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Learning to Love Yourself — Especially When Dealing With Loss, Grief & Shame Nov 29, 2019

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Dr. Ava Cadell shares her journey from growing up in an orphanage and surviving assault to working as a nude model and becoming one of the most well-known sexologists in the world. Ava shares a wealth of information from her personal and professional journeys including: Exercises to heal from loss and self-hate How to find your own voice after trauma Strategies for loving yourself after the loss of a loved one Neuro-based exercises to break familiar patterns Strategies for improving body image and rewriting scripts about love, sex and intimacy The role of art therapy, empathy and meditation in healing Free resources for those dealing with grief, loss and shame This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Learning to Love Yourself Especially When Dealing With Loss, Grief & Shame 00:00:05 - 00:05:18 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can us tonight. Hey Hey it's just Riley here your friendly neighborhood sexologist. I am without the love of my life partner in crime. Mister Brennan wear today because because I am down in our head to think about that Austin Texas for a clinical training so yesterday hosted a training session on how how lenses and lessons from consensual non monogamy research can be applied to all relationships including monogamous relationships ups and one of the folks who was a part of this clinical audience mostly therapists and counselors and educators in the field who. I really don't have anything to teach but she was there for her. Cu Credits is Dr Eva KC and Asec Certified Sex Counselor. The author of eleven books and and the founder of Love All g university and that's love univ- dot Com and Eva. I've admired did your work long before. I think I'd even heard the word sexology. So it's pretty humbling to have you in a training but also to just sit and chat with you and we have a a similar story so thanks for being here. Oh thank you for having me now. You have been doing this a while. I would say so over twenty five years and how did you got your start. Well my stock came from adversity because I was born in Hungary during revolution smuggle to an orphanage in Austria Austria raised by strict nuns. Who made me believe that sex was evil and my body was so dirty that it would be a model send then if I touched myself and so I grew up a very confused? Teenager had horrible relationships and when I hit rock bottom I decided I need to find out everything I could about love relationships and sex and so where where do you start. How old were you? Well I started in London where I became a nude model? Yes and you're really beautiful in the in these well but I did that out of you know rebellion really. I say I'm a fallen in Catholic however I consider myself quite spiritual and I believe in Karma but I don't like religion that uses guilt to control people mm-hmm because I believe that love and sex the most precious gift we can give to somebody who's worthy of it exactly and so so nude model auteuil is that well no I was. I was in nude model for the sun the Daily Mirror. They had a page three. Go if you ever heard of that. I also posed in a lot of men's magazines when I was very young and it was the only way I could make ...

