Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

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#076 Mom, Is There More For You? Aug 03, 2020

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Is there more for you?

In the teenage years you focus on your son or daughters future. You want them to have every opportunity possible and you’d sacrifice everything to make that happen. You want them to get the internship in Spain. You want them to get into the best university. But at some point this sometimes quiet and other times really loud voice thinks, "What about me???"

Are you tired of your corporate job? Do you regret quitting your career when you had kids, because you've been out of the work force for so long? Do your wonder what's next for you?

In today's episode I interview my friend and mentor Christine Kane.

Christine helps people break through their fears and build wildly successful businesses from their dreams.

Christine is gifting you with, "The Complete Guide to Vision Boards," which will help you tap into the power of intention. (link below)

https://christinekane.com/visionboard-ck

Before Christine Kane founded what became a multi-million dollar business-coaching company, she enjoyed fifteen years in the music industry, producing seven CD’s and a DVD on her own label, and selling more than 100,000 copies. She won a Telly Award and performed with none other than John Mayer, The Beach Boys, Los Lobos, Nanci Griffith, and Shawn Colvin, among many other luminaries.

Her extraordinary success as a singer-songwriter had fellow artists, entrepreneurs, and fans asking how she did it while staying true to her art and herself. Those backstage questions turned into weekend retreats and set her on a new path.

In 2010, Kane opened Uplevel You, a company that speaks directly to the ever-growing class of sensitive, idea-driven, aggression-averse entrepreneurs (a class she counts herself a member of). After just over a year, her revenues catapulted over $1 million.

Among her early business successes was her self-published e-book, The Complete Guide to Vision Boards: The Ultimate Starter Kit to Get Wildly Clear and Create the Life of Your Dreams, which quickly became an Amazon best-seller and has exceeded over 75,000 downloads to date.

Today, Kane leads a small yet mighty team at Uplevel World Headquarters in Asheville, North Carolina. Her openness and humor online, on stage, and in writing are what first attract her clients (or her “peeps,” as she calls them) to her and her approach to business. They become devoted followers and enthusiastic advocates because what she teaches works - their lifestyles and bank accounts prove it. Her first book will be published in November 2020.

Check out Christine's podcast "Soul Sourced Business Podcast." (link below)

https://christinekane.com/podcast/

Check out The Soul-Sourced Entrepreneur: An Unconventional Success Plan for the Highly Creative, Secretly Sensitive, and Wildly Ambitious which will be released November 2020.

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#075 A Surprising Way to Be a Leader in Your Home Jul 27, 2020

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In this episode we talk about a surprising way to be a leader in your home. My good friend Sue Ludwig and I were talking about Dr. Jill Bolte Taylors quote, "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into the space," and how this quote changed her business, family and her personal life.

Sue Ludwig is the President and Founder of the National Association of Neonatal Therapists (NANT), an organization full of passionate neonatal therapists who aim to improve developmental outcomes for premature and sick infants in the NICU.

Sue practiced as a neonatal occupational therapist at the University of Cincinnati Medical Center for over 20 years.

Sue is a sought after speaker, consultant, writer and educator. She is also a published author and poet. She is driven to improve the culture of healthcare, armed with decades of experience speaking for those who cannot speak for themselves. '

Believe it or not preemies and teens have something in common. They both respond to the energy we bring into the room.

We can be the leaders of the energy we bring into the room through intention, pre-deciding, taking a pause, being mindful of transitions, and practicing self awareness. There is a huge cumulative effect on our teens when we practice this and when we don't.

At the end of the day Sue would ask herself this very brave question,

"What's it like to be on the receiving side of you?"

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#074 Are You A Reactive Or Responsive Parent? Jul 20, 2020

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What is the difference between a reactive parent and a responsive parent? Why does this matter?

This distinction can change your life, your family and your relationship with your teen.

If you want tocreate a secure attachment with your teen you want to be responsive and not reactive. You want to make sure you’re responding in healthy ways instead of reacting in ways that are detrimental to you and your teen.

No parent signs up to be a reactive parent, it happens automatically. In this episode we explore the 4 characteristics of a reactive parent and how to turn that around. We will also explore the do's and don'ts of responding versus reacting.

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#073 Stand Up To Sexting Jun 29, 2020

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How do you safeguard your teens from Sexting? To answer this question I interview two experts.

Heather Boynton who is a mother of four (three who are currently teens) and is a professor of Child Development at Clovis Community College where she teaches a variety of classes including child and adolescent development.

