The Alli Worthington Show

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How We Relate to God, Ourselves, and Others with Jesse Eubanks Jan 09, 2023

Show notes

Welcome back, friends!

I can’t wait for you to listen to today’s conversation with Enneagram coach and podcast host Jesse Eubanks as we discuss his soon-to-released book, How We Relate: Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram.

Ok, so I’m going to come right out and say it… It’s very intriguing to consider the Enneagram alongside our relationship with God, isn’t it?!

Jesse and I discuss so much in this one, including ways to experience more meaningful relationships with God, others, and ourselves. The value of understanding how we approach our relationships is the same way we approach our relationship with God as well.

Jesse Eubanks is a certified Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast, a podcast exploring personality and relationships through the lens of the Enneagram. He is also the founder and executive director of Love Thy Neighborhood, an urban missions agency putting young adults on the front lines of nonprofit work. Jesse and his wife, Lindsay, have two children and live in Louisville, Kentucky.

Listen in to learn more about:

The nine essential desires and how one comes to the forefront in our lives.
Some of Jesse’s cardinal rules for using the Enneagram and why they are essential to consider.
The three vital underlying emotions that are harming us and their antidotes.

Favorite quotes:

~~“You can not have healthy relationships without self clarity. Self clarity is essential. It is essential for intimacy with other people, intimacy with God, and emotional flourishing. You need a tool to help you grow in your ability to see yourself from the outside and the Enneagram can serve you in that way. It will absolutely lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships with God, other people, and yourself.”

~~“Our story that we have lived has a profound influence on who we are. We can’t understand our personality and our Enneagram type apart from understanding our life story.”

~~“The Enneagram as a tool can definitely be utilized to help us grow in our self awareness and have an understanding of what’s happening on our end of the relationships we have with other people.”

~~“It is really important to understand we are wielding something powerful when we look into the Enneagram and we suddenly have insights into other people. We have to approach that with a huge degree of humility, kindness, and empathy.”

This week’s coaching segment:

A simple trick to make a new habit stick while giving yourself grace. (27:51)

Links to great things we discussed:

Love Thy Neighborhood

Love Thy Neighborhood Podcast and The EnneaCast

The Two Day Rule - Matt D'Avella

Andor

Avatar: The Way of Water

A Million Pretty Pieces - Nightly

Spirit Break Out - Kim Walker-Smith

Electric Kettle

Alli’s Worship for Fierce Faith - Spotify Play List

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xo,

Alli

How to Live Free From Time Anxiety with Jen Pollock Michel Jan 02, 2023

Show notes

Hey, hey, everyone! Today I welcome show writer, speaker, coach, and podcast host, Jen Pollock Michel for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about our love-hate relationship with our clocks and the anxiety it often brings to our lives.

Be sure to listen to how Jen discusses a couple of truths she has landed on, including-

“Time belongs not to us but to God.”
“There is always enough time to do what God has planned.” Whew. So good but often so hard to live, am I right, friends?! She reminds us of the importance of living not in our timing or the timing of others but in having the courage to live in God’s timing for our lives.

So much wisdom is found in what Jen discovered while writing her most recent book titled, In Good Time: 8 Habits for Reimagining Productivity, Resisting Hurry, and Practicing Peace…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation!

Jen Pollock Michel holds a B.A. in French from Wheaton College, an M.A. in Literature from Northwestern University, and is working on completing an M.F.A from Seattle Pacific University. After eleven years of living in Toronto, Jen now lives in Cincinnati with her husband and two youngest children.

Listen in to learn more about:

What time anxiety is and how it plays out in our lives, whether we're trying to find time, save it, manage it, or make the most of it.
Some of the assumptions we often have concerning time management and how we can ground our lives in God’s timing.
The eight practical habits for reimagining productivity and how embracing those will help us develop a healthier relationship with the clock.

Favorite quotes:

“A faithful life is a courageous life. Tuning our ears to God’s voice takes a lot of courage.”

