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EP 39: Brian Galke- What Do Facial Features Reveal About Relationship Compatibility Sep 23, 2024

Have you ever felt drawn to someone based on their appearance but can’t quite put your finger on why? Well, today’s guest on the Aligned Love Podcast, Brian Galke, is a facial decoding expert who joins us to share exactly what our facial features reveal about compatibility. In this conversation, you’ll find out what you can tell about someone from their facial expressions, how that relates to attraction, why you need to understand what your face says about you before trying to decode others, and more! We also dive into how you can tell if a couple is a good match based on expressions. There is a lot of shame around physical augmentation, and in this episode, it’s a must listen.

Key Points From This Episode:

What our faces and facial expressions tell us about people.
How these expressions relate to being attracted to people.
The importance of understanding what your own face projects.
How to tell if a couple is a good match based on facial expressions.
Deciding how you want to be portrayed through your appearance.
The four basic human needs we all want to meet.

Links mentioned in todays episode:
Brian Galke on LinkedIn

Brian Galke on Instagram

Brian Galke Email

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Christin Henke on Instagram

EP 38: Christin Henke - Sex & Salmon? Sep 16, 2024

There is freedom in letting go of the life and love you imagined for yourself and allowing your dreams to evolve as you do instead. In this episode of the Aligned Love Podcast, Christin Henke joins Lauren to discuss her new dating life and some lessons learned throughout her years of searching for “the one.” Tuning in, you’ll hear all about what dating has been like for Lauren since the end of her last relationship, how vastly that differs from dating five years ago, why she’s abandoned her dating checklist, and more! We dive into the universal fear of not finding love and the life you envisioned for yourself and talk about what it means to let that go. You don’t want to miss this one so be sure to tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

Welcoming Christin Henke back to the podcast.
Lauren tells us what it’s been like to get back into dating.
A story about Christin’s neighbor, sex, spiders, and salmon.
The dangers of dating someone based on a checklist.
How Lauren’s attitude towards dating has changed recently.
Signs that you are breaking your dating patterns.
Why we’re always evolving and the importance of a lifelong student mentality.
The universal fear of not finding the love and life you think you will.
Breaking out of a pattern of misery and surrendering to peace.

Quotes:

“Do I want a life that looks good or do I want a life that feels good?” — Christin Henke [0:19:27]

“There are so many people in the personal development space who preach that they have it all figured out and the truth is, nobody has it figured out!” — Christin Henke [0:34:51]

“It’s not giving up on your dream to acknowledge that we are going to keep moving, [growing, trying, being curious, asking questions, and evolving] even if we don’t get that thing.” — Christin Henke [0:41:13]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Christin Henke on Facebook

Christin Henke Substack

Margot McNaull on Instagram
Stor by Margot on Instagram

EP 37: Margot McNaull - The Legacy Ring with Margot McNaull Part Two Sep 09, 2024

So many women are waiting for a man to give them a ring! But they’ve also done a lot of healing work to come home to themselves. How beautiful would it be if a woman could design her own legacy piece? Following on from her last visit to the podcast, jeweler Margot McNaull designed a Legacy Ring for Lauren. The ring is deeply personal to Lauren, representing a letter she received from her grandmother about being a strong woman. Join us as we discuss the deeply meaningful act of buying long-lasting jewelry for yourself, and why women need to know that they deserve it. Hear all about the process of creating a piece for yourself that is representative of your journey, and why it’s not a replacement for any ring you might receive from a man, but a deeply personal act of self-love to pass along to generations of women to come. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

The Legacy Ring that Margot and Lauren created together.
How Lauren and Margot first met.
Why Margot’s approach to jewelry is so personal.
Lauren’s experience of receiving her Legacy Ring from Margot.
The letter and thoughtful packaging of the ring’s delivery.
What it really means to have a legacy and why a ring can be representative of this.
Margot’s insights on the Indian tradition of women's purchasing journey for themselves.
Her dedication to changing the narrative around self-love
What Lauren and Margot are working on together.
Who a legacy piece is for and where to get started with yours.
Why the process is so personal and meaningful.
Understanding that it isn’t a replacement for a wedding ring, but something for yourself.
Where to see the amazing piece that Margot created for Lauren.

Quotes:

“What’s really beautiful about this experience [is] that I’ve always seen into people. They come to me for a piece of jewelry, but I actually see them.” — Margot McNaull [0:04:02]

“One of the definitions of a legacy is taking from the past what you want to bring into the future.” — Margot McNaull [0:08:49]

“I’ve designed a lot of wedding rings, but this is my favorite design concept, because I think women deserve to do this for themselves.” — Margot McNaull [0:09:38]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Join the Legacy Waitlist

Margot McNaull

Stor By Margot
Margot McNaull on Instagram

EP 36: Margot McNaull - Legacy Jewelry Design with Margot McNaull Part One Sep 02, 2024

For many of us, our most cherished pieces of jewelry are passed down to us from our mothers and grandmothers, imbuing them with a deep emotional connection. But what if those legacy pieces were also designed by the women who wore them? Joining us today is Margot McNaull, a fine jewelry designer specializing in ring design and founder of Stor By Margot, where she offers custom design processes for her customers. She tells us about the exciting new legacy jewelry design experience that she is working on and how it will empower women to create legacy pieces through a more meaningful design process. Discover what women can expect from this experience, what inspired Margot to create it, and why being able to pass down an item like this is so meaningful. Don’t miss out on our follow-up episode where Margot will be revealing Lauren’s custom legacy ring!

Key Points From This Episode:

Introducing today’s guest, jewelry designer, Margot McNaull.
The custom design process at her company, Stor By Margot.
Why they prefer it when the wife is included in the selection process.
Turning the jewelry design process into a more meaningful experience.
The exciting legacy jewelry design experience that Margot is working on.
What she wants women to feel during and after the experience.
The feelings of unworthiness that inspired Margot to create this experience.
Questions to ask yourself if you’re interested in this experience.
The power of giving yourself permission to treat yourself.
What being in an aligned relationship means to Margot: being whole as yourself.

Quotes:

“[Lauren] gave me this great idea of turning the jewelry design process into a grander experience for people and especially for women who really deserve that and need that.” — Margot McNaull [0:02:02]

“Even in the wedding world, most of my clients came together. I would say about 90% is a couple shopping together for the engagement ring. Honestly, when a man comes alone – we panic a little because we really care about the woman and what she's getting.” — Margot McNaull [0:03:41]

“I was already married, and I have a wonderful husband, and I love him very much, but I didn't feel worthy in my marriage of who I am, and it caused a lot of problems between us. I was the girl who didn't feel worthy, even though I was married.” — Margot McNaull [0:15:45]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Margot McNaull on Facebook

Sofia Sundari
Lauren Zoeller

The Aligned Love Collective: Find Your Soulmate

EP 35: Keri Lea - How Can You Approach the Cosmetic and Aesthetic Industry with More Self-Love? Aug 26, 2024

Do you love what you see in the mirror? Keri Lea is a Cosmetic and Plastic Surgery Nurse who is passionate about helping women to feel beautiful. In this episode, Keri shares her holistic approach to enhancing natural features and the energy she intends to bring to every patient’s experience. We also get into the reasons behind bad filler, and how Keri identifies when it needs to be removed. She shares her energetic approach to connecting with patients, focusing on the positives instead of fixing the negatives. You’ll also hear about Lauren’s journey with Keri, restoring her natural beauty and repairing previous work that was not in alignment with her goals. Don’t miss this insightful conversation.

