The Aligned Love Podcast

10 Dates to Your Soulmate

EP 43: Dr. Christie Kederian - From First Date to Soulmate: A Relationship Therapist’s Guide to Finding Lasting Love Mar 31, 2025

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Have you ever wondered what really happens between meeting someone and falling in love? In this episode of the Aligned Love Podcast, Dr. Christie Kederian, a renowned relationship expert, therapist, speaker, and author of 10 First Dates to Your Soulmate, shares her insights on how to navigate the crucial, yet often overlooked, phase of dating that comes after meeting someone new. We discuss the common mistakes women make in their 30s, 40s, and 50s, the importance of self-discovery through dating, and how to approach dating with joy and curiosity. Dr. Christie provides practical tips on what questions to ask on dates, how to understand and overcome cognitive roadblocks, and the significance of emotional connection over checklists. She also touches on the concept of “one and done” dating, the pressure of timelines, and recognizing anxious and avoidant attachment patterns. Tune in to discover how to truly see and appreciate others while also staying true to yourself!

Key Points From This Episode:

Insight into Dr. Christie's background and the inspiration behind her book.
A journey of self-discovery through dating and overcoming discouragement.
The importance of mindset in dating and healing through relationships.
Common mistakes women make in their 30s and 40s in the dating world.
Tuning into your feelings rather than just focusing on checklists.
A reframing question to ask on a first date (plus other questions to ask and when).
Cognitive roadblocks in dating and the concept of anxious and avoidant attachment.
Taking responsibility for patterns and the importance of slowing down in dating.
The pressure of timelines and the benefits of keeping your options open.
What the permission piece looks like in dating and relationships.

Quotes:

“Dating helped me understand how to learn about someone's character and what it means to be truly compatible with someone. I thought if someone checked the boxes, they were the right person, [but] that turned out not to be the case.” — @LyricTherapist [0:05:05]

“A lot of people have the misconception that, once you meet the right person, then all the pieces fall into place. But the reality is – when you meet someone that could be the right fit, that's where the journey begins.” — @LyricTherapist [0:25:26]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Christie Kederian

FREE Training: 6 Months to Your Soulmate

Dr. Christie Kederian on Instagram

Dr. Christie Kederian on X

Contact the Tennessee Fertility Institute

Ep 42: Jillian Turecki - It All Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Mar 24, 2025

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What if, instead of feeling like a victim to your circumstances, you could take charge of your own relationship destiny? Jillian Turecki is a renowned relationship expert, author, and coach who has helped thousands of people revolutionize their relationships with themselves so that they can transform their romantic relationships. During this episode, she shares her journey that began with a harsh breakup and led her to the insights she shares with others today. We discuss two of the most difficult truths that are so essential to face to take control of our lives, and how this might support us as we move from blame to compassion. Jillian shares how she might advise someone who feels stuck despite working hard to break their patterns, and speaks to what might happen when we stare down our own limiting beliefs. Join us to explore what it might look like to face your story and find freedom today.

Key Points From This Episode:

Welcome and background on Jillian Turecki.
The inspiration behind her newest book, It Begins With You.
Understanding what caused Jillian to confront her inner certainty and independence.
Why ‘it begins with you’ is the foundational truth to understanding yourself and your relationship patterns.
The immense challenge of making peace with your parents.
Lauren’s experience of moving from blame to compassion to her parents.
Jillian’s advice for someone who is stuck despite working hard to change their patterns.
Examining your beliefs about love to find the root of your internal conflict.
The internal stability that Jillian associates with the idea of finding aligned love.

