Oh Crap with Jamie

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62. Going With the Workflow Sep 29, 2022

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I know that we’re all struggling just to get to everything that needs to be completed each day, and given that I have a number of people wondering how I ‘get so much done’, today I will be sharing my work flow with you all. Believe me, no one knows better than me that no one can do it all, but hopefully some of the habits I have acquired and lessons I have learned over the years will resonate with you today. I’ll share with you how not overscheduling, figuring out areas of weakness and addressing them, and becoming aware of your monthly energy flow can all have positive impacts. We’ll also explore my monthly, weekly, and daily routines, and look at the importance of rest, wise time investments, and digital uncluttering. Like I said, I know I can’t do it all, and I don’t claim to be able to, but what I can do is share with you some of the steps I take to help ensure that all the most important aspects of my life and my work are addressed as fully and effectively as possible. The Finer Details of This Episode: · We don’t overschedule · Figure out your vulnerabilities and address them · My time of greatest creative energy is the two weeks following the start of menstruation each month · On Sundays I limit communications and totally rest · My day off starts at 5:31 p.m. each Saturday · On Mondays I am recharged and full of energy again · I get up at 3:30-4:30 a.m. for a run and to start work · I do the hard thing first each day in the dark · I take 15-20 minute power naps to recharge · Make wise time investments · Digital uncluttering is key – only touch everything once Quotes: “Life is a four burner stove. A couple of pots are simmering, there’s always a pot that’s boiling…cleaning, definitely for me, is a simmering pot.” “My workflow is based on my menstrual cycle.” “The best work is done in the dark.” “I am the Queen of the Power Nap.” “We can’t underestimate the value of rest and how it re-charges.” “Where can you make those better investments in time?” “If it’s not your skillset, try to find somebody for whom it is their skillset.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

61. Going Down the Sibling Rivalry Rabbit Hole Sep 27, 2022

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Buckle up, Alice, it’s time today for us to all go down the rabbit hole that opens up when we start to look at the wonderful world of sibling rivalry. Conversations with some of my consultant colleagues have raised this topic, which then led to a number of other related topics, so that’s where we’re headed together in this episode. We’ll start with good old sibling rivalry, look at some strategies to help you and your children through this situation, and explore the dangers in ‘infantalizing’ our children rather than raising the expectations and challenging their little brains. Further down the rabbit hole, we’ll cover the importance of autonomy in our children, and I’ll offer a number of ideas and suggestions that will help you instill this vital trait in your kids. While it is true that sibling rivalry is simply a fact of life that we all have to deal with, today’s episode offers some valuable information and practical strategies that you can start implementing today to help prevent the regressions and poor behavior so often associated with it. The Finer Details of This Episode: · There is almost nothing you can do about sibling rivalry - kids are going to fight and you need to go ‘old school’ when they do - separate them, bribe them for good behavior, consequences for poor behavior · Check in on individual and family connection, but realize that you are never going to meet everybody’s needs · Currently, ‘infantalizing’ our kids is becoming a problem · If you have more than one kid, employ ‘top down parenting’ - Focusing on the expectations of the oldest child raises the level of expectation for the younger children · A lot of the sibling rivalry, regressions, and poor behavior we see in our kids is due to a lack of autonomy · Children’s brains need challenges to grow, to keep busy figuring stuff out · Give children ‘pockets of elevation’ so they can have pride in themselves · Stop bemoaning the growth of your child · Replace saying things like, “You’re such a big kid”, with “I have always loved you, but I love you more each day with all the things you’re capable of doing” · Question every single thing you do for your kids, “Can they do this thing for themselves? Can I teach them to do this thing for themselves?” · Make sure you are leveling up their environment · Revisit the podcast episode about ‘Magical Childhood’ from the first season · Don’t keep them from doing ‘real life things’ to learn Quotes: “Cut the shit, or I’m not moving this car.” “Stop trying to make them love each other.” “You are literally raising the bar…children rise to the occasion.” “How do you expect your child to act like a big kid when you are not letting them be an actual big kid?” “Good job for fuckin’ breathing, man!” “Celebrate all that your kid can do.” “Nothing in life is fair.” “A kid who feels like they’re part of the household, who’s taking part in the household, feels pride in being part of the village.” “As a whole, we need to start raising our expectations of what they can do and what they’re capable of…you’re going to get better behavior.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Invent to Learn: https://inventtolearn.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

