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31. How to Have Bigger and Better Orgasms Jul 28, 2022

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Have you ever wondered... What even is an orgasm? Does it just feel good or are there other benefits? Why do I sometimes feel sad after sex? Well, today you get the answers! In this episode, we also cover how your pelvic floor, your hormones and even your self-confidence can affect your orgasms. Get ready to enhance your sex life!

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Ways to Give and Donate to Planned Parenthood

The Three Biggest Implications For Black Women From Roe V. Wade's Fall

30. How to Genuinely Enjoy Your Period Jun 18, 2022

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This episode is all the inspiration you need to shift your mindset from "ugh I'm useless on period" to "my period is an opportunity to connect with myself". We talk about how to break out of the mindset of being in constant harvest and how to accept and even appreciate our cyclical ways of being. I share with with you all of the best foods to eat to support your hormones, the best exercise to do on your period, how to journal & reflect in this phase and how to create a work/school schedule that doesn't leave you feeling drained. It's time to shift our patriarchal beliefs around our periods and begin to lean into all the beautiful benefits they give us!

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Resources:

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti

Why Does The FDA Recommend 2000 Calories

29. Stop Having Boring Sex | How to Spice Things Up Jun 03, 2022

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Being in a healthy long-term relationship is a beautiful thing. But sometimes, after things are comfortable and consistent, we can start to lose the excitement towards the sex life we share with our partner. This is often when people start questioning if the relationship is as good as they thought it was. It can be hurtful to not feel wanted and frustrating to see this spiral. But instead of assuming that a change in the sex life means the relationship has to end, why don't we talk about some alternatives. In this episode I give you an understanding of WHY this can happen and WHAT you can do to spice things up and get that feeling of novelty back.

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Resources:

Where Do Kinks Come From?

Frenchie - My fave condoms (hyaluronic acid ones are amazing) & lube!

Dame - great toy selection (US & Canada)

Max Black - all things sexual wellness (Australia)

Normal - Australia, US, UK, Canada, New Zealand

28. What To Eat in The Different Phases of Your Menstrual Cycle + Q&A w/ Moonli May 23, 2022

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Joining us in this episode is Moonli, a Hormone and Period Nutritionist (how cool is that)?? She is teaching us all about eating for the different phases of your menstrual cycle, why food is such a key factor in balancing our hormones and how to implement this in a way that isn't overwhelming. She also answers ALL of the questions you guys sent in:

What even happens to my hormones in my menstrual cycle?

What if I have PCOS/Endometriosis/irregular periods? Is it different? Can I still sync my cycle?

What if I'm on the birth control pill/the hormonal or copper IUD? Does that change things?

Are HIIT workouts wrecking my hormones?

Does my food have to be organic? Which foods can I eat to get rid of cramps/acne/bloating?

Also, is bloating something to worry about?

And more!

This girl is a powerhouse and you guys are going to LOVE this episode.

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Learn about Moonli’s Cycle Syncing Course

Dirty Dozen List (Foods to Buy Organic)

Books/Apps:

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti

Woman Code - Alissa Vitti

Beyond the Pill - Dr. Jolene Brighton

The Period Repair Manual - Lara Briden

Taking Charge of Your Fertility - Tony Weschler

Our Hormones, Our Health - Susanne Esche-Belke and Suzann Kirschner-Brouns

Read Your Body (app)

Flo (app)

27. How to Genuinely Be Your Authentic Self | Interview w/ Blue May 13, 2022

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In this episode, we have the opportunity to hear from Blue; a queer, non-binary, HILARIOUS friend of mine. Blue teaches breathe work/meditation, AND works with an organization called The Man Cave that helps facilitate conversations with young men to help them deconstruct and reform their ideas around masculinity. Blue has an inspiring story of healing, challenging their beliefs and becoming their most authentic self. Blue challenges me to be a better human on a regular basis so I KNOW this episode is going to fuel you with joy, excitement for life and the permission to explore everything life has to offer.

