So What Now? with Carla and Dex

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EP 196: Manifesting Friendships as Adults and Creating Healthy Boundaries feat May Tsehay Aug 30, 2023

Show notes

In this chaotic and crazily fun episode, Carla sits down with May Tsehay; her long-time friend and producer who helped take Carla's brand and company to the next level. Their discussion leads to topics that range from setting healthy boundaries, mental breakdowns, and how much love you have for someone if you pick them up from LAX. Tune into this episode as the duo have honest dialogue surrounding what it means to be a good friend while making sure to take time for yourself.

(14:05) - Friendships and Alignment

(28:24) - Creating Spaces to Be Your True Self

(38:44) - Battle Between Mind and Body

(48:29) - Work Life: Balancing Respect and Relatability

(55:15) - Listener Question: How To Maintain Healthy Boundaries but Still Support Others

(1:03:35) - Bible Verse - 1 Thessalonians 5:11

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Charlamagne The God Episode: EP: Find Your Purpose in Your 30's feat Charlamagne tha God

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EP 195: AN Unexpected and Unpredictable Life from Parental Separation to Medical Diagnosis feat Kay-Lani (viva_glam_kay) Aug 22, 2023

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Having tried reaching out to this guest for years to join the podcast, Carla was finally able to sit down with make-up artist Kay-Lani (viva_glam_kay) at the perfect moment. Kay-Lani has been in the spotlight for years but today she sat down with us to discuss her upbringing, her start in make-up, and the life she has built for herself and her family. Throughout all of her hardships growing up, Kay-Lani and Carla shed light on how therapy and her relationship with her family and children has shaped her into the person she is today.

Topics on the show:

The Journey of having a child with precocious puberty

Body Positivity and Internet Trolls

Kay-Lani's Journey in Make-Up

Vida with Viva: Kay-Lani and Family

Therapy in Hispanic Culture

Balancing Empathy and Healthy Boundaries

Bible Verse - 2 Corinthians 12:9

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Guest

IG: @‌viva_glam_kay

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EP 194: "They Always Say The Ex is Crazy" Feat. THE EX Aug 15, 2023

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You've also probably been told that THE EX IS CRAZY…Well lets talk to the ex!

Now we have to navigate the tricky waters of "co-parenting" ourselves. Today's episode of Pivot with Purpose offers a raw and authentic conversation with my special guest, Erica - my son's brother's mom - as we share our personal journey towards co-parenting. Our commitment to nurturing a bond between our boys may have been fraught with challenges, but it has led to a healthy relationship that we're proud to share.

A crucial part of our journey involved healing, understanding, and finding common ground. Erica and I don't shy away from discussing the heartache that comes with a complicated family dynamic, and how setting boundaries was key to our healing process. We also break down how we consciously removed chaos from our lives, each taking our unique path towards growth and strengthening our resolve to foster a positive environment for our boys. You'll learn how we both have grown from our past experiences, and how they shaped the women we are today.

Lastly, we will explore the power of generosity and the joy of utilizing our unique gifts. Drawing strength from the Bible verse Luke 6:38, we delve into how choosing love over hate has been instrumental in our healing process. Erica, now a successful culinary chef, sheds light on her journey and the fulfillment she finds in her work. This episode is a testament to the power of patience, understanding, and mutual respect in co-parenting. So join us for an honest and open conversation about navigating intricate family dynamics.

"sometimes when we talk, you relive things, right, but as part of the healing process"

"I take things personal and, um, yeah, I gotta know that, um, everything doesn't deserve a reaction"

06:05 - Co-Parenting Concerns and Finding Reassurance

0:15:00 - The Beginnings of a Beautiful Bond

0:20:29 - Shared Healing and Smiling

0:26:19 - Crazy Reactions and Mutual Understanding

0:31:47 - Intentional Growth and Dealing With Chaos

0:36:14 - Success, Power, and Communication

0:42:35 - Dealing With Control and Parenting Issues

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EP 193: Focusing on Self-growth After Break-ups with Mandii B. Aug 07, 2023

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Mandii B. (See, The Thing Is…and WHOREible Decisions Podcasts) is in Orlando and of course she had to come by the studio! Both women have been through very tough break ups that were so different yet so similar. If you've heard the term " she wont leave him until she is ready" then you will understand why they stayed in their relationships longer than they should have.