60. My Thoughts on Raising an Only Child and Introducing Social Media and Devices to Children Sep 22, 2022

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I am always so excited to hear from you, my listeners and patrons, and today I’d like to respond to two topics that were sent in to me recently. The first surrounds the experience of raising an only child, and being a good friend to those who may be doing so not by choice. Our second topic is all about when and how to introduce social media and devices to your child. What I can tell you is that there are a lot of opinions out there on both topics, and today I offer you mine with some references along the way to my own experiences, both personally and professionally. In terms of the social media and device concerns, as in all aspects of raising a child, I cannot stress enough that you need to know your child – your understanding of them, the bond you have together, and the level of communication you maintain will all prove critical in navigating this successfully. The Finer Details of This Episode: I don’t think anybody begrudges hearing about your kids and their siblings, but I wouldn’t ‘gush’ – if it’s a close friend, you can ask if it bothers them You can point out the ‘cons’ of sibling rivalry as well You really have to check yourself to not make everything super precious (Princess Syndrome) Don’t try to be friends with a parent that you’re not really ‘vibing’ with The timing and manner of introducing social media and devices varies depending upon the child – you really need to know your kid Ages 0-6 is Govern, 6-12 is Garden, and 12-18 is Guide In the ‘tween’ years, girls seem to be more susceptible to societal pressure Having a phone may be a necessity for your child Snapchat, to me, is one of the nastier platforms I think our kids are suffering from being over monitored, and are entitled to some privacy You have to have huge conversations with your child about what it means to be behind a name on social media We have to create that culture where we communicate with other parents for everyone’s safety Use common sense without being crazy Temper your own anxiety Quotes: “I think when you have two parents and one kid there’s a ‘preciousness’ that comes about, right, just naturally.” “Nobody wants to talk about having babies on the first or second date.” “I enjoy raising an only child.” “It’s really hard in this day and age to not have a phone.” “We need to trust our kids until they’re not trustworthy, and then we pull in the reins. That is my personal belief.” “Don’t look for somebody to direct you on this. Connect with your kids and be honest – try to see your kid through a lens, try to see what they are drawn to.” “It’s really about your bond and your connection with your kid, and keeping these communication channels open.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

59. The Sleep Episode (First of Many) Sep 20, 2022

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One topic which has been showing up frequently in the messages I’m getting from parents is a big one: sleep. In particular, I have about 5 clients who are asking about naps these days, so today we’re going to revisit this highly important subject, and provide information and advice that should answer a lot of your questions.

We’ll begin by looking at the typical ages when children start giving up their naps, and the importance of maintaining a quiet time for all children. I’ll offer some valuable tips surrounding these quiet times, some advice about establishing sleep time habits, and a recommendation for finding help if you are suffering in this area. The main theme here today is that sleep is vital to both your children and yourself, and finding a system that works for you and your entire family needs to be a priority. This week’s episode is filled with the information and advice that will help you do this.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

From ages 2½ to 4 it can look like your child is giving up their nap, and at ages 4 to 4½ they are
For all kids, keep the quiet time, and under certain circumstances, it can be a reasonable solution to lock your child in their room for this time
For every child up until about the age of 13, the time from 3:00 pm to 6:00 pm is their ‘witching hour’ – make that their quiet time
When your child is giving up their nap, you have to go to an earlier bedtime (even as early as 5:00 pm)
Kids have lost some social skills during the quarantine, so start by planning very short meetups for them with other children
Listening to stories (ex. Audible books) is a great idea for quiet time in their rooms
Don’t establish nap time in the stroller or in the car
Be very careful with establishing sleep time habits so that they work for every member of the family
If you are suffering, find a sleep trainer who resonates with you
Really, really, really attend to your own sleep
Potty training may disrupt your child’s sleep

Quotes:

“My son napped right up until his first day of Kindergarten.”

