The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

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SC 78 - The Secret Weapon For Men To Deepen Their Relationships With Women - John Wineland Nov 16, 2016

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Why do men need more solid men around them? In this episode, we explore the power of getting very honest with other men and how that can benefit your relationships to women. Our guest John Wineland shares his personal story and offers practical yet embodied tips for how a man can learn how to do relationships in a much more powerful and sustainable way.

SHOWNOTES

How did John get into men's work? [9:30]
The massive opportunity and lessons in fatherhood. [12:30]
How death has been one of John's biggest teachers. [18:00]
Why just having guy friends is sometimes not enough. [21:00]
Does every man need a men's group? [24:30]
What is the most powerful spiritual work that John now does? [35:00]
What can a woman do to help her man get into men's work? [38:00]
The game-changing move that a man can do to transform his relationship. [45:00]
Jayson gives an action step. [58:00]

SC 77 - How To Work With Personality Differences - Joel & Antonia Nov 09, 2016

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In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understanding their partner's personality type. These two use Myers-Briggs, the enneagram, and other personality tests to understand themselves and each other better. I think you'll get a couple of new insights from Joel and Antonia's story that can help you right now in your own relationship. Pay special attention to what they do well and how they work through challenges in a collaborative way.

SHOWNOTES

What is a "social technology"? [8:30]
Why do you need to understand your partner's personality style? [14:00]
How did Joel and Antonia start studying personality? [15:15]
The unique history of the Myers-Briggs typing system. [17:00]
How thinkers and feelers can work well in relationships. [22:00]
Can your learn from your partner's personality style? [32:00]
The impact of masculine or feminine personality types. [35:00]
The two kinds of thinking styles. [38:30]
The best place to start to figure out you & your partner's personality type? [42:00]
The traps of personality tests. [44:00]
One thing to never do with your partner. [47:30]
What caused Joel and Antonia to dive into personal growth? [49:00]

SC 76 - Spirituality & Relationships with Jeff Brown Nov 02, 2016

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In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual movement and instead offering grounded, practical, embodied suggestions and pathways to continue to deepen into our wholeness. This one may get uncomfortable depending on where you fall in this conversation. It is my wish that you feel challenged and grow from it.

SHOWNOTES

What is Soulshaping? [12:40]
What are the most common human struggles that Jeff sees in his work? [14:00]
Why most people meditate and so “solo spirituality” over relationships. [16:30]
Jeff’s personal definition of spirituality [18:00]
How are some teachings distorting the ideas of spirituality and emotions? [19:30]
What can men do to grow spiritually? [24:00]
The lesson Jeff learned from selling windows door-to-door. [27:00]
How can women help men awaken? [29:30]
How do Jeff and partner navigate conflict in their relationship? [32:45]
Jeff gives his opinion on polyamory. [38:00]
What are Jeff’s preferred practices for personal growth? [39:45]
Jeff’s twist on the New Age movement. [43:00]
Why are relationships so hard? [46:00]

SC 75 - How To Deal With A Partner That Talks Too Much Oct 26, 2016

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You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been there. Well, in this episode, we discuss how important it is to interrupt them and take command of the conversation. Wait, Am I suggesting you get aggressive? No way. I’m asking that you show your “care” for them by listening in an entirely different way.

SHOWNOTES

What is “captive audience”? [7:30]
Who is responsible when someone talks too much in an interaction? [10:30]
What is active listening? [12:15]
The gift that you might be giving the “over-talker”. [14:00]
Jayson gives some examples on how to interrupt. [15:30]
Jayson shares a personal story of a dude that talked WAY too much and what Jayson did about it. [21:30]
Jayson’s action steps for the listener [25:00]

SC 74 - 8 Steps To Reconnect After Disconnection Oct 19, 2016

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Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to identify the ways in which you disconnect and locate the source. After some self-inquiry there, you can learn how to reconnect to you, and your partner. Listen to this one to learn how.