Mandii has decided to become celibate after this breakup and her and Carla discuss how celibacy Is different between the both of them because it has been over a year and Carla is still not ready to date.

There is a deep talk about narcissism and toxic manipulative relationships and how they can be so similar yet so different and how to support a friend through it.

Join the conversation and laughter as these long-time friends show how growth comes in ANY form.

(4:32) - Being Unapologetically You

(10:43) - Picking Yourself Up After the Pandemic

(13:37) - Finding Strength in Being Alone

(34:56) - With Age Comes Wisdom

(44:03) - Vow of Celibacy

(51:52) - Thriving While Single

(57:17) - Bible Verse - Proverbs 18:24

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EP 192: The Story of Realtor Linda Jokbengboon: Refugee Camps, Gambling Addiction, and Growing up Asian Aug 01, 2023

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Imagine not belongin anywhere, no real home, no identity, no country that you can legally call home. Linda Jokbengboon aka Linda Sells Orlando started life in a Thai Refugee Camp. After moving to America, she struggled to assimilate with every community including her own.

In this episode, Carla and Linda discuss Linda's upbringing filled with gambling addiction, raising her siblings during college, and how a misdemeanor stopped her from gaining citizenship. They shed light on how Linda was able to overcome her hardships and become successful in real estate.

(5:59) Carla and Linda discuss how they met

(7:21) Being a refugee from Thailand

(10:43) Dad's Gambling Addiction

(19:33) Troubles of gaining citizenship and traveling abroad

(29:41) Growing up with Identity struggles

(40:35) Aligning with your purpose

(55:43) Linda and Carla answer a letter with the topic "Dumb real estate questions from a beginner"

(62:32) Bible Verse - Psalm 128:2

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Guest

IG: @‌lindasellsorlando

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EP 191: The Impact of Liars, ADHD and Bipolar Medication Struggles, and Finding Strength in Faith Jul 25, 2023

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Listen in as we dissect the intricate web of lies and their implications, both for the individual and those around them. This exploration also extends to the consequences of fake kidnappings, attention-seeking behavior, and their possible link to mental health issues.

Prepare for a lively debate about the characteristics that define high-value men and women. We explore the importance of a strong moral code, leadership values, faith, and discipline. This conversation also highlights the dangers of an overemphasis on superficial success and material possessions, and the need to strive for internal success.

Additionally, we shed light on the challenges faced by a trans woman who was refused treatment by a gynecologist and the current debate about who owns periods and womanhood.

The latter part of our discussion touches on the struggles with ADHD and bipolar medication, focusing on Carla's personal experience with Adderall. We navigate through the consequences of the 'highs' and 'lows' of medication and the importance of consistency. You will also get insights on financial literacy, budgeting, and the various avenues for accessing education. Don't miss out on this episode, where we talk about real-life experiences and challenges, providing a platform for you to learn and grow.

Bible Verse: Psalm 23: 1-4

(0:00:06) - Pivot With Purpose (0:07:45) - Faked Kidnappings and Their Consequences (0:19:00) - Impact of Lies and High Value (0:24:30) - High Moral Values and Success (0:33:51) - Nursing School and Medication Mishaps (0:38:02) - ADHD and Bipolar Medication Struggles (0:46:01) - Trans Woman Challenges Cis Women (0:58:45) - Listener Letter: Unwanted Pregnancy and Responsibility (1:07:46) - Finding Strength and Comfort in Faith

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Guest

IG: @‌justpales

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EP 190: Behind the Laughter: A Heart-to-Heart with Kristen and J-Rod about Marriage, Blended Family, and Children with Autism Jul 17, 2023

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Join us on a journey filled with laughter, real-life experiences, and powerful insights as we welcome Kristen and J-Rod, the couple behind the hit podcast 'And Then We Had Sex'. These two share an incredible story about how they launched a successful podcast, and their unique approach to navigating relationships and intimacy when you're older. This episode is a deep dive into the idea of 'Pivot with Purpose' and how Kristen and J-Rod carved their path on their own terms.

