The Love Doctor

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What is Lesbian Sex? Feat. Steph & Kaitlin from Lez See The World Oct 01, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about exploring our bodies and pleasure - even in conservative countries - and how to keep the spark alive while you’re doing a PhD. I also share my interview with Steph and Kaitlin, the creative entrepreneurs behind Lez See the World. I’ve been following this incredible lesbian couple for quite awhile now and not gonna lie, I was a little starstruck when they agreed to do an interview with me. It is a hilarious and heartfelt interview and I can’t wait for you to hear it.

Resources from the Show

Steph and Kaitlin’s Info! Instagram @lezseetheworld and Blog at https://lezseetheworld.com

Big Mouth Guide to Life on Instagram @bigmouthnetflix

Agency founder's delight at Emmy win for project with Netflix series Big Mouth: https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/18739995.agency-founders-delight-emmy-win-project-netflix-series-big-mouth/

UN Population Fund Salud sexual y reproductiva: https://www.unfpa.org/es/salud-sexual-y-reproductiva

UN Population Fund Sexual and Reproductive Health: https://www.unfpa.org/about-us

Young women’s sexual and reproductive health and rights in Ecuador: https://www.diva-portal.org/smash/get/diva2:1065927/FULLTEXT01.pdf

Women’s Reproductive and Sexual Health as a Human Right: https://www.cfhi.org/womens-reproductive-sexual-health-as-a-human-right

Rights, Respected, Responsibility: A K-12 Sexuality Education Curriculum (English & Spanish) https://3rs.org/3rs-curriculum/download-3rs/

“We keep quiet”: exploring the context of pregnancy intention in a low-resource community in Ecuador: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26410397.2019.1686198

Social inequality in sexual and reproductive health in Ecuador: an analysis of gaps by levels of provincial poverty 2009–2015: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6545732/

Am I Addicted to Porn?! feat. Clary Chambers Sep 24, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about porn and how to know if you’re addicted to it and about gay sex between folks with penises -exclaimer, it’s not just anal!

I also share part 2 of my interview with invisible illness advocate and CEO of Spark Clarity, Clary Chambers. In episode 9, we got to hear from Clary’s partner, Percy, about who said I love you first and who initiates sex more. Now it’s Clary’s turn and we get into the nuts and bolts of healthy relationships, particularly for folks with disabilities. I mean, did you know that masturbation is a great medication?!

Resources from the show!

Clary's Website: Sparkclarity.ca

Instagram: @sparkclarity

How We Met / Q&A YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FovqUPb_oKM&ab_channel=LeviHildebrand

The War on Masturbation: https://canvasonic.com/watch/anna-akana/the-war-on-masturbation

Is Masturbation Okay? (Yep.): https://www.scarleteen.com/article/gender/is_masturbation_okay_yep

Why We Should Stop Calling Porn “Addiction” an Addiction: https://www.lehmiller.com/blog/2015/7/10/why-we-should-stop-calling-porn-addiction-an-addiction?rq=addiction

Clitbait: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About The Clitoris: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jan/23/clitbait-10-things-you-didnt-know-about-the-clitoris

Clitoris Visual Guide: https://lioness.io/blogs/sex-guides/where-is-the-clitoris-a-visual-guide-with-troubleshooting-steps

The Bees and...The Bees: A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Prime: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/the_bees_andthe_bees_a_homosexuality_and_bisexuality_primer

Tips for Anal Sex: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/facts/sex/tips-for-anal-sex/

Oral Sex, Manual Sex, Anal Sex..What It All Means, Jellybean!: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/oral_sex_manual_sex_anal_sexwhats_it_all_mean_jellybean

Options for Sexual Health Contact Info: 1-800-739-7367 throughout BC* or 604-731-7803 in the Lower Mainland https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/sex-sense/

Orgasm Gap: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-017-0939-z

What Is Squirting? Why Does It Happen? feat. Clary Chambers Sep 17, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about squirting (is it a gush? A drop? What’s the deal?), and focusing on vulva-related questions. Whether or not you have a vulva, chances are you’re going to learn something new! I also share part 1 of my interview with Clary Chambers about her work as an invisible illness advocate, accessibility advisor and CEO of Spark Clarity. Clary is so engaging and wonderful to chat with that I even offered that she should host this podcast! Lucky for me, she is far too busy with her own endeavours and I am so grateful to have her on the show.