AND Christy Monson who has an M.S. in Counseling Psychology and Marriage & Family Therapy from University of Nevada at Las Vegas. She established a successful counseling practice in Las Vegas, Nevada where she works with children and their families.

Recently Christy Monson and Heather Boyton have coauthored Stand Up to Sexting, An Open Conversation Between Parents and Kids..

I have been a family therapist for decades and have seen many girls who have suffered greatly from the aftermath of sexting. There are so many consequences to the girl, the boy, the families, bystanders, law enforcement and school districts. Most of these girls were bullied into sending nude pictures. Often older boys would threaten and pressure these girls. They were promised that they would not share their picture ...only to have their pictures shared to multiple middle schools and high schools in their school district. Moms would bring these girls to see me, their heads hung down in shame. They were utterly humiliated. What I saw over and over again is that these girls weren’t bad girls...they were good girls, they were naïve girls, and they were scared girls. Many just didn’t know what to do and thought the only option was to send the picture.

Christy and Heather wrote Stand up to Sexting so that parents and especially middle schoolers could have honest conversations. For this to happen the teens need to feel safe to share this secret with their parents.

You can find Stand Up to Sexting, An Open Conversation Between Parents and Kids on Amazon.

You can reach Christy at christymonson.com

You can reach Heather at djbandhcb@gmail.com

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#072 Healthy or Stress Eating or Eating Disorder Jun 15, 2020

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In this episode we have a very special guest Dr. Anna Tanner.

Dr. Anna Tanner, MD, FAAP, FSAHM, CEDS, is the Vice President of Medical Services for Veritas Collaborative, a national healthcare system for the treatment of eating disorders. She is a Board-Certified Pediatrician and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist who has spent over 20 years of her career working with complicated adolescent patients with a special emphasis on treating patients with eating disorders.

I invited Dr. Tanner to be a part of this show to talk about healthy eating, stress eating and eating disorders in our teens and what moms can do.. Brene Brown has said that the #1 area of shame for women and especially our teen girls is body image. Billions of dollars are spent in the beauty industry to make us feel that our bodies and how we look are not okay. Not only does this cause a lot of suffering and pain in our teens, but a distorted body image can manifest in eating disorders. This puts mom in a hard parenting position.

Moms, we can get triggered when we see our daughter eat the entire box of donuts. Our teens erratic eating habits can trigger a lot of fear in moms. And when you try to talk to your teen about body image and healthy diet, it can be met with a lot of drama and emotional outbursts. Why? Because body image is such a trigger for shame. This is why I brought in an expert who has a positive approach and is full of very helpful information.

Here are some of the questions I asked Dr. Tanner.

1. A lot of us are stress eating during Covid-19. Is that something to be concerned about? How should moms talk to their teen girls who are stress eating?

2. Most females have issues around body image. Culture norms and media plays a big role here. How can moms help cultivate a positive body image in their teens?

3. When should moms start educating their teens about eating disorders? What should they say or not say?

4. When should moms be concerned about their teens eating habits? What are the red flags?

5. What should a mom do when she sees these warning signs in her teen. What are her options for treatment?

If you want to reach out to Dr. Tanner you can call 855-875-5812 or go to admissions@veritascollaborative.com or veritascollaborative.com.

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#071 Teens Need Novelty and So Do Parents Jun 08, 2020

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What is novelty? Anything that’s new, different, or unusual that gets our attention. Novelty happens naturally for our teens during a normal year with school activities, programs, dances and musicals, soccer games, graduation dances, parties and interacting with hundreds of teens in a day. Also novelty happens naturally in the summer with camps, vacations, work, mission trips, internships and foreign exchange programs.

However, because we are still in the middle of a pandemic and many are still shelter-in-place, our favorite things to do and go to places are shut down. We are experiencing a lack of novelty. We are seeing the same people, in the same place, and doing the same things over and over again.

Teens need novelty. This is hardwired in the teen's brain. In this episode I talk about the science behind novelty. Basically, novelty gives us the reward of Dopamine, the feel good chemical in our brain. Teens especially crave novelty, which leads them to seek out thrill-seeking-behaviors. There is an upside to this and a downside to this.

Here's the challenge. Many camps and programs have been cancelled this summer. Teens are disappointed and are bored. Many teens don't have a reason to go to sleep or wake up in the morning. In this episode I explore how to create positive novel experiences for you and your teen in the middle of this pandemic.

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#070 Summer Tips for an Unusual Time Jun 01, 2020

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Summer is here! How do you feel? Are you excited, relieved, or more stressed?