“A practical place to start is to think about habits and practices of everyday life.”

“There is not a right way. It is actually living every day in faithful response to God’s voice. ”

Coaching this episode:

The Secret to Habits Without the Hassle (27:00)

Links to great things we discussed:

Jen Pollock Michel - Website

In Good Time: 8 Habits for Reimagining Productivity, Resisting Hurry, and Practicing Peace By Jen Pollock Michel

Counterproductive: Time Management in the Knowledge Economy By Melissa Gregg

Glittering Vices: A New Look at the Seven Deadly Sins and Their Remedies By Rebecca Konyndyk DeYoung

The Bear

Madmen

L'Occitane Pure Shea Butter

Atomic Habits By James Clear

Avatar: The Way of Water

I Thank God - Maverick City Music

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xo,

Alli

How To Overcome the Fear of the Future with Alli Dec 26, 2022

Show notes

Merry day after Christmas, friends!

How about we just start today’s episode with this thought… I think it’s safe to say none of us are disappointed that 2022 is on its way out the door.

As I planned what to talk about on the show today, I couldn’t help but think about how we’re all continuing to process everything that has happened this year (and the last two years really!) while also planning for the one to come.

With that in mind, I felt a little nudge that I needed to talk about Chapter 9 of my book, Fierce Faith: A Woman's Guide to Fighting Fear, Wrestling Worry, and Overcoming Anxiety. In 2017, I titled that chapter “What If Things Fall Apart?” and I don’t think anything could be more relevant now.

I'm so excited to share the chapter with you today. I sincerely hope that this chapter brings peace about the future and encourages you to find your own stones of remembrance to remind you of God's faithfulness along the way.

Listen in to hear all about:

How fear can paralyze us from making our dreams come true.
What can happen when we wait for the perfect moment to take action (and how it can keep us wandering around the desert for 40 years).
What God really thinks about our plans to become successful in all that we do.

Links:

Order your copy of Fierce Faith here

You can also join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

How To Prayerfully Ask for What You Need with Alli Dec 19, 2022

Show notes

On the show today, we’ll dive into Chapter 10 of my latest book, Standing Strong. This chapter, titled Ask For It: I’m Relearning How Prayer Really Works, is especially relevant today as we all look towards 2023 and what next year may bring.

In Chapter 10, I share how God revealed to me that he genuinely wants to partner with each of us in our journey and how an intentional walk with him is the adventure of a lifetime.

But it all starts with prayer, my friends.

Prayer is powerful, and we know that. However, our prayers also have the power to change God’s mind. He always listens because He cares about us and knows what matters to us.

Inviting Him through prayer helps us better understand his plan for our lives, even when we resist because we think we have it all figured out.

So as we approach the end of 2022, I challenge you to ask for what you need in full faith that God will give you what is best for you.

Listen in to hear all about:

How the ways we view God determine how we live our lives.
To step into the life God has called you to, you must know the truth and partner with it.
Instead of living in the land of “good enough,” we should ask God to show us His “immeasurably more.”

Order your copy of Standing Strong here.

You can also join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

How To Hear God More Clearly with Pete Greig Dec 12, 2022

Show notes

Have you ever wondered if you’re hearing God or just listening for what you want to hear? Me too, friend!

This is why I’m re-airing an episode I had earlier this year with Pete Greig as he talks with me about how to hear God, which I believe to be one of the most important topics we’ve ever covered on the show. (Hence the re-air because it never hurts to hear important information more than once, am I right?!)

Pete and I discuss why hearing God speak to us is so challenging for some. And we also talk about how to identify what’s actually the voice of God and ways to sort through delusion and deception. We are covering so much ground in this episode!

Pete has committed his life to help people hear the voice of God and facilitating the supernatural outpouring of His word and truth throughout the world. In addition to being a best-selling author, Greig is one of the founding champions of the earth-rattling 24-7 Prayer Movement and Senior Pastor of Emmaus Road Church in the south of England.

Listen in to hear all about:

Why we are comfortable talking to God but not so much talking with God.
Differentiating between when God is speaking to us and what isn’t actually God at all.
How to determine the difference between God’s word and God’s whisper (and why it matters!).

Favorite quotes:

~ How do ordinary, normal people, grow in the most important thing we’ll ever do, which is walking and talking with God?

~ Ask yourself : a) Is this affirming? b) Is it Biblical? c) Is it Christlike? If the answer is yes, this is affirming, biblical, and Christlike, then it will be good even if it isn’t God.

~ We need to hear God in community. We often need to discern God's will with other people, not just our own thoughts.

In this episode I answered this question:

I feel uncomfortable building a platform. How can I do it in a healthy way? (42:12)

Links to great things we discussed:

Join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

How to Find Your Way with Shauna Niequist Dec 05, 2022

Show notes

Hey friend! Do you find yourself still reeling from the extraordinary changes we’ve experienced over the past two years in one way or another? (My hand is raised over here for sure!)

Today, I’m bringing back one of my favorite episodes from 2022 - the amazing Shauna Niequist ! I brought this conversation back from the archives because I don’t know about you, friend, but this book and Shauna’s message still feel relevant to what’s going on around me right now. I hope you also find value in listening to this one once again with me.

In this episode, Shauna and I take a deep dive into how pain can make us tender, demand less of the world, and show us the good even in the face of what has been lost. We also talk about how seasons of significant loss can act as catalysts to significant transformation in our lives.

Our pain doesn’t define us; what we do with it does. You truly don’t want to miss this one, my friend!

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and her latest book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their sons, Henry and Mac.

Listen in to hear all about:

The concept of finding your next self.
The importance of taking care of ourselves (and how to cultivate a desire to fight for our health!).
How to live lightly and be a person who is easily delighted.

Favorite quotes:

~~If you feel overwhelmed by the mess that your life has become, don't try to go through that alone.

~~I need to not listen to the voices that are telling me who to be, I need to get quiet enough to listen to the voice deep inside of me to see what she has to say.

~~We don't change when we are feeding ourselves a steady diet of shame and abuse. We change when we anchor ourselves in love and self-esteem - That’s what gives us the courage to make changes.

~~I want to walk through life not dragging around these resentments, grudges and complaints. I want to live with a sense of freedom, with a lot of space inside myself, inside my heart for possibility for the present and the future instead of feeling like I am dragging my past behind me like an anchor.

~~I want to maintain the capacity to be easily delighted. I want to be a person for whom joy comes easily and frustration is harder to come by.

~~Pain can tenderize you and can make you demand less of the world and can show you what’s good even in the face of what’s been lost.

In this episode I answered this question:

Do you have quotes that you frame for inspiration? (41:13)

Links to great things we discussed:

Shauna Niequist - Website

Shauna Niequist - Instagram

Soy Yo - Song

The Crown - TV Series

Below Deck - TV Series

Tick Tick Boom - Movie

Wordle

https://www.bag-all.com

Black Panther: Wakanda Forever (2022) - IMDb

Josh Groban - O Come All Ye Faithful (feat. the Mormon ... - YouTube

A Holly Jolly Christmas - playlist by Alli Worthington | Spotify

Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist ... - Amazon.com

Join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

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xo,

Alli

How to Plan for Starting Your New Year Strong with Lisa Whittle Nov 28, 2022

Show notes

Hey, friends! I am thrilled to have my good friend, my Called Creatives business partner, Lisa Whittle, back on the show today!

Honestly, We’re just two friends coming together to talk about 2022 + finishing strong + how we plan to start the new year on the right foot!

By the end of this episode, we hope YOU are encouraged to let 2023 be the year that you go for it + let it be the year that you don’t hold yourself back from pursuing your goals and dreams!

Lisa and I would love to help you take that next step… whatever the next step may be. Let’s do this!

