The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Latest Episodes:

SC 178 - Millennials & Marriage - Kiyomi & Joel Dec 20, 2017

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Wondering what you can learn from a millennial couple? Turns out it's quite a bit!

Kiyomi and Joel are a mixed-race millennial couple that discovers how much their culture plays into their relationship. These two high school sweethearts grew up together and their system for growing together as they mature (as we all do) is inspiring.

Think where you come from isn't a big part of your love life? Uncertain a couple so young can offer profound wisdom? Prepare to be surprised!

SHOWNOTES:

Kiyomi & Joel’s high school love story [9:00]
What is Relationship OCD? [12:00]
Joel’s secret for consistent happiness [17:00]
Couple discovers being mixed race affects them [21:00]
Kiyomi & Joel’s conflict management method [29:00]
What’s the secret to balancing work and relationship life? [35:00]
Jayson’s advice when planning a wedding [43:00]

SC 177 - How A Couple Recovered From Cheating - Leahnora & Noah Dec 14, 2017

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Couples that survive the toughest relationship challenges are so impressive! Leahnora and Noah are one of those couples. Cheating nearly tore them apart but they made commitments to change themselves and now they're stronger than ever before.

What did they do? How do they handle the baggage of their past?

Jayson explores the tough questions here. Also, Leahnora and Noah are still working through some common issues around sexuality and conflict and they share vulnerably about this as Jayson gives some relationship coaching.

SHOWNOTES

- - How did Noah handle the cheating? [9:00]
  - Leahnora & Noah’s personal growth paths [15:00]
  - Defensiveness isn’t always bad [25:00]
  - Their open relationship experience [29:00]
  - How Noah & Leahnora’s fighting style [35:00]
  - Trusting love’s message no matter the cost [40:00]
  - Jayson addresses their sexuality struggles [44:00]
  - When you’re both triggered [54:00]
  - Don’t respond with “That wasn’t my intent” [60:00]

SC 176 - Why Spiritually Developed People Struggle With Monogamy - Ellen & Jayson Dec 06, 2017

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Is your spiritual growth helping your relationship? Are you collaborating with your partner to better yourself as an individual? Or are you going to your corner of the house to meditate all by yourself?

Their careers as therapists and decades of mediation experience have lead Jayson Gaddis and his wife Ellen Boeder to multiple spiritual development discoveries. Turns out even the most spiritually advanced amongst us struggle with relationships. Jayson and Ellen also encourage couples to discover how collaboration with a partner in times of stress can strengthen each individual.

This episode is full of tips for anyone interested in bettering themselves and their relationship at the same time!

Here are a few highlights:

SHOWNOTES

How Ellen & Jayson Benefit from Spiritual Practice [2:00]
Spiritually Advanced People Struggle With Relationships [10:00]
Strengthening Relationship With Dependence [17:00]
Calming Down Together [20:00]
Where Spirituality Alone Falls Short [25:00]
When “Your” Triggers Should Be An “Us” Thing [33:00]

'Win a Chance to be Coached By Jayson'

To celebrate my first book, The Smart Couple Quote Book and the Holiday Season, I am giving away 3 big prizes. 2nd place) $200 credit for any of my courses, 3rd place) $30 to be used in the Relationship School store and the Grand Prize is a 45-minute coaching session for you or you and your partner from me! Boom! Who's in?

To enter to win you must go to the Jayson Gaddis Fan Page on Facebook and 1. Find the Contest Post 2. Like the contest post 3. Comment on the post with what you love about The Smart Couple Book 3. Share the post and tag 3 friends AND extra bonus points: For an extra 5 entries into the raffle, post a selfie of you on your social channels with the book tagging Jayson Gaddis OR leave a review of the book on Amazon. If you leave a review, email us a screenshot of your review at info@jaysongaddis.com . Make sure we see the tagged post as well. Send us an email as a back up with a link to your social post. Contest is open to anyone in the world until December 10 at 11:59p MT. Winners will be announced on the Smart Couple Podcast and Facebook on Wednesday, December 13th.

SC 175 - Embracing Gender Differences & Hormones - John Gray Nov 30, 2017

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According to John Gray, women are embracing their masculine side and men their feminine side more than ever before and our new behavior is significantly influencing our biology and the new challenges that we face in our most intimate relationships.

John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, says that as gender roles change, so are our hormones, making many relationships ... well, complicated.

As Jayson finds out in this episode, John Gray is willing to stir up controversy to prove traditional gender roles and behavior shouldn't be abandoned completely if we want to be physically healthy and happy in our relationships.