Quotes:

‘You may have very good reason to blame your mom or your dad or your past, but at some point, you have to examine that story.’ — @jillianturecki [0:12:45]

‘It’s not a punishment to look within.’ — @jillianturecki [0:13:06]

‘Start with your beliefs: what do you believe about love? What do you believe about relationships? What do you believe about men, if you date men [and] what do you believe about women?’ — @jillianturecki [0:16:21]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jillian Turecki

Jillian Turecki on X
Jillian Turecki on Instagram

It Begins With You

Tennessee Fertility Institute

Tennessee Fertility Institute

EP 41: Life Update: How I’m Building a Life That Feels as Good as It Looks Mar 17, 2025

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Take a moment to consider where you've been compromising your own alignment to hold onto something you believe you should—be it a career, friendship, relationship, or home. During this episode, Lauren unpacks the huge life changes she has experienced the past year and how she came to learn that alignment is much more important than following any timeline that others may expect of you. Find out how Lauren learned to follow her heart and how you can give yourself permission to do the same. We discuss how to learn the language of your nervous system, find safety within yourself, and live a life that truly aligns with who you are. Join us as we explore how to live on your own timeline, soften into alignment over urgency, and build a life that feels just as good as it looks.

Key Points From This Episode:

This episode’s topic: living in your own timeline.
The changes that have occurred in Lauren’s life since the last season.
Where the idea of what a life is supposed to look like often originates from.
Reflections on how life might have unfolded had Lauren sought alignment sooner in her life.
How differently things have unfolded to what she expected.
The hard parts of letting go of the life she initially imagined.
How fertility allows you to take control of your future.
Falling in love with Denver and following a deep sense of alignment.
How the things that she desired started to come.
More details of what her magical life looks like today.
The pressure that timelines can create in your life.
Embracing your own unique path and waking up to an aligned life.
Learning the language of her nervous system.
How she learned to feel safe enough to align with who she truly is.
A nudge to listen to yourself.

Quotes:

‘Building a life that feels just as good as it looks is so important and so vital.’ — @LaurenZoeller [0:03:18]

‘If you just learn to listen to your heart and to your soul and follow that, I am proof that what you can desire can be yours.’ — @LaurenZoeller [0:19:22]

‘I know how to access safety and I know when I’m not in safety, and because I am able to attune to that and orient to that, it helped me feel safe in my own personal timeline.’ — @LaurenZoeller [0:21:39]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Nora DeKeyser on LinkedIn

EP 40: Nora DeKeyser- How Do You Date With Authenticity & Confidence? Oct 07, 2024

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There are so many nuances that come with dating and today on the Aligned Love Podcast, matchmaker and coach, Nora DeKeyser joins us to discuss her career, her dating life, and somatic therapy! Tuning in, you’ll hear about our incredible guest’s business, what her coaching sessions look like, the dating culture shock she experienced when she moved from the city to the South, and so much more! Noa even shares some tips for women in their mid-30s looking to make connections on dating apps before sharing the impact of somatic therapy. Finally, our guest tells us what aligned love is for her and what we can expect from her in the future. Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

Welcoming today’s guest, Nora DeKeyser.
Her career as a matchmaker and deciding to pivot into coaching.
What coaching typically looks like for Nora.
Nora tells us about the culture shock that comes with dating in the South.
Some tips for women navigating dating apps in their mid-30s.
Nora shares the deep impact somatic therapy has had on her and dating.
What being in aligned love means to Nora.
How to connect with her and what’s next in her career.

Quotes:

“[Coaching is] like magic. That’s what it feels like. It’s just so much fun.” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:05:20]

“Be so specific – on your [dating] profile!” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:20:19]

“For me, [aligned love] means my heart is open enough to be guided by something bigger than myself.” — @NoraDeKeyser [0:28:51]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Nora DeKeyser on Instagram

Nora DeKeyser on X

Nora DeKeyser on TikTok

Nora DeKeyser Email Address

The Aligned Love Attraction Framework

Subtle Skills Courses and Resources

EP 39: Brian Galke- What Do Facial Features Reveal About Relationship Compatibility Sep 23, 2024

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Have you ever felt drawn to someone based on their appearance but can’t quite put your finger on why? Well, today’s guest on the Aligned Love Podcast, Brian Galke, is a facial decoding expert who joins us to share exactly what our facial features reveal about compatibility. In this conversation, you’ll find out what you can tell about someone from their facial expressions, how that relates to attraction, why you need to understand what your face says about you before trying to decode others, and more! We also dive into how you can tell if a couple is a good match based on expressions. There is a lot of shame around physical augmentation, and in this episode, it’s a must listen.