“You cannot make your child sleep, nor can you actually make your child stay in bed.”

“Sleep is everything, you guys…we all need it so much.”

“I know sleep training is super controversial.”

“Sleep deprivation is used as torture in war.”

“There’s nothing better you can do for yourself than sleep, so really set a good bedtime, and commit to being off screen.”

Links:

Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/

Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738

Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?

58. Effective Communication: Askers, Guessers, and Boundaries Sep 15, 2022

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Today’s episode is going to be a doozy as I talk to you once again about one of my absolute favorite topics – boundaries. This time, I’m adding in the component of effective communication as well and the impact it has on boundaries, so buckle up! I start by reviewing my well known love of boundaries, and then explain nonviolent communication and the impact that our caregivers’ responses to our needs as children have upon our ability to communicate needs and set boundaries later on in life. We’ll also explore family culture, codependency, and emotionally clean transactions through a fascinating analysis of ‘Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture’ which I have recently discovered. As you will hear, this topic is extremely important to me, not just professionally, but personally as well, and that is precisely why I am so very passionate about this episode. Join me today, and let’s learn together more about ourselves, and how we can enhance all of our relationships with effective communication. The Finer Details of This Episode: Having boundaries and knowing when to keep them strong and when to bend them is everything Nonviolent communication is a way to get your needs met through effective communication How our caregivers responded to our needs has everything to do with how we communicate our needs and how we set boundaries, and when our caregivers respond poorly to our emotional needs, we grow up with horrible boundaries Your family culture determines how good or bad you are at boundaries Making people guess at what you’re thinking or feeling is not a style of communication, it’s a dysfunction in your family culture Guessers think that somehow they’re responsible for your feelings Nobody is so clairvoyant that they can tell what a person is thinking or feeling at all times Healthy askers accept ‘No’ for an answer We re drawn to people that make us have to work through our shit In a emotionally clean transaction, you don’t have to explain yourself Codependency is defined by investing a lot of time and energy in making sure the other person is not hurt, upset, or disappointed If anybody ever tells you, ‘See what you made me do? You made me…’, that’s a dysfunction and needs to be addressed. Quotes: “I think boundaries are the secret sauce to life.” “Communication, communing, communion with other human beings in an effective way that gets both our needs met is the closest thing I know to holy – it’s amazing.” “If you’re a guesser, you’re expecting me to read your mind.” “My family would turn on me…I was kicked out of the tribe. That’s a really powerful motivator to not speak your truth.” “It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.” “Finding the need, I think, is the crux of all of this.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Nonviolent Communication audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TKMBJKE/ Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/MKEManKindProjectOpenMensGroup/posts/ask-culture-vs-guess-culture-were-you-able-to-ask-for-what-you-wanted-or-did-you/3105247169499428/ ‘The Invitation’ link: http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

