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EP260 – What It's Like to Reclaim a Vibrant Sex Life After Trauma with Dr. Holly Richmond Dec 14, 2021

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Welcome to episode 260 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Holly's new book “Reclaiming Pleasure”, looking at ways to combat shame and guilt and how sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality.

Dr. Holly is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples and gender-diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She counsels a broad range of clients including Hollywood’s elite and prominent corporate clientele and offers consultation services with psychotherapy interns and other therapists.

Dr. Holly works from a sex positive approach, meaning: “all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable.” She is committed to helping her clients feel better—mind and body—not just behave differently.

Her therapeutic relationships are built on strong rapport, trust, non-judgment and acceptance, though she is directive and results oriented, not simply supportive. Her objective is to help clients meet their goals and move through the therapy process as quickly as possible.

Dr. Holly’s forthcoming book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is a groundbreaking examination of both somatic and psychological factors in survivor’s’ recovery.

In this episode, you will hear:

Why Dr. Holly decided to write her book “Reclaiming Pleasure”

Looking at ways to connect people easier
Analyzing the issue of trauma re-enactment
Understanding the difference between trauma re-enactment and a healthy sex life
Looking at ways to combat shame and guilt
How many people struggle with performance anxiety

Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses and their relationship to trauma
How we can learn to reconnect with ourselves
Looking at exercise couples can take part in together
Learning to schedule sex with your partner for a better sex life
How sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality

Find Dr. Holly Online

https://drhollyrichmond.com

Sex Quiz for Women
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EP259 - How to Improve Your Sex Life After Dealing with Trauma with August McLaughlin and Jamila Dawson Dec 07, 2021

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Welcome to episode 259 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss triggers and how are they defined, looking at the relationship between sex and trauma and understanding the importance of practicing self-compassion.

Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT is the co-author of the innovative book: With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. A licensed therapist with an expertise in sexuality, trauma, and relationships, Jamila has been a sex educator since 2005 and has practiced psychotherapy since 2015. She is the founder and owner of the psychotherapy practice Fire & Flow Therapy. She has collaborated with Buzzfeed, MEL, Playboy, Harper’s BAZAAR and other media outlets and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Girlboner and Sex with Dr. Jess. Jamila uses her Instagram & Facebook accounts to share practices, tools, and reflections on sexuality, relationships, and mental health. She divides her time between Las Vegas and Los Angeles.

August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, a true story-driven podcast where she explores sexual empowerment, relationships and pleasure. Her articles have been featured by Cosmopolitan, the Washington Post, Salon and more. Her 2018 release, Girl Boner, was featured in the New York Times and called “equally fun, risqué, and informative” by Publishers Weekly. She has presented at colleges, recovery centers, and the CDC headquarters, attended the 2016 United State of Women summit as a nominated changemaker and gave a TEDx talk on her experience overcoming an eating disorder she was diagnosed with while working abroad in the fashion industry.

In this episode, you will hear:

What are triggers and how are they defined?
How Jamila and August and became interested in this line of work
Looking at the relationship between sex and trauma
Understanding that issues around trauma are common
Looking at how fight, flight and fawning works with trauma
What is fawning and how is it related to trauma?
The importance of practicing self-compassion
Analyzing pleasure traps
Understanding that you deserve to have pleasure
Finding peace in alternative sexual behaviors

Find Jamila M. Dawson Online

https://jamiladawson.com

Find August McLaughlin Online

https://augustmclaughlin.com

Sex Quiz for Women
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EP258 - How Eating Disorders Affect Your Sex Life with Robyn Goldberg Nov 30, 2021

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Welcome to episode 258 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Robyn Goldberg to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between food and sexuality, looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause and why Robyn decided to write her new book, The Eating Disorder Trap.

Robyn Goldberg is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified eating disorder registered dietitian supervisor, certified intuitive eating counselor and a Health at Every Size® (HAES) clinician. Robyn has spent years learning from some of the best in the industry and continues to seek professional mentoring, attends innovative conferences and stays abreast with the most current literature.

Robyn began her career at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles as the in-patient dietitian in the Department of Cardiology. For the last 23 years, Robyn Goldberg has had a private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, where she specializes in medical conditions, eating disorders, disordered eating, dual diagnosis, pre-pregnancy nutrition and women seeking fertility treatment.

Robyn consistently educates professionals, students, and RDNs about how to best incorporate intuitive eating and Health at Every Size® approaches into their work and lives. She teaches nutrition classes on a wide array of topics for the Motion Picture Industry’s Wellness Program.

Actively involved in the nutrition and body positive community, Robyn is also a member of organizations including: Association of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH), Academy of Eating Disorders (AED), International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp) and the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians (IFEDD). She also serves as a Nutrition Consultant for the Celiac Disease Foundation. Robyn also leads several body image and eating disorder groups in sober living settings in the Los Angeles Area.

