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EP330: Can Exploring a Fetish Improve Our Relationship? with Niki Davis-Fainbloom Apr 18, 2023

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Welcome to episode 330 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Niki Davis-Fainbloom. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around fetishes, dealing with internalized shame and understanding that not all fetishes are sexually connected.

Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations.

Her writing has also been featured in publications such as Mind Body Green, Cosmopolitan, Refinery 29, and Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.

She is an expert in fetishes, and much of her coaching involves working with folks with unique desires as well as navigating ethical non-monogamy and pleasure.

In this episode, you will hear:

What inspired Niki to delve into this line of work
Looking at the common fetishes people may desire
Understanding the misconceptions around fetishes
Analyzing uncommon fetishes such as sneeze fetishes
The importance of knowing you’re not alone if you do have a fetish
How you can communicate to your partner you have a fetish
Why there can be a lot of internalized shame around fetishes
Communities you can seek out to bond with others around this
How not all fetishes are sexually connected
The importance of consent around fetishes

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EP329 - The Truth About Masturbation While in a Relationship with Dr. Eric Sprankle Apr 11, 2023

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Welcome to episode 329 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Eric Sprankle. In this episode, we discuss Eric’s upcoming book on masturbation, the misconceptions about masturbation, and how masturbation positively and negatively affects relationships.

Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He is also the Director of the Secular Therapy Project, a subsidiary of Recovering from Religion.

Dr. Sprankle received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Xavier University in 2009, completed a postdoctoral fellowship in sexual health at the University of Minnesota Medical School in 2011, and was awarded tenure in the Department of Psychology at Minnesota State University in 2017.

He currently leads the Sexual Health Research Team at Minnesota State examining sexuality, stigma, and secularism, and has published articles on the effects of sexually explicit material, older adult sexuality, and sex worker affirmative therapy.

In this episode, you will hear:

Looking at the content of Eric’s upcoming book around masturbation
How Eric became interested in this subject area
The misconceptions around masturbation
Analyzing the differences between low, moderate and excessive masturbation
Is masturbation beneficial for your wellness?
Understanding the context of masturbation
Masturbating healthily while in a relationship
Making sure your value systems around masturbation align with your partners value system
Communicating to your partner about masturbation
How masturbation can positively and negatively affect relationships

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EP328 - Carnal Weapon: The Power Struggle of Sex in Relationships with Veronica Cisneros Apr 04, 2023

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Welcome to episode 328 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Veronica Cisneros. In this episode, we discuss the weaponization of sex, the need for mutual pleasure in a healthy relationship and learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement.

Veronica Cisneros is a force to be reckoned with. With a sparkling personality and a passion for helping couples feel heard, loved, and respected, she's transformed countless marriages from feeling like they're on life-support to thriving in a place of deep understanding and connection.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, marriage coach, course creator, retreat host, and podcast host, she's leaving her mark on the world – and inspiring her listeners to live their best lives.

But it wasn't always this way. For years, Veronica found herself losing herself in an effort to meet the needs of her family. She was on the brink of losing her marriage – until she took the reins and fought back. Today, she's a true inspiration – and proof that with hard work and dedication, anything is possible.

In this episode, you will hear:

What does it mean to weaponize sex?
How many women don’t feel seen in their relationship
Understanding what sex represents to your partner
Ways of not letting day to day life get in the way of sex
The need for mutual pleasure in a healthy sexual relationship
Knowing the best place to start to improve sex in a relationship
The importance of communication and improving communication
Learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement
What you will experience at Veronica’s retreat

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EP327 - The Connection Between Love and Sex in Healthy Relationships with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Mar 28, 2023

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Welcome to episode 327 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship, boosting your sexual confidence and learning to step into your erotic self.

Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.

Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back.

Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.