Key Points From This Episode:

What our faces and facial expressions tell us about people.
How these expressions relate to being attracted to people.
The importance of understanding what your own face projects.
How to tell if a couple is a good match based on facial expressions.
Deciding how you want to be portrayed through your appearance.
The four basic human needs we all want to meet.

Links mentioned in todays episode:
Brian Galke on LinkedIn

Brian Galke on Instagram

Brian Galke Email

Subtle Skills

Get your FREE Subtle Skills Cheat Sheet

Christin Henke on Instagram

EP 38: Christin Henke - Sex & Salmon? Sep 16, 2024

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There is freedom in letting go of the life and love you imagined for yourself and allowing your dreams to evolve as you do instead. In this episode of the Aligned Love Podcast, Christin Henke joins Lauren to discuss her new dating life and some lessons learned throughout her years of searching for “the one.” Tuning in, you’ll hear all about what dating has been like for Lauren since the end of her last relationship, how vastly that differs from dating five years ago, why she’s abandoned her dating checklist, and more! We dive into the universal fear of not finding love and the life you envisioned for yourself and talk about what it means to let that go. You don’t want to miss this one so be sure to tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

Welcoming Christin Henke back to the podcast.
Lauren tells us what it’s been like to get back into dating.
A story about Christin’s neighbor, sex, spiders, and salmon.
The dangers of dating someone based on a checklist.
How Lauren’s attitude towards dating has changed recently.
Signs that you are breaking your dating patterns.
Why we’re always evolving and the importance of a lifelong student mentality.
The universal fear of not finding the love and life you think you will.
Breaking out of a pattern of misery and surrendering to peace.

Quotes:

“Do I want a life that looks good or do I want a life that feels good?” — Christin Henke [0:19:27]

“There are so many people in the personal development space who preach that they have it all figured out and the truth is, nobody has it figured out!” — Christin Henke [0:34:51]

“It’s not giving up on your dream to acknowledge that we are going to keep moving, [growing, trying, being curious, asking questions, and evolving] even if we don’t get that thing.” — Christin Henke [0:41:13]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Christin Henke on Facebook

Christin Henke Substack

Margot McNaull on Instagram
Stor by Margot on Instagram

EP 37: Margot McNaull - The Legacy Ring with Margot McNaull Part Two Sep 09, 2024

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So many women are waiting for a man to give them a ring! But they’ve also done a lot of healing work to come home to themselves. How beautiful would it be if a woman could design her own legacy piece? Following on from her last visit to the podcast, jeweler Margot McNaull designed a Legacy Ring for Lauren. The ring is deeply personal to Lauren, representing a letter she received from her grandmother about being a strong woman. Join us as we discuss the deeply meaningful act of buying long-lasting jewelry for yourself, and why women need to know that they deserve it. Hear all about the process of creating a piece for yourself that is representative of your journey, and why it’s not a replacement for any ring you might receive from a man, but a deeply personal act of self-love to pass along to generations of women to come. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

The Legacy Ring that Margot and Lauren created together.
How Lauren and Margot first met.
Why Margot’s approach to jewelry is so personal.
Lauren’s experience of receiving her Legacy Ring from Margot.
The letter and thoughtful packaging of the ring’s delivery.
What it really means to have a legacy and why a ring can be representative of this.
Margot’s insights on the Indian tradition of women's purchasing journey for themselves.
Her dedication to changing the narrative around self-love
What Lauren and Margot are working on together.
Who a legacy piece is for and where to get started with yours.
Why the process is so personal and meaningful.
Understanding that it isn’t a replacement for a wedding ring, but something for yourself.
Where to see the amazing piece that Margot created for Lauren.