Robyn is a nationally renowned contributing author registered dietitian nutritionist. She has been quoted as an expert in various publications including The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Diabetes Forecast, Shape Magazine, Fitness, Oxygen, Life & Style, Natural Solutions, Beverly Hills Weekly and Today’s Dietitian. In addition, Robyn has also served as an eating disorder specialist on the nationally televised show “The Insider” and an expert on The Associated Press (AP).

In this episode, you will hear:

How is our relationship between food and sexuality related?
Why it’s important to look at the relationship between food and sexuality
How our hormones can change if we restrict them for a long time
Looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause
Who is at risk of developing an eating disorder?
What to do if you don’t like your body
Connecting with your partner on this issue to improve your sex life
Looking at how Robyn works with people to feel better within their own bodies
How dieting can have a negative impact on eating disorders
Why Robyn decided to write her book, The Eating Disorder Trap

Find Robyn Goldberg Online

https://theeatingdisordertrap.com

Sex Quiz for Women
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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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EP257 – Exploring and Celebrating Trans Sexualities with Lucie Fielding, MA Nov 23, 2021

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Welcome to episode 257 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lucie's new book: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments, looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity and how we can cultivate erotic embodiment.

Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) is a white, queer, non-binary femme, and a Resident in Counseling, practicing in Charlottesville, VA. She received her Master’s in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute (2018). Lucie also holds a PhD in French from Northwestern University (2008), where she specialized in eighteenth-century literature, histories of sexualities, and erotic literature.

Her background in literature and history attunes her to the many ways that image, metaphor, and cultural scripts shape and inform the narratives we carry with us as we move through the world as well as how these narratives inscribe themselves on our bodies. She is the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (Routledge, May 2021).

In this episode, you will hear:

How Lucie became inspired to write: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments
Looking at the politics of desirability
The benefits of trans for trans dating
How biases that exist in society effect who we see as desirable
Looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity
How we can cultivate erotic embodiment
Overcoming the unrealistic expectation that trans people should disclose upfront
How the frameworks in Lucie’s book can also apply to cis people

Find Lucie Fielding Online

https://luciefielding.com

Sex Quiz for Women
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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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EP256 - Is It True That All Women are a Little Bisexual? with Dr. Mimi Hoang Nov 16, 2021

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Welcome to episode 256 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around bisexual people, the pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same-sex relationship and looking at the ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bisexual community.

Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, and asexual (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable.

Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, a feature in Jan Dee Gordon's LGBTQ of Steel photography book, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.” She currently works as a Staff Psychologist at Loyola Marymount University (LMU), Clinical Supervisor of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center at Airport Marina Counseling Services, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series and Bi+ Women's Space, a virtual support group for bi+ women in Los Angeles.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Dr. Mimi became interested in this line of work
The ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bi community
Overcoming the mental health challenges around coming out as bi-sexual
How many people try to invalidate bisexuality as a pathway to becoming gay or lesbian
How the percentage of people in the US identifying as LGBTQ+ has doubled since 2012
Looking at the common misconceptions around bisexual people
Why it’s important to understand that bisexuality is not experimentation
The pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same sex relationship
Recommendations for communities and support groups for bisexual people

Find Dr. Mimi Hoang Online

https://www.drmimihoang.com

Sex Quiz for Women

https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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EP255 - Common Myths and Misconceptions About Bisexual Men with Zachary Zane Nov 09, 2021

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Welcome to episode 255 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Zachary Zane to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Zachary’s journey of coming out as bi-sexual, the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality and recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality.

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture.

He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because let’s be real, we all know that already.

He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane’s fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating.

He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention. He was formerly a digital associate editor at OUT Magazine and a contributing editor at Pride.com, Plus Magazine, and The Advocate Magazine. He's been featured in numerous other publications as well, including Playboy, NBC, SELF, Allure, Dazed, AskMen, Slate, Into, Them, Cosmopolitan, Hornet, NewNowNext, LGBTQ Nation, MerryJane, and Bustle.

As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months.

He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama), and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage's "Savage Lovecast."

In this episode, you will hear:

Looking at Zachary’s journey of coming out as bi-sexual
Understanding that being bi-sexual is not just a steppingstone to being gay
How many straight people experiment with bisexuality but are ashamed to talk about it
The misconceptions that exist around bisexual men
How the gay community isn’t always welcoming to bisexual men
Looking at the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality
The ways in which coming out as bisexual can affect a person's self-image
Recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality
The role that monogamy and non-monogamy plays in bisexual relationships
Looking at the development of the bisexual community in cities like New York and Los Angeles

Find Zachary Zane Online

http://zacharyzane.com

25 Ways To Increase Your Desire

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Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio

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EP254 - Revving Up Men's Sex Drive Nov 02, 2021

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Welcome to episode 254 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where Dr. Nazanin Moali discusses ways in which men can rev up their sex drive, how sexual desire differs between different genders and ways in which you can address and overcome issues of when your partner starts to drift from you sexually.

