Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

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How to Love Love When It Isn't Happening to You Feb 10, 2025

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#144: For years, Anna convinced herself that love wasn't something she needed--playing it cool, staying unattached, and pretending she didn't care. But deep down, she longed for a real, God-honoring relationship.

As friends around her found love, got engaged, and started families, she found herself battling jealousy instead of joy...until one day she made a decision to love love even when it wasn't happening to her. Join us as Anna shares four ways she's been able to do that.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

For a copy of Leah'sBoyfriend Devo, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com.

Related Episodes:

#82: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 1)

#114: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 2)

#2: Is it Love-If, Love-Because, or Love-Regardless?

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Bonus Episode: Interview with Romance Writer Tracy Baack Feb 04, 2025

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In this bonus episode, Kim sits down with her friend Tracy Baack, who has gone from reader to romance writer! They discuss how Tracy found her way into writing, the role of her faith in her storytelling, and why she chooses to write closed-door romances.

Tracy shares what makes this genre unique, the misconceptions people might have, and why it resonates with so many readers. We also talk about faith-driven relationships, the importance of emotional boundaries when reading romance, and what shapes the love stories she tells.

Tune in for an inspiring conversation about love, faith, and the power of storytelling to encourage single Christian women in their pursuit of meaningful relationships.

Tracy's website is tracybaack.com

Here's a link specifically to Love and Other Goals and Tracy's other books:

https://a.co/d/fzVYiIX

Her Instagram is @authortracybaack

https://www.instagram.com/authortracybaack?igsh=MWR5NXV0bmkydzlyZg==

Other bookstagrammers on instagram:

@krystals.book.nook shares only closed-door romance

https://www.instagram.com/krystals.book.nook?igsh=czJzNDJ1M2pyOHdt

@annascleanreads also shares only closed-door recs

https://www.instagram.com/annascleanreads?igsh=a2MweG50N240a2Zu

@parismaereads shares a wider variety of books, but she includes content guides and pages to skip on romances that are not closed-door

https://www.instagram.com/parismaereads?igsh=MXhjYWRjdXZxbzljag==

@thereallifebookreviewer is a popular big account that shares a wide variety of books with spice ratings and chapters to skip. She reads more of the popular trending books, so this is a good account to follow if people are wanting to know what to skip in popular books

https://www.instagram.com/thereallifebookreviewer?igsh=NmhkNGswdDloczF6

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

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Bop or Not: Detox Your Playlist Jan 28, 2025

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#143: In this conversation, Kim, Jena, and Charlotte discuss music. Jena shares some compelling insights about how influential music can be. Because of music's powerful influence, she passes along some helpful truths and principles to guide us to detox our playlist.

"If music is influential, then when I’m listening to music, it is influencing and affecting my life- for better or for worse. This makes me want to be thoughtful and wise about what music I consume." --Jena

Resources:

Clearplay.com Vidangel.com William Augusto: Soaking in His Presence

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

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The Habits in Singleness That Made Our Marriage Thrive (ft. Cat + Jeremy) Jan 14, 2025

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#142: Our guests today are Cat and Jeremy Leach. If you've listened to the podcast for a while, you'll probably remember them. Cat has been on numerous times. The episode they did while engaged, "Why Waiting Was Worth It," is in the TOP TEN of ALL of our episodes.

Cat and Jeremy boast a hefty single girl and single guy resume,' so they understand singleness well. Now that they are married and have become parents, they share in this episode the habits they formed in singleness that have made their marriage thrive.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode #40: Cat talks about traditions
Episode #71: Why Waiting Was Worth It
Episode #107: Cat talks about kissing

For the Values Mining Resource, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!

Repost: Setting Goals and Why "Getting Married" Shouldn't Be One Dec 31, 2024

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Repost #111: Have you made some goals for 2025? Is one of them to get married? If so, you need to listen to this episode!

Kim has a goal-setting gene in her DNA, but Adrienne and Leah don’t. Join in on their discussion, where Kim shares her best insights about successful goal-setting to help you move toward becoming who you want to be in 2025.

Why you shouldn’t have a goal to get married this year
How many goals should you set?
The importance of setting SMART goals
What goal-setting looks like

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The LifeScore Assessment ⁠https://assessments.fullfocus.co/lifescore/⁠

Plant Nanny App

⁠https://apps.apple.com/us/app/plant-nanny-cute-water-tracker/id1424178757⁠

The Bible Recap ⁠https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start⁠

Want more? Read the book!

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Repost: Making This Your Best Christmas Yet Dec 17, 2024

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Repost #40: The Christmas countdown is on, and our guest this week LOVES Christmas! She knows how to make it special whether she has a man or not. Cat joins us on this episode to share her insights and best tips for making this your best Christmas yet!

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Repost: Prepped for the Holidays Dec 03, 2024

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Repost #74: The holidays can be a complicated season to navigate, especially as a single woman. Whether it’s a conversation topic we want to bring up ... or a conversation we’d rather avoid at all costs ... we all need help getting prepped to go home for the holidays! Today our guest is Ryan O’Sullivan, and she’s going to be giving us 3 seasoned tips on how to prepare to spend time at home this holiday season.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from the podcast, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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A Brief Podcast Update from Kim Dec 03, 2024

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Today, Kim is in the studio to give you a quick update. We know consistency is key in podcasting, so she's sharing a few upcoming changes.

Change #1: Due to an unexpected health issue Kim had this past week, we are starting our holiday break a little earlier than planned. Like we did during our summer break, we’ll repost some past episodes that we don’t want you to miss.

Change #2: Kim is fine health-wise, but she needs to slow things down a bit, so starting this week, we are moving to an every-other-week posting schedule.

We’ll kick off our new season on January 14. We have some incredible guests already lined up for the Spring! I’m looking forward to sharing them with you.

We still have a lot to talk about, so I hope you’ll make plans to join us. Have a great Christmas!!

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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Grow in Gratitude With Us Nov 26, 2024

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#141: This week is Thanksgiving, so it’s the perfect backdrop to discuss becoming a more thankful person. We have the whole podcast crew on this episode, and we are sharing our best tips and truths for growing in thankfulness and gratitude.

One of the choices you can make as a single woman to invest in yourself and a future marriage is to develop your character. There are many things you can’t change, but you can change your character. God has a part in this process and we do too.

We hope you will be spurred on to be a more thankful person, not only this week, but all year long!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Char's Roommate's Gratitude Journal

30-day Gratitude Challenge

Revive Our Hearts website

Choosing Gratitude by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!

Why Hasn't God Brought Me a Husband? (ft. Kennon + Kathryn Vaughan) Nov 19, 2024

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#140: Kennon Vaughan joins us again on this episode, but this time, he brings his wife, Kathryn. Together, they help us wrestle with those situations when we don't understand what God is doing.

If you wonder why God hasn't brought your husband yet, this episode is for you!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

#118: Discipleship and the Single Girl with Kennon Vaughan

To learn more about Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form⁠

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!