Power Your Parenting: Moms With Teens

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#126 Talking to Teens About Consent Aug 09, 2021

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How do you talk to your teens about consent?

If you have a daughter you worry that if she wears that short skirt she could get sexually assaulted. If you have a son you can worry that he would be accused of sexually assaulting a girl. You think not my daughter or not my son. Today we are going to be talking about consent and what it is and . what role does drugs and alcohol play in the overall consent conversation. We'll talk about the do’s and don’t’s of consent and how to talk to our teens about it.

To address these issues I have invited Christy Keating to be our guest.

Christy Keating is the founder and CEO of The Heartful Parent. Christy is a Certified Parent Coach® , a Certified Positive Discipline Instructor, a Certified Instructor with the Gottman Institute. She is also a long-time leader and speaker at the Program for Early Parent Support,

In addition to her work as a parent coach, Christy is a licensed attorney and former prosecutor of 20 years with an expertise in the prosecution of sexually violent predators, as well as an active member of the National Coalition to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation. Through The Heartful Parent’s sister company, Savvy Parents Safe Kids, Christy offers child safety workshops, presentations, and consulting to both parents and professionals.

Take advantage of her free resource: Do's and Don'ts for Talking Consent

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#125 Protecting Teens From Porn Aug 02, 2021

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Recent studies indicate 90 percent of teens have viewed porn online, and 10 percent admit to daily use.

Today we are going to talk about a difficult subject. Teens and pornography. Teens are especially vulnerable to pornography addiction for the same reason they are vulnerable to alcohol and drug addiction, because of where their brains are developmentally. I interview an expert who can help us protect and educate our teens about porn and how teens can recover.

Christopher Bueker has provided individual and group therapy to patients struggling with addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. He is experienced in providing counseling services for parents couples and families. Christopher has recently published his first book, Break Free of Chains: How to Help Your Child Reconver from Pornography Addiction.

You can contact Christopher at ChristopherBueker.com

Here are some of the questions we explore:

1. How should parents react if they find out that their teen is using pornography?

2. How do I talk with my child about the harms associated with pornography? How early should they start talking to them?.

3. Can you talk about why dabbling with pornography is still risky because of the progressive nature of pornography and how teens are even more at risk with their immature brains.

4. As a parent, what should I look for that could indicate that my child or adolescent is using pornography?

5. As a parent, what can I do to help prevent my child from using internet pornography?

6. How can I monitor my child’s use of the internet?

7. What are symptoms of pornography addiction?

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#124 The Disintegrating Student: Smart but Struggling & How to Turn It Around Jul 26, 2021

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What is a disintegrating student and how has covid contributed to that? How can this be turned around before school starts?

To address this I’ve invited Dr. Jeannine Jannot to be a guest on our show. Jeannine is the founder of The Balanced Student and author of The Disintegrating Student: Struggling But Smart, Falling Apart, & How To Turn It Around. She has over 25 years of experience working with children, teenagers and young adults in both public and private school settings spanning preschool through college. Jeannine has a master's degree in school psychology from The Ohio State University and a doctorate in child and developmental psychology from the University of Connecticut. She has also been a college instructor, teaching psychology courses and freshman seminars, for the past 10 years.

We also explore the difference between a fixed mindset and growth mindset. Teens can self sabotage and self handicap themselves when they believe that they have a fixed mindset. In reality teens have a tremendous capacity for growth.

Did you know that a teens IQ can vary as much as 18 points in adolescence?

You are going to especially love Jeannines tips to be productive and well. specifically around organization, time management, study skills and habits, mindset , stress, sleep and screens

You can find information about Jeannine's coaching, speaking, book, and her monthly Some Thoughts newsletter on her website jeanninejannot.com.

Find Jeannine on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jjannot/

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#123 Dying to Be A Good Mother Jul 19, 2021

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Do you believe you can feel positive emotions like joy, aliveness, inspired and still be a mom?

Well there are cultural beliefs about motherhood that will definitely rob you of feeling good like...

• Our teens should be perfect, because, naturally, our parenting is, too, or it should at least look or sound or seem that way.

• Parenting causes perpetual exhaustion, dirty hair days, bad hair days, body confidence issues, and endless feelings of overwhelm. It also creates the need for nonstop caffeine and, of course, “wine o’clock.”

• Parenting is hard, and if you don’t complain about it or feel miserable, exhausted, and stressed out most of the time, you’re not one of the “good” moms.

• Its selfish to take care of myself I need to sacrifice everything for my family

Our guest today Heather Chauvin has so much wisdom to share with us. She has a powerful story and has lived her message .

Heather Chauvin is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home.

Drawing from her professional experience as a social worker and her life experience raising three boys, Heather created a signature approach to help her clients create and enjoy sustainability, profitability and ease in business and life.

She is the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage 4 cancer and running a successful business without burning out. She released her first book, Dying To Be A Good Mother in 2021.

