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458: Bob Arno | Pickpocket King Nov 04, 2015

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Bob Arno (@bambivalent) is a professional pickpocket who uses his powers for good. How? Find out in this episode of The Art of Charm!
The Cheat Sheet:
How does someone without a criminal background become a pickpocket?
What are the psychological differences between a mugger and a pickpocket?
Why do pickpockets tend to spot law enforcement before law enforcement spots pickpockets?
What kind of shoes should you wear if you don't want to get marked as a target for pickpockets?
How should you behave if you catch a pickpocket in the act?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bob-arno-pickpocket-king-episode-458/
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457: Hugh Culver | Hero Habits Nov 02, 2015

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Hugh Culver (@HughCulver) teaches us how we can think better, plan smarter, and act now on what really matters by developing Hero Habits.
The Cheat Sheet:
The first secret of success is to learn failure is temporary.
Which pain are you more willing to endure: the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret?
Habits are not created in 21 days -- habits are created with rewards.
Modifying good habits to suit certain situations is better than abandoning them. Example: Hugh has a workout that he does when he's traveling that's shorter than his regular workout -- but a shorter workout is better than no workout at all.
Learn how fast switching to curiosity can help you avoid the habit-crushing negativity of self-condemnation by examining the "why?" behind occasional lapses in discipline (and learning from them).
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/hugh-culver-hero-habits-episode-457/
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Fan Mail Friday #34 | Alt Girls, Nice Guys, and Bad Friends Oct 30, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #34! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
How do you deal with an overwhelming sense of envy that springs up whenever you encounter someone with more talent, better looks, or some other perk of an imagined "good life" that you feel you'll never experience? (Depending on your situation, therapy might be one way to address it.)
A besieged Syrian under fire loves his country and doesn't want to leave; he writes in for practical advice from us and friends of the show who have experience surviving in war zones. Marine Sean Rafferty was kind enough to offer some of his best tips.
An Art of Charm boot camp veteran sees his old friends in a new -- and unflattering -- light since returning home. Is he just a jerk, or have they always been negative, self-destructive, and unpleasant to be around?
Are you more fun when you're single?
A nice guy posits, as many nice guys before him: why do girls only seem to love jerks?
Are they all going to laugh at you if you bring the heavily pierced and tattooed significant other to one of your company's hoity-toity shindigs?
What to do when your job sucks.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-34-alt-girls-nice-guys-and-bad-friends/
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456: Lewis Howes | The School of Greatness Oct 28, 2015

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Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) discusses his new book, The School of Greatness, and its framework for achieving real, sustainable, and repeatable success.
The Cheat Sheet:
What is a lifestyle entrepreneur?
While interviewing successful people, Lewis Howes found eight common themes that they tend to share -- he calls them The Eight Principles of Greatness.
Greatness looks different to everyone, but it's rare that anyone ever achieves it by accident.
What is your dream? Are you striving to realize it, or are you hoping it falls in your lap by sheer luck?
What do you do when your failures become bigger than your vision?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/lewis-howes-school-of-greatness-episode-456/
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BONUS: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Find a Therapist Oct 27, 2015

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Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) gives us her five-step process for finding a therapist who is right for you.
The Cheat Sheet:
We all need help from time to time; there's absolutely no shame in seeking therapy -- just as there's no shame in consulting a tutor if you need help getting through trigonometry or organic chemistry class.
Finding a therapist is like finding a dentist or any other professional who will have a meaningful impact on your life. You want to make sure you have a comfortable relationship.
How do we begin the search for a good therapist?
Here are five steps you can take in preparation for finding the right therapist.
Something a lot of people don't know: if you have insurance, it likely does cover some degree of therapy and overall mental health care. Contact your representative for specifics.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kim-seltzer-how-to-find-a-therapist-bonus/
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455: Alex Kouts | Getting Hired at a Startup Oct 26, 2015

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Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might -- or might not -- be a good fit for you).
The Cheat Sheet:
What is a startup?
How does a startup find a sustainable product/market fit?
What kind of person chooses the potentially unstable startup life over the safer options their parents keep nagging them to consider?
The startup life is not a get rich quick scheme -- if you choose it, you'll probably work harder than you ever have before (but with the potential rewards to match).
Why aren't you getting any startup job offers even though you've submitted your resume dozens -- or hundreds -- of times online?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-getting-hired-at-a-startup-episode-455/
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Fan Mail Friday #33 | Contrariwise Bedroom Superheroes Oct 23, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that's bothering them, and other times they want legitimate solutions to their problems. How do you tell one from the other?
Emotional conditioning can be a powerful force. A listener with a PhD in psychology chimes in about some advice we gave in Fan Mail Friday #31.
Is tragedy a prerequisite for success and wealth, or can normality ever hope to compete?
What happens when you can talk the talk to find a partner, but your skills lack in the sack?
Immigrant insecurity is a real thing -- and it comes with a whole tapestry of negative feelings about self and society that can be hard to overcome.
Contrariwise is a real word, and lack of vulnerability might be what makes your attempts at a long-term relationship so...vulnerable.
True success needs no comparisons.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-33-contrariwise-bedroom-superheroes/
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454: Mark Manson | Unconditional Communication Oct 21, 2015

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Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and he blogs to an audience of millions about psychology and personal development.
The Cheat Sheet:
Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important values, such as self-respect, trust, and boundaries.
The relationship scorecard is toxic habit 1, where people feel as though they are always "owed" things by their partner.
Boundaries basics: taking responsibility for your own thoughts/emotions and expecting your partner to take responsibility for theirs.
World travel is both empowering and limiting; you gain new perspective, but it limits your ability to form commitments.
Realizing that everything you do doesn't matter is a good thing, because it means you no longer have any excuses not to be who you wish to be.
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/mark-manson-unconditional-communication-episode-454/
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453: Zachary Stockill | Retroactive Jealousy Oct 19, 2015

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Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) shows us how overcoming retroactive jealousy and possessiveness is as easy as learning to let go.
The Cheat Sheet:
All jealousy is related to insecurity in some way.
How should we deal with the complex cultural politics of social media in 2015 as they relate to retroactive jealousy?
What are your values?
Jealousy and possessiveness often cause us to stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long.
Is it fair to judge our partners based on their past? Or is the present all that really matters?
And so much more...
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/zachary-stockill-retroactive-jealousy-episode-453/
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Fan Mail Friday #32 | Advice for the 25-Year-Old Virgin Oct 16, 2015

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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #32! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:
While it might not be the end of the tunnel, it's good that you're seeing the light -- just make sure it's the right light.
How do you practice genuine gratitude without coming across as a kiss-ass -- especially in the workplace?
25-year-old virgins aren't as uncommon as you may think. (But if you're among them and you don't want to be, here are a few tips.)
You may be aware that you're making progress in your life goals, but how do you quantify that progress?
When you're giving a presentation, how do you deal with a question you don't really want to answer?
How do you save time with one simple email?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!
Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-32-advice-for-the-25-year-old-virgin/
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