Holiday Kink, Rewiring the Brain, ABDL & Setting Boundaries Nov 22, 2019

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Licensed therapist Carlos Cavazos is a firecracker and an incredible source of insights and easy-to-use advice for more fulfilling relationships and hotter sex. In this episode we discuss: How to take care of yourself first when you are accustomed to caring for others (personally and/or professionally) The difference between independence, inter-dependence, and co-dependence How to set healthy boundaries this holiday season How to overcome negative-filtering, so that you can be happier in love and life Exercises to support your mental health How to make the festive season kinky and have more exciting sex Sploshing and cake-sitting Adult baby diaper lovers (ABDL) How to reduce the stress of hyper-vigilance How to use Naughty and Nice lists to spice things up Follow Carlos on Instagram, Youtube, & Twitter. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Holiday Kink, Rewiring the Brain, ABDL & Setting Boundaries 00:00:05 - 00:05:03 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can us tonight. Hey Hey hope. Everyone's doing well out there today. We have a very special guests. And we're going to be talking about how to take care of yourself when you're taking care of others will be talking about mental. Health will be skipping over the pond to Kink and holiday king and more and do you hear him already. He's a shining star. This is Carlos Kvassov's sexologist therapist and host of ask Carlos on Youtube. Thanks for being here. Thank you so much for having me. I am like super excited guys. Doctor Jazz has been like a huge inspiration. So is excited with like this sex goddess recording. This so excited I think I'm just more the sex expert goddess. Not The sex. Go One day. I'M GONNA go back into the bedroom and be an actual sex gone. There's always sign. There's always I got. I got time now. So you're a therapist and you actually come from a mental health background. You do a ton of work in sexuality which I WANNA get to buy. Your background is in mental health. And you're working with people with severe mental illness. Illness in Texas. Can you tell us a little bit about kind of the a typical client. And you think you're working for an insurance company right so I mean. The typical clients are have a severe severe mental. Illness like schizophrenia. Any of bipolar major depression. But they are towards the like almost like really difficult to function kind of level so kinda borderline align on high functioning to severe functioning severely mentally ill. So sometimes they'll be they'll be able to have a conversation with you. Oh and other days. We'll just be so paranoid. It makes it a little difficult to work with that Scott Peterson's when you are working without population and you're mentioning that you have a lot of patients you're able to manage these case loads and I'm in a different vote. I like to work with groups. Mice strength isn't working in the one on one and I joke that maybe it has to do with my avoiding of intimacy intimate conversation just a personality thing right what you're good at and you know where your strengths lie. I find it emotionally draining. It is yeah. How do you manage taking care of yourself emotionally whe...

How the “Passion Interview” Can Improve Your Relationship Nov 15, 2019

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The Passion Interview is a tool used for couples to spark passion, improve understanding, and deepen intimacy. It’s designed to shift the conversation away from the mundane to the exploratory. Jess uses this exercise with couples in-session and in the 50 video online Master Class. In this week’s episode Jess and Brandon work through the questions together and discuss a range of topics: childhood memories, racial justice, privilege, the Obamas, retirement, routine, travel, regrets, physical affection and expressions of love. You can download the passion interview here. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How the Passion Interview Can Improve Your Relationship 00:00:05 - 00:05:02 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Just podcast. I'm your co host Brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half Dr Jess Hey. Hey folks. Today we are going to be sharing a tool with you and Brennan thinks the word tool is very funny and this is a tool that I use news with couples to guide a conversation. That's intended to enhance understanding and deepen intimacy and boost passion and this is called the passion interview. Now you've probably heard me talk about the fact that the death of passion in relationships occurs when your conversations become reduced to the mundane so specifically I talk about the three passion perils when it comes to communication your kids your work and your schedules now of course yes you have to talk about your kids and your family and you do have to talk about your work and your schedules. And there are people who derive a great deal of fulfillment and excitement from these three areas of our lives. But if all we talk about is kids and family work and what you're GonNa do tomorrow it can lead to too much predictability too much practicality Too Little Room for exploring and dreaming together either so I really want to underline that. I'm not saying you shouldn't talk about these three things. They will be a big part of your conversation. But you don't want your conversation to be reduced exclusively to these topics alone and when you think about when you first meet. Part of the initial attraction is related to who all of the sharing and learning. You're doing together when you learn something new or surprising about someone. They become more alluring. And so it follows that you wanNA keep these revelations coming you want to create opportunities to to surprise your partner with something they don't know whipple you even if you've been together five ten fifteen twenty plus years because there is always something new to learn and this this passion interview is meant to shift the conversation away from them in Dane but also to get you talking about things that are just more exciting and so this is an exercise. I use in session at some of my couple's retreats I I'll talk about the science of passion and what the research research says and how interesting conversations are actually essential to attraction and desire and then I have the couples go off on their own for thirty to forty five minutes and they complete this activity and this is also part of our fifty video core so this masterclass for...