Resources from the Show!

Clary's Website!https://sparkclarity.ca/ Instagram: @sparkclarity

What Exactly is Female Ejaculation - And Can Every Woman Do It?: https://www.health.com/condition/sexual-health/female-ejaculation

Every Question You Ever Had about Female Ejaculation, Answered: https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/544c5686-e3bc-4ac2-b4ca-f91eccefe441

The Vagina Bible by Dr. Gunter: https://drjengunter.com/social-media/

Intersectionality Article-Mapping the Margins by Kimberle Crenshaw: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/734f/8b582b7d7bb375415d2975cb783c839e5e3c.pdf?_ga=2.247126790.363196569.1600202704-1001155279.1600202704

Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/me-and-white-supremacy-combat/9781728209807-item.html

Let’s Talk About the Vagina, Goop and Patriarchy by Dr. Gunter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTGYMMNbNEs&ab_channel=CenterforInquiry

Sexual Health Laboratory: https://brottolab.med.ubc.ca/sexual-dysfunction-information/

What is Vaginismus?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4rMVbDLyo0&ab_channel=Women%27sTherapyCenter-TreatmentCenterForVaginismus%2CPainfulSex%2CCancer%2CIncontinence%26More

Sexual Health Educator Certification: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/sex-ed/shec/

How Do You Come Out To Your Parents? feat. Emily Percival-Paterson Sep 10, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about how to talk to kids about sex and about identifying as asexual. I’ll also be sharing part 2 of my interview with Emily Percival Paterson, where we talk about coming out to our parents, how to create inclusive spaces, and get into all the juicy details about their relationship with Clary Chambers. Clary will also be my next guest on the podcast and I am so excited to share this power couple’s story both in and out of the bedroom.

Resources from the Show!

Percy’s Website! Trans Birth Care in Canada: https://transbirthcareinca.wixsite.com/tbcic

Check out Percy and Trans Birth Care on Instagram too! @percypaters and @trans.birth.care.in.canada

Are We Having Kids?: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmXCIBuQzvw&t=230s

State Policies on Sex Education in Schools: https://www.ncsl.org/research/health/state-policies-on-sex-education-in-schools.aspx

What Asexuality Can Teach Us About Sexual Relationships and Boundaries: https://theconversation.com/what-asexuality-can-teach-us-about-sexual-relationships-and-boundaries-94846.

Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships_sexual_identity_in_your_own_words/just_the_basics_ace_an_asexuality_primer

I Think I Might Be Asexual: English: https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-asexual/

I Think I Might Be Asexual: Spanish: https://advocatesforyouth.org/resources/health-information/i-think-i-might-be-asexual-spanish/

My PhD Research: You’re Doing What?! At Your Age?! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3aUUHUrQm0w&t=2s&ab_channel=UVic

Island Sexual Health Society: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org

Confidential text line: 250-812-9374

Academic Resources

Dominguez, L. J., & Barbagallo, M. (2016). Ageing and sexuality. European Geriatric Medicine, 7(6), 512-518. doi:10.1016/j.eurger.2016.05.013

Carpenter, L. M., & DeLamater, J. D. (2012). Sex for life: From virginity to viagra, how sexuality changes throughout our lives. New York: New York University Press.

Kasif, T., & Band-Winterstein, T. (2017). Older widows' perspectives on sexuality: A life course perspective. Journal of Aging Studies, 41, 1-9. doi:10.1016/j.jaging.2017.01.002

Pickard, S. (2016). Sexuality through the life course. (pp. 131). 55 City Road: SAGE Publications Ltd. doi:10.4135/9781473957800.n7

Are You Gonna Have Kids? feat. Emily Percival-Paterson Sep 03, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about how to talk about sex with new partners, friends, and family - even when it comes to kinks and polyamory. I’ll also be sharing my interview with Emily Percival-Paterson where we talk about trans birth care in Canada and why people feel it’s okay to ask about your sex life in the context of “So, are you gonna have kids?”