Lisa Whittle is the author of eight books, a sought-after Bible teacher, founder of Ministry Strong, and the popular Jesus Over Everything podcast. Lisa is also the co-founder of Called Creatives and co-host of the Launch podcast with Jamie Ivey. She and her family live in North Carolina.

Listen in to learn more about starting 2023 on the right foot!

Why Lisa and Alli don’t set up new year’s goals anymore + the value of measurable goals and small wins every day. So, let’s focus on the next 90 days!
Setting goals we can all benefit from for 2023 - no self-sabotage, no playing “small,” and taking a leap of faith!
Practical tips as you consider ways to move forward in strength in 2023.

Favorite quotes:

~~Productivity is really difficult for creatives.

~~There is also a fear that comes with other people's opinions. How much of what we do or not do is stifled by other people’s opinions.

~~To be a Creative does require community.

~~Some of us need to pivot to a new dream or a dream that looks a little different.

Links to great things we discussed:

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Broken with Toni Collier Nov 21, 2022

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Welcome back, friend! I am so glad you are joining me for today’s conversation with speaker and author Toni Collier. We dive right into our discussion of hurt, hope, and healing.

Be sure to listen in as we discuss trauma, abuse, childhood wounds, and toxic relationships that have broken us and how there is no shame in brokenness. It’s in our brokenness that the healing power of Jesus comes to find us. This is such a powerful episode, friend.

Toni Collier is the founder of an international women’s organization, Broken Crayons Still Color, which helps women process brokenness and find hope. She is a Speaker, Host, Author of Brave Enough to be Broken, and consultant that has helped organizations with creative marketing, leadership, student ministry, and strategic planning. Toni is teaching people all over the globe that you can be broken and worthy and unqualified and still called to do great things. She doesn’t want you to just face your demons; she wants you to quash the illusion of your brokenness so you can live the most colorful life possible, on and off stage. Toni is the wife of Sam and a mom of two living in Atlanta.

Listen in to learn more about:

What it looks like to intentionally build community and how to develop and maintain friend circles
How to identify a space, relationship, or workplace that is toxic and building healthy boundaries to protect yourself from that
The value of accessing your core lie and learning to speak truth to it.

Favorite quotes:

~ Hurt and hope can co-exist. That we can be going through things and we can be doing our best to survive those things but we can also have the capacity to put up a front.

~ Jesus had circles too and when we get intentional about how we structure friendship circles we can ultimately live healthier lives.

~ We have to become aware of what we need. Some of the reason why we get into toxic environments is because there is a toxic part of us that craves it and it becomes a magnet.

~ We should be curious, not condemning. We are not good about being curious about helping people.

In this episode I answered this question:

How do you handle chores with all your boys? (33:27)

Links to great things we discussed:

TAYA - Getaway (Official Music Video) - YouTube

The Blacklist (TV Series 2013– ) - IMDb

The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb

Lavender Salve All Purpose - MST Goods

Opinion | Happy Children Do Chores - The New York Times

Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery (2022) - IMDb

Whitney Houston (feat. The Georgia Mass Choir) "Joy to the World"

Join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)

xo,

Alli

How to Build Resilient Relationships with Seth & Heather Thompson Day Nov 14, 2022

Show notes

Hey hey! Today’s episode is a must-listen! The cancel culture of the world today makes it tricky to navigate relationships, doesn’t it? Listen in as I chat with Seth and Heather Thompson Day about these issues on the show.

Seth and Heather provide a framework of what the Bible says about showing up for one another—even when we feel like giving up. They also share just how important it is to stop waiting for the “perfect” time to move forward in our lives.

Heather Thompson Day is an Associate Professor of Communication at Andrews University. She is passionate about supporting women and runs an online community called I’m That Wife, which has over two hundred thousand followers.