In(Compatibility): When You Want an Open Relationship & Your Partner Doesn’t Nov 08, 2019

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How do you approach your partner about an open relationship? What do you do if one partner wants monogamy and the other wants consensual non-monogamy? How do you get your partner to talk about sex if they’re shy or uncomfortable? How do you deal with sexless marriages? Heather McPherson, M.A., LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST joins us to discuss her experience working with couples and singles as a sex therapist and founder of the Sexual Health Alliance. The Sexual Health Alliance has a Full Sex Therapy and Sex Education Certification Training program with all the CEs you need to apply to be AASECT Certified. SHA has several advance certificate training programs as will including CNM, Kink and more to be announced soon. This weekend in Denver, Colorado, join world renowned experts in the field for a Sexceptional Weekend to learn the basics and explore all the intricacies of what it means to be in a consensual non-monogamous relationship. Lectures by Dr. Eli Sheff and Dr. David Ley with special guests from the APA Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force and creators of the Orgy Story podcast. And next weekend in Austin, TX, join the Sexual Health Alliance for Adventures in Unicorn Hunting, Happy Endings and Other Advanced Skills for Open Relationships with Dr. Eli Sheff and myself! We'll take a deep dive into Monogamish and Open Relationships and discuss advanced concepts, case studies and treatment approaches in working with these populations. And, join Heather and myself for a special evening program on Saturday at 8pm at Respark Therapy for The Business of Sex. Follow the Sexual Health Alliance on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. To learn more about Respark Therapy, click here. Follow Respark Therapy on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. In(Compatibility): When You Want an Open Relationship & Your Partner Doesnt 00:00:05 - 00:05:05 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex with Dr. Just podcast I'm your co host Brandon. Where here with my lovely partner? Dr Jess Hey. You know what's on my mind. Talk to me. Talk to me like you're lying on your couch. Ti whatever you can. You do. rubberband man I I can but I'm not going to okay so ti. I've always been a fan big fantasy. Oh well I was. You were past tense. Well he's recently opened up about taking his eighteen year old daughter to the gynecologist every year. To make sure that they inspect her hymen to make sure that it's it's intact. Wow yes and apparently she signs a form giving him permission to find out whether or not it's intact. I'm I am surprised that a doctor is willing to do this in the first place. Because when it comes to the Hyman and inspecting the Hammond the World Health Organization Cautions Shinzo Against this. They're quite clear that inspecting the hymen is not a sign of so-called Virginity and I'll say first and foremost that virginity is a social construct. There is no one specific. Act that makes you a virgin or not a virgin. I always think about well. What if you have different types of sex? What if you are a lady who has has sex with another person WHO's lady to vaginas rubbing against each other doing that...

Sex & Disability – A Personal Journey Nov 01, 2019

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How do we define disability inclusively? How does disability affect sex and relationships? And why should we consider incontinence a public health issue? Mari Ramsawakh joins Jess and Brandon to reflect upon their personal story — from being bullied as a child to navigating ableism and fetishism to having the most fulfilling sex life imaginable. Have a listen and learn from their insights! In this episode, Jess & Brandon referenced Mari's article, Incontinence is a Public Issue - And Why We Need to Talk About It. Read it here. Follow Mari on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Sex & Disability A Personal Journey 00:00:05 - 00:05:01 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome onto the sex with Dr Jasser. Podcast I'm your friendly neighborhood sexologist Jessica Riley here with my partner in life partner in crime partner in love. Mr Brandon wear always happy. It'd be here today. We are joined by Mari. Romsey walk you are a model a creator. A writer and your work focuses on social equity and inclusion. And I've been reading that you teach workshops about able ism and you recently wrote a piece on incontinence as a public health issue and this this is something not only that is ignored that we don't talk about but it's not represented in almost any of the media. We consume except as the butt of jokes. Can you explain why incontinence should be considered a public health issue and share your insights with incontinence It can be a symptom him for a lot of people it can be a complication of of Many different things for a lot of People who get pregnant after childbirth They can experiencing continents Because of the whole experience of childbirth But also for people who experience any kind of paralysis from the waist down really any other kind of issues incontinence can be something that occurs Because of another reason so for myself I've SPINA bifida partial paralysis from the waist down so I- experiencing continents Because of my nerves. Don't all make it to everywhere where they need to be And as you mentioned it's off we are often the butt of the joke. I remember being a workshop and the workshop facilitator. We're talking was doing a thought exercise. Where you're like imagining yourself on the bus? And then they made a joke about They're being like the one. PC It on. I'm not see that nobody wants to sit in and as someone who experienced and continents and has experienced incontinence on public transit it was one of those moments that really took me out at the moment And made me feel really bad and I kind of felt really awful for the rest of the day and This was kind of before I ever really talked about incontinence publicly so I didn't really know what to do or how to feel And that's why I ended up writing that article. It was just like being an aunt in an anti impression workshop and coming away from it feeling like that was definitely something that didn't feel great. And so when we think about incontinence I think a a lot of people think of as you said postpartum continents but people live with incontinence their entire lives and this affects relationships that affects whether or not y...

