Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

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#116 "I Don't Want to Talk About It" May 31, 2021

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Have you ever picked your teen up after school and said, "How's your day?" and they tell you. "fine." Then when you ask him another questions they tell you, "I don’t want to talk about it."

I already know the answer to that question. Of course this has happened to you. Our teens are guarded like castles ,surrounded with a moat of crocodiles and sharks. And you do your best to get them to lower the drawbridge, but it seems whatever you do they just retreat deeper and deeper into their castle.

How do you get your teen to open up and talk to you?

In this episode we explore how this impacts you when your teen shuts you out. We also explore why your teen won't talk to you, and finally what moms can do to get their teen to talk.

The good news is that there are things you can do to help your teen open up to you.

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#115 Acceptance or Resignation: Is there a difference? May 24, 2021

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In this episode I want to show you the power of acceptance and how that is different than resignation.

When you hear, "You just need to accept . . .", it can feel like resignation, like you are giving up and you're losing the battle with your teen.. Actually the definition of resignation is the acceptance of something undesirable but inevitable.

I'm not talking about resignation. I'm talking about accepting your teen.

If you want to influence your teen and change negative behavior you need to accept your teen first. I know this can feel counterintuitive to moms. But acceptance is vital for your teens well being and mental health. Acceptance lays the foundation for a secure attachment between you and your teen.

Acceptance is needed for lasting and positive change. When your teen feels accepted by you, not only will this improve your relationship, but they will be more open to you and your guidance. Because when your teen feels valued and that you care for them no matter what, they will see you as someone who is worth listening to and following.

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#114 A Real Conversation About Parenting Teens May 17, 2021

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You are going to love this conversation.

"I believe that parenthood is like a bungee jump. It’s scary and fun, it makes you fly and often lets you down. This book isn’t so much a parenting guide as an exploration of the complex emotional journey of being a parent, reminding us of the courage and energy it requires as well as acknowledging that no parent is perfect and at the end of the day, this relationship is about connection." Einat Nathan

Einat Nathan is a parenting expert, public speaker, and bestselling author of My Everything (Haimsheli in Hebrew) in Israel. She holds a B.A. in law from Tel Aviv University, and is certified by the Adler Institute and the Ministry of Education for Parental Instruction and Group Instruction. Einat has been featured on TV, radio, podcasts, and in countless print outlets, and her second book (Mishelanu) about teenagers is due out in Israel this coming spring. Einat lives in Tel Aviv with her husband Yuval, and her five children Eyal, Yoav, Lihi, Rona, and Shira.

Now translated into English, MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise (on sale 04/06/21; Hachette Go, Hardcover; $28; ISBN: 9780306924040) provides a fresh, more millennial, relationship-based approach to parenting strategy. MY EVERYTHINGis a rare mix of professional advice and intimate personal exposure that explores how to understand that your children are doing what they are doing in order to grow and develop, and how to release your expectations from them for the sake of their liberty to be who they are.

Check out MY EVERYTHING: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise at https://amzn.to/3tSZGF9

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#113 Keep Your Teens Safe Online May 10, 2021

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Every parent wants to keep their teen safe online. But we can fall into the trap of spending most of our time fighting over screen time while spending minimal time on educating our teens and raising their awareness of the dangers online. We need to intentionally focus on having informative conversations with our teens.

Every time your child logs onto social media they are at risk from a number of social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, depression and suicide, hate speech, sexting, and human trafficking, to name just a few. And many children are averaging over 5 hours a day on social media!

To address these issues I have invited Marc Berkman and Ed Peisner to be our guests for this show,.

Marc Berkman serves as the CEO of the Organization for Social Media Safety, a national consumer protection organization that protects against all social media-related dangers like cyberbullying, hate speech, and human trafficking. Under his leadership, the Organization for Social Media Safety has taught social media safety skills to thousands of students, parents, and educators across the country; passed into law essential social media safety legislation like Jordan's Law, the nation's first law to deter social media-motivated violence; and helped develop software and apps to protect against social media-related dangers. Previously, Marc served for over a decade as a senior advisor to members of Congress and the California State Assembly. During his time as a legislative aide, he developed and helped pass numerous legislative initiatives to protect vulnerable children and families. Marc received his JD from Columbia Law School and his BA from UC Berkeley. He lives with his wife and two children in Los Angeles, CA.