57. Rhythm, Routine, Rituals, and Anxiety Sep 13, 2022

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With all the talk these days of reopening society, I want to take this opportunity to speak with you about not only the anxiety which our children are experiencing during the ‘lockdown’ – and, believe me, they are feeling anxious – but also the anxiety that will be generated through the reopening process itself. Rhythm, routines, and rituals all have a part to play in this process, and I’m here to help support you and your children through it all. In today’s episode we look at exactly what we mean by rhythm, routine, and rituals, and acknowledge that both during the pandemic and after, rhythms are going to change. We look at behaviors and how to evaluate and work with them, determine when anxiety becomes ‘not normal’, and face up to the reality of the generational trauma our children are experiencing these days. I will also offer you some suggestions for finding your new rhythms and helping ease your children through the transition of ‘reopening society’. While there is undoubtedly going to be a lot of ‘mental health cleanup’ in the wake of our current circumstances, today’s episode is all about what can be done now to help ensure our children know that they are safe and they are loved and that we are here to provide all the emotional and physical swaddling they need. The Finer Details of This Episode: We are all finding a new rhythm during this pandemic The change in rhythm is generating anxiety in our children You need to determine if a behavior is new or if it’s an ‘amped up’ version of an existing behavior Don’t be crushed by demonstrations of kids clinging to one parent and rejecting the other and don’t give in to it What’s good for our children is a firm, strong voice and actions that say, ‘You don’t have to worry about this’ Everything you choose now is going to be a habit When anxiety interrupts or affects your quality of life, it has slipped into ‘not normal’ and you should seek out help This pandemic is creating ‘generational trauma’ The first few outings during the ‘reopening of society’ transition is where you will want to note anxiety in your child, lean in, and help ease them through it The biggest thing will be finding a new rhythm once again Creating an emotional tether with your child will help during transitions Quotes: “Our little ones thrive on non-verbal communication…they 100% know that something’s going on…and so there’s anxiety.” “Any shitty behavior your kid had is going to be amped up.” “Huge right now is a ‘mommy clinginess’.” “If they’re given control, they’re going to run with it in the wrong direction.” “Your average 3-year-old is on par with your average dog brain-wise.” “Hey, do you need some love right now? Because it’s looking like you need some love.” “When anxiety hits, every kid just needs physical contact to know they are loved and safe. They need emotional swaddling, but they need physical swaddling too.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

56. Modeling Good Attachment Sep 01, 2022

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Knowing that our kids are influenced by our behavior and the examples we set can be a lot of pressure. Parents can feel like they have to be perfect all the time, especially with emotional issues like attachment and apologies, in case they negatively affect their child’s development. In today’s episode, I talk about how perfection isn’t the goal and offer some advice on how to stop worrying and learn to maintain your connection with your kids. The Finer Details of This Episode: A mother wrote to me about attachment styles, wondering if her child could have a different style to hers and her husband’s. Attachment styles are a concept used in psychology to describe how you relate to the people in your life, and relationships between people with different styles can go really wonky (I had a situation like this with a friend that I talked about in some podcast eps back in 2020). There are lots of different attachment styles, including: secure—you can trust fairly easily, are attuned to emotions, can communicate upsets directly, and lead with cooperative and flexible behavior; anxious—you struggle to communicate needs directly and act out when triggered; avoidant-dismissive—you downplay the importance of relationships and can become more vulnerable when triggered; and avoidant-fearful—you have low self-esteem and high anxiety and strongly fear rejection. We may all exhibit symptoms of all these styles, and most people need to work to get to a secure attachment style. What may go wrong in couples is when one person has done that work, and the other hasn’t, which means they still present with symptoms of the other styles. With kids, parents may overcompensate for their attachment issues in hopes of creating a child who feels secure in their attachments, often especially in parents who did their own work to get to a secure attachment style and want to make sure their kid has that from the start. The important thing when trying to cultivate a secure attachment for your toddler is to find a balance of freedom and support. This becomes tricky because we have a sincere desire to let our kids know that we’re there for them, but it can manifest as hovering and rescuing, creating dependence and entitlement instead of secure attachment. The biggest thing you can do to ensure that your child grows up with a secure attachment style is to do your work. If you don’t, you’ll either model one of the other styles or overcompensate, and then you’ll be trying to layer a secure attachment into an existing paradigm, which is just going to fuck up the kid. Even in secure relationships, fights will happen—connection ruptures happen all the time, so the idea isn’t to have a steady connection with your child that is never ruptured. Instead, what has to be second nature is how you repair the connection—which is easy because kids, in general, are so forgiving. Using the terms “connected” and “disconnected” is really valuable for families and all relationships. It’s a healthy way to express your needs and repair connection ruptures instead of slipping into passive-aggressiveness. I hear from a lot of clients whose kids just endlessly want to play with their parents because they’re not getting enough connection. It’s really important to hit those connection points with your kids when they know they’ve got your full attention at some point during the day (especially with COVID when we’re not getting a lot of physical contact with other people). Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