How Does ADHD Affect Sex & Relationships? Oct 25, 2019

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How does ADHD affect sex, communication and intimate relationships? How do you break break the “parent-child” dynamic in relationships so you can focus on being partners and lovers? Psychologist and sex therapist, Dr. Ari Tuckman joins us to share insights from his research and latest book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship. His practical advice applies to all relationships, regardless of whether or not you have ADHD, so be sure to tune in! To find out more information about Dr. Tuckman's books, podcast, past presentations (and more), check out adultADHDbook.com. Dr. Tuckman also recommends checking out CHADD. For Canadian listeners, check out The Centre for ADHD Awareness, Canada and The Canadian ADHD Resource Alliance. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How Does ADHD Affect Sex & Relationships? 00:00:10 - 00:32:46 Relationship Advice you can use tonight you're listening to the sacs with Dr Jasser podcast sacks and of course I'm always curious and if something makes me curious I've kind of made a commitment to myself that I'll ask you about it or if something makes me chips today should be very interesting yes now before we get to that I wanNA talk about a topic we were talking about this morning on global. TV's the mornings Thomas to everybody and while I'm using your laptop all of your messages are popping up all of your calendar invites are popping up I think even your email was popping up partners probably going to be more focused on the anger they're feeling over them having checked their phone so much so that they might be unwilling to even listen at all because uncomfortable I'd rather come and tell you hey I'm feeling motivated to snoop and I don't want to do that so let me address what I'm feeling or what's concerning me so show so for folks who are not Canadian that's one of our national morning shows and of you wrote in with a query it says I checked my girlfriend's DM's how would you feel about snooping behind my back and reading my messages on the flip side I think there is some privacy I probably am going back on what I've said in the to address their own behavior so I guess we should start with we know it's not a good idea to check our partners DM's agree you know I was working on your computer yesterday and that's the way I've gone about things like if you want a you can use my computer you have access to my e mail you have access to all my messages because I don't us but I also think that there is a degree of privacy that I should be afforded where you don't need to look my messages but the truth is I don't really care when she left her phone unlocked and I can see she's chatting with her ex in a flirty way should I bring it up that's a that's a as they might feel their trust and their privacy has been violated they get so caught up in the other person's misstep that I think they might refuse to even begin yes because my laptop as we know I really need a new laptop I've needed a new laptop for a very long time it's been at least a year I think it's been close to two to three years and I refused interesting question do you check my dams I don't check your DM's I don't really feel like I need to you you tell me all about anyway what are you hoping ...