Resources from the Show!

Percy’s Website! Trans Birth Care in Canada: https://transbirthcareinca.wixsite.com/tbcic

Fet Life: https://fetlife.com/

Finding Other Local Kinksters Using Online Resources: https://www.submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/entering-the-community-finding-other-local-kinksters-using-online-resources?series=series-munches

A Map of Gender Diverse Cultures: https://www.pbs.org/independentlens/content/two-spirits_map-html/

The Sacred Hoop: Recovering the Feminine in Indian American Traditions: https://books.google.ca/books/about/The_Sacred_Hoop.html?id=dZD24n0YtlwC

Best Books for Polyamory: https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/11205.Best_Books_for_Polyamory

Academic Resources

Carpenter, L. M., & DeLamater, J. D. (2012). Sex for Life: From Virginity to Viagra, How Sexuality Changes Throughout Our Lives. New York: New York University Press.

Do Canadians Have Better Sex? feat. Jackie Hoshing Aug 21, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I'll be sharing my take on Tik-Tok, answering your questions about masturbation and why herpes is still getting a bad rep even though they’re not that big a deal. Trust me, I’m a doctor...of philosophy, but still, trust me on this! I’ll also be sharing my interview with my neighbour from the south and sexual health educator, Jackie Hoshing, and we’ll be talking about sex ed in Canada versus the US and how they measure up.

Resources from the Show!

Trump Vows To Ban Tik-Tok App from U.S.: https://www.cbc.ca/news/world/trump-vow-ban-tiktok-1.5671606

TikTok Ban: How Chinese App Went From Hotbed of Sex Trafficking and Exploitation to Safe Space for Youngsters: https://meaww.com/Tik-Tok-Ban-Hotbed-Sex-Trafficking-Exploitation-Safe-Space-Youngsters-Donald-Trump-United-States

Is Masturbation Okay? (Yep.): https://www.scarleteen.com/article/gender/is_masturbation_okay_yep

The Best Alternatives to PornHub and XVideos: https://mashable.com/article/pornhub-alternatives-free-porn-paid-porn/

How Herpes Became the Sexual Bogeyman: https://slate.com/technology/2019/12/genital-herpes-stigma-history-explained.html

How to Talk About Sex: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex-partner-communication#conversation-howto

Addressing The Consequences of Herpes Stigma: https://www.verywellhealth.com/addressing-herpes-stigma-3132586

Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity 123 BC Curriculum: https://bc.sogieducation.org/q-a#faq-heading

Planned Parenthood: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/for-educators

Academic Articles

Manago, A., Ward, L., Lemm, K., Reed, L., & Seabrook, R. (2015). Facebook involvement, objectified body consciousness, body shame, and sexual assertiveness in college women and men. Sex Roles, 72(1), 1-14. doi:10.1007/s11199-014-0441-1.

What Birth Control Should You Use? feat. Dr. Penny Wilson Aug 05, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer your questions about birth control and barrier methods, sexual preferences, and how stoked I am that shows like Sex Explained exist. I also share my interview with Dr. Penny Wilson, a maternity family physician, where we talk about the latest birth control options available in Canada and how your vulva is probably way more normal than you think.

Resources from the Show!