55. Having It All and Covering Your Back with Zoi Jones Aug 18, 2022

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My guest on this week’s episode is Zoi Jones, an old client and now a friend, who’s here with some wonderful stories about how she handles being an entrepreneur, a businesswoman, and a mom all at the same time. I also wanted to have Zoi on because she’s a personal injury lawyer, and she’s going to give us some tips about what to do if you have an auto accident and need help. The Finer Details of This Episode: Zoi’s wanted to be an attorney since she was five years old, growing up with an attorney dad and her mom running the family law firm. When she was just about to start law school, people started telling her that she’d have to choose between being a lawyer and having a family—something that surprised her since both her parents were very hands-on despite being involved in the law business. Zoi still feels pulled in all different directions but knows that it’s impossible to do everything herself and has worked hard to maintain a balance and create non-negotiables for career and family time. It took a lot of trial and error for Zoi to figure out her non-negotiables, as well as coming to terms with asking for help when she needed it. Her moment of revelation came when her sister saw her struggling with her third pregnancy, two kids, and a heavy workload and suggested hiring a nanny. Zoi was uncomfortable with it at first, even working from home to keep an eye on what was happening, but eventually gave herself permission to accept that help. The best thing I ever did for my business was hiring a bookkeeper because it let me focus on doing the things I’m good at—podcasts and Instagram videos and working with clients—and avoid the things that are my idea of hell—spreadsheets and numbers. You can do this at home, too—hire someone to come in and do your laundry or play with your kids so you can get your tasks done. Zoi points out that home help can be really useful in helping you to transition from work mode to home mode—the twenty minutes she gets to herself when her nanny picks her kids up from school lets her take her lawyer hat off and put her mom hat on and really be excited for her kids to come home. Zoi also gets up about twenty minutes before her kids to get that little bit of me-time by doing some quick meditation. Sometimes her son gets up a little earlier and sits with her until she’s done, which works as modeling meditation for him. Mindfulness is such a buzzword right now, but it’s largely empty because parents don’t model it but instead run around like headless chickens. In order to model effectively, you have to be consistent and put in the work yourself. Zoi has made a goal for herself to educate families to have the proper insurance for themselves so they can feel more confident on the roads in case they’re ever involved in an accident. Zoi says that the top things to do if you’re in an auto accident are: call the police regardless of how bad the accident is, take photos (of the vehicles, the other driver’s license, and their insurance info), and go to the doctor even if you think you’re okay (to stop your insurance company from questioning your injuries if they flare up later). The other important thing is to hire an attorney to be in your corner and take care of you because insurance companies are in the business of making money, and they will take advantage instead of getting you the best result. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Gonzalez and Jones Attorneys at Law Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

