Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

Latest Episodes:

#056 How to Get a Positive Response From Your Teen Jan 20, 2020

Show notes

I have spent a lot of time listening to what frustrates moms. At the top of the list is not being able to communicate to their teens. When I dig down and ask the moms what they mean by this, they say they want an open, authentic, and positive response from their teen. Because if you don’t get a positive response you are not going to have the conversation or the behaviors/results you want.

The million-dollar question is, “How do you get a positive response from your teen?”

There are many aspects to this question, and here's a big one. John Gottman, PhD (a very well known author, clinician and researcher) states, "94% of the time the way a conversation starts, predicts how it will end." So, how you start a conversation with your teen is going tostrongly influence the response.

In this episode we explore the difference between harsh startups and soft startups. You will be given 6 key components to soften your startups.

Some of you might be thinking, “This just sounds like too much work…I’m going to just be myself and express myself anyway I want.” You can express yourself anyway you want--- but does it give you the results or responses you want? Yes, being more intentional, and strategic is a little more work . . .but the work is worth it.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#055 Mom, Be Kind to Yourself Jan 13, 2020

Show notes

Moms have no problem being hard on themselves, but often have a hard time being kind to themselves.

Moms don’t do this intentionally. It happens by default, because we are taking care of everyone else's needs we forget and don't take the time to care for our own needs. This is not very kind.

My last episode was on expectations. Because we live in a culture of perfectionism we are often striving after unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves. We end up feeling defeated and that’s not very kind either.

We live in such a fast pace world and are constantly bombarded with information, to-do lists leaving us with no time to breathe and that’s not very kind.

In this episode we explore what being kind to ourselves mean, and how to do that in a practical, doable way. When we are kind to ourselves everyone benefits.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#54 What Do You Expect? Dec 16, 2019

Show notes

This episode focuses on expectations and parenting. To be human is to have expectations. Our expectations can help us feel hopeful. They can help us get through hard times and transitions. But they can also cause parents a lot of pain and be the impetus for drama. Recently, one mom told me, "I have been so much happier lately. Since I have adjusted my expectations, things have been so much better between me and my teenage daughter.

This got me thinking about how big a role expectations play in parenting. They have a big impact on you and your teen.

We will explore realistic vs. unrealistic expectations, no expectations vs. high expectations. We'll explore why teens have immature expectations. And why competing expectations between parents and teens can be a big source of drama. This is especially relevant in the holidays.

Parenting is difficult because every day there are conflicting and often unexpressed expectations between parents and teens. The daily battle is often the competing expectations between immature expectations of the teen and the mature expectations of the parent.

I close the podcast with some tips for managing these competing expectations in the holidays.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#053 Gratitude: Are You Feeling It? Nov 25, 2019

Show notes

This episode is about, Gratitude: Are You Feeling It? Even though Thanksgiving is just a few days away, this podcast is about (way) more than just Thanksgiving, this info is relevant 365 days a year. In this episode we will talk about why gratitude is good for us. It’s the gateway to true joy and even miracles. We’ll explore why being grateful is challenging at times and definitely not our natural state in this culture. Also, we’ll look at practical steps to put some genuine gratitude back into your life so that you are really feeling it.

One definition of gratitude is, the feeling of thankfulness and appreciation. The key word is feeling. See, you can write 5 things that you are grateful for every night in your gratitude journal and not be feeling it. Naming things to be grateful for is a good start, but you are not going to reap the benefits of gratitude, if you don’tfeel it.

Did you know the root of the word gratitude is the Latin word gratis. Do you know what that means? You might think thankful, but it means to be free. So if these words gratitude and free are connected etymologically wouldn’t it make sense that the two are connected psychologically and even spiritually as well. Listen to see why.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#052 How to Keep Your Teens Safe Online Nov 11, 2019

Show notes

In this episode I discuss How to Keep Your Teens Safe Online. with Diana Graber.

Snapchat, Instagram, Fortnite, cyberbullying, sexting, and technology addiction are some of the digital concerns that keep today’s parents up at night. Moms toss and turn, worry, second guess themselves about their rules and boundaries about all things digital. This is why I brought in an expert in the field to address your questions.

Diana is the author of “Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology” (HarperCollins Leadership). She is the founder of Cyber Civics, an innovative digital literacy curriculum being taught in 44 US states and internationally, and Cyberwise, an information portal for digital parents.

Diana is an innovator in the field of digital literacy and trained in media psychology, Graber fully understands the overwhelming influence technology has on today’s young people and the challenges this presents. Everything a young person does online—every post, comment, photo—contributes to a digital profile that can open or close doors to their future.

We discuss how Diana teaches reputation management and privacy with her teens. You'll learn what's the difference between Digital Drama and Cyberbullying and the importance of digital breaks and digital vacations.

