Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

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Group Hangouts: Tired of the Competition? Nov 12, 2024

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#139: Group hangouts can play an important role in a single woman's social life. Sometimes, they can be life-giving, but sometimes, they can leave us feeling insecure and empty, especially when we're competing for a guy's attention. If this has ever been a struggle, this is your episode!

Dianna works with college students at the University of Texas in Austin, and she is the perfect guest for this discussion. She is godly, fun, others-focused, and a slay single queen! You'll want her to show up at your next group hang!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode #131: Navigating Loneliness

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

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POV: Four Unattractive Qualities in Single Women Nov 05, 2024

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#138: Our friend Austin takes the hot seat in this episode and gives a Christian guy's take on the four most unattractive qualities in single women.

Austin shares his perspective on how these qualities affect men's attraction and relationship dynamics. You'll be challenged and encouraged to pursue your relationship with God and personal growth.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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"I'm Pregnant" Oct 29, 2024

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#137: In this episode, you'll have an opportunity to meet Greer. She wrestled with the Lord in college and decided to go her own way...until she got pregnant.

We hope this episode provides encouragement, hope, resources, and practical help for those facing an unplanned pregnancy...and help and encouragement for the friends who are walking alongside them.

To connect with Greer or Kim, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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Single With a Sex Drive, Part 2 (with Dr. Joy Skarka) Oct 22, 2024

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#136: In this episode, Kim and Leah welcome Dr. Joy Skarka, author of Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy. They discuss the journey of freedom for those struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors.

They explore Dr. Joy's personal freedom journey, her new book, and the growing issue of pornography among women. The conversation emphasizes the damaging effects of pornography, the misconception that marriage will solve sexual struggles, and the spiritual aspects of sexuality.

Listeners are encouraged to steward their sexual desires and seek support from trusted mentors. Dr. Joy offers hope and practical advice for women navigating these challenges, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.

Introduction to Sexuality and Relationships
Dr. Joy's Journey and Book Insights
Understanding Sexuality and Purity
The Growing Issue of Pornography Among Women
The Damaging Effects of Pornography
The Misconception of Marriage as a Solution
The Spiritual Aspect of Sexuality
Stewarding Sexual Desires
Practical Tips for Managing Sexual Urges
Navigating Conversations About Pornography
Encouragement for Women Struggling with Pornography
Final Thoughts and Words of Hope

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn & Shame to Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Joy Skarka & Dr. Juli Slattery

Sex and the Single Girl, Dr. Juli Slattery

Rethinking Sexuality, Dr. Juli Slattery

authenticintimacy.com

Joy's Instagram: @joyskarka @skarkafamily

Related Episodes:

#48 What Porn Doesn't Tell You (w/Joy Skarka)

#77 Single With a Sex Drive, Part 1 (w/Joy Skarka)

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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The Value of Vision and Calling in Singleness and Marriage Oct 15, 2024

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#135: Drew and Heather enjoy a marriage characterized by communication, unity, and teamwork.

Are those qualities you'd like to have in a marriage someday? If so, you'll want to hear how vision and calling have helped them.

In this episode, Leah and Kim delve into their story. You'll hear insights on how calling and vision:

formed during their single years
guided them in dating
gave them clarity when they met
provided direction as newlyweds
and how it continues to impact their marriage, family, business, community, and church

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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Have You Discovered Your True Self? Oct 08, 2024

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#134: Finding your identity in Christ is one of the critical choices a young woman can make while she's single, and it will have a big impact now and in a future marriage.

Michelle Fries joins Kim and Jena on this episode to discuss her journey in finding identity--her true self. Michelle is the author of You Are Not a Mistake: The Gift of Sacred Identity from the God Who Says You Belong.

Michelle and Kim have known each other since they were single girls, and they have done a lot of life alongside each other. Michelle's story will draw you in and inspire you to find your true self in God.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Michelle's website ---> https://michellefriesblog.com/

Michelle's instagram--> https://www.instagram.com/michelle.t.fries/

FB: Walking in Sacred Identity w/ Michelle Fries

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!

Considering a Conference? Three Benefits for Single Girls Oct 01, 2024

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#133: Opportunities to attend conferences usually pop up this time of year. Are you thinking about going to one? If you are a single girl, we think you should go! In this episode, Kim, Jