She Said What?

Teach People How to Treat You Podcast

This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. We also have a book club that focuses on sex/relationships, feminism and self love! Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

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Binaural Beats

40. The Top 12 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in Highschool Oct 24, 2022

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If your sex education in school was as bad as mine, this episode is for you. In this episode, we talk all things consent, virginity, orgasms and blue balls??? We also get to hear some tips from the SSW listener community! Educated sex is fun, pleasurable and shame-free, so let’s get up to speed.

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The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book)

This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute.

Resources:

Come As You Are - Emly Nagoski

VUSH - Lube & Toys & Other Fun Things

MAX BLACK (AUS, stores or online)

39. How to Be More Confident & Get The Things You Want Oct 17, 2022

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THIS IS THE CONFIDENCE BOOST YOU NEED. In this episode, through a mix of encouragement and tough love, you'll learn how to increase your self esteem, have a better relationship with your body and how to put your authentic self out there! Let this episode be your turning point.

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The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book)

This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute.

Resources:

Imogen Ivy (Insta)

Riley Hemson (Insta)

May Ridts (Insta)

Jamie Zella (Insta)

38. Deconstructing Your Beliefs (My Story of Leaving The Church) Oct 10, 2022

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This episode is for the following people:

• someone who wants to unlearn toxic beliefs & mindsets they’ve been taught (by family, the church, or even just general societal norms that are harmful)

• someone who wants to re-establish their overall mindset on themselves and the world; establish their true values

• someone who feels lost after leaving the church (wants to fill the gaps)

• advice for those who have different beliefs to their friends & family + how to manage these relationships

Disclaimer: This episode is not here to encourage you that this is the path YOU should take but to educate on deconstructing and how to even begin this process. I hope that the conclusions you may come to after listening to this episode speaks to YOU and gives you the framework to explore YOUR truth. I do not wish to offend anyone and know that this is just my personal journey, as I hope to encourage and help others in this process.

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The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book)

This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute.

Resources/Creators to Follow

Values Quiz

God is Grey - Youtube

God is Grey - Instagram

The Naked Pastor - Website

The Naked Pastor - Instagram

37. Everything YOU Need to Know About Bisexuality Oct 03, 2022

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Do you have questions about bisexuality? Maybe you're bisexual or thinking you might be. Maybe you're in a relationship with somebody who identifies as bi and you simply want to educate yourself. In this episode, we discuss the reality of being bisexual: why it's something to be proud of, coming out, common mental health struggles, intersectionality, threesomes and more!

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This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute.

Resources

Bi by Julia Shaw

Greedy by Jen Winston

36. Sex & Relationship Advice w/ Alyssa Ljub Sep 19, 2022

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Joining us is Sex and Relationship Coach, Alyssa Ljub, answering the super juicy anonymous questions sent in by you guys! In this episode, we touch on: exploring your sexual self & sexuality without shame exploring relationships with women for the first time (as a woman) open relationships/non-monogamy religious beliefs and sex ethical porn how to stop having pain during sex enthusiastic consent & communicating your wants/needs in the bedroom

Find Alyssa Ljub - Guest

Find Alyssa Harper - Host

This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PLUS, we will be running a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info soon to come)!

35. How to Initiate Sex with Your Partner Sep 04, 2022

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Have you felt like you're never the one to initiate? Do you want to have sex more, but you don't want to wait around to be asked? Has your partner asked you to initiate more but you don't know how? If you said yes to ANY of these questions: this episode is for you!

We all want our partners to feel wanted, but being the one to initiate sex can be challenging if you're not used to doing it. You might think it needs to be a grand gesture, but it doesn't! In this episode, I explain the different types of desire and how to apply it to your relationship (understanding this changed my sex life)! Plus, I give you 10 different ways to initiate sex, whether you're confident in this area or not. It's time to try something new and prioritize your pleasure!

This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, we will be running a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod.

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34. Oversharing Q&A (kink, relationships, church trauma + advice) Aug 28, 2022

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Want to know all my secrets? Not related to me? Great! Because in this episode, you'll get to know me a little better (or a lot better) and hear my advice on the messages you guys sent in! Enjoy hearing me overshare for an hour. Buckle up.

This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod.

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Resources:

Fight The New Drug

Greedy by Jen Winston

33. Sometimes You Need a Flop Era Aug 23, 2022

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Have you ever tried to do it all at once? Have you ever been overwhelmed by the layers of everything you're trying to accomplish? This episode is about acknowledging the current season you're living in so that you can get the most out of your every day life. In this episode, you will get a step-by-step journalling practice that will help change the way you manage your goals and passions.

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32. Visualization Will Change Your Life (Here's Why!) Aug 06, 2022

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Have you ever not gone for something because you "just can't picture yourself doing it"? So many of our daily choices come back to visualization and the lens we see ourselves through. It's time we wipe the smudge off that lens and see the potential that truly lies within us. In this episode, we discuss the science behind WHY visualization actually works and how you can incorporate it into your life to create the life you've always wanted. We discuss automatic negative thoughts and how to change the narrative because you deserve a live filled with decisions made out of self confidence, not fear.

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