SHOWNOTES

Who is John Gray? [9:00]
Stop the blame game [17:00]
Putting on your masculine or feminine "hat" [20:00]
Relationships in the era of gender neutrality [23:00]
The science behind "male" vs "female" qualities [34:00]
Is the angry man a feminized man? [39:00]
Pesticides and hormones [43:00]
Balancing our male and female sides [54:00]
Ladies, venting is good for you [57:00]
Changing diet to correct hormonal imbalance [1:09:00]

SC 174 - Details about the Smart Couple Quote Book Nov 19, 2017

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The Smart Couple Quote Book is out!

This is a relationship book unlike any other. Add tools to your relationship toolbox with just a minute of reading a day.

You will learn radically simple ways to avoid pointless fights, have better sex, and build an indestructible partnership.
Who is the Smart Couple Quote Book for:

- Singles!
- Couples!
- Friends!
- Coaches!
- Yoga/Meditation Instructors!
- Team Leaders!
- Busy People!
- Lifelong Learners!
- Quote Lovers!

and more....

Take a selfie with your Smart Couple Quote Book for our upcoming photo contest!

SC 173 - Healing Relational Trauma In The Body - Sharon Stanley Nov 16, 2017

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Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others?

Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others.
According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy!

SHOWNOTES

- - Who is Sharon Stanley? [6:00]
  - The best ways to connect with a traumatized person [11:00]
  - Interacting with a partner with trauma [16:00]
  - Building strength within the body to address trauma [20:00]
  - The cost of ignoring trauma [25:00]
  - Are you dealing with trauma? [26:00]
  - Is neglect the worst type of trauma? [30:00]
  - The importance of being embodied [35:00]

Zen Parenting With Cathy & Todd - Cathy & Todd Adams - SC 172 Nov 09, 2017

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What is Zen Parenting Radio?
Todd & Cathy’s story
Cathy’s post-pregnancy identity crisis
You can’t make your partner like what you like
Todd’s wake up call
When “husband’ is a loaded term
The ugly side of “Happy wife, happy life”
Getting out of your kids way
Drop the parent “role” and be a role model
Keep your parenting baggage to yourself

SC 171 - Porn Vs Having Sex With A Real Person - Gary Wilson Nov 02, 2017

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Why do so many men use porn? What is it doing for them?

I think it's obvious that porn can ruin your relationship, but what's not so obvious is why so many men use porn. What is going on inside the male brain.

I have my own theories but I wanted to hear from THE porn expert on this...

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

- - The link between chronic erectile dysfunction and porn use [11:00]
  - How do you know when porn use is a problem? [13:00]
  - Can people use porn in a healthy way? [16:00]
  - Why are people using porn? [19:00]
  - How many women are watching porn? [23:00]
  - Religion and porn [22:00]
  - When men use porn for ‘stress relief’ [27:00]
  - How internet porn is shaping our sexuality [36:00]
  - How to heal porn addiction through relationship [48:00]

SC 170 - Overcoming the 'Nice Guy' Syndrome - Robert Glover Oct 26, 2017

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I used to try really hard to get people to think I was a good guy. This is another version of the "nice guy syndrome."

And, it had a big cost.

If you are a nice guy, or you are with a "nice guy" you're going to want to listen to this one because it's quite possible the "nice guy" thing is going to really damage your relationship over time (If it hasn't already).

Here are a few of the highlights:

SHOWNOTES

- - About Robert [6:00]
  - How does someone become a Nice Guy? [11:00]
  - Robert’s definition of a Nice Guy [12:00]
  - The paradox of Nice Guy Syndrome [13:00]
  - The cultural belief that ‘masculine is bad' [25:00]
  - The trap of disowning the masculine [28:00]
  - Tips for increasing self-worth [34:00]
  - How to stop people-pleasing [36:00]
  - How to meet your own needs [42:00]

Dan Savage Vs Jayson Gaddis on Monogamy - SC 169 Oct 24, 2017

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Dan Savage is known for his criticism of monogamy. But what is he missing and why does he think it's a disaster waiting to happen? Listen as Jayson takes a swing in Dan's direction.

SHOWNOTES:

Introducing Dan Savage 1:30

Dan Savage on why monogamy does not work 3:00

Is every monogamous relationship a disaster waiting to happen? 5:30

The potency of 'leaning in' 7:00

Monogamy as an expression of learning to love 9:00