As we dig deeper, we engage in an enlightening discussion about common reasons for failed relationships. Brace yourselves as we reveal that cleanliness tops the list, even surpassing financial issues! We also touch on the negative impacts of social media overuse on relationships, illustrated by a viral video that underscores the importance of being present. This conversation doesn't shy away from exploring the challenges of dating, blended families, and the therapeutic potential of podcasting for couples.

(0:00:06) - Pivot With Purpose

(0:06:13) - Contributors to Failed Relationships

(0:10:46) - Podcasting and Relationship Stories

(0:23:46) - Podcasting as Therapy for Couples

(0:30:04) - Challenges of Dating and Blended Families

(0:42:36) - Power of Prayer, Finding a Church

(0:47:19) - Benefits of Tithing and Podcasting

(0:53:31) - Maintaining Consistency in Freelancing and Creativity

(1:06:36) Bible Verse - 1 Thessalonians 5:11

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https://www.instagram.com/kristensivills/?hl=en

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EP 189: Birth Doulas, Manifesting Pregnancy, and Finding Your Purpose without Kids Jul 11, 2023

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This week, Carla is joined by Wendy and Charlene; two doulas with a purpose to educate and support women (and their families) throughout their pregnancy journeys. Join the trio as they navigate what it means to be a doula and how to handle pregnancy as a woman of color.

(7:06) Doula Description

(12:29) The trio discuss when Wendy found her purpose

(14:45) The ladies discuss doula with kids vs. doula without kids

(22:26) Discussion on why the education from doulas is important

(39:06) Carla opens up about her miscarriage

(56:36) Wendy and Sharlene explain the do's and don'ts of finding a doula

(1:06:08) Where to hire Wendy and Sharlene

(1:06:36) Bible Verse - 1 Thessalonians 5:11

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Wendy

South Florida/Central Florida/Virtual Doula

http://www.marsdoula.com

IG: @‌marsdoula

Sharlene

Houston Area Doula/Virtual Doula

https://www.soundsoflifedoula.com/

IG: @sharlene_doula.sol

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EP 188: Ask And It Shall Be Given ft Fabianna Ferrarini Jun 26, 2023

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This week, Carla is joined by fitness mogul Fabiana Ferrarini, join them as they dive deep into their personal journeys of resilience and growth, from challenging relationships and overcoming abuse to finding strength through motherhood, they share their powerful stories of transformation. Topics like the importance of self-love, the impact of faith, and the power of embracing one's purpose were also discussed along with:

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(3:01) Carla gives a hack on sliding in DMs

(12:10) Fabiana shares her experience as a teen mom,

(21:00) Carla shares why she would rather physical abuse than verbal/emotional abuse

(30:00) Fabiana shares how she escaped the abusive relationship

(43:05) Carla and Fabiana talk MONEY

(50:05) Fabiana shares how being the first latina on the cover of Oxygen changed her life

(1:00:00) Fitness save Fabiana's life

(1:13:06) Carla gives Fabiana her flowers for being transparent and real online

(1:19:35) They answer an advice question about entrepreneurship

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EP 187: From Crack Baby to Superstar Comedian feat Akeem Woods Jun 20, 2023

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This week, Carla is joined by comedian Akeem Woods. Join them as they dive into a discussion about work ethic, and the sacrifices required for success. Carla opens up about her experience as a CEO emphasizing the importance of loving what you do. Akeem shares his journey as a comedian, including his decision to come out later in life. The conversation touches on topics such as authenticity, family dynamics, and the impact of personal experiences on one's comedic style. Tune in as Carla and Akeem explore the power of resilience, and finding one's purpose amidst life's trials.

(5:01) Carla and Akeem have the universal debate of green vs blue bubbles

(6:38) Not all Instagram comedians deserve a podcast

(9:56) Pros and cons of a 9-5 job, and why some days they would like to go back

(17:04) The importance of authenticity in your content

(24:21) When did Akeem know he was gay?

(33:40) Akeem shares his story about coming out a year after his mothers passing

(44:31) Akeem shares his story of being adopted, after living in a traumatic household

(57:00) Some people are just inherently mean

(1:01:58) Bible Verse: Psalm 118:8

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