Key Points From This Episode:

The intention for this episode: empowerment.
Keri’s mission and philosophy.
Lauren’s story of visiting Keri for the first time.
When negative conditions usually arise from getting filler.
Keri’s energetic approach to focusing on the positives and enhancing natural features.
Considering the impact of cortisol and the nervous system.
How filler migrates over the age of 35 and when it needs to be removed.
Approaching conversations with women who want work done but have hesitation around it.
Distortion in the face shape through filler injections.
How Keri identifies the tipping point between enhancements rooted in self-love and a patient who wants to mask themselves.
More on Keri’s deepest mission: to be part of creating major shifts in the industry.
Her definition of being in an aligned relationship with someone else.
The healing journey that Keri went on while Neil came into her life.
Two kinds of healing: alone and in partnership.
Lauren’s journey as a patient.

Quotes:

“My philosophy and mission, when I talk to my patients in the room is, I want you to love what you see in the mirror.” — Keri Lea [0:02:39]

“The energy we have as patient to provider has to be respected. You need to be educated and taught where things could have gone wrong and why.” — Keri Lea [0:07:22]

“If you’re only seeing the things you hate, you’re never going to see the things you love.” — Keri Lea [0:15:08]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Keri Lea on Instagram

A Woman Like You Podcast

Hatef Aesthetics

EP 34: Nicole Pensak- How Can You Improve Your Mental Health and Your Relationships Postpartum? Aug 19, 2024

In this episode, Lauren Zoeller sits down with Dr. Nicole Pensak, a clinical psychologist specializing in postpartum mental health, to explore the often unspoken challenges that new mothers face. Dr. Nicole shares her personal and professional insights on why it's crucial for mothers to prioritize their mental health, the common struggles that many women experience but seldom discuss, and how building a postpartum support team can make a significant difference. Whether you're preparing for motherhood or supporting someone who is, this conversation sheds light on the importance of self-care during one of life's most transformative journeys. Tune in to discover practical advice and compassionate guidance for navigating postpartum mental health.
Links mentioned in todays episode:
Dr. Nicole
Rattled the book
Dr. Nicole Website
Lauren Zoeller

EP 33: Stacy Harris - How Can You Use Networking To Shift How You Attract & Maintain Relationships? Aug 12, 2024

Knowing how to network is a hugely important skill, even for your love life! In fact, some of your most meaningful romantic relationships could come from professional connections who have introduced you to someone they respect. Joining us today to explore the power of networking is Stacy Harris, a master networker and consultant, who helps entrepreneurs grow their network by building solid, lasting relationships. Stacy also shares her advice on how your network can help you meet quality people, particularly if you’re single and dating, mastering the art of following up, and why it’s okay to ask for help. Tune in to hear all of Stacy’s expert insights and transform your approach to networking and relationships!

Key Points From This Episode:

How Stacy’s network supported her and her husband during their greatest time of need.
The first thing to do if you want to expand your network: change your mindset.
Asking “How can I help others” instead of “What can I gain from this?”
Tips for introverts on how to conserve energy at networking events.
How to reach out to your network to help you meet quality people if you’re single and dating.
Why it’s okay to ask for help: an inspiring reminder that people want to help others.
Practical advice for effective follow-ups after networking events.

Quotes:

“When you're an entrepreneur, you are the CEO and the head bathroom cleaner. It's juggling all of those things. And I was like, ‘These are my people. They understand what I'm going through.’” — Stacy Harris [0:03:59]

“All of these relationships – these people that stepped up to support us in our greatest time of need – were people that I had met through networking.” — Stacy Harris [0:07:41]

“When it is a real relationship, it's not hard to ask people or help.” — Stacy Harris [0:15:52]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Stacy Harris Consulting

Stacy Harris on LinkedIn

Stacy Harris on Facebook

Network in Action

Greg Tomchick on Instagram

EP 32: Greg Tomchick - How Do I Create Self Trust, Healing & Resilience After an Identity Shift? Aug 05, 2024

Lauren’s guest today firmly believes that being in an aligned relationship requires first being aligned with yourself. How can we build trust with others if we haven’t first built trust from the inside out? Greg Tomchick, born into a military family and a former professional baseball player, has drawn on valuable lessons from baseball and business to reinvent himself as a cybersecurity coach and author. As the CEO of Valor Cybersecurity, he now serves individuals and organizations worldwide. In their conversation, Lauren and Greg discuss his journey from professional athlete to cybersecurity coach, how he discovered his new identity post-career, and his concept of the Connected Mindset and how you, too, can shift into it. Tune in now to hear more from this insightful conversation.

Key Points From This Episode:

How Greg went from being a professional athlete to working in cybersecurity and coaching others on mindset.
Greg unpacks the journey of discovering his identity after his baseball career.
We dive into the Connected Mindset and how to start the shift into it.
Showing up for the identity you envision.
Greg’s thoughts on an ideal relationship and what that looks like.
Building trust from the inside out.
Why he believes every relationship should have a clear purpose.
More about Greg, what he does, and where you can find out more.
What it means to Greg to be in an aligned relationship.

Quotes:

“We’re always most qualified to serve that past version of ourselves.” — @Greg Tomchick [0:03:11]

“Trust is the glue and [it] comes from the inside out.” — @Greg Tomchick [0:20:04]

“Every relationship has to have a purpose!” — @Greg Tomchick [0:24:20]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Greg Tomchick

Greg Tomchick on LinkedIn

Greg Tomchick on X

Greg Tomchick on YouTube

The Connected Mindset

Valor Cybersecurity

Dr. Taylor Burrowes on YouTube

EP 31: Dr. Taylor Burrowes- What is the Road to Relationship Readiness? Jul 29, 2024

Many of us would like to be more intentional when it comes to relationships and dating, especially once we’ve left our twenties. But without a trusted process, how can you be sure you’re on the right track? That’s where today’s guest, Dr. Taylor Burrowes, comes in. Dr. Burrowes, is an acclaimed vetting specialist, with a PhD in Marriage, Couples, and Family Counseling, who is using her years of experience to help singles prepare for their ideal relationship. We dive into the details of her vetting approach, why she values quality over quantity, the power of patience, and how to avoid the pitfalls of urgency in relationships – especially for those in their late 30s and 40s. Join us today as we explore transformation, awareness, and intentionality in relationships, and find out how Dr. Burrowes’ approach can help you connect with the right partner!

Key Points From This Episode:

Setting the intention for today’s episode: a feeling of clarity and inspiration.
Dr. Burrowes’ professional background and how she became a vetting specialist.
The big shifts she underwent in her personal and professional life to find alignment.
What you can expect from the vetting process (and why patience is key!)
How Dr. Burrowes is teaching people to be their own vetting specialist.
Tapping into your intuition; why it’s such an important skill to harness and nurture.
How deception in marketing and social media is undermining our intuition.
Quality over quantity; why vetting should be a slow and intentional process.
The importance of embracing trust and patience over urgency, even though it’s difficult!
Dr. Burrowes’ definition of aligned love: harmonious relationships that thrive on both similarities and differences.