After a long career in business, Ed Peisner founded the Organization for Social Media Safety in 2017 after his teenage son Jordan was viciously assaulted in West Hills, CA. The attack was filmed and uploaded to social media by an associate of the attacker. Jordan was left with serious and life-long injuries from the assault. Ed decided to dedicate himself to the goal of ensuring that no other family had to endure such a terrible ordeal. Ed now proudly travels the country teaching students, parents, and educators essential social media safety skills.

To find out more about the Buckling the Social Media Seatbelt Course

or to contact Mark or Ed go to ofsms.org

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#112 Teens, Migraines, and Tension Headaches May 03, 2021

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As you know we have a lot of stressed out teens. Because of stress our teens are having tension headaches. And though stress doesn’t cause migraines; it can trigger one. Today I have invited a special guest Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD. This was a really informative interview for me. Here are some things that I didn’t know:

Over 10% of our teens are suffering from migraines.
The symptoms in teens are different from how they appear in adults.
Migraines often first appear during puberty.
If migraines are treated early on you can avoid chronic migraines in your adulthood.

Dr. Alexander Feoktistov MD, is the founder and the president of the Synergy Integrative Headache Center in Chicago, Illinois. Dr. Alexander Feoktistov is board-certified in Headache Medicine by the United Council of Neurological Subspecialties and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Pain Medicine. He is also board-certified in Internal Medicine by the American Board of Internal Medicine. Dr. Alex is received a PhD degree in the field of neurology at the Moscow Medical Academy, completed a fellowship in Pain Management at the Cleveland Clinic, and is currently serving as the President of the American Interventional Headache Society.

In this episode we discuss:

what is the difference between tension headaches and migraines in teens. Can stress cause migraines?
What are some common symptoms of migraines in teens – and does it differ from migraine symptoms for adults? What are the different migraine types?
In teens, should parents keep an eye out for behavior changes that might indicate a migraine?
Why would drug treatments not be a first line approach for teen migraine?
What are the benefits of using a holistic approach to migraine treatment?
What are some school-friendly options that teens have for controlling and treating migraines?
How can parents help support their teen with migraine both at home and school?
Why is it important to get diagnosis and start treatment early for migraine?

You can contact Dr. Alex through his website www.synergyheadache.com or by calling 773 948-7557.

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#111 Who's Your Teen Going to Be When They Grow Up? Apr 26, 2021

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If you are stressed out because your teen doesn't know what they want to be when they grow up. You are not the only one. Moms spend a great deal of time thinking/worrying about their teens future and so are teens. What are their interests, skills, and passions? What should they major in? What career are they going to pursue? Teens are under more pressure than ever before to know their life plan when they have had limited life experience. This pressure isn’t helpful. Today we are going to talk about how to help your teens turn this pressuring into exploring.

I have invited Tamara s Raymond as a guest today.Tamara is a certified leadership coach and career strategist dedicated to helping professionals reach their maximum potential; and young people get on the right career path so they can make a difference. Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career is Tamara’s first book. It is available as a paperback, e-book and audiobook. For more information about Tamara and her other projects, including her coaching services, visit www.imcleaders.com

Tamara believes that adolescence and young adulthood are the best time to explore, experience, and eliminate possible career paths. Careering will help you do all three–and get your teen on the path that is right for them!

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#110 Midlife Indignities and How to Survive Them Apr 12, 2021

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In a culture of perfectionism and pressure we need ways to release the stress. I can think of no better way than healthy humor. There is so much fodder for humor while parenting teens and living in these middle years. Today's episode is on the lighter and even fun side. Our guest today helps us take ourselves and our situations lightly.