In this episode, you will hear:

Maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship
Understanding the dynamics of sex and intimacy
Cultivating self-awareness and relational safety
How you can repair damaged parts of your sex life
Ways in which you can boost your sexual confidence
Tools you can use to better communicate with your partner
Cultivating the positive aspects of your relationship inside and outside the bedroom
Learning to step into your erotic self

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EP326 - Overcoming Self-Consciousness and Embracing Your Desires with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe Mar 21, 2023

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Welcome to episode 326 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe. In this episode, we discuss sexual self-consciousness, incorporating your spirituality into your sex life and recommendations to improve your sexual confidence.

Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is an alum of Florida State and UNCG, a North Carolina native, and a proud Ravenclaw with first-generation college student status.

A lover of the beach who also loves to read books, her passion for research began during her undergraduate studies. Earning her PhD in Community Health Education has enabled this public health professional's goal facilitating positive sexology narratives about Black people rather than deficit-based ones; she strives to create representative teams that consider community needs when disseminating important information from academic journals into meaningful impacts on population health outcomes.

With over 10 years of research under her belt, she is a wheelhouse of knowledge when it comes to sexuality education. As someone deeply embedded in the community and highly active on social media, not only has she been able gather insights from conversations with Black women - but all these experiences also inform her ongoing studies.

Furthermore, this expertise also sees her playing an important role by sitting on editorial review boards for two well-respected journals dedicated to comprehensive sexology counsels and sexual wellness as a whole.

In this episode, you will hear:

What sexual self-consciousness means
Recommendations to improve your sexual confidence
Overcoming the shame spiral that can happen around sex
Looking at studies of black women’s sexual experiences
How many black women defined pleasure as liberating
Analyzing the different sexual experiences of queer and straight people
Understanding the difference between pleasure and orgasm
Incorporating your spirituality into your sex life
The importance of sexual mindfulness

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EP325 - Rising to the Occasion: The Pros and Cons of Erectile Dysfunction Medicines Mar 14, 2023

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Welcome to episode 325 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP. In this episode, we discuss the benefits of using a cock ring, readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older and how toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women.

Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP, is an Emergency Medicine Specialist and enthusiastic cock ring user for more than 10 years. In his extensive career as a medical professional, he’s seen inadequate resources dedicated to evaluating men’s sexual health issues.

He believes that before there’s erectile dysfunction, there’s erectile fitness. His interest in regenerative medicine and his passion for regular playful lovemaking and its health benefits inspired him to start FirmTech Inc., the world’s first smart male underwearables company.

FirmTech focuses on developing products that encourage fun, enjoyable sex for men of all ages, while empowering them to better understand their health and the impact of medications, supplements, personal habits, vices and exercise on their sexual wellness. We want to give you the data to make the best decisions for your sex health.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Elliot became interested in this line of work
The benefits of using a cock ring
Pros and cons of using medication such as Viagra
The relationship between erectile dysfunction and anxiety
Readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older
Looking at other sex tech products available to improve erections
How toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women
Why you shouldn’t compare your sex life to pornography
The way in which sex toys for men are slowly becoming more mainstream
Changes you can make such as exercise or better diet to further improve your sex life

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EP324 - Breaking the Silence: A Journey of Healing from Sexual Shame with a Queer Muslim Activist Mar 07, 2023

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Welcome to episode 324 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amir Yassai. In this episode, we discuss Amir’s journey of coming out as a queer Muslim, understanding how sexual shame develops, and recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered.

Amir Yassai is a queer Muslim unicorn who won’t shy away from any conversation. Comedy is at the center of everything he does.

Chatting with Amir will be like chatting with an old friend with a lot more sass. He actively battles against racism, transphobia, and body shaming in the queer community.

His courage in speaking out against discrimination and prejudice makes him one of the most engaging people you could talk to: like catching up with your best friend, but spicier!

In this episode, you will hear:

Looking at Amir’s journey as a queer Muslim
Overcoming the challenges of coming out as a queer Muslim
How Amir’s relationship with his parents has evolved over the years
Understanding how sexual shame develops
How Amir found a community to help with the challenges of being a queer Muslim
Knowing that it’s ok to have a variety of sexual attractions
The importance of having open communication with your sexual partners
Steps you can take to heal from sexual shame
Why it’s healthy to have sexual fantasies
Recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered

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EP323 - Exploring New Frontiers: The Benefits of Role Play in Your Sex Life Feb 28, 2023

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Welcome to episode 323 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amanda Louder. In this episode, we discuss ways you can start to engage with roleplay, learning to better communicate with your partner, and how small things like props can make a big difference.

Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who empowers women to embrace their sexuality while maintaining strong relationships with themselves and God.

In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and stepmom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 13-22. Amanda knows just how challenging it can be for modern Christian families to find a balance between traditional values and leading an enjoyable life filled with meaningful connections.

When she's not coaching or catering to her family, you'll likely find Amanda at home enjoying one of her favorite hobbies: reading books, watching sports games involving loved ones; fishing by the lake; or camping under open skies surrounded by nature.

Learn more about what motivates this inspiring woman through @AmandaLouderCoaching on Instagram, her 'Sex For Saints' podcast series dedicated to talking about sex and marriage topics or visit her website.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Amanda became involved in this line of work
Learning to better communicate with your partner
The importance of building and expanding on trust in a relationship
Tips for ways you can start to engage with roleplay
How small things like props can make a big difference
Making sure that consent is working both ways
The benefits of the stop light system for engaging in new sexual activities
Maintaining Christian values while having a good sex life

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EP322 - Getting to Know Your P Spot ft Dr. Stefan Buntrock Feb 21, 2023

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Welcome to episode 322 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Stefan Buntrock. In this episode, we discuss prostate orgasms and stimulation, the sex toys available to reach a prostate orgasm, and we also analyze the g-spot and female ejaculation.

Dr. Stefan Buntrock is a board-certified urologist in Göttingen, Germany. He is a Fellow of the European Board of Urology (FEBU) and received European certification as a sexologist and Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine (FECSM).

For many years as chief physician at the Klinik am Kurpark, one of the largest German rehabilitation clinics for urology, he treated many patients after radical surgical interventions on the prostate and bladder.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Dr. Stefan became interested in this line of work
Looking at the research for men reaching orgasm through prostate stimulation
Analyzing sex toys and vibrators for men
Understanding the g spot; Does it exist? How does it work?
Is the g spot linked to female ejaculation?
Understanding what a prostate massage is
Looking at the the types of stimulation that can cause a prostate orgasm
How this area is very mis-understood by the wider public

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EP321 - How To Experience Your First Breath Orgasm with Anya Laeta Feb 14, 2023

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Welcome to episode 321 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Anya Laeta. In this episode, we discuss the different ways people can experience an orgasm, understanding orgasmic breathing and we also hear a sample of a breathing exercise from Anya.

Given that sex was a shameful and taboo topic in her culture, it is miraculous that her attitude toward sex was always one of curiosity and experimentation. Despite being open-minded and comfortable with sex, all her relationships would start lacking passion and excitement after about a year or so. Anya would conclude that she “fell out of love” and looked for a new relationship. Only to repeat this pattern all over 6-12 months later.

Not being able to have a sustainable, fulfilling sex life made her feel like a failure in relationships. It is this challenge that ultimately led her to study human sexuality, Tantra, and relationship psychology.

Understanding how her erotic mind, desire, arousal, sexual polarity, and anatomy work empowers Anya to create and re-create excitement, passion, and sexual satisfaction every day.

She would be lying if she said it’s easy. Yet, having a roadmap to do it made it possible for Anya to have a happy and sexy long-term relationship that she was dreaming about.

Today Anya is honored to help you meet your erotic potential and relationship needs.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Looking at the different ways people can experience an orgasm

· Analyzing emotional v genital-based orgasms

· Looking at the way your brain wires your thinking of orgasms

· Understanding the concept of embodiment

· What is orgasmic breathing?

· Can anyone practice orgasmic breathing?

· How you can learn to deepen your breath to enhance your sexual experience

· A sample of a breathing exercise from Anya

· Using music to enrich your breathing exercises

· The different ways vulva and penis owners can benefit from these exercises