Try Glory Holes for Safer Sex During Coronavirus: https://globalnews.ca/news/7204384/coronavirus-glory-holes-sex/

Nexplanon - Birth Control Implant: https://www.theguardian.pe.ca/opinion/national-perspectives/nexplanon-a-3-year-birth-control-implant-is-now-approved-for-use-in-canada-456342/

The Vagina Bible: https://www.amazon.ca/Vagina-Bible-vulva-vagina-separating-medicine/dp/0735277370

Labia Library:http://www.labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/#

UK’s Great Wall of Vagina: http://www.greatwallofvagina.co.uk/

Island Sexual Health Society: https://www.islandsexualhealth.org/birthcontrol/#barrier

Power to Decide: https://powertodecide.org/what-we-do/access/birth-control-access

Three Types of Birth Control Shots: https://www.verywellhealth.com/contraceptive-injections-906874

What is the relationship between physical exercise and sexual desirability?: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233422077_What_is_the_relationship_between_physical_exercise_and_sexual_desirability

How Exercise Can Improve your Sex Life: https://www.health.com/sex/exercise-and-sex

5 Ways Exercising Will Affect your Sex Life: https://aaptiv.com/magazine/exercise-affects-your-sex-life

Twerking for Social Change Jul 30, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I'm doing something just a little different. This week I am part of an online conference for the Canadian Association of Theatre Research and I am presenting a short video and podcast. Really it’s just an opportunity for me to discuss what it is I do and how I got a group of seniors and teens to practice twerking! Since I’ve had a lot of folks send me messages wanting to know more about my work, I thought I’d share my conference presentation and then get back to a regular episode next week. I also have a link to the 3 minute video where you get to hear from some of the folks who I work with!

Link to the Video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3aUUHUrQm0w

Resources from the show!

Sex and Seniors: Shaking off the Stigma https://globalnews.ca/news/1425332/sex-and-seniors-shaking-off-the-stigma/

Turning 50? You may need ‘The Talk’ more than your Teen https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/valentines-day/turning-50-you-may-need-the-talk-more-than-your-teen/article29973483/

Seniors are having sex – And some are getting STIs along with it. https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-and-fitness/health-advisor/seniors-are-having-sex-and-some-are-getting-stis-along-with-it/article27565444/

Getting ‘consent’ for sex is too low a bar https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/18/well/getting-consent-for-sex-is-too-low-a-bar.html?rref=collection%2Ftimestopic%2FSex

Heath, H., & Riddett, J. (2012). The Taboo of Senior Sexuality: Enhancing Staff Confidence. Part 2. Nursing & Residential Care, vol. 14, no. 10, pp. 530-533. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.

Hillman, J. L. (2012). Chapter 3: Attitudes toward Sexuality and Aging. Sexuality and Aging: Clinical Perspectives, pp. 59-81. Retrieved from doi:10.1007/978-1-4614-3399-6.

Leavy, P. (2018). Handbook of Arts-Based Research. Guildford Press.

Lum, J. (2009). Keep on rockin: Sexuality and aging. S.l.: Canadian Research Network for Care in the Community, pp. 1-8. Retrieved from www-deslibris-ca.ezproxy.library.uvic.ca/ID/246084.

Patel, A. (2017). Seniors have Sex – and the STI Rates to Prove It. Global News. Retrieved from www.globalnews.ca/news/3802497/canada-sti-rates-seniors/.

Urban Dictionary. (2019). Twerk: Top Definition. Retrieved from www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=twerk.

Victoria Target Theatre Society. (2017). Target Theatre. Retrieved from www.targettheatre.ca/.

Vissing, Y. (2018). Sexual debut education: Cultivating a healthy approach to young people’s sexual experiences. In S. L. Blair & P. N. Claster (Eds.), Gender, Sex, and Sexuality Among Contemporary Youth: Generation Sex (1^st ed.). Bingley, UK: Emerald Publishing.

Virginity and Marijuana: The Myths and The Meaning feat. Riley Webster Jul 22, 2020

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Today on the show, I answer your questions about virginity (like, does masturbation count?!), what that means and how religion can make it that much more complex. I also share my interview with the lovely and brilliant, Riley Webster, all about intimacy, and intentional cannabis use. Riley has worked in the cannabis industry, is a yoga teacher and a writer, has studied Reiki, massage, Ayurveda and is the host of The Kismet Collection podcast!

Resources from the Show!

The Kismet Collection: https://open.spotify.com/show/4qC44FJ0FAOaY07Cvn25wt?si=9bPUVlHARMm7zFj-LIqpSA

Can Cannabis Use Really Help Your Sex Life?: https://www.thestar.com/life/health_wellness/opinion/2019/10/28/can-cannabis-help-your-sex-life.html

How Does Cannabis Actually Affect Sex?: https://www.self.com/gallery/how-cannabis-affects-sex

How Religion Screws With Our Sex Lives: https://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/matty-silver/how-religion-screws-with-our-sex-lives_a_23206909/

9 of the Biggest Lies Christianity Tells Us About Sex and Marriage: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/05/christianity-lies-sex-marriage/

The Uncomfortable Truth About Sex in a Christian Marriage https://hopejoyinchrist.com/uncomfortable-truth-sex-christian-marriage/

Academic Resources

Allen, P. G. (1992). Pushing up the Sky: How the west was really won. The sacred hoop: Recovering the feminine in American Indian traditions: With a new preface (pp. 194-208). Boston, MA: Beacon Press.

Carpenter, L. M. (2010). Gendered sexuality over the life course: A conceptual framework. Sociological Perspectives, 53(2), 155-178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155

Cha, S., Masho, S. W., & Mezuk, B. (2016). Age of sexual debut and cannabis use in the United States. Substance use & Misuse, 51(4), 439-448. doi:10.3109/10826084.2015.1110177

Jackson, D. (2016). Aging men’s embodied selves: Rethinking aging men’s relationships with their aging bodies. Exploring Aging Masculinities: The Body, Sexuality and Social Lives (pp. 38-55). New York: Palgrave Macmillan. doi:10.1057/9781137527578.

Smith AMA, Ferris JA, Simpson JM, Shelley J, Pitts M, and Richters J. (2010). Cannabis use and sexual health. Journal of Sex Medicine, 7, 787–793.

Vissing, Y. (2018). “Sexual debut education: Cultivating a healthy approach to young people’s sexual experiences.” In S. L. Blair & P. N. Claster (Eds.) Gender, sex, and sexuality among contemporary youth: Generation sex (First ed.). Bingley, UK: Emerald Publishing.

Debunking Menstruation Myths feat. Krystal & Jenny Jul 14, 2020

Show notes

Today on the show, I answer questions about how to talk to a potential partner when you're sexually inexperienced, how menopause affects your sex drive, and how Covid-19 might just help us talk more openly about STIs. I also chat with the lovely hosts of The Rag Podcast, Jenny and Krystal, about menstruation, menstrual equity, and making things that seem spooky just a little less spooky (yeah, we're talking about sex).

My interview on The Rag Podcast! https://open.spotify.com/episode/2L1Xu29SURZsJPROgsxyPQ?si=lXcpCS1OS0yZJnv9txcuzw

Resources from the Show!

How to Talk About Sex: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex-partner-communication#turn-ons-and-offs

Period Aisle: https://periodaisle.ca/pages/our-story

Best Lubricants for Menopause-Related Dryness: www.healthline.com/health/menopause/best-lubricants-menopause-dryness#1

Grace & Frankie Review: https://reviewandsummary.com/grace-and-frankie-season-6-review/

My article!!

Tidey, L. (2019). Sexy till I die: What applied theatre can offer in approaches to sexual health. Journal of Applied Arts & Health, 10(3), 365–375. https://doi-org.ezproxy.library.uvic.ca/10.1386/jaah_00007_1

Academic Articles

Carpenter, L. M., & DeLamater, J. D. (2012). Sex for life: From virginity to viagra, how sexuality changes throughout our lives. New York: New York University Press.

Ringa, V., Diter, K., Laborde, C., & Bajos, N. (2013). Women's sexuality: From aging to social representations. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10(10), 2399-2408. doi:10.1111/jsm.12267

Rubinstein, H., & Foster, J. (2013). 'I don't know whether it is to do with age or to do with hormones and whether it is do with a stage in your life': Making sense of menopause and the body. Journal of Health Psychology, 18(2), 292-307.

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