Heather’s writing has been featured on outlets like TODAY and the National Communication Association. She believes her calling is to stand in the gaps of our churches for young people. She is the author of seven books, including It’s Not Your Turn and Confessions of a Christian Wife.

Seth Day is a graduate student of Educational Psychology. He has been a pastor and campus chaplain. His background in Human Service Counseling and ministry brings an important spiritual component to their most recent book, I’ll See You Tomorrow.

Listen in to hear all about:

How communication drives relationships and what it means to be wired to be in relationships with other people.
How messages and experiences we have in childhood affect our relationships into adulthood
What weak ties are and how we can value them in our lives.

Favorite quotes:

~Our experiences in life, what we go through as children; we are constantly seeking affection. We are going to adapt our coping styles to whatever way helps us get that affection and the unfortunate part is that we carry this to our adult relationships.

~It starts with you! I can only control what I choose to do. The reality is it starts with YOU making the commitment to start living life again

~Narcissists don’t want love, they want adoration.

~Weak ties matter. If we spend all our time saying we don’t have any best friend relationships we will miss the relationships that we have.

~People who are part of a church community are healthier and happier.

In this episode I answered this question:

How can I become more confident in my abilities? (29:51)

Links to great things we discussed:

This Is Us (TV Series 2016–2022) - IMDb

Abbott Elementary (TV Series 2021– )

Jesus I Never Knew, The: Philip Yancey, Bill Richards - Amazon.com

Lash Boost Eyelash Conditioning Serum | Rodan + Fields®

I'll See You Tomorrow: Building Relational Resilience When You ...

Heather Day (@heatherday) • Instagram photos and videos

The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb

Milk & Cookies: A Merry Crowder Christmas - Amazon.com Music

Naked Body Oil - Osmia Organics - Integrity Botanicals

Confident Motherhood Community

Join the Confident Motherhood Community here.

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xo,

Alli

How to develop healthy boundaries with Lysa TerKeurst Nov 07, 2022

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Welcome to the show! Today I welcome my dear friend, author, and fan-favorite, Lysa TerKeurst, for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about boundaries - how to make them and keep them.

Be sure to listen in as Lysa honestly shares how we can stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing us biblical ways to set boundaries without losing the best of who we are.

At some point, Lysa realized she had many questions about boundaries and relationships. Lysa used these questions to dig deeper into God’s Word to discover the many Scriptures that demonstrate that boundaries are not just a good idea but God’s idea. So much wisdom is found in my time with Lysa today…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation!

Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. As a mother of five and Gigi to three, Lysa writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina.

Listen in to learn more about:

Lysa’s definition of boundaries includes these three words - Access. Responsibility & Consequences.
Signs of a healthy relationship vs. an unhealthy relationship + some scripts we can use to communicate necessary boundaries in our lives.
How boundaries are not about leaving people but about loving people with the best of who you are.

Favorite quotes:

~Boundaries are not just a good idea, they are a God idea. He established the foundations of the world with boundaries.

~When we need someone to lift up their area of responsibility, if they don’t have the desire within themself to change their level of responsibility and match the level of access you have given them, no amount of external pressure will create lasting changes in them.

~A boundary without a consequence is nothing but a bad suggestion.

~The purpose of a boundary is not to shove people away. The purpose of a boundary is to love others really well without losing the best of who we are.

~Anytime you feel like you have to minimize the best of who you are to help make excuses or cover up for the worst of who someone else is, that's not just a red flat that is a full on fire!

Links to great things we discussed:

Free Coaching With Alli

AWS Internship Program Application: Become an intern on Alli’s team

Lysa TerKeurst |

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing

Adele - Easy On Me (Official Lyric Video) - YouTube Music

The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb

Dual Transformation: How to Reposition Today's Business While …

Lessons in Chemistry: A Novel: Garmus, Bonnie - Amazon.com

Mad Men (TV Series 2007–2015) - IMDb

The Crown (TV Series 2016 - IMDb

Yellowstone (TV Series 2018– ) - IMDb