You can contact Diana at support@cybercivics.com and she will send you a PDF (Teen Hookup Sites Parents Should Know About.)

You can visit her websites at:

www.cyberwise.org www.cybercivics.com

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#051 Parenting: Through the Lens of Experience Nov 04, 2019

Show notes

Today we are going to look at parenting, through the lens of experience. There are many lenses in which we can examine parenting, like mindset. Today we will focus on the lens of experience. The goal of this podcast is to dial up thriving positive experiences with your family and dial down the negative ones by becoming aware of several X-factors that rob you of enjoying the teenage years. This is especially applicable as we approach the holiday season.

Often there are parts of the parenting experience that we are not aware of, or we haven’t yet named yet. I call these the X-factors. One definition of an X-factor is, "A variable in a given situation that could have the most significant impact on the outcome."

These intangible variables often are in the way of you having a happy home.

You can’t ignore these variables. They have a significant impact on the outcome of your teenage years. They set the tone for your whole parenting experience. Being aware of these variables allows you to create more positive experiences in your home than negative. When this happens you have a Positive Sentiment Override.

In this episode we will explore some of these negative X-factors, so that you won't have a Negative Sentiment Override over your home.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#050 How to Get A Sincere Apology From Your Teen Oct 28, 2019

Show notes

In my work I talk a lot about how to prevent and dial down the drama. A crucial part of this is how to repair the relationship after the conflict or the big blow up. And the good news is that you can repair the relationship. The first step is to give a sincere apology. And this can be challenging for teens.

Have you ever asked your teen for an apology and got, "SORRY" or "SORRY you think I’m an idiot." or "SORRY that you are so sensitive." This is an insincere apology and doesn't make you feel any better. In fact it can make you feel worse.

In this episode I will talk about why there is so much resistance to saying "I'm sorry" and how to move past it. A sincere apology is important for two main reasons; to grow individually, and to repair the relationship. I will explore the different components of a strong apology. And then I will address the million-dollar question...How can you get a sincere apology from your teen.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#049 How to Help Your Teen Figure Out What's Next After High School Oct 21, 2019

Show notes

Today we are going to talk about how to help your teen figure out what's next after High School.

Are there any moms out there that have teens who have no idea what they want to do after High School? I'm sure a lot of you do. Have you noticed how much drama comes from questioning or talking with your teen about the future? I frequently see these big decisions, like, what am I going to do after high school, stirs up a lot of anxiety. Therefore this anxiety can make it hard to have a conversation with your teen about what's next and can lead to a lot of drama for both teens and parents.

Today we are in for a treat. I am going to interview Emma Perez who is a coach and mentor and helps teens and young adults make decision for their lives after high school

Emma is the Founder of Life Quest, that helps guides teens through self-discovery, career exploration, and vision creating. This leads young people to a future that allows them to live thriving and fulfilling lives. Emma is also the author of "What's the Point of School: Ed Transformation, A Matter of Life and Death.

Freebie: http://www.emmabperez.com/journaling.html

More about life quest http://www.emmabperez.com/life-quest.html

To schedule a free consultation https://calendly.com/emmabperez

My book http://www.emmabperez.com/whatsthepointofschool.html

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#048 6 Keys to Being a Happy Mom Oct 14, 2019

Show notes

Okay, in this podcast we are going to get real. Is it possible to be happy and be a mom of a preteen or teenager? And when I say happy, I mean are you truly happy? One definition of happy says, "feeling pleasure and enjoyment because of your life, situation." Do you feel pleasure and enjoyment in your life? Do you feel pleasure and enjoyment from being a mom?

Many moms don't, and it is a source of shame.

This episode will look at six guaranteed ways to be an unhappy mom and how to turn that around to being the six keys to being a happy mom.

I know that it is highly improbable that any mother of a teen will live in a constant state of happiness. That's not what this episode is about. This episode will give you practical suggestions on how to dial up your happiness in the teenage years. This not only benefits you but your whole family.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#047 Do You Say Yes When You Really Mean No? Oct 07, 2019

Show notes

It's hard to say "no" to an angry, upset, or demanding teen. Moms often feel pushed in the corner and begrudgingly say "yes." But when we do that it's not in the best interest of your teen or you.

How do you feel when you say "yes" to your teen when you really wanted to say "no." I know from personal experience and from listening to thousands of moms that it doesn't feel good. You second guess yourself. You stress and worry. You feel disempowered as a mom. And you feel your teen is not protected.

In this episode we will explore 5 reasons moms say "yes" when they want to say "no."

Sometimes the best answer is not "yes" or "no." There is a third option which I will teach you..

Finally, you will learn 5 tips to standing up to your teen, being clear so that your "yes" really is a "yes" and your "no" really is a "no."

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our TOPPODCAST Picks

Follow Us

Stay Connected

Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

Related Podcasts

Links

Stay Connected