SHOWNOTES

Should you expect that your marriage will last forever? [4:00]
Do you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship? [5:30]
The 10 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself. [9:30]
The 8 steps to reconnect. [15:00]
Jayson’s action step for the listener [24:00]

SC 73 - Men & Vulnerability with Connor Beaton of ManTalks Oct 12, 2016

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Do men change? Can they overcome their blocks? Of course. But sometimes, they need a little permission or a nudge from another man. I’m always thrilled to meet men who help other men come out of their conditioning. This week, I interview Connor Beaton, who is doing just that through his ManTalks events. Check it out.

SHOWNOTES

What is ManTalks? [9:00]
The rock bottom that Connor experienced that caused him to shift his life. [10:30]
The two options that Connor chose between. [18:00]
How traditional masculinity is a pitfall for many men. [22:00]
What does Connor see as the main challenge for men in relationships? [24:30]
The unique role of women and personal growth. [26:00]
Some the things that make men’s work not as accessible to most men. [28:00]
Connor’s biggest lesson in relationships. [33:30]
The reality about men and vulnerability. [35:00]
Jayson’s action steps for the listener [41:00]

SC 72 - How to Deal With The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic (Part 2) Oct 05, 2016

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Do you want more connection while your partner wants more space? One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. In the second of our two-part series, Ellen and I help the distancers understand and deal with your pursuing partner.

SHOWNOTES

What does it mean to the distancer with a pursuer partner? [7:00]
Is the pursuer really being needy when they want attention from a distancer? [10:00]
The link between a pursuer and their childhood relationship with their caregiver. [12:30]
A better way to ask for space. [15:00]
Why the pursuer can be an MVP in a long-term relationship. [19:30]
Jayson’s action step for the listener [23:00]

SC 71 - How to Deal With The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic (Part 1) Sep 28, 2016

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One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. What is going on here and how do you deal with a partner who needs a lot or one who is distancing. In the first of our two part series, Ellen and I help the pursuers (connectors) understand and deal with your distancing partner.

SHOWNOTES

What is the pursuer/distancer dynamic? [10:30]
What’s going on with the distancer when they are asking for time and space? [12:30]
What 2 things do you need to balance when dealing with someone who is distancing. [17:30]
The single focus trap that pursuers can fall into. [21:30]
How time agreements can make re-connecting easier. [25:30]
The positive side of being someone who is a distancer? [26:30]
Quick review of the 5 tips [28:00]
How this dynamic can be different in a marriage vs dating. [29:00]
Jayson’s action step for the listener [33:00]

SC 70 - Saying Yes To Relationship Pain Sep 21, 2016

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Running away from relationship pain and problems often just creates more problems. Here I remind you why facing pain is useful. Check it out. Now.

SHOWNOTES

The simple point of relationship pain. [10:00]
The smarter strategy when you’re triggered by your partner. [10:45]
How Jayson’s back pain woke him up to something deeper. [13:15]
Erectile dysfunction and Viagra as an example of what NOT to do with relationship pain. [16:00]
The big signs that you’re hitting the snooze button on your relationship pain. [18:30]
Jayson gives your action step. [23:00]

SC 69 - The Grass Is Greener Syndrome In Relationships Sep 14, 2016

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The grass is greener with that other person! I used to think this quietly in my mind all the time, no matter who I was with. In this episode, I share my personal drama with this mentality and what it’s really about. Not only that, I offer something to help you get through it. It might just make you more likely to commit to the one you’re with.

SHOWNOTES

Jayson shares his personal story about leaving relationships when the going got tough. [8:45]
The kinds of partners who will more likely have a “grass is greener” mentality. [11:00]
How closeness and space impact ambivalence. [13:00]
Will a new partner solve the current problem or bad feelings I’m having? [16:15]
Jayson’s recommendation if you’re wanting to jump from relationship to relationship. [18:00]
When the grass really is greener over there and it might be time to exit. [21:15]
Jayson’s action steps for the listener. [ 24:45]

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