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Today's episode will change the way you think about the habits, behaviors, and patterns that keep showing up in your life—even when you know they're holding you back.
Do you ever wonder:
Why do I keep people-pleasing even when it leaves me exhausted?
Why do I overwork, overthink, or strive for perfection but still never feel like I'm enough?
Why do I keep finding myself in the same relationships, making the same choices, or falling into the same emotional patterns?
According to today's guest, these behaviors aren't signs that you're broken. They're often strategies your brain developed to protect you.
Joining John R. Miles is Kati Morton, licensed therapist, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading mental health educators. Drawing from her new book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Kati explains why the patterns that once helped us survive can quietly keep us from fully living.
Together, John and Kati explore how childhood experiences shape the beliefs we carry into adulthood, why high achievers often confuse accomplishment with self-worth, and how curiosity—not self-criticism—is the key to lasting change.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why perfectionism, overworking, and burnout are often protective responses—not personality traits
- How childhood experiences create the emotional blueprints that shape your adult relationships
- The hidden connection between people-pleasing, fawning, and losing yourself
- Why so many successful people still struggle with feeling unseen, unworthy, or like they don't matter
- How fear quietly drives many of the decisions you make every day
- Why living on autopilot keeps you repeating the same emotional patterns
- The surprising reason small, consistent micro-choices create more lasting change than dramatic life overhauls
- How journaling and self-reflection help uncover the beliefs that continue to shape your life
- Practical ways to reconnect with yourself and build a life aligned with your values
Here's the truth: the patterns you're struggling with didn't appear overnight—and they won't disappear overnight either.
But once you understand why you keep doing what you do, you can finally begin choosing a different path.
And that may be the first step toward becoming the person you've always wanted to be.
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