Quotes:

“The way that I define vetting is a process of discovery. It’s figuring out who you are [and] learning who someone else is, but then also, how do you work together.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:08:25]

“Vetting can seem really hard to a lot of people because it's so intentional, and it's a lot slower paced. It’s not quantity, it’s quality.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:24:57]

“I see alignment as part of [the] whole package, where you've hit that sweet spot on all the essential things. You don't have to be perfect in order to be in an aligned relationship. You just need to have sufficient levels of all the essential things.” — Taylor Burrowes [0:32:58]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Taylor Burrowes

Dr. Taylor Burrowes on Instagram

Dr. Taylor Burrowes on X

Quentin Decamp on Instagram

EP 30: Quentin Decamp- How Do I Find Love Again After Pain From Previous Relationships? Jul 22, 2024

What would it take for you to shed the layers of unnecessary pain and start loving again, free from ego-based patterns of fear and suffering? In this episode, Lauren & Quentin delve deep into the world of attachment styles, deprogramming the wounded ego, and (re)training yourself to create a limitless life defined by expansion and lasting love. Joining us for this enlightening discussion is Quentin Decamp, a relationship coach, somatic therapist, and breathwork facilitator. You’ll discover how understanding your attachment style, dismantling mental prisons, and building a more compassionate relationship with yourself. As Quentin says, “Aligned relationships start with an aligned love within.” Tune in for all of this and more! Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

Turning points in Quentin’s life that led him to the coaching and somatic therapy space.
How Quentin learned about attachment styles after doing deep work to heal his wounded ego.
Where to start when you already have a deeper awareness of attachment styles.
The impact of our programming on our thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors.
Mental prisons we can find ourselves trapped in and how to dismantle them.
What aligned love means to him (and why he suggests asking the heavy questions!)

Quotes:

“Oftentimes, people think the ego is the enemy or we think that the ego is doing things to protect [us]. It’s not one or the other; the ego is on repeat. It’s going to repeat what we have absorbed the most.” — Quentin Decamp [0:04:08]

“You don’t have to feel completely ‘complete’ with yourself. You do have to reach a certain point when you are okay with yourself, otherwise, a relationship is only going to enhance what is already there inside of you.” — Quentin Decamp [0:13:04]

“Don’t be afraid to map everything from the start with someone. Understand all your values and non-negotiables. Ask the awkward questions, [ask] the heavy questions.” — Quentin Decamp [0:29:17]

“Aligned relationships start with an aligned love within.” — Quentin Decamp [0:30:00]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Quentin Decamp

Quentin Hafner
Quentin Hafner on Instagram
Quentin Hafner on Facebook
Black Belt Husband: A Marriage Book for Men
Go Next Level Book
Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn
Lauren Zoeller on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller on X
Lauren Zoeller on TikTok
Lauren Zoeller on Facebook
The Aligned Love Collective
The Aligned Love Podcast

EP 29: Quentin Hafner- Men of Integrity: Embracing Healthy Masculinity in Relationships Jul 15, 2024

In this episode of The Aligned Love Podcast, host Lauren Zoeller welcomes Quentin Hafner, a skyward success coach with an inspiring journey from the corporate world to a career dedicated to helping individuals and families thrive. Lauren and Quentin explore what it means to be a high-value man and also how to find a high-value man in today's dating world. They also talk about the importance of self-control, self-awareness, and how these qualities impact relationships. It truly is a must listen.
Key Points From This Episode:

The importance of self-awareness and self-control in relationships and to look for a partner with those attributes.
Characteristics of a high-value man and how to find a high-value man.
How to approach their partners with compliments and focus on why an issue matters to them, rather than criticizing and pointing out flaws because men are prone to feelings of shame when criticized.
The need for intentional dating, where the focus is on character qualities, values, and personality traits rather than superficial attributes.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

EP 28: Chef Palak Patel- Nourish & Nurture: Cultivating Relationships Through Food Jul 08, 2024

We are back with another exciting episode of The Aligned Love podcast! Today's show features the amazing Chef Palak Patel as our guest, who joins our host, Lauren Zoeller! They discuss cultivating relationships through food and how you can use love to deepen and foster connections in your life. Palak is a classically trained chef, the owner of Dash and Chutney restaurant, two-time winner of Food Network’s famed show Chopped, and a TEDx speaker! Join the conversation as we delve into her book, Food Is Love: Plant-Based Indian-Inspired Recipes to Feel Joy and Connection, andthe story behind the title. We also unpack her journey of using food as a form of connection in this episode. Tune in for all this and so much more. Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

Palak shares the story behind her book’s title, Food is Love. We unpack her journey using food as the catalyst to connect; not solely to herself but to those she’s serving.
How her emotional state influences the food or recipes she creates.
Where, how, and why listeners should start the process of using food as a connection point.
Finding the emotion that drives the “chore” of cooking.
Palak’s advice on planning day-to-day meals and centering them around connection.

Quotes:

“[Food, for me] is the ultimate glue. It’s kind of the ultimate expression of who I am and how I care for the people in my life.” — @chefpalak [0:06:47]

“I think emotions really do drive what we eat, — what we reach for, and what we cook.” — @chefpalak [0:07:42]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Palak Patel

Palak Patel on Instagram

Palak Patel on X

Palak Patel on Facebook

Palak Patel on TikTok

Food Is Love: Plant-Based Indian-Inspired Recipes to Feel Joy and Connection

The Power of Community Cooking and Eating Together | Palak Patel | TEDxRutgers

EP 27: Michael Unbroken- Inside The Spectrum of Love - Balancing Masculine & Feminine Roles In Relationships Jul 01, 2024

In this episode of The Aligned Love Podcast, hosted by Lauren Zoeller guest Michael Unbroken dives into the raw realities and misconceptions of modern dating from a man's perspective. They discuss the difficulties high-achieving successful women face in relationships, the impact of unrealistic expectations, and the importance of understanding masculine and feminine dynamics. Michael emphasizes the need for authenticity, clear communication, and realistic standards in relationships while highlighting the responsibilities of both men and women to step up their game. The conversation touches on societal issues, the importance of respect and peace, and navigating relationship roles. Lauren and Michael also share insights on how to create a balanced dynamic where both partners feel safe and fulfilled.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

E26: The One About Dating After A Breakup Jun 24, 2024

Navigating the dating world after a breakup can be a daunting prospect, especially when you haven’t fully healed yet. But how do you know when you’re ready to start dating again? And how can you tell whether or not you’re just delaying things because you’re scared? In today’s special solo episode, host Lauren Zoeller explores these difficult questions as she shares her post-breakup journey and insights, unpacking why it’s so important to allow yourself to grieve and heal before diving into new relationships. Tune in as she delves into the nuances of emotional readiness and explains how to listen to your inner cues and find alignment before pursuing new connections. She also offers practical advice for re-entering the dating world (and why you don’t need dating apps to meet wonderful people who share your interests). Whether you're recovering from heartbreak or contemplating new beginnings, Lauren's perspective provides valuable guidance on navigating post-breakup dating with authenticity, resilience, and joy!

Key Points From This Episode:

A quick update on Lauren’s life.
How familiarity and support structures can help you heal after a breakup.
The importance of allowing yourself to fully heal and grieve before dating again.
Why scheduling time on her calendar to grieve was so beneficial to Lauren’s nervous system.
The biggest hurdle Lauren faced when healing from her relationship.
How your inner cues can help you gauge when you’re ready to date again.
Lauren’s advice on how to pursue dating outside of the apps: real-life hobbies!
A sneak peek at the exciting thing coming up on The Aligned Love Podcast.

