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Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff Aug 17, 2023

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I am thrilled to be back this week, diving into an incredible conversation with beloved therapist, Sissy Goff! We're tackling the topic of anxiety and its ripple effect on our kids and on our parenting styles.

With 30 years of experience guiding kids and parents, Sissy brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. Plus, she's sharing tips from her latest book, The Worry Free Parent. We cover so much in this episode, including:

1. A parent’s most important job

2. Why we are seeing more anxiety in kids & parents

3. 5 parenting traps

4. Your parenting superpower

5. Sissy’s moment of hope in the Covenant School shooting aftermath

Connect with Sissy on Instagram or at raisingboysandgirls.com

Pre-order The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff and get a free bonus chapter

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself

Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away? A Surprising Approach to the Anxiety Pandemic & How to Walk Yourself & Your Kids Through It

Episode 39: Boundaries for Your Soul—How to Navigate Your Overwhelming Thoughts & Feelings

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Episode 65: Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville Aug 03, 2023

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Research shows that many men are struggling and not sure how to get support. So I asked our friends from the Dadville podcast to come on and talk about how to encourage the guys in your life!

What a joy to host this insightful and fun duo! Jon McLaughlin and Dave Barnes are best known for their careers as musicians and song writers, but on theiroff-time, they encourage and inspire us on their popular parenting podcast, Dadville. You’ll find so much wisdom in this conversation, including:

1. How to find joy in the dream vs. the destination

2. Guys and vulnerability

3. The true goal of parenting

4. Why we all have to face our own blind spots

5. A beautiful picture of letting go of control with our kids

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Episode 32: Productivity and the Never Ending To Do List: How to Stop Hustling & Embrace the Joy of Enough

Episode 28: The Pain of Performing For Others and How to Claw Your Way Out with Toni Collier

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Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others

Episode 64: Women’s Health—Menopause, Hormones, Depression and How to Advocate for Yourself Through Your Body’s Changes

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Episode 64: Women’s Health—Menopause, Hormones, Depression and How to Advocate for Yourself Through Your Body’s Changes Jul 27, 2023

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This episode is an absolute must-listen! If you're a woman journeying through your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond, or if you're parenting a daughter, you don't want to miss this conversation. We dive into women's health, including menopause, perimenopause, hormone shifts, reproductive health, and ways to empower young women and girls.

Dr. Leslie Appiah is a nationally-acclaimed OB/GYN who has helped women and girls for decades. Her practical and insightful approach is such a needed voice for all women. Here’s some of what we cover:

1. The impact of hormones on mental health

2. How to get relief for perimenopause and menopause symptoms

3. When to consider an anti-depressant

4. Why your physician might not have a clue

5. How to find one who will!

6. How to empower your daughters to live free of body shame

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others

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Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others Jul 20, 2023

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Imagine if someone sat with you and listened to you attentively for as long as you needed. That’s what I experienced through a series of spiritual listening retreats. And today, I invited the Rev. Dr. Stephen Macchia and spiritual director in training, Rowena Day to talk with us about the practice of spiritual direction and deep listening as one component of your mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

This episode is so rich, so soothing, and so deeply nourishing. As a therapist, I have found spiritual direction to be a powerful part of my own mental health practices. It’s also taught me how to become a better listener in my relationships with others. Here’s what we discuss:

1. The deepest need we all have

2. How to attune to your own soul

3. The neurobiology of presence

4. What to do if quiet is hard for you

5. The links between spiritual and mental health

Connect with Dr. Stephen Macchia and Spiritual Formation resources here.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 31 and Episode 44 with Rowena Day

Episode 36: An Update on My Social Media Detox & How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping Tactics

Episode 47: Spiritual Bypassing vs. Embodied Faith & How Not to Harm Those Who Are Hurting, Including Yourself

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Episode 62: Your Questions About Friendship—How to Test a New Relationship, Manage Your Capacity Through Different Life Seasons, & Become a Friend to Yourself Jul 13, 2023

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Today we're trying something new! We've gathered up your most-asked questions about friendship and discuss them on the podcast. These are such thoughtful and real questions, and I love thinking through them with you. Here's what we cover:

1. The mother wound and female friendships

2. Managing expectations through your own healing season

3. Assessing trust in a new friend

4. Navigating a terminal diagnosis with friends

5. What about helping others who can't reciprocate friendship?

For communication scripts check out, ⁠⁠check out The Best of You⁠⁠.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 59: Finding Your People, Overcoming Past Hurt, & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen

Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Overcome People Pleasing, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

Episode 61: Reconnecting With Old Friends—Healing the Past, Naming Regret & Bringing Your Whole Self into the Future

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Episode 61: Reconnecting With Old Friends—Healing the Past, Naming Regret & Bringing Your Whole Self into the Future Jul 06, 2023

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This episode is so special! I sit down with my 3 childhood friends, including my older sister, as we describe what happens when you bring your past self into your present. We were close all through high school, but life took us on different paths, to different cities, and through different experiences of faith, marriage, and family life.