Expand Pleasure, Navigate Trauma, Manage Anxiety & Have More Fulfilling Relationships Oct 18, 2019

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Interdisciplinary sex therapist, Jamila M. Dawson, joins Jess and Brandon in to discuss how sexual pleasure can be part of healing from trauma, the elements of happy relationships, how to be emotionally present, strategies for responding to anxiety and rejection, power dynamics in therapy and much more. Jamila sees suffering not as a failure of your body or your mind but as responses to a culture that has damaging and unhealthy views on sex, religion, relationships, bodies, race, and gender. Her work is strongly rooted in somatic practices, self-discovery, social justice, and helping clients navigate not just their own relationships, but the cultures in which they live. Her success with clients is shaped by her pleasure-based, trauma informed framework and her concept of the 5 C’s (Curiosity, Creativity, Collaboration, Courage, Compassion). Her goal is to break down sexual stigma and help people design mindful, vibrant relationships. Listen to this episode to get started today! Follow Jamila on Twitter & Instagram. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Expand Pleasure, Navigate Trauma, Manage Anxiety & Have More Fulfilling Relationships 00:00:10 - 00:05:10 relationship advice you can use tonight you're listening to the sacs with dr jasser podcast sacks wins owning and considering your own power is sex therapist activist in speaker jamila m dawson from los angeles back to communicate having those difficult conversations are so fruitful in terms of the results well here to talk about those difficult conversation the last few days so that's thanks to the sex down south conference which is a conference down in atlanta and you attended a session are attended a session on for board i started i used to work in the film industry and the company i was working for was going under and one day saw an advertisement getting in navigating the the gentleman that was presenting disgust his his sexual about sex helping people you know they would come in and seem very ashamed and quiet in their body language was so kind of hunched over will feelings and how his desires is probably a better description of what he shared with the group and it was it was interesting it was and some of the strongest miss creative most powerful people i know are s types you create things run things and to that's an i relate to that our dynamics there's still kind of meth that if you're an ass type of your slave or even a submissive that your doormat that you have no will of your own curious about socks even though my family's rather conservative and sir working at the store and i just fell in love fell in love with reading about sex all day talking great great feeling definitely know i'm feeling i'm feeling good i'm feeling inspired him feeling like i've learned tape like a like MS dynamics that's the so for me it's not like i like very intense authority exchange and that feels uh all day long so why would somebody who is so powerful want to be an ass tight want to be a submissive want to play a slave role i'm in this person and to me when you know that you have value then you can give that to somebody if you know you have no value you've given nothing thanks for being here it's wonderful to be here thank you you are a s...

Porn as Activism, Fetishes & Parenthood As a Porn Star Oct 11, 2019

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Porn performer and Master Fetish Trainer, King Noire, joins Jess and Brandon to share his story as a community activist, porn star, hip hop artist and father. He discusses fetishes, sexual oppression and repression, and his journey in the worlds kink, porn, music and parenthood. King started working in porn when he was 18 and then he took a break before returning to the field as a producer alongside his life partner, Jet Setting Jasmine; he shares insights as to how his role and expectations have changed over the years. Follow King on Twitter, Instagram & Facebook. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!