Follow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_/

Learn more about Heather and her new book at: http://heatherchauvin.com/book

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#122 Want More Peace? Jul 12, 2021

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Can you be a parent of a teen and be at peace?

Not 100% of the time.

But yes you can be a mom and chase after peace. It's good for you and your teen.

In this episode we will explore five ways moms lose their peace and how to not fall into those traps. You will be given four practical ways moms can dial up their peace..

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#121 What's the Right College For Your Teen Jul 05, 2021

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Today we are going to talk about how your teen can find the right college. Our guest today is Dr. Aviva Legatt who has recently published Get Real and Get in: How to Get Into the College of Your Dreams by Being Your Authentic Self. Dr.. Leggat states that it's not about finding the best college but the best college for you.

Dr. Aviva Legatt is the admissions expert and founder of Ivy Insight, the gold standard in college admissions consulting for undergraduate college applications. An in-demand leadership and college admissions speaker with a fresh perspective, Dr. Legatt has been hailed by the New York Times as a trustworthy expert on college admissions, and recognized as an expert in corporate culture and diversity as a faculty member for Coursera and the University of Pennsylvania.

Find out more go to https://ivyinsight.com/get-real-and-get-in/

Follow Dr. Aviva Legatt on Instagram athttps://www.instagram.com/avivalegatt/

and Twitter @avivalegatt

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#120 Smarter Teens? Get Them Outside Their Heads Jun 28, 2021

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Have you ever had a teen stay in their room for hours. And they were actually doing their homework but it took them way longer than it should? A lot of my parents I've coached tell me, "My daughter takes four hours to get her homework done when it should've only taken two hours. And then she's up too late and doesn’t get enough sleep."

Our guest today has some amazing research and practical tips that will literally help your teens extend their brains. .

Annie Murphy Paul is an acclaimed science writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times Magazine, Scientific American, and The Best American Science Writing, among many other publications. She is the author of Origins, selected by the New York Times Book Review as a “Notable Book,” and The Cult of Personality, hailed by Malcolm Gladwell in the New Yorker as a “fascinating new book.” Her TED Talk has been viewed more than 2.6 million times. A graduate of Yale University and the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism, she is currently a Learning Sciences Exchange Fellow at New America. And she is the mother of two teenage boys.

Her latest book The Extended Mind: The Power of Thinking Outside the Brain was just released. In this book she talks about how we can extend our brains by thinking with our bodies through sensation movement and gesture. Thinking with our surroundings through natural spaces, built spaces, the space of ideas. And Thinking with our relationships through experts, peers and groups.

Learn more about Annie at anniemurphypaul.com

Follow her on twitter: https://twitter.com/anniemurphypaul

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#119 Appreciating Dad Jun 21, 2021

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What did you appreciate about your dad when you were in high school?

The reason I ask you this question is to give you perspective on how dads impact our teens by looking at how your dad impacted you in high school. Its sometimes hard to see it with your teens dad because you are so close to it.

What do you appreciate about your teen's dad? Or is it hard to appreciate him?

We'll talk about the greatest father's day present ever.

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#118 Helping Teens Prepare for College: The Greatest Health Guide Jun 14, 2021

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One of the biggest challenges your teen will face when they enter college is self-management. Managing what they eat, managing alcohol , managing stress, managing sleep , managing relationships, exercise and their time.

Self- management is everything for the college student without it they don't have their health and they definitely won't make the grade.

Jill and Dave Henry met coaching high school sports in Los Angeles and have been working with teens for nearly fifteen years. With every graduating class, they’ve fielded their student-athletes’ concerns about the transition to college. Determined to help, the Henrys decided to leverage their combined professional skills in research, study design, data analysis, and storytelling (Jill is a veteran statistics teacher, Dave is a Peabody-award winning TV and film editor) to create a fun yet informative resource with the goal of preparing all students to enjoy college without sacrificing their health.

Their just released book The Greatest College Health Guide You Never Knew You Needed---How to Manage Food, Booze, Stress, Sex, Sleep, and Exercise on Campus was published in June 2021.

This interview is filled with great research, interesting stories, and practical information including how to get your teen to read this book.

You can contact Jill and Dave at greatestcollegehealthguide.com

Follow them on instagram @greatestcollegehealthguide

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#117 Should You Trust Your Teen? Jun 07, 2021

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Should you trust your teen?

Has your teen ever said to you, Why don’t you trust me?

I’ve seen so many moms come into my practice reeling from that question. Why would moms be so bothered by that question? It can make us feel like we are doing something wrong, like we are supposed to love our kids, believe in them, and trust them.

When you teen asks you why don’t you trust me we need to see the question in context. We need to rewind the video a bit. I am guessing that question is being thrown at you because you set a limit or you said no to things like...

You cant have screens in your room after your bedtime.

You cant go over to Ryans house when his parents aren't there.

So often when your teen asks you Why don’t you trust me? what they are really asking is Why wont you let me do what I want?

We are going to explore the concept of trust in this podcast. It's more complicated than you think

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