioned to lying': how Mormon sexual questioning is 'child abuse': https://www.smh.com.au/national/conditioned-to-lying-how-mormon-sexual-questioning-is-child-abuse-20190309-p512xx.html

I Think I Might Be Bisexual: English https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-bi-pan/

I Think I Might Be Bisexual: Spanish https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-bisexual-pansexual-spanish/

Sex For Life: From Virginity to Viagra by Carpenter & DeLamater: https://nyupress.org/9780814772539/sex-for-life/