In this episode, you will hear:

The challenges men face with low libido
Looking at the misconceptions that men always being ready and wanting sex
What is sexual desire?
How sexual desire differs between different genders

Looking at hyperactive sexual desire disorder
The biological factors that can affect men’s sexual desire
Ways in which eating disorders can affect sexual desire
Overcoming issues of when your partner starts to drift from you sexually
How to best communicate with your partner when you lose the sexual spark

The ways in which becoming a parent can affect libido
Looking at medications that can lead to low libido through side effects
The relationship of inter-personal factors and how the quality of your relationship relates to the quality of your sex

Find Dr. Nazanin Moali Online

https://sexologypodcast.com

25 Ways To Increase Desire

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EP253 - If You’ve Lost Your Libido, Here’s How To Get It Back! with Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat Oct 26, 2021

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Welcome to episode 253 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, MD to the podcast. In this episode, we talk about the physiological causes of low desire, ways you can support your partner if they suffer from low libido and challenging the myth that your sex drive will decrease as you get older.

Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, MD, aka "Dr. Brandye" is touted by patients and peers alike as one of the best OB/GYN physicians and surgeons. She has been published in respected medical journals and is frequently called upon by local and national TV, print, radio, and online media to give a fresh perspective and new information on women’s health trends.

Dr. Brandye is a practicing physician and founder of Brio Virtual Gynecology - a reproductive wellness company focused on helping women to maintain their reproductive health, through workshops, telemedicine consultations, and second-opinion visits. Dr. Brandye is the chief medical advisor of DrBrandyeMD.com, where she helps women embrace their feminine essence, so they feel good both inside and outside of the bedroom. She is seen as the leading expert in women’s vitality and libido health.

Born and raised in South Central Los Angeles, CA, Dr. Brandye earned her undergraduate degree from the University of California at Riverside, her Doctorate of Medicine degree from the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA/Charles R. Drew University of Medicine and Science, and completed her residency training at Rochester General Hospital in Rochester, NY. She is currently practicing in Pasadena, CA

In this episode, you will hear:

What are the physiological causes of low desire?
Looking at available FDA approved medication for women suffering from low libido
Analyzing the “Pink Pill” and its effectiveness
Understanding the importance of good sleep and general well-being for increased libido
Learning how to best communicate these issues to your partner
Ways you can support your partner if they suffer from low libido
Knowing when to and not to try and instigate sex with your partner
Challenging the myth that your sex drive will decrease as you get older
Why great sex is for people of all ages not just younger people
How women who have great sex, can become more successful in their careers
Looking at Dr. Brandye’s coaching and what she offers

Find Dr. Brandye Online

https://drbrandyemd.com

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EP252 - Sex Myths You Need to Unlearn with Dr. Lindsey Brooks Oct 19, 2021

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Welcome to episode 252 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lindsey Brooks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lindsey's journey into sexual empowerment, the importance of giving women space to explore their bodies and looking at masturbation in a new light.

Dr. Lindsey Brooks is a sex therapist turned sex educator. She has her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, is a certified sex therapist, and has been providing therapy since 2005.

She is thrilled to now be bringing her knowledge beyond the therapy room with Sexual Empowerment School where she teaches women how to build their sexual self-knowledge, develop pleasure-positive mindsets, and learn sexual communication skills through her on-line workshops and resources.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Lindsey started her journey into sexual empowerment
Looking at the things Lindsey wished women knew more about when it comes to sex
How many women are ambivalent to sexual pleasure
The importance of giving women space to explore their bodies
Looking at masturbation in a new light and why it’s not something to be ashamed of
How masturbation can be a great tool to explore your sexual pleasure
Why masturbation isn’t inferior to sex
Challenging the myth that women should orgasm through penetration
What counts as a “normal” libido or sexual desire
The importance of framing conversations correctly to best communicate with your partner
Ways you can avoid getting into a nagging cycle or arguments with your partner
How you can plant your own seeds in the garden of desire

Find Dr. Lindsey Brooks Online

https://www.sexualempowermentschool.com

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EP251 - Goddess' Guide to Cultivating Sexual Health with Dr. Stephanie Estima Oct 12, 2021

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Welcome to episode 251 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Stephanie Estima to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stephanie shifted her life balance to a better place, the ways in which our diet and sexual health are connected and recommendations to help correct some mistakes you may not realize you’re making.

Stephanie is a board-certified Doctor of Chiropractic with a special interest in metabolism, body composition, hormones, and functional neurology. She’s the host of an award-winning podcast, and author of an international best-selling book. She’s also the founder of a membership program that discusses nutrition, fasting, exercise, hormones, and the female psyche.

Stephanie is currently building out a certification program for doctors and healthcare providers outlining cell metabolism, exercise physiology, brain aging, and best clinical practices for female patients.

In this episode, you will hear: