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What happens when you do the hard work of becoming healthier, but the people and systems around you keep pulling you back into old patterns?
In this conversation, Dr. Alison welcomes therapist, leadership coach, and podcast host Rebecca Ching, LMFT to explore the powerful influence that families, workplaces, churches, and communities have on our ability to grow. They unpack what happens when one person’s healing challenges the status quo, why certain people become labeled as the problem, and how deeply ingrained patterns can keep unhealthy dynamics in place.
In this episode, you'll discover:
- Why the person identified as the problem might actually be revealing something much bigger.
- What happens when personal growth disrupts the unspoken rules of a family, workplace, or faith community.
- The subtle red flags that can be easy to miss when an unhealthy dynamic feels familiar.
- How to recognize when it's time to challenge the status quo, create space, and listen to what your inner world is telling you.
Together, they look at the tension between belonging and becoming, the signals that a system may not be as healthy as it appears, and what it takes to recognize our own role in these patterns without taking responsibility for everyone else’s behavior.
About Rebecca Ching:
Rebecca Ching, LMFT, PCC, is a leadership developer, psychotherapist, professional certified coach, entrepreneur, writer, speaker, and podcast host. She brings a systemic approach to helping individuals and teams navigate growth, relationships, and meaningful change. Rebecca is a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, EMDR Certified Therapist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and Consultant, and AAMFT Approved Supervisor. She is also an IFSI Approved Clinical Consultant, Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, EMDR Consultant-in-Training, and polyvagal-informed practitioner and systemic team coach.
More Resources:
Learn more about Rebecca Ching and The Unburdened Leader podcast here.
Get exclusive access to the first 2 chapters of Dr. Alison’s newest book, The Secure Soul.
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