In this episode I interview Kristen van Ogtrop.

Kristin is the author of Just Let Me Lie Down: Necessary Terms for the Half-Insane Working Mom. The former longtime editor-in-chief of Real Simple and “The Amateur” columnist for Time, she is a literary agent at InkWell Management. Her writing has appeared in countless publications, and the New York Times bestselling collection, The Bitch in the House. She is a wife and mother of three, but sometimes loves her dogs more than anybody else.

Kristin just released her new book, Did I Say That Out Loud? Midlife Indignities and How to Survive Them. Kristin is a very gifted writer who pays attention to the absurdities we endure and names them.

She does address some of the challenges of those middle years but in a way that is so real, poignant, optimistic, and hilarious all at the same time. There were many times that I literally laughed out loud while reading her book especially reading her chapter, "When Things Fall Apart." I think it's such a gift when someone can help you laugh at yourself and not take your life, your parenting and your future so seriously and revaluate whats the point of it all.

Check out her new book: https://amzn.to/3mpmJp9

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#109 Lower Your Teen's Risk for Addiction Apr 05, 2021

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In this episode I interview Jessica Lahey. Her latest book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, published by Harper Collins will be released April 6th, 2021 every where books are sold.

Jessica writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and the New York Times. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Lahey is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons.

In this episode we dive into The Addiction Inoculation. This is a well written book with engaging stories and loaded with useful information.

We explore questions like...

How has the pandemic affected drug and alcohol use by teens?

What does alcohol and drugs do to the teen brain? Does vaping impact the young persons brain?

Is there a correlation between sleep and substance abuse?

What risk factors make it more likely that a teen will abuse alcohol or drugs?

How to talk to your kids about substance abuse?

Also, we discuss refusal skills and exit strategies and how we can empower our teens to resist peer pressure. And we talk about how to tip the scales of addiction and what are the protective factors that outweigh risk.

Check out her book or contact her at https://www.jessicalahey.com/

Follow on instagram https://www.instagram.com/teacherlahey/

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#108 I Need My Space Mar 29, 2021

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In this episode we are going to talk about space and why we all need it: you, your teen, and your partner. We'll also talk about how to use space well and finally six ways moms can reclaim their space. I think out of your whole family moms have the hardest time getting space and we probably need it the most so we have to be strategic to make sure we get it.

Everyone in your family needs space, its not a nice to have; it is a core need of every human being. For a family to be healthy you need space and connection. Learning how to negotiate your space while in relationship is mandatory for having a healthy family.

2020 was definitely a hard year to get space.

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# 107 Hidden Causes of Anxiety and Depression in Teens Mar 22, 2021

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In this episode I interview Dr. Kenneth Bock the author of "Brain Inflamed: Uncovering the Hidden Causes of Anxiety, Depression and Other Mood Disorders in Adolescents and Teens." This book is literally fresh off the press.

Over the past decade the number of 12 to 17 years olds suffering from mental health disorders has more than doubled. Which leaves all of us asking what is causing this epidemic. And I know many of you listening have teens who struggle with anxiety, depression,ADHD, and other mood disorders. Dr Kenneth Boch shares a revolutionary new view of adolescent and teen mental health –which I think will be encouraging and helpful to those listening.

Kenneth A. Bock, M.D. is a board-certified physician who received his MD degree with Honor from the University of Rochester School of Medicine in 1979. An internationally recognized pioneer of integrative medicine, he is the best-selling author of Healing the New Childhood Epidemics, The Road to Immunity, Natural Relief for Your Child’s Asthma, and The Germ Survival Guide. He has also contributed to numerous professional publications and is an in-demand national and international speaker. Over the course of his thirty-five-year career, he has become known for his unique ability to identify and untangle the most complex, multisystem, multi-symptom medical cases. His world-renowned private practice, Bock Integrative Medicine, is located in the beautiful Hudson Valley, in Red Hook, New York.

Contact him through kenneth@braininflamed.com or go onto braininflamed.com

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