Quotes:

“[Dating] doesn’t have to feel so hard. There is a reality that does exist where you can go through a breakup, you can heal, you can grieve, you can feel excited again, and you can start to get back out there, regardless of your age.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:22:36]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Rachele Brooke Smith
Rachele Brooke Smith on Instagram
Relationship Renegades
Relationship Renegades on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller

E25: Rachele Brooke Smith - Empowering You To Be The Hero Of Your Own Story Jun 17, 2024

In this inspiring episode of The Aligned Love Podcast, we are joined by the multi-talented actress and motivational speaker, Rachele Brooke Smith. Rachele shares her transformative journey from a fearful and anxious gymnast to a leading actress and a passionate advocate for personal empowerment. This episode is packed with insights on how to become the hero of your own story, the power of visualization, and the importance of embracing bravery in the face of life's challenges.
Key Points From This Episode:

Rachele emphasizes the importance of setting intentions and encourages listeners to approach the episode with curiosity and an open mind.
Rachele's personal journey from being a scared, insecure child to a confident actress.
The impact of identifying and breaking free from self-imposed limitations and old identities.
How watching a dance film at the age of 14 inspired Rachele to visualize her future success.
The role of vision boards and daily affirmations in manifesting dreams.
The concept of "acting as if" to shift one's reality and step into new, empowered versions of oneself.
Integrating play and creativity into personal development to balance masculine and feminine energies.
Insights on how to navigate periods of self-doubt and the importance of resilience.

Quotes:
"We are the creators of our life experience and we can literally create whatever we want to. It really all comes down to if we believe that we're worthy of it." - Rachele Brooke Smith
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Chris Perry Instagram Video

E24: The One About Finances In Relationship Jun 10, 2024

Often, there are polarizing viewpoints about finances in relationships that can be a huge point of contention between partners. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, Lauren’s best friend Lilly joins us to discuss the nuances of finances in a relationship, the dangers of the internet pitting men and women against each other, and why every partnership is different! In response to Chris Perry’s Instagram video stating that men should provide for their partners, Lauren posted a poll asking her audiences’ opinions and received mixed responses. Tuning in, you’ll hear people’s opinions on this topic, what we think about masculine and feminine roles, why there is ultimately no right or wrong answer, and so much more! We also delve into why communication is what makes a partnership strong, why a relationship should never be 50/50, why you should get curious about what triggers you, and much more.

Key Points From This Episode:

Today’s topic: what it means to be in a relationship from a financial standpoint.
The danger of having polarizing views in a relationship (and in life).
Traditional perspectives in response to the video about financial roles in relationships.
Why there is no right or wrong in this discussion and why it’s specific to each couple.
How the internet is separating men and women more than ever before.
How masculinity extends beyond purely financial support and security.
Why a relationship is like a business and the importance of communication.
Becoming curious about strong triggers and responses to beliefs.

Quotes:

“Nothing works for all of us. I don’t think there’s one recipe for a fantastic relationship that we all fall into and it’s completely perfect.” — @lillyrachels [0:13:10]

“Whatever your polarizing beliefs are, put them aside and decide what you are actually committed to when it comes to building a relationship with someone.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:28:09]

“Maybe people in your life do their relationship one way and it works for them but it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to work for you.” — @lillyrachels [0:32:41]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Lilly Rachels

Lilly Rachels on X

Lilly Rachels on Instagram

Annalie Howling on Instagram

E23: Annalie Howling - Unapologetically Living To Your Fullest Potential With Integrity Jun 03, 2024

One way to tell if someone maintains their integrity is by observing their consistent actions, and today’s guest thrives when her clients step into their fullest potential with solid integrity. Joining Lauren on the Aligned Love podcast today is Annalie Howling, a highly qualified performance coach with over 20 years of experience working with leaders in business, elite athletes, and members of the armed forces. Her specialty lies in transitional support, and through her unique approach, Annalie ensures that her clients overcome self-imposed limitations, achieve their goals, move forward with confidence, and thrive in a fulfilling life. Tune into this powerful episode as we explore her journey, her relationship with integrity, the process of eradicating shame, and how you can truly step into your most authentic voice.

Key Points From This Episode:

The story behind Annalie’s beautiful platform.
Annalie unpacks her relationship with integrity and how it has shifted and morphed through different phases of her life.
Her favorite way to determine whether someone is intact with their integrity.
How she helps people reclaim integrity, or step into it for the first time.
The only way to kill shame.
How you can begin to notice shame as a ruling factor in your life.
We talk about the moment before massive shifts or decisions (and the high-level anxiety).

Quotes:

“My favorite description and way of telling if someone is intact with their integrity is what they consistently do. That is someone’s integrity.” — Annalie Howling [0:10:10]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Annalie Howling

Annalie Howling on TikTok

Annalie Howling on YouTube

Annalie Howling Email

Annalie Howling Shop (Masterclass & More)

Mindset Memos

Lesley Logan on Instagram

E22: Lesley Logan & Brad Crowell - Honoring Your Journey To A Beautiful Relationship May 27, 2024

Finding your person is only one facet of entering (and maintaining) a beautiful relationship. It also requires self-knowledge, growth, and intentionality. Joining us today to shed light on this topic are two wonderful guests, who, together, have built a beautiful relationship, not just as life partners, but as business partners too! Lesley Logan is the co-founder of Lesley Logan Pilates Inc., the parent company to LesleyLoganPilates.com, OnlinePilatesClasses.com. and ProfitablePilates.com, which she runs with her husband Brad Crowell, who serves as CEO. In this episode, you’ll learn about the journey of self-discovery that led Lesley to her relationship with her husband, Brad, and how they navigate the ups and downs of being in business together. Find out how therapy helped Lesley enter into relationships with a healthier mindset, the essential skills that will help you work with your life partner, and Brad and Lesley’s advice for being intentional with your relationship, even in business.

Key Points From This Episode:

Lesley sets today’s intention: You are enough.
The journey that led Lesley to her relationship with her husband, Brad.
How she learned to address red flags instead of staying quiet.
Brad’s belief in Lesley’s work and how they started working together full-time.
Insights on navigating a relationship when you are also in business together.
How open communication has helped Brad and Lesley maintain their relationship.
The value of creating a safe space for communication outside of work.

Quotes:

“Intentionality is key. There are going to be moments where it's more work than play or more play than work. But you always have to [understand] that you don't get to set it and forget it. You can automate a lot in the business, [but] you can't automate how you are in your relationship.” — Lesley Logan [0:35:16]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Lesley Logan

Lesley Logan on LinkedIn

Brad Crowell on LinkedIn

Be It Till You See It Podcast

Be It Till You See It on Instagram

OnlinePilatesClasses.com

OnlinePilatesClasses.com on YouTube

OnlinePilatesClasses.com on TikTok

OnlinePilatesClasses.com on Facebook

Profitable Pilates

StrengthFinders2.0

Shannon Kaiser on LinkedIn

E21: Shannon Kaiser - Redefining Self Love and Self Worth May 20, 2024

Authentic self-love is an essential element in helping you find aligned love. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we welcome bestselling author, empowerment coach, and self-love teacher, Shannon Kaiser to discuss how we can redefine our sense of self-worth. More specifically, you’ll hear about what self-love means to Shannon, the deeper layers of self-love, how healing your wounds through compassion can help you find deep love for yourself, and how you can awaken yourself to your worth. We also delve into the importance of learning to say no to red flags early on in dating before discussing how operating from a place of freedom can help you find love. Shannon even tells us how to identify ‘unsafe’ relationships, what is next for her, and what an aligned relationship means to her. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

What self-love and its deeper layers mean to Shannon.
How to heal your wounds through compassion in order to find self-love.
The first step to awaken yourself to your worth when you feel lost.
Why creating clarity about what you want based on your values is imperative.
How healing your self-worth will help you say no to red flags faster.
Operating from a place of freedom instead of fear and how that will help you find real love.
How to know when you’re in an ‘unsafe’ relationship.
A sneak peek at what’s next for Shannon and her career.

Quotes:

“Self-love is a journey and it’s – an expansive experience. To be alive is to constantly re-find yourself, re-meet yourself, and fall in love with yourself.” — @shannonlkaiser [0:04:05]

“Our truest self – craves connection, wants intimacy, [and] wants to be loved for who we are. We [need to] start by doing that to ourselves on every level. We [need to] become the relationship that we want.” — @shannonlkaiser [0:22:20]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Shannon Kaiser Linktree

Shannon Kaiser on X

Shannon Kaiser on Instagram

Play With The World

The Self-Love Experiment

B Side App
The Basement Podcast

E20: Tim Ross - Navigating Faith, Courage and Vulnerability Without Fear May 13, 2024

Tim Ross is a Professional Podcaster, Social Media Influencer, Preacher, Author, Businessman, and most recently, App Creator! His unorthodox approach to spirituality has guided him on a constant journey of evolution and progression in his life. After spending years preaching and teaching for some of the most prominent ministries in the world, he founded Embassy Church in Irving, Texas. He joins us today to tell the story behind the beautiful, God-centered relationship he has with his wife, Juliette and his personal journey to finding and creating love. Tim considers vulnerability his superpower and tells the story of the events of his childhood and how finding healing made him who he is today. He gets candid about why he would gladly accept a do-over of the first five years of his marriage if given the chance, lets us in on the details of turning from preaching to podcasting, and much more.

Key Points From This Episode:

How Tim made vulnerability his superpower and transformed his trauma into healing.
What happens when leaders choose vulnerability.
Why he would accept a do-over of the first five years of his marriage in a heartbeat.
Overcoming porn addiction during his marriage and shifting to a relationship based on truth.
His process of transitioning from preaching to podcasting.
When a divorce from the previous version of your relationship is necessary.
Why it is so important to go to therapy and do the work.
What it means to Tim to be in an aligned relationship with his wife.
Where the glue of relationships really resides: in the mundane.

Quotes:

“There’s too many men that try to use their wives as a crutch and try to make their freedom contingent on their wives’ involvement. That’s not how freedom from addiction happens. It is solely on the addict.” — Tim Ross [0:13:58]

“Not everybody is going to be meant for you when you speak your truth and you honor yourself from a place of true transparency and vulnerability.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:25:11]

“I believe the deepest relationship equity happens in the days that are the most mundane.” — Tim Ross [0:36:54]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Tim Ross on Instagram

Tim Ross on TikTok

Embassy City Church

The Confessions of Saint Augustine

Holistic Life Navigation Podcast

E19: Luis Mojica - Fawning: Unpacking The Most Rewarded Trauma Response in Society May 06, 2024

Joining Lauren on the Aligned Love Podcast today is Luis Mojica. Luis teaches people how to find safety in themselves through somatic education and nutrition. Through his work, he aims to destigmatize trauma and addiction through compassionate understanding. Amongst other accolades, Luis teaches an online course to thousands of people across the globe, leads retreats, hosts a weekly podcast, and boasts a plethora of knowledge on somatics, nutrition, and the nervous system. Don’t miss out on this incredibly insightful conversation with Luis as we dive into his unique journey into somatic work. He also defines the concept of co-regulation, how that differs from co-dependence, and how to set and keep healthy boundaries with it. We dive deeply into the fawning response as Luis unpacks it beautifully, including how to first recognize fawning in your life, society’s influence on it as the most rewarded trauma response, and how fawning impacts sexuality and sexual intimacy. Join the conversation to hear all this, and so much more, from our amazing guest on today’s episode!

Key Points From This Episode:

He details his story and unique journey into somatic work, which he pairs with nutrition.
Luis shares the concept of co-regulation, offering listeners a clearer grasp of its meaning and sensation within the body and nervous system.
How co-regulation and co-dependence differ.
We dive into the term empath and how co-regulation functions within the dating world.
He delves into the process of first recognizing the fawning response, society’s influence on fawning, and then how to initiate a conscious shift.
Luis shares how listeners can start their journey into awareness of the fawning response.
The importance of connecting with yourself (stepping into awareness with yourself).
Luis shares his answer to our wrap-up question: what does aligned love, or being in an aligned relationship, mean to him.

Quotes:

“The really simple way to put it is co-regulation is when your body experiences safety or calm or ground with another being or another body.”— Luis Mojica [0:08:15]

“Fawning is a hybrid; it’s freeze met with performance — you freeze your authentic expression [and] perform the opposite.” — Luis Mojica [0:17:32]

“When you stop fawning you become seen, your honesty comes through, and you disappoint people naturally. Because that’s what we do when we are in honest relationships, we disappoint each other, we trigger each other, we create frictions, that’s beautiful [and] is part of intimacy.” — Luis Mojica [0:33:12]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Luis Mojica on Instagram

Luis Mojica Linktree

Holistic Life Navigation

Join Holistic Life Navigation Newsletter

Fawning Webinars

Try The Being Method for Free Using The Code ALIGNED

E18: MJ Renshaw: The Truth About Breathwork Apr 29, 2024

The term ‘breathwork’ has gained a lot of buzz in recent years and has made its way into many of our social media feeds. But what exactly is breathwork? And how should we be engaging with it? Joining us today is MJ Renshaw, a breathwork facilitator and founder of The Being Method, an in-depth science of spirituality course. She joins us to talk about the power of breath, her experiences with breathwork, and why there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing. Tuning in you’ll learn how her interest in science and spirituality led to the founding of The Being Method, why breathwork can sometimes be retraumatizing, and how she implements her trauma-informed approach to breathwork. She also describes what participants can expect from The Being Method, what she values most in relationships, plus a whole lot more. So let’s take a collective breath and let's get started!

Key Points From This Episode:

How she created The Being Method from her interest in science and spirituality.
Why MJ believes there is no one-size-fits-all formula for healing.
What made her gravitate towards breathwork.
MJ’s trauma-informed approach to conscious breathwork.
Understanding the impact of breath on our health and mindset.
The power of permitting yourself to do the things that bring you joy.
What defines MJ’s idea of an aligned relationship.
Where you can find MJ online and learn more about The Being Method.

Quotes:

“There's a lot of a lot of foundational health issues that can be cleaned up simply by changing the way you breathe.” — MJ Renshaw [0:16:00]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

MJ Renshaw on Instagram

The Being Method

Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

Douglas DiSiena on LinkedIn

E17: Dr. Douglas DiSiena - Understand Neural Integration and Unlocking Your Best Self Through a Healthy Brain Apr 22, 2024

Are you ready to geek out about the nervous system? Joining Lauren on the podcast today is Dr. DiSiena, also known as Dr. D!
Dr. D shares about his career and life journey, including his life message of taking back control of a hijacked brain. He also unpacks (in its simplest form) what neural integration is all about. Tune in to hear more from Dr. D, a master of understanding your brain-body connection!

Key Points From This Episode:

Maintaining a state of chronic connection, for a better world.
Dr. D takes listeners through his career (and life) journey.
His life message: taking control of a hijacked brain.
Dr. D unpacks neural integration, in its simplest form.
What happens when you don’t understand neural integration.
Why you can’t think your brain into integration.
What it means to Dr. D to be in an aligned relationship
How his practice approaches neural integration work, and where to find Dr. D.
His upcoming Stress Reset Retreat.

Quotes:

“My highest intention is for all of us to be in that calm, connected, and loving state.” — Dr. D. DiSiena [0:02:54]

“When the brain is not integrated, you can’t just think it into integrated. You have to do things to change the paradigm of the wiring — we call it neuroplastic changes, you literally need to change it.” — Dr. D. DiSiena [0:19:06]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Douglas DiSiena on Instagram

Dr. Douglas DiSiena

DiSiena & Irvine

Robert M. Sapolsky on Instagram

Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers, Third Edition

Will Rezin: How to Understand Your Body for Deeper Relationships (Part 1)

E16: Will Rēzin - How to Understand Your Body for Deeper Connection Part TWO Apr 15, 2024

Welcome to part two of my conversation with Will Rēzin about understanding your body to create deeper relationships. If you haven’t listened to the first part of this conversation, you can find the link in the show notes! You’ll hear about Will’s transition from working in restaurants to working in the arts, how he and his mother healed their collective trauma and rekindled their relationship, and his introduction to hypnosis. We delve into what inspired him to train as a coach and how his emotional journey while traveling helped him lose weight. Will has always felt compelled to change the world and after his trauma training, he decided that working with wealthy, influential people was the way to go.
When Will discovered what he calls the ‘holy grail’ of understanding the human condition (somatics) his coaching shifted and in this episode, he talks about attachment, trauma, the importance of communication in relationships, and marrying the understanding of the mind and emotions. Will even gives us an incredible description of Trauma and Somatics and how to join his training. You don’t want to miss out on this fascinating episode so be sure to press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

How he and his mother rekindled their relationship and healed their trauma together.
Learning about hypnosis, studying with Linda and Michael Brady, and training in coaching.
How Will discovered somatics and why he sees it as the ‘holy grail’ of understanding humans.
Attachment, trauma and the importance of being present.
How Will navigates his dynamic of being in a romantic relationship
A description of Trauma and Somatics and how to train with Will and his team
What being aligned in a relationship means to Will.

Quotes:

“Trauma is that which fragments us and ties us to the past.” — Will Rezin [0:27:26]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Will Rezin

Will Rezin on LinkedIn

Will Rezin on Instagram

Will Rezin on Facebook

Trauma and Somatics

Linda and Michael Brady

Bodymind

E15: Will Rēzin: How to Understand Your Body for Deeper Relationships - Part ONE Apr 08, 2024

Today's episode is part one of a deep dive into the life journey of our guest, Will Rēzin, who is an expert who helps high level industry leaders transform their lives and career with powerful inner work. Will shares a raw and vulnerable account of his experiences. From growing up in a conservative Christian household to facing significant trauma during his teenage years, Will takes us on a rollercoaster ride through his past.

Will's journey takes a turn as he dives into psychedelics, seeking escape and later using them as a tool for processing his pain. His exploration of different cultures, mythologies, and esoteric knowledge opens up new avenues for self-discovery and healing.

Join us as we unravel the intricate layers of Will's life story, filled with resilience, transformation, and a quest for self-understanding. This episode is a testament to the human spirit's capacity for healing and growth, even in the face of adversity. Tune in to gain insights into the power of self-reflection, exploration, and the pursuit of personal development.
Links from Today's Episode:
Will Rēzin
Will Rēzin on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller on TikTok
Aligned Love Collective

E14: The One About Heartbreak Apr 01, 2024

Heartbreak is a universal experience that can be destructive or healing, depending on how you approach it. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we are delving into how Lauren is navigating the end of her relationship, moving across the country, and grieving the life she imagined she’d have. In this episode, we are joined by Jess Bonini to help Lauren unpack the changes and transitions she has recently experienced. We discuss how human connection can help you move out of ‘freeze’ and ‘wallow’ mode when going through a breakup before Lauren tells us how her definition of an aligned relationship has changed since her breakup. Finally, we touch on the differences between growth and healing and why healing is a life-long process. You do not want to miss this incredibly enlightening episode so be sure to tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

Welcoming Jess Bonini to discuss navigating heartbreak.
The intention for today: create a sense of curiosity about the growth cycles of relationships.
Lauren’s huge life transition.
The importance of being who you truly are and being accepted for that in relationships.
How Lauren is rebuilding her connection with herself.
How her definition of an aligned relationship has changed since the end of her last one.
Why growth and healing are two different things.

Quotes:

“Not all relationships are meant to last forever.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:04:02]

“If I get really honest with myself. Truly, deeply honest. I lost myself in this relationship.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:10:13]

“If you’re navigating heartbreak, you have to lean into your support system [and] you have to choose that you’re going to heal because in every relationship ending, there’s a part of you that needs support and love and healing.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:19:32]

“Human connection is why we’re all here!” — @LaurenZoeller [0:32:57]

“An aligned relationship to me is a relationship where – both partners are committed to healing.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:35:24]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jess Bonini on Instagram

E13: Mimi Bouchard - Becoming Superhuman: Navigating Work, Love and the Path to Personal Excellence Mar 25, 2024

Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, I had the pleasure of chatting with Mimi Bouchard, the brilliant mind behind the Superhuman App. We explore the art of balancing the many facets of life - work, love, and personal growth. Mimi generously shares her journey towards achieving harmony in these areas and introduces her unconventional approach to meditation, which she terms "activation". This unique practice offers the flexibility to enact positive shifts within ourselves, while aligning with what we deeply desire.
Key Points From the Episode:

Mimi shares the journey and purpose behind her app, Superhuman
How to balance feminine and masculine energy when performing at a high level
The importance of communication in a relationship
Mimi shares her unconventional way of visualization and meditation

Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:
Mimi Bouchard
The MIMI Podcast
Superhuman App
Mimi Bouchard on IG
Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on IG
The Aligned Love Collective
The Aligned Love Podcast

E12: Jessica Papineau - Dress for the Love You Desire: Expert Tips on Dressing for Romance and Connection Mar 18, 2024

In today's episode, we delve into the world of fashion and confidence with our special guest, Jessica Papineau. Jessica is a renowned coach and stylist who helps women feel as good on the outside as they do on the inside to elevate their career, relationships and life. Jessica shares her journey into the world of coaching and styling, driven by a desire to help women feel confident and empowered in their own skin.

We explore the powerful relationship between clothing choices and confidence, discussing how what we wear can impact our mood, self-perception, and interactions with others.

Listeners are treated to practical tips from Jessica on curating a wardrobe that reflects their true selves and boosts their confidence in any situation.
Key Points from the Episode:

Jessica shares her intention with the lIsteners before diving into the episode.
Jessica tells her story of how she got into fashion in an unconventional way that led her to her current career in coaching and styling women.
We dive into how women can dress to show their own unique style and feel confident in every situation
She also shares her best tips for throwing together a "last minute" outfit for date.

Links Mentions in Today's Episode:
Jessica Papineau
Jessica Papineau on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on LinkedIn

Emily P. Freeman on Instagram

E11: Emily Freeman - Navigating When to Stay and When to Walk Away in Relationships Mar 11, 2024

One of the most difficult decisions to face when in a relationship is when to stay and when to walk away. Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, I welcome Emily Freeman, author of “How to Walk Into a Room” to dive deep into conversation around this very topic and so much more. Emily is a bestselling author and specializes in supporting anyone with decision fatigue. Tune in to hear Emily share her insights on learning to explore the narratives we construct about staying or leaving in relationships, reflecting on past goodbyes, and she also offers guidance on how to navigate the decision-making process when faced with the decision to stay or walk away.

Key Points From This Episode:

Building courage in the face of decision fatigue
Discerning truth from discomfort
Overcoming anticipated regret
Decoding our stay or leave narratives
Navigating life’s crossroads with confidence
Simple steps to overcome decision fatigue

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Emily P. Freeman

How to Walk Into a Room

Apply to Join The Aligned Expansion Program

E10: The One About Calling In a Magnetic Life Mar 04, 2024

Once you have done the deep trauma work required to help you shift from a place of protection to a place of connection, there is another step that you can take to catapult you into a magnetic life. Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, we are delving into how a state of activation can help call you into a magnetic life. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the recent event called ‘The Shift’, why your divine feminine or divine masculine is already a part of you, the importance of having a resilient nervous system, and more. We even discuss why you truly can ‘have it all’. Finally, we share a little bit about the new Aligned Expansion program and how you can apply the tools you will learn there to create the magnetic life you want. Thanks for listening in!

Key Points From This Episode:

All about the recent ‘The SHIFT’ somatic immersion event.
How deep trauma work can help you shift from protection to connection in relationships.
Why your divinity is already inside of and a part of you.
The next step past trauma work that will catapult you into a magnetic life: activation.
The importance of creating a resilient nervous system and how to do that.
Why you really do get to ‘have it all’ and define what your ‘all’ is.
The Aligned Expansion Program and how it will help you create a magnetic life.

Quotes:

“When you are born into this world, you are, in a sense, connected to your deepest divinity. – And over time, – we start to pull away from that deep divinity.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:08:22]

“Your divine feminine or your divine masculine is already inside of you. You were born into it.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:09:37]

“You have to be able to feel and build resilience in your nervous system and be okay [with] feeling uncomfortable.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:14:04]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

The SHIFT

Lilly Rachels
Lilly Rachels on TikTok
Lilly Rachels on Instagram
Lilly Rachels on LinkedIn
Watch Lauren's FREE Find Your Soulmate Mini Training
Lauren Zoeller
Lauren Zoeller on Instagram
Lauren Zoeller on TikTok
The Aligned Love Collective
The Aligned Love Podcast

E9: Lilly Rachels - Mastering Mindful Communication in Dating & Relationships Feb 26, 2024

Lilly Rachels specializes in helping men build strong relationships through effective communication. She joins us to share insights from her training, client work, and personal relationships empowering listeners with key skills to resolve conflict, listen with intention, and deeply connect. Tune in to hear Lilly’s insights on what it means to be in an aligned relationship, how to use a feedback loop to engage in arguments, and what to avoid to keep healthy communication alive. We delve into the importance of understanding what is behind your communication style, and how to apply mindful communication to the dating world. Our hope for this episode is that you leave with more curiosity about yourself, your partner, and the potential connections that await in the dating pool. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

Introducing Lilly Rachels and her journey from personal trainer to psychotherapist to coach.
Lilly sets the intention for this episode of the podcast: that listeners leave with more curiosity.
Her journey to exploring the mind body connection and psychotherapy.
Why effective communication is so crucial to navigating the dating world.
How Lilly and her partner approach communication and conflict.
The importance of understanding why you communicate the way that you do.
How to use a feedback loop to engage in disagreements.
Two things that are going to kill your communication.
Differentiating between verbal and non-verbal communication and how to capitalize on both.
How to listen while you are dating.
What it means to Lilly to be in an aligned relationship.

Quotes:

“If you learn how to communicate properly, even ruptures in partnership, or in friendships, bring you closer together.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:11:33]

“A lot of people think that they know how to communicate, but they don’t know how to listen.” — @LillyRachels [0:13:58]

“Assumptions and misunderstandings; those are the two things that are going to kill your communication.” — @LillyRachels [0:20:58]

“People tell you who they are if you listen to them.” — @LillyRachels [0:31:28]

“Truly, that’s the bread and butter when it comes to being in partnership; [being with someone who] you can be yourself with and not feel like you have to hide.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:39:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

E8: The One About Micro-Cheating & Healing Emotional Unavailability Feb 19, 2024

Today on The Aligned Love Podcast, we are breaking down micro-cheating and emotional unavailability. You’ll hear all about what micro-cheating is, how it differs from blatant cheating, some indications and examples, and why it is an indication of emotional unavailability. We delve into where emotional unavailability stems from before we discuss what you can do if your partner is engaging in micro-cheating or if you are the one doing it. Lastly, we'll guide you through an exercise aimed at illuminating the reasons behind either accepting unacceptable behavior in relationships or engaging in such behavior yourself.

Key Points From This Episode:

Why we are diving deep into micro-cheating.
What micro-cheating is and some examples and indications of it.
The difference between micro-cheating and blatant cheating.
Why micro-cheating is an indication of emotional unavailability.
Where emotional unavailability stems from.
The importance of taking time to figure out where you are emotionally unavailable.
A comparison between micro-cheating and addiction.
Questions to help you understand why you accept bad behavior in partnership/do it yourself.

Quotes:

“When it comes to micro-cheating, we’re not talking about the blatant cheating tactics, actions, or behaviors that someone would execute when we think of normal cheating. We’re talking about those tiny little micro-actions that start to add up.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:07:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Veronica Rottman on Instagram

E7: Veronica Rottman - Nurturing Your Feminine Essence for Profound Connection Feb 12, 2024

Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we have the incredible somatic healing expert and yoga instructor, Veronica Rottman, here to discuss how we can nurture our feminine essence to create profound connections. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about how Veronica’s family inspired her to get into her line of work, why, as a woman in particular, you need to understand your body, and how Veronica helps her clients connect to their feminine essence.
We then delve into how menstrual cycles are a roadmap to understanding the female body before we discuss why you need to be aware of your own, especially when dating. So many women have been forced to be more ‘in the masculine’ when needing to be providers for themselves and even for children, and in this episode, our guest tells us how we can embody our feminine sides when in this position.
Finally, Veronica tells us what her definition of aligned love is and why it has so much to do with rhythm. Thank you for tuning in and learning more about connecting to your feminine essence! Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast so we can reach more listeners.

Key Points From This Episode:

The importance of understanding the language of your body, specifically as a female.
How to connect to yourself as women.
The power of using your menstrual cycle when dating.
How to use your menstrual cycle to step fully into your feminine power.
How to continue to embody the feminine while having to be in your masculine as a provider.
Why rhythm in relationships is Veronica’s definition of aligned love.
What’s next for Veronica and where listeners can learn more about her work.

Quotes:

“When you come back into your body you get to heal the parts of you that were fragmented as a woman because you were forced to pretend that you were in a completely different nervous system [and body] than you actually are.” — Veronica [0:08:01]

“Our whole community thrives when we honor each other’s [menstrual] cycles.” — Veronica [0:16:47]

“Trauma makes you have to try harder even when you’re doing simple tasks.” — Veronica [0:29:26]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Waking Womb

Watch The “Find Your Soulmate” Mini Training

Dr. Bruce Lipton on Instagram

E6: The One Where I Answer Your Burning Questions Feb 05, 2024

Take a seat for a genuinely insightful episode of The Aligned Love Podcast, where your host Lauren Zoeller does a tell-all; answering your burning questions! We are going to be diving deep, discussing topics such as the divine feminine, learn how to get over someone who isn’t interested in dating you and discovering ways to truly get your partner to step into his masculine while you embrace your divine feminine. Lauren leaves no question unanswered, covering all bases! Don’t miss next week’s episode with a very special guest, so make sure to stay tuned.

Key Points From This Episode:

How do you get over someone who doesn’t want to date you? Or, how do you stop having feelings for someone who continues to hurt you, over and over again?
The importance of healing your nervous system.
Letting go of resentment and anger toward an ex when co-parenting is on the table.
We delve into the concept that emotions have attached energetic, vibrational frequencies.
Her top three heartache (and heartbreak) tips.
How do you know if returning to an ex is a good or bad thing?
Examples of what it feels like to be connected to your divine feminine.
How do you know the difference between mothering a significant other versus being a lover?
How to handle stepping into your feminine with a man who isn’t very masculine.

Quotes:

“Until you do the work, to heal the parts of you that need someone else to validate your existence, validate your worth, make you feel loved, and like you belong and that you are worthy of receiving love. Until you heal those parts of yourself you will continue to struggle with thinking and ruminating about someone who doesn’t want to date you and you will continue to stay in partnerships that are not truly, deeply, what you desire because your nervous system is so condition to need that hit of external validation.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:02:35]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Arja Hendrikx

Sexual Archetype Quiz

Dr. Bruce Lipton on X

Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.

Dr. Joe Dispenza on Instagram

Dr. Joe Dispenza on X

Dr. Joe Dispenza

The Aligned Attraction Framework: How to Find Your Soulmate Without Sacrificing Your Career or Spending Time on Data Apps

Christin Henke on Instagram

E5: Christin Henke - Cultivating Female Friendships in Your 30s and Beyond Jan 29, 2024

Nurturing platonic love is often overlooked and seen as less important than romantic partnerships. Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, Lauren’s best friend, Christin joins her to discuss cultivating female friendships in your 30s and beyond. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the ups and downs of Lauren and Christin’s friendship, their relationships with each other’s partners, why they had to fight for their friendship, and more. We delve into how to navigate introducing partners into friendships before discussing disagreements in friendships. Lauren and Christin go on to share the importance of healthy boundaries, community and nurturing all relationships, and being in (platonic) love with each other. Finally, our guest tells us what aligned love means to her and reminds us to lead with love in everything we do. The bottom line of today’s episode is that we need aligned love in friendship too. So if you want to hear all about this beautiful platonic relationship and how to cultivate your own, press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

The importance of fighting for platonic relationships.
Why we need aligned love in friendships as well.
The dangers of jealousy when a friend finds romantic love.
The difficulties of how to navigate introducing partners into friendships.
Our relationships with each other’s partners.
Finding the balance between advising friends against bad decisions and having boundaries.
How to handle disagreements in relationships.
What we have learned from our relationship with each other.
Being in love with platonic friends and what we can learn from polyamory.
The importance of community, nurturing all relationships, and leading with love.
Christin tells us why aligned love is safety for her.

Quotes:

“A romantic relationship is not designed to meet all of our needs and the amount of intimacy and support and connection a person requires to be healthy and vibrant and fully expressed – is a group effort.” — @matchasnob [0:11:28]

“A lesson I’ve been learning is how – [to] continue really loving someone and not withdrawing from someone because our beliefs aren’t the same.” — @matchasnob [0:37:08]

“We don’t honor [friendship] the same way that we do partnership but [it] is a partnership!” — @matchasnob [0:48:07]

“Alignment and safety go hand-in-hand for me. Typically, the feeling of misalignment is the same feeling of threat or discomfort or disease or things that indicate to you that you don’t feel completely safe.” — @matchasnob [0:54:39]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Christin Henke

Christin Henke on X

Dr. Annie Zimmerman on Instagram

E2: Dr. Annie Zimmerman - Liberating Your Relationships from Childhood Shadows Jan 22, 2024

Today on the Aligned Love Podcast, we are joined by psychotherapist Dr. Annie Zimmerman to dive deeper into liberating yourself from insecure attachment styles to create the aligned, reciprocal love you desire!
In this episode, you will hear what inspired Annie to become a therapist, ways to shift your attachment style, and how understanding your childhood can help you navigate your romantic relationships. We even discuss how to reflect when you’re triggered and Annie tells us why reciprocity is her definition of aligned love. Finally, our guest tells us all about her incredible book, Your Pocket Therapist. You don’t want to miss this one, so press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

Annie’s intention for today: realizing that our childhood relationships inform our adult ones.
What inspired her to become a therapist.
Attachment theory simplified.
Ways to shift your attachment style to a more safe and secure attachment.
Using what you know about your childhood and attachment to navigate partnership.
How to reflect in a moment when you’ve been triggered and the importance of therapy.
Why reciprocity is an essential part of an aligned relationship with someone.
How being triggered causes you to approach things from a place of selfishness.
The importance of holding space for your partner and their childhood.
Annie’s book, why she wrote it, and why she’s so passionate about it.

Quotes:

“Just because you have identified your attachment style doesn’t mean that it’s your attachment style for life or your attachment style with everybody.” — Dr. Annie Zimmerman [0:11:11]

“Being curious is such a huge theme of my book because it’s so important to be able to reflect without judgment about ourselves. That’s how we gain self-awareness.” — Dr. Annie Zimmerman [0:18:34]

“The aim of my Instagram, my TikTok, and [my] book is to educate people in a way that feels easy to digest but without losing the complexity.” — Dr. Annie Zimmerman [0:26:44]

“The way we show up in relationships as an adult is directly informed by how we were in relationships with people as children. If you want to understand, [change, and improve your relationships], the real key is to have awareness of how your childhood shaped you and how those patterns are still showing up in your relationships now.” — Dr. Annie Zimmerman [0:02:12]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Annie Zimmerman

Dr. Annie Zimmerman on TikTok

Dr. Annie Zimmerman on Threads

Your Pocket Therapist

E1: The One Where I Begin Again - Welcome to The Aligned Love Podcast Jan 22, 2024

Welcome to the inaugural episode of The Aligned Love Podcast with your host Lauren Zoeller. It has been a long time since Lauren has been behind the mic, and she is back with a brand-new experience for listeners. In this podcast, you will learn the art of attracting nourishing love, aligning your life, uplifting your most profound connections, and creating the life you deserve.
Lauren is an accomplished somatic dating and relationship expert, speaker, and author with a strong dedication to helping individuals navigate the complexities of relationships. Lauren’s journey is a testament to her commitment to healing, both personally and in the lives of others, and her impact stretches far beyond her professional achievements. In this episode, Lauren reveals her story over the last couple of years, her motivation behind re-launching this podcast, and her personal journey to where she is today.
Hear how her life was picture-perfect on the outside, but on the inside, something was missing. From her life crumbling down around her to her relationship troubles and her path to somatic therapy, she shares finding the missing piece in her happiness. Discover her exploration of somatic therapy and somatic experiencing as she unravels survival patterns and default behaviors that hinder our sense of safety.
Don't miss this enlightening episode that promises to shift perspectives and inspire holistic well-being. Tune in to take your first step to healing and finding the love you deserve with Lauren Zoeller!

Key Points From This Episode:

Lauren’s background and transition to The Aligned Love Podcast.
Recounting the experience of hosting The Balanced Boss Podcast.
Living like a “highlight reel” and the impact on Lauren’s wellbeing.
What it was like navigating the tumultuous dating scene at that time.
She shares how her perceived success came crashing down in a day.
The motivation behind her life shift and launching the podcast.
Her introduction to somatic therapy and somatic experiencing.
Survival patterns and default behaviors that prevent us from feeling safe.
Committing herself to somatic therapy and the benefits she felt.
Past conditioning and survival patterns of her nervous system.
Finding the path to safety and security in her body.
What Lauren hopes to achieve with the podcast.

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