54. First Phone, Hard Conversations, Sex Talk Aug 04, 2022

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On last week’s episode, I brought up the topic of kids having access to the internet and porn. It might seem like a far-fetched idea for a podcast about toddlers, but these issues come up a lot sooner than you think. Today I’ll discuss how to introduce these concepts to your children slowly and gently, without overwhelming them with more information than they’re ready for. This episode is all about planting the seeds early for blossoming conversations. The internet, texting, and social media have ushered in a new era of parenting, but having an open dialogue with your kids from an early age will encourage them to come to you with their problems later on, and develop the valuable skills they’ll need to be able to tackle tricky situations by themselves as well. The Finer Details of This Episode: Phone use is a tough topic that will come up sooner than you think, and it will lead to other issues such as access to the internet You can start having miniature conversations now to help develop the skills they’ll need when they enter the tween years and their peers are using phones or internet The idea that someone would wait until their child is 11 or 12 to have “The Talk” with their kids is astounding to me - there is way too much information to cover all at once The mechanics of sex are the easiest part of this conversation Feelings, hormones, masturbation, and the pleasure aspect are much harder to discuss, but very important You don’t need to wait until they start asking you questions, but look out for signs that you’re giving more information than they need If you’re approaching this as one single conversation in your “teacher voice,” your kid will not listen to you - these conversations should happen on the fly, often in the car When you keep it casual, the information just becomes information - it’s not loaded Use anatomically correct body terms, but also teach them slang so that they understand what other people might call them Arming kids with the right information will help in matters of sexual consent later on Have a book with labels to refer to when you talk about sex and puberty How I introduced the idea of masturbation in my own parenting experience Your child will probably get their first phone around 10 or 11 Prepare your child and let them know what to expect during puberty Having an open dialogue will encourage your kids to come to you later when they experience a sticky situation Why you may need to track your child’s phone as they get older There’s a fine balance between giving your kids privacy and room to make mistakes, but also making sure they’re safe Kids need to be able to make their own mistakes - this helps them develop valuable skills and problem solving as young adults Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

53. You’re Not Going Crazy, Your Child May Have PANDAS with Elizabeth Harris Jul 21, 2022

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Elizabeth Harris is a scientist, author and spa owner, and today I have invited her to the podcast to share her discovery about PANDAS. I have noticed recently that some clients come to me and can’t find out why their child exhibits certain behaviors. Elizabeth noticed some signs on her sons and, after many visits to the doctors, she began her research looking for the root cause of her son’s behavior. She has authored two books, America’s Infected and What’s Wrong With My Child, and today, we sit down to discuss why it’s important to do your own research and to always trust your gut when something feels wrong. Elizabeth kicks off the show by describing the signs she saw in her son at an early stage - obsession and separation anxiety, amongst others. She talks about delving into the research when she noticed it was not about behavioral therapy but something deeper. Together, we also highlight how important it is to know that, while parenting is difficult, you shouldn’t be wearing yourself out. Your child’s behavior should not engulf your entire existence, and Elizabeth and I talk about this in depth. Elizabeth’s story is a fascinating and informative one, and believe me, you owe it to yourself to dive into today’s episode to find solutions for just what might be happening with your toddler as well. The Finer Details of This Episode: ● Elizabeth is an author, scientist and a spa owner ● Elizabeth noticed some symptoms like night terrors in her son before he was diagnosed with PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections.) ● What PANDAS means and the controversy around it ● A PANDAS episode can leave you wondering if you are doing things right as a parent ● It goes way back to birth ● Elizabeth delves into finding the root cause by going to medical school ● Is the Gulf War Syndrome responsible? ● Parenting is hard but you shouldn’t be dealing with a specific thing all day long ● Your child should not be crying all night ● When you feel something is not right, trust your guts ● Look out for obsessions and separation anxiety ● Your kid might always want to be the center of attraction ● What’s behind mycoplasma? ● Educate yourself about Group A Strep ● Do a deep research and present your findings to your doctors Quotes “PANS is where a child basically can flare for literally anything at all, any kind of an immune response.” “Nothing about this journey was easy.” “You know, as a parent, this is beyond what it should be.” “The scientist in me just couldn't let it go.” “It’s our responsibility to step up and try to help the others that don't know what's going on.” “It's hard, but it shouldn't be like wearing yourself out.” “This is more than just rebellion. This is like oppositional defiance next level.” “When you think something's wrong, you go to your pediatrician.” “If you feel like your entire existence is wrapped up in your child's behavior, something's off.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Elizabeth’s website https://www.whatswrongwellness.com/ Elizabeth’s Instagram https://instagram.com/elizabethharrisauthor?utm_medium=copy_link Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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