The moms I have talked to feel let down because many of their plans have been cancelled. Recently I talked to a couple that looked forward to going to Hawaii every other year and they had to cancel their trip this summer. Many of us have had our fun summer plans cancelled and therefore mom, dad and kids are disappointed. Instead of moms feeling relief about the summer, we're stressed and plagued with the question of what am I going to do with my bored teenagers? Bored teens at home cut into mom's personal space and work time. Summer can feel like an extension of the school year except that teens have even less to do.

I know every mom has different restrictions from shelter at home to different phases of reopening. Despite what phase you are in none of us have forgotten about Covid 19. And many feel there is more pressure and uncertainty as our cities and states reopen. There are more questions like--now that restaurants are open is it okay to go? Is it okay for my teens to go? Do we try to take a vacation? Should we fly or drive? Is that safe? When your teen wants to go over and see her friends at a pool party, now there are even more things to consider about those decisions. So it's not easy and all this uncertainty just adds stress.

This is why in this episode I give you Summer Tips for an Unusual Time for you and your teens. This will give you a way to think about this summer and how to make the most of it.

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#069 Well-Being in An Extra Stressful Time May 18, 2020

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In this episode I have a vibrant conversation with my friend and colleague Megan McNealy.

Megan believes well-being is the greatest asset we have. She knows this one personally. Twelve years ago Megan was super successful in her wealth management business, and yet her body was giving out on her. She had crippling rheumatoid arthritis, kidney disease, and kidney cancer. Megan was able to turn this around. Her formula for her recovery is in her award winning book Reinvent the Wheel: How Top Leaders Leverage Well-Being for Success -- her book was featured on the Top 20 Must-Reads of 2019 in Forbes and was awarded a Silver Medal by the Axiom Book Awards.

Megan McNealy has devoted her career to helping others reach their highest potential in their personal and professional lives.

As an award-winning, 22+ year Senior Vice President and Wealth Management Advisor at one of the largest financial firms in the world, she specializes in working with senior corporate executives and has become known as the “CEO Whisperer.”

Megan is simultaneously an impact entrepreneur and a prominent Well-Being Thought Leader who founded Well-Being Drives Success, a multi-faceted platform designed to serve those in our workforce who strive for exceptional wellness and extraordinary success.

Her work has been featured in the UK Telegraph, Fast Company, Chief Executive, Thrive Global, Business Insider and Entrepreneur to name a few.

During this stressful time of the COVID-19 pandemic, Megan has been one of the most sought after speakers in the United States on how to rise in this moment by prioritizing well-being. A guest on six high profile podcasts in the last two months, plus this one (!) she thought it would be a wonderful way to serve an audience eager for uplifting advice.

Megan is a single mom of two teen daughters, She is one of us!

Megan recently has interviewed eighteen top leaders that she had previously interviewed in her book Reinvent the Wheel and asked them to share their behind the scenes well-being strategies during this global pandemic. Listen to hear this very helpful advice.

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#068 Don't Miss These Precious Years May 11, 2020

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In this episode I talk about how to get the most out of your relationship with your teen their junior and senior year in High School.

When your teen is a junior or senior, what do you think it will be like? Are your expectations positive, (I look forward to having more quality time with my son and watching his soccer games) or is it negative (It's going to be a huge battle all year to get my daughter to take her school work seriously?) After listening to moms, expectations tend to default towards the negative their junior and senior years.

I believe there is a way to enjoy your teen during their junior and senior year in high school. I mean really relish your time with them. Enjoy their energy, their liveliness, and their playfulness.

In order to enjoy these years you need to avoid 4 big drama traps. Listen and learn how.

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#067 Teens, Screens, and Quarantine Apr 27, 2020

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In this episode I am bringing you another powerhouse guest to help your through this quarantine time with your teen. . .Diana Graber.

Diana Graber is the author of “Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology” (HarperCollins Leadership). She is the founder of Cyber Civics, an innovative digital literacy curriculum being taught in 44 US states and internationally, and Cyberwise, an information portal for digital parents.

I interviewed Diana in the 52nd episode back in November on How to Keep Teens Safe Online. And ya’ll really loved that podcast. Diana really delivered helpful information in that episode and you won't be disappointed with this one either.

Diana has graciously offered to our listeners a Technology Agreement that you can download at cyberwise.org in their learning hub.

In this episode we focus on how to peacefully come to an agreement and not be battling with your teens about their screens. Also, we discuss what to do when teens want to stay in their rooms all day. Bottom line is that we want our teens to be safe, healthy, and flourishing humans both online and offline.

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