Relationship Advice

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What No One Told You Would Change Your Relationship After Having a Baby with Rachel Shepard Ohta Sep 10, 2025

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This episode explores how having a baby reshapes a couple’s relationship in ways few anticipate, from sleep deprivation and shifting roles to unexpected emotional triggers. Rachel shares her own experiences of disconnection, especially after her second child, and normalizes the challenges couples face when intimacy and teamwork take a hit. She emphasizes adjusting expectations, understanding temperament differences, and remembering that both partners and children are navigating new needs and patterns.

Colter, Lauren, and Rachel talk about:

- Shift in roles & teamwork

- Pressure & expectations

- Sleep deprivation

- Kids’ needs first

- Temperament & triggers

- Connection & reassurance

Where to Find Rachel

- Hey Sleepy Baby Instagram

- Hey Sleepy Dad Instagram

- Website

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Fear of Rejection Sep 03, 2025

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Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in dating, often holding people back from putting themselves out there or forming deeper connections. In this episode, we unpack where this fear comes from, how it ties into past experiences and self-worth, and why rejection is not as personal as it feels. We also share practical ways to shift your perspective, build resilience, and approach dating with more openness and confidence.

They talk about topics such as:

- Roots of rejection fear (childhood, past relationships)

- Rejection ≠ personal worth

- How fear leads to avoidance or self-sabotage

- Reframing rejection as redirection

- Building confidence & resilience

- and more!

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Fear of Intimacy Aug 27, 2025

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This episode unpacks the fear of intimacy—why closeness can feel good yet terrifying at the same time. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore how fear of intimacy shows up in subtle and obvious ways, from ghosting and over-picking flaws to struggling with vulnerability in relationships. They also highlight how childhood experiences, trauma, and personal wiring shape this fear, and offer hope that with curiosity, compassion, and therapy, people can learn to build deeper connections.

They talk about topics such as:

- Vulnerability vs. dumping

- Signs of fear

- Roots of fear

- Negotiation & sacrifice

- Dating dynamics

- And more!

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Navigating Friendship Conflict Aug 20, 2025

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This episode dives into the often-overlooked complexities of friendship conflict and breakups, highlighting that friendships can be just as emotionally significant—and challenging—as romantic relationships. The hosts discuss common causes of tension, from mismatched expectations and life transitions to breaches of trust, unmet needs, and changes in values. They share strategies for addressing disconnection with curiosity and honesty, while also giving permission to let certain friendships fade when they no longer align.

Colter, Cayla, and Lauren talk about topics such as:

- Friendships as attachments

- Common reasons for tension

- Friendship pursuer/withdrawer dynamics

- Healthy repair

- And more!

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Sensory Profiles & Sexual Intimacy w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson Aug 13, 2025

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In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson returns to explore how sensory processing patterns impact physical and sexual intimacy. The hosts use a creative "readiness for sex" scale to frame how sensory input—like lighting, texture, sound, and smell—can act as either accelerators or brakes for sexual connection. By understanding your own and your partner’s sensory profile, couples can communicate better, reduce misunderstandings, and intentionally create more satisfying intimate experiences.

Colter, Lauren and Sarah talk about:

The Eight Senses & Sexual Intimacy
Brakes vs. Accelerators
Sensory Preferences are Individualized
Practical Tools & Ideas
Communication is Central
And More!

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Sensory Profiles & How They Impact Our Relationships w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson Aug 06, 2025

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In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson, a mental health occupational therapist, joins the hosts to explore how individual sensory profiles affect relationships. They break down the eight sensory systems—including lesser-known ones like interoception and proprioception—and explain how understanding these systems can create more compassion and effective communication between partners. By learning your own and your partner’s sensory patterns, you can reduce unnecessary conflict and better support each other, especially in moments of emotional dysregulation.

Colter, Lauren and Sarah talk about:

The 8 Sensory Systems & Sensory Profiles
The Four Sensory Processing Patterns
Common Relationship Conflicts Tied to Sensory Needs
Awareness Builds Compassion, Not Excuses
Strategies and Support Tools
And more!

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How To Support A Loved One Jul 30, 2025

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How do you support loved ones during challenging times, such as mental health struggles, medical issues, grief, or addiction? Listen as our hosts explore recognizing signs of struggle, managing emotional reactions like fear or frustration, and offering effective support by combining curiosity, validation, and clear communication.

In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren talk about these topics

Common Struggles
Emotional Responses in Helper Role
Signs of Struggle
Strategies for Support
Navigating Boundaries
Building Connection
And more!

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When To Bring Up Hard Things Jul 23, 2025

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Bringing up hard things in relationships is less about avoiding conflict and more about when and how you do it. In this episode, the hosts explore why timing, emotional state, and environment play a crucial role in whether a tough conversation connects or causes more disconnection.

In this episode, we talk about relationship topics like

- Timing Matters

- Check emotional, mental, and environment readiness

- The HALT acronym

- Practicing “priming”

- Don’t bring things up in the moment you’re upset

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Sex Therapy Part 2: Sexual Differences Between Men & Women Jul 16, 2025

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In this episode of Relationship Advice, guest sex therapist Bryttney Huseas joins the hosts to explore the nuanced and often misunderstood sexual differences between men and women. The conversation addresses cultural scripts, body image, power dynamics, and the distinct ways that men and women often experience desire and arousal. Learn tools for better communication, increased self-awareness, and a deeper sense of ownership and empowerment in sexual relationships.

They talk about:

- Cultural Conditioning & Body Image

- Power Dynamics

- Initiation Norms

- Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire

- Importance of Sensuality & Energy

- and MUCH more

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Bryttney@scottsdalesextherapy.com

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Sex Therapy Part 1: Where Do Couples Get Stuck? Jul 09, 2025

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In this episode of Relationship Advice, Cayla and Lauren are joined by sex therapist Bryttney Huseas to explore where couples commonly get stuck when it comes to sex. They dive deep into how differing arousal types—spontaneous vs. responsive—create misunderstandings, pressure, and disconnect, often fueled by cultural myths about what sex “should” look like. Offering practical tools for fostering empathy, building an “erotic team” mentality, and taking personal responsibility for sexual connection and communication.

They talk about:

- Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire

- Cultural Norms & Misinformation

- Personal Responsibility for Sexual Connection

- Judgment & Safety in Communication

- and more!

Where to get connected with Bryttney Huseas LMFT, Sex & Relationship Therapist

Bryttney@scottsdalesextherapy.com

⁠https://www.scottsdalesextherapy.com/meet-bryttney⁠

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