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Alok on Instagram (gender non-conforming reference mentioned by Blue)

26. Women in Science, Living in a Man's World & The Truth About IUD's | w/ Roxanne Nai'a May 06, 2022

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Joining us today, we have Roxanne Nai'a who is a Science Communicator and Social Psychology Doctoral Student who studies processes that impact women's experiences in the world; things like sexism, objectification of women and sexualization. In this episode we get to hear what it's like to be a women working in science and all about the incredible studies she has done (even Cardi B had something to say about it)! We also hear about her journey with the birth control pill, the IUD and how she travelled to Canada for an IUD that wasn't available to her in the USA (if you are someone who menstruates in the USA, you NEED to hear this)! This episode is packed with empowering knowledge and the kick of feminism that we all need.

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Racial Disparities in Postpartum Pain Management

Gender Bias in Pain

25. Letting Go of Judgement for a Healthier Relationship with Yourself and Others May 02, 2022

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You probably don't think of yourself as a "judgemental person", when truly, most of us are (in one way or another). In this episode, I walk you through changing your mindset, so that you may live a life that aligns with YOUR values and allows others in your life to do the same. When we can adjust our automatic judgemental thoughts about others, we have better relationships, more confidence in ourselves and live happier lives. Challenge yourself today with this episode!

24. 10 Ways to Stop Anxiety From Holding You Back From Trying New Things Apr 18, 2022

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This episode is here to challenge your thinking around anxiety and give you the tools to help you get through the fears you have about trying new things or progressing in life, whether that be in your job, in relationships or just simply putting yourself out there. A little bit of nerves are normal when we're trying something new but if it's starting to feel heavy and they're stopping you from creating the life that you want, it's time to pause and work through this. In this episode I'll give you my 10 greatest tips to treating anxiety, you'll hear some of my own stories with it and you'll leave feeling empowered to change your patterns of thinking for good.Resources:Natural Ways to Lower CortisolThe End of Mental Illness by Dr. Daniel Amen

22. Cycle Syncing Part 2 | Q&A w/ Eli Blanco Mar 08, 2022

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In this episode, we have the lovely Eli Blanco (samegirl.eli) back again as we dive deep into your questions about Cycle Syncing. Now that you know what this is all about (if you don't, make sure to listen to Episode 19 before this one), it's time to answer your questions on how things like the birth control pill, using an IUD (copper or hormonal) or having irregular periods might affect your ability to Cycle Sync. We talk about how to optimize your sex like in each phase of your cycle, which tasks to focus on in each phase for better productivity AND how coffee might be affecting your hormones (don't worry, it's not all bad news)! This episode taught me so much about my body and applying these things to my life has been incredibly empowering ― I know you guys are going to love it!

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Resources:

Books

Women Code - Alissa Vitti

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti

Be Period Positive - Chella Quint

Apps

Flo App (Period Tracker)

My Flo (Period Tracker by Alissa Vitti)

Website/Downloads

Food Chart for Each Phase

Period Tracking Book

21. A Cheat Sheet for Your Best Glow Up Yet Feb 26, 2022

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Don't have time to listen to a bunch of podcasts but still want to get my #1 tips and have your best glow up yet? You're in the right place. I'll be sharing all of my secrets from fitness to mindset, to sex and sexuality, with specific brand recommendations and all of the resources listed below! Basically, here’s everything I would tell myself at the start of my self growth journey that I intentionally began about 2 years ago when I was at my worst and I decided that something needed to change. I tried a whole bunch of things to get to where I am now and THESE are the things that WORKED. This is your cheat sheet from one bestie to another.

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Resources:

Books

Atomic Habits by James Clear

How Not to Die by Dr Michael Gregor

The End of Mental Illness by Dr Daniel Amen

In The Flo by Alissa Vitti

Skin Care

Dermalogica

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