Over 2 decades later, we reconvened and replayed the tape of our lives—each one of us bearing witness to the other. Today, we share with you what we discovered about the power of reclaiming your past.

I pray this episode sparks your imagination and ignites your desire as you consider pulling in old and new friends as companions on your journey toward wholeness. Here's what we cover:

1. Why 4 childhood friends reconnected to each other—and our past selves

2. How diverse perspectives strengthened, not divided, our rekindled friendships

3. Confronting & overcoming regret

4. How revisiting my sister’s teen pregnancy became a catalyst for healing

5. What we'd each say to our younger selves now.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 59: Finding Your People, Overcoming Past Hurt, & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen

Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Overcome People Pleasing, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

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Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber & Dr. Monique Gadson Jun 29, 2023

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Making new friends is hard as an adult! We’ve been hurt. We’ve changed and outgrown old ways. So how do we find new friends? And how do we learn to trust after trust has been broken?

Today, I’m joined by 2 of my new friends, Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson, as we discuss how to overcome past hurts and brave the work of finding new friends. This episode is packed with practical tips, and I was so touched by the raw emotion that surfaced at the end as we each reflect on our own experiences.

Here’s what we cover:

1. Friendship red flags

2. Green flags that indicate safety

3. The impact of trauma on friendships

4. Breaking free from people pleasing

5. How to “break up” with a potential friend

6. Is friendship about quality or quantity?

Connect with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

⁠Episode 14⁠: The Fawn Response and the Hidden Root of People Pleasing

Episode 33 with Dr. Monique Gadson

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 59: Finding Your People, Overcoming Past Hurt, & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen

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Episode 59: Overcoming Past Hurt & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen Jun 22, 2023

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I loved this beautiful and honest conversation about friendship with Jennie Allen, bestselling author of Find Your People and founder of IF:Gathering. She shares candidly about a painful season where she felt alone and how she’s learned to lean into deep community, even when it's messy.

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling lonely, misunderstood, or like it’s hard to trust other people, please listen to this episode. There are so many gems in it, including:

1. Our greatest fear in friendship

2. How to say “that hurt” to a friend

3. What prompted Jennie to close off to friendship for a season

4. How she found her way into trusting relationships again

5. The healing power of knowing others & being known by them

Order Find Your People here.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass: Thoughts on Depression, Mental Health & the Church, and Finding Hope in Dark Places

Episode 17: What is Church Hurt and How do I Heal?

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Episode 58: Friends on Friendship—How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney Jun 15, 2023

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I'm so excited to announce our brand-new series, "Friends on Friendships"! Join us over the next 5 weeks as we learn together how to forge transformative, healing, and life-giving friendships.

We are kicking things off with an incredible conversation with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney, who are real life friends and hosts of The Being Known Podcast. We laughed so much during this episode, and at least 2 of us also cried 🙈 . You don't want to miss all the gems about friendship throughout this conversation.

Here’s what we cover:

1. Why friendship is a risk worth taking

2. The most important ingredient for safe friendships

3. The physics of “taking your friends with you” (even when they can't be with you).

4. Laughter as a form of intimacy

5. Why 3 is most definitely not a crowd

6. Glimmers vs. Triggers

Check out Curt’s brand new book The Deepest Place!

Learn more about Confessional Communities ⁠here⁠.

Do you have questions about this series for Dr. Alison?⁠ ⁠Leave them here⁠.

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Related Episodes:

Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)

Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

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Episode 57: Should I Turn the Other Cheek? Why It's the Opposite of Being a Doormat & How to Stand Firm in the Face of Gaslighting, Manipulation, and Toxicity Jun 08, 2023

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Phew! Today’s episode gets fiery 🔥🔥🔥! Many of us were taught to “turn the other cheek” as a call to be a doormat or to naively “love someone” into change. In today's episode, I’m not holding back as I paint a picture of what I think the Bible really teaches about standing firm against toxicity.

You'll discover a completely different picture of what it means to turn the other cheek. Here's what we cover:

1. What "turn the other cheek" really means

2. What the Bible has to say about toxic behavior

3. Why it doesn’t work to “love people” into change

4. Examples of toxicity & how to protect yourself

5. How to be shrewd when dealing with gossip, cruelty or manipulation

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Other episodes in this series:

Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away? A Surprising Approach to the Anxiety Pandemic & How to Walk Yourself & Your Kids Through It

Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself? Why Trusting Yourself is Necessary to Establishing Healthy Relationships With Other People

Episode 56: Am I Really Supposed to Die to Myself? Misconstrued Messages and How to Disentangle From Them

Boundaries and the Bible Youtube Series

What Does the Bible Really Say Youtube Series

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