Quotes:

“What’s really beautiful about this experience [is] that I’ve always seen into people. They come to me for a piece of jewelry, but I actually see them.” — Margot McNaull [0:04:02]

“One of the definitions of a legacy is taking from the past what you want to bring into the future.” — Margot McNaull [0:08:49]

“I’ve designed a lot of wedding rings, but this is my favorite design concept, because I think women deserve to do this for themselves.” — Margot McNaull [0:09:38]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Join the Legacy Waitlist

Margot McNaull

Stor By Margot
Margot McNaull on Instagram

EP 36: Margot McNaull - Legacy Jewelry Design with Margot McNaull Part One Sep 02, 2024

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For many of us, our most cherished pieces of jewelry are passed down to us from our mothers and grandmothers, imbuing them with a deep emotional connection. But what if those legacy pieces were also designed by the women who wore them? Joining us today is Margot McNaull, a fine jewelry designer specializing in ring design and founder of Stor By Margot, where she offers custom design processes for her customers. She tells us about the exciting new legacy jewelry design experience that she is working on and how it will empower women to create legacy pieces through a more meaningful design process. Discover what women can expect from this experience, what inspired Margot to create it, and why being able to pass down an item like this is so meaningful. Don’t miss out on our follow-up episode where Margot will be revealing Lauren’s custom legacy ring!

Key Points From This Episode:

Introducing today’s guest, jewelry designer, Margot McNaull.
The custom design process at her company, Stor By Margot.
Why they prefer it when the wife is included in the selection process.
Turning the jewelry design process into a more meaningful experience.
The exciting legacy jewelry design experience that Margot is working on.
What she wants women to feel during and after the experience.
The feelings of unworthiness that inspired Margot to create this experience.
Questions to ask yourself if you’re interested in this experience.
The power of giving yourself permission to treat yourself.
What being in an aligned relationship means to Margot: being whole as yourself.

Quotes:

“[Lauren] gave me this great idea of turning the jewelry design process into a grander experience for people and especially for women who really deserve that and need that.” — Margot McNaull [0:02:02]

“Even in the wedding world, most of my clients came together. I would say about 90% is a couple shopping together for the engagement ring. Honestly, when a man comes alone – we panic a little because we really care about the woman and what she's getting.” — Margot McNaull [0:03:41]

“I was already married, and I have a wonderful husband, and I love him very much, but I didn't feel worthy in my marriage of who I am, and it caused a lot of problems between us. I was the girl who didn't feel worthy, even though I was married.” — Margot McNaull [0:15:45]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Margot McNaull on Facebook

Sofia Sundari
Lauren Zoeller

The Aligned Love Collective: Find Your Soulmate

EP 35: Keri Lea - How Can You Approach the Cosmetic and Aesthetic Industry with More Self-Love? Aug 26, 2024

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Do you love what you see in the mirror? Keri Lea is a Cosmetic and Plastic Surgery Nurse who is passionate about helping women to feel beautiful. In this episode, Keri shares her holistic approach to enhancing natural features and the energy she intends to bring to every patient’s experience. We also get into the reasons behind bad filler, and how Keri identifies when it needs to be removed. She shares her energetic approach to connecting with patients, focusing on the positives instead of fixing the negatives. You’ll also hear about Lauren’s journey with Keri, restoring her natural beauty and repairing previous work that was not in alignment with her goals. Don’t miss this insightful conversation.

Key Points From This Episode:

The intention for this episode: empowerment.
Keri’s mission and philosophy.
Lauren’s story of visiting Keri for the first time.
When negative conditions usually arise from getting filler.
Keri’s energetic approach to focusing on the positives and enhancing natural features.
Considering the impact of cortisol and the nervous system.
How filler migrates over the age of 35 and when it needs to be removed.
Approaching conversations with women who want work done but have hesitation around it.
Distortion in the face shape through filler injections.
How Keri identifies the tipping point between enhancements rooted in self-love and a patient who wants to mask themselves.
More on Keri’s deepest mission: to be part of creating major shifts in the industry.
Her definition of being in an aligned relationship with someone else.
The healing journey that Keri went on while Neil came into her life.
Two kinds of healing: alone and in partnership.
Lauren’s journey as a patient.

Quotes:

“My philosophy and mission, when I talk to my patients in the room is, I want you to love what you see in the mirror.” — Keri Lea [0:02:39]

“The energy we have as patient to provider has to be respected. You need to be educated and taught where things could have gone wrong and why.” — Keri Lea [0:07:22]

“If you’re only seeing the things you hate, you’re never going to see the things you love.” — Keri Lea [0:15:08]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Keri Lea on Instagram

A Woman Like You Podcast

Hatef Aesthetics