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Fan Mail Friday #38 | Correlation Does Not Imply Causation Nov 27, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you've been there since the game began?
In science, we must remember that correlation does not imply causation.
Here's why you shouldn't get testy when someone you're hitting on "tests" you.
We usually talk about good habits to cultivate; here are some bad habits to avoid.
Even good advice for someone dealing with a wayward family member is better with Bacon -- Caleb Bacon!
Bars and clubs seem to be where the action is, but where can a straightedge guy meet women who don't drink?
How do you respond when someone tells you something you already know?
In this video, Jordan talks about how we process input from other people through our own emotional biases and how that leads to anxiety and depression -- and what we can do about it.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-38-correlation-does-not-imply-causation/
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464: Bobby Umar | Network Anytime Nov 25, 2015

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Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders.
The Cheat Sheet:
How does someone become a "top tweeter" like Bobby Umar?
What is a "lost" leader?
If you don't like what you're doing now, how do you figure out a direction you will like?
Vulnerability can be an empowering and inspiring way to connect with people.
Why should every single person blog or keep a journal (even if it's private)?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bobby-umar-network-anytime-episode-464/
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463: Jeff Goins | How to Find Your Calling Nov 23, 2015

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Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings.
The Cheat Sheet:
Everyone has a calling -- how do we use our own life lessons to identify and follow that calling?
Discovering what you were meant to do will probably surprise you.
Why does fear so often keep us from taking risks?
We're born knowing how to dance, but we learn shame.
Learn how to make yourself more afraid of not trying than failing.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeff-goins-how-to-find-your-calling-episode-463/
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Fan Mail Friday #37 | The Lady Doth Protest Too Much, Methinks Nov 20, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #37! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
How does a fixer successfully date a complainer?
What do you do to rekindle the spark in a 15-year marriage?
In order to be at maximum productivity, when is the right time to wake up every day?
How does someone with severe hearing loss communicate with confidence in the dating world?
Does the phenomenon of "bed death" necessarily signify that your partner's cheating on you?
Do you have memories of people who truly changed the trajectory of your life? Sometimes it's worth your time -- and theirs -- to reconnect and thank them for the influence they've had on you.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-37-the-lady-doth-protest-too-much-methinks/
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462: Chris Donaghue | Sex Outside the Lines Nov 18, 2015

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Dr. Chris Donaghue (@ChrisDonaghue) is one of only a few hundred people in the entire world certified as a sex therapist, so you'll want to hear what he has to say about the myths of sexual dysfunctions, accepting your desires (even if they don't align with societal expectations), and how to develop healthy sex and dating habits.
The Cheat Sheet:
Cultures that embrace sexuality have lower rates of teen pregnancy and STDs, and pornography-tolerant societies have lower rates of sex crimes.
What constitutes healthy sex?
Believe it or not, there's no right (or wrong) way to have an erection.
Is sex addiction a myth?
The concept of gender "norms": we're doing it wrong.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-donaghue-sex-outside-the-lines-episode-462/
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461: Anese Cavanaugh | Contagious Culture Nov 16, 2015

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Anese Cavanaugh (@anesecavanaugh) knows what it takes to make "busy" beautiful. She helps people and companies unlock leadership potential, create meaningful impact, and enjoy themselves while doing it.
The Cheat Sheet:
Is the way you're "showing up" helping you create the impact you want?
Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely the leaders who set a company's culture -- it's every single person in that company (from the CEO to the janitor).
What is the IEP Method?
Can you stand to have a presence reboot?
Learn the five-step formula for creating intentional impact.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/anese-cavanaugh-contagious-culture-episode-461/
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Fan Mail Friday #36 | Fashion Plate Banquet at the Memory Palace Nov 13, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #36! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
We get listener feedback about how to deal with someone who laughs awkwardly at inappropriate times (from FMF 35).
Are you blind to the attraction signals that potential romantic partners are trying to throw your way? We talk about how to pick up on them extensively in the AoC Toolbox, but here's some short-form advice in the meantime.
You don't have to be a fashion plate to dress appropriately for life's banquet without breaking the bank. Here are some tips to cover the basics. (Also see Indochino.)
Now that he's trying to get out of his own shell, one of our Art of Charm bootcamp veterans is having trouble dealing with his shut-in best friend/roommate who prefers to remain a shut-in.
Being lousy at remembering names, faces, and conversational context is a problem you can overcome -- Jordan is proof! The keys to your kingdom may just be locked in your Memory Palace.
Being platonic besties with your ex may seem like a win-win scenario -- until you try moving forward in your dating life.
Hey! We noticed you read this far -- thank you! Here's a short video about how to become more observant so you can thank people when they take the time to read what you have to say on the Internet, too!
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-36-fashion-plate-banquet-at-the-memory-palace/
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460: Stephen Mansfield | Building a Band of Brothers Nov 11, 2015

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Stephen Mansfield (@MansfieldWrites) strives to inspire men to form a Band of Brothers around themselves to help them perfect noble manhood in their lives.
The Cheat Sheet:
Learn why most men in contemporary society don't have a best friend.
Why does Stephen believe that men need an older brother figure?
What is a Free Fire Zone?
Discover why assembling a Band of Brothers keeps a man on course to become great.
Learn how to build this Band of Brothers.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/stephen-mansfield-building-a-band-of-brothers-episode-460/
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459: Duana Welch | Science-Based Dating Nov 09, 2015

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Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to real-life relationship issues and is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, the only book that applies science to your love life from before you meet until you commit.
The Cheat Sheet:
Learn the four Attachment Styles and what they say about you and your relationships: Secure, Anxious/Ambivalent, Avoidant/Dismissive, and Avoidant/Fearful.
How can you change your attachment style if you want to, and why do some opposites get attracted even though they're dead wrong for each other?
You should be pessimistic about being single instead of being in a relationship because it’s probably going to kill you faster than being in a relationship.
Married couples live with a much longer time-horizon than cohabiting couples.
Science is about odds, not about certainty.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-science-based-dating-episode-459/
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Fan Mail Friday #35 | Just Say No to Drug Myths Nov 06, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #35! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
What is the function of self-deprecation when striking up a new acquaintance, and how can you make people comfortable enough that they don't put themselves down while still valuing yourself enough not to do it, too?
It's great that you're making positive strides toward changing your own life for the better, but how can you draw out your recluse friend and share the good vibes, man?
When you have a great relationship with a significant other, it would be a bonus if your mother approved -- but it's ultimately not a necessity. (And if your relationship with your mother is also great, then she'll understand this -- even grudgingly).
You could always answer your boss' awkward laughter with, "I'm funny how? I mean, funny like I'm a clown? I amuse you? I make you laugh?"
When the other person in a relationship says that they need "time," should you wait for them or move on?
Laying out the harsh realities and consequences of drugs instead of perpetuating myths about them will be more effective (and earn you more respect as a parent) than telling your kids to "just say 'no.'"
Ever feel that you’re not sitting in the driver's seat of your own life? Here's a short video about the roles we fall into.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-35-just-say-no-to-drug-myths/
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