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The Sleep-Sex Connection Jul 06, 2021

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What do we do in our beds besides sex? Sleep, of course! Today we're going to talk about the relationship between sex and sleep.

A recent study of over 3,400 women noted that those "who did not routinely get restful slumber were nearly twice as likely to report sexual problems, such as lack of desire or arousal." While researchers don't know which came first—poor sleep or sex problems—their study provides food for thought. How might poor sleep impact our bodies and thus our sexual functioning?
How can regular sexual intimacy promote better sleep?
Some people fall asleep right after sex, and some don't. Which type are you and why do you think that is?
It's not always easy to secure enough sleep! Given the importance of quality sleep for our sexual intimacy and overall health, what tips do we have to help wives get a better's night sleep?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about sleep?

There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God's rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. – Hebrews 4:9-10

Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." – Mark 6:31

In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety. – Psalm 4:8

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Your Sexual Self Jun 22, 2021

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Today we are exploring the term "sexual self." Your sexual self is an unfolding aspect of who you are, woven into the fabric of your being.

What is identity and how would it relate to a sense of a wife's sexual self? Or in other words, how does your sexual self fit into the whole of who you are as a woman?
What affects how comfortable you are with accessing this part of yourself?
How do we integrate biblical principles into our sexual selves?
What can a wife do to discover or rediscover her sexual self?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about your sexual self?

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. - Psalm 139:13-14 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27

Resources

Breathe. Relax. Enjoy. How to Use Essential Oils to Increase Your Sensual Energy - CalmHealthySexy
Husbands, How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy - CalmHealthySexy
What Makes You Feel Sexy? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality - The Forgiven Wife
Has Your Sexuality Fallen Asleep? - The Forgiven Wife
Park Your "Sexy" in the Garage - The Forgiven Wife
Is Sex a Spiritual Experience in Your Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
Episode 29: Lies Women Believe, Part 1 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Get Your Sexy On - The Forgiven Wife
10 Things You Can Do to Feel Sexy This Weekend - The Forgiven Wife
Praying Before, During, and After Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous
Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon Burns is coming soon! Follow her on Amazon here.
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Prioritizing Sex Jun 08, 2021

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About this episode

Today we're going to talk about what prioritizing sex means, what it doesn't mean, what gets in the way of it, and what it might look like in the lives and marriages of busy women.

What does it mean to prioritize sex? And is that the phrase you think we should use, or should it be something broader – like prioritize sex and intimacy? And why is it important? Or is it important?
On the flip side, what doesn't it mean to prioritize sex?
It's fairly typical for sex to become less of a priority as a couple moves beyond the early years of marriage. When that happens, what's typically going on? What are some of the things that get in the way of making sex a priority?
What might "making sex a priority" look like in the marriages of busy wives and moms? And what are some of the things they can do to make that a reality in their lives and marriages?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about prioritizing sex?

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Mark 10:7-9

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Evaluating Sex Resources, with Phylicia Masonheimer May 25, 2021

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For many years, there were very few resources for Christians who wanted to learn how to have a healthy sex life. Now Christians can find more and more books, courses, and videos to help them. It's great to have choices, but sometimes it's hard to know whether or not a particular resource is good.

Today we're joined by Phylicia Masonheimer. She encourages women to discern God's truth and live out their faith boldly in every area of their lives—including the bedroom. We talk about why it's difficult to discern which resources are biblical and helpful, what to consider when evaluating a resource, and whether to use a secular resource and then share a few recommendations.

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From the Bible

Ephesians 5 NIV

What does God have to say about evaluating resources? The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow his precepts have good understanding. To him belongs eternal praise. – Psalm 111:10

In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God's word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil. – Hebrews 5:12-14 See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. – Colossians 2:8 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:5 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. – James 3:17-18 Teach me, Lord, the way of your decrees, that I may follow it to the end. Give me understanding, so that I may keep your law and obey it with all my heart. Direct me in the path of your commands, for there I find delight. Turn my heart toward your statutes and not toward selfish gain. Turn my eyes away from worthless things; preserve my life according to your word. – Psalm 119:33-37

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Improve Your Relationship to Improve Your Sex Life May 11, 2021

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About this episode

The marriage relationship overall can impact a wife's sexual interest. Having a good marriage with intimacy in many areas can make it easier to want and enjoy sex. In this episode, we're going to talk about things you can do in the area of nonsexual intimacy that can have a positive impact on your sex life.

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What does God have to say about improving your marital relationship?

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

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Listener Questions Apr 27, 2021

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In this episode, we answer a few of your questions.

"What are other ways to relax and enjoy my husband guilt free?"
"I don't like feeling like it's just sex.... Do I have a block? Was I wrong to be upset? How do I get myself [past] feeling like it's cold and not love?"
"I was hoping you could share some wisdom of what it's like moving in with your husband for the first time… what to expect…how to talk to one another about our soon to be sex life, and tips for a soon to be pastor's wife."
"What are some positive resources on sex and marriage that are geared toward men? I have been able to find good resources for myself, but my fiancé has not."

If you want to submit a question for a future episode, click on Ask a Question in the menu on our website and submit your query.

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From the Bible

"All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, 'God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.'" 1 Peter 5:5 (NIV)

"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21 (NIV)

Resources

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How Often Should You Have Sex Apr 12, 2021

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Take the Survey

As mentioned in the episode, Chris Taylor of Honeycomb & Spice is doing a survey on chronic illness and sex. We'd appreciate you taking the survey, so that she can address this subject well.

Click the link: https://tinyurl.com/chronic-survey

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About the Episode How often should a married couple have sex? You might think this would be an easy question to answer, but we think it's going to take a whole episode.

How do seasons of life affect the frequency of lovemaking, and what range of frequency do you think is appropriate for each season?
What other factors can affect frequency?
What does research say about consistent sexual intimacy?
How should you and your husband negotiate frequency?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about the frequency of sex?

Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. - 1 Corinthians 7:5

If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. - Deuteronomy 24:5

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Take Time to Titivate Mar 30, 2021

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titivate (v). – to make a person or thing neater or more attractive (Merriam-Webster).

To titivate is to make small enhancing changes or to make oneself look attractive. For some women, titivation is a daily habit. For others of us, it takes intention to remember to do it now and then.

Let's start by talking about why wives might titivate in the first place.
What are some reasons we might let titivation go?
How does titivation spill over into our sex lives?
What are some things women can do to enhance their appearance?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about titivating?

...she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics." - Esther 2:12 (and see Esther 2:1-18)

...as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. - Isaiah 61.10

Don't let your beauty consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes, but rather what is inside the heart—the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. - 1 Peter 3:3-4 (CSB)

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What You Need to Know About Sex Mar 16, 2021

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There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex.

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From the Bible

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

Resources

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Enjoying Sex Mar 02, 2021

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Sex therapist and educator Joyce Penner joins us to talk about learning to enjoy sex more. Why do some women have a hard time seeing sexual intimacy as a gift? And what can these women do to pursue the enjoyment of sex with their husbands?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say that can help us better enjoy sex?

Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, NIV

I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10

The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, The Message

Resources

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Resources for Adult Children of Alcoholics: Focus on the Family Only You Forever Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs Love and Life Toolbox Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families: Friel Ph.D., John C., Friel M.A., Linda D. (older book, but still a good resource)

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