Touchless Orgasms Oct 04, 2019

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Nikki Morgan shares insights to help you consider new ways to approach orgasm using your breath, movements, thoughts and more. She discusses ways to step outside your comfort zone and be more positive about your body. Follow Nikki on Instagram & Twitter. Be sure to also follow The Touch Experience on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. Also check out Nikki's upcoming events below, and find more info out on her website. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Touchless Orgasms 00:00:05 - 00:26:42 you're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight welcome them to the sex with dr jess podcast i'm your co host brandon where here with my lovely partner dr jess hey hey think ever stop calling you dr jess it's kinky doctor i'm gonna roll with it you know at the dinner table you can call me just but in bed i want dr sure problem i like you to say yes dr just no doctor okay more doctor dr stop stops dove before we get started a big thank you to our sponsors desire experience check them out clothing optional cruises clothing optional adult only resorts on the mayan riviera era at desire experience today we have the pleasure of being joined by clinical sexologist and immersive healing ealing artist nicky morgan thanks for being here oh thank you for having me i've been reading about your work i've been hearing about it through the grapevine grapevine you offer an experience called the touch loose orgasm i do i do now i've been in touch this car washing that's really cool i think in high school and may have had a touch of oregon you're allowed that you're so boxers count no probably close though oh wow now as much as i liked the touch loose car wash i can't imagine that it compares to touch us orgasms orgasms so can you walk us through what this experience looks like from the gecko sure sure what it looks like it doesn't look like much right so it just looks like someone is laying down in front of me and i'm waving my hands over them and sometimes their bodies convulsed sometimes they just let go sometimes they get very vocal it's it says numerous as orgasms in general but what's actually happening behind the scenes this is one i am assisting them in silencing their corp. body and i am working from the space of week come from pleasure we come from absolute love we come from infinite so when we silence is the observation of our physical then we are able to access other and other is so much more and so some people have experiences of leaving their body sometimes and it's not by no means do i give the orgasm i only allow or assist in in and helping them to observe the other so if there is a lots of trauma they'll be able to know exactly where that trauma lies is in their body we can identify it and they have the choice of surrendering to it or we can take take a break and return to it but ideally that universal energy that we all share the thing that animates us when we allow ourselves to surrender under to that it it allows for waves of of pleasure and and oneness and you know some very psychedelic like experiences and so is it just you in the room walk us through the entire experience so it is just me in the room when it's a private session touches or...

PechaKucha: Kink & BDSM with Honestly Nae Sep 27, 2019

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How do you practice safe, sane, consensual kink “in color”? What is fire-play? How do you navigate master-slave relationships? And how do you understand a submissive’s needs? Shanae Adams aka Honestly Nae, joins Jess and Brandon to share their insights as professional Dominatrix and kink educator. Follow Shanae on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Youtube. Also check out their sex-positive collaborative in Denver, The Chrysalis House. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. PechaKucha: Kink & BDSM with Honestly Nae 00:00:05 - 00:05:09 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice. You can use tonight Welcome to the sex with Dr Jeff podcast. I'm your co host Brandon. Wear and I'm here to didn't know if you're gonNA chime in or not Dr Jess I was waiting for. I'm with my partner the lovely doctor just isn't that what you usually say what I say but you. I thought you were going to chime in all right well. I'm here now and I want to give a big. Thank you to desire resorts. Desire Desire cruises check them out online at desire experience. Today we are so fortunate to be joined by honestly honestly nee sex educator professional. Dom Dom instructor you go by the name. Sire uh-huh explained to US Sire Siren King spaces 'cause I'm royalty and you will just me such so yes sire no sire more sire. Oh man it just got really seriously though remind Brennan of last night with me pretty much yeah she wants to be addressed now slightly different language but the same message now you are a Bedia educator a kink educator. You are going to be a sex therapist opening a practice very soon yes and you and I were in North Carolina. we determined that not says here not mid. Carolina north one the northbound four the North Carolina Conference Convention Ya going to mention it was amazing. It was brilliant. It was so well done and one of my favorite events at this conference was the Petra Coochie Night Ketchup Coochie Patrick Uji pitch couture pet set your coochie. Cut Your coochie with consent so Pacha Kucha is a presentation style where you show twenty images his each for twenty seconds and you talk for twenty seconds per image to tell a story and there were twelve presenters that night you were one of the presenters presented Kink in color yes celebrating black bodies in King spaces and I would love and Brennan has been requesting because he started to watch it on your instagram and your instagram is honestly may so he wants to see and hear the rest of it so you're going to run through your Petukhov Petukhov presentation for us all right now all right all right here we go are so I am honestly May Sexuality Professional by day which basically basically means that I host comprehensive education workshops talk about healthy relationships and consider in reproductive justice and contraception all the things right but but by night I am Sire Professional Dominatrix you will adjust address me as such in King spaces. Yes sire no sire more sire and and as a professional dominatrix. I get to help people live out their kinky or they bedia some fantasies in a safe way in I get to help people kind of explore that outside of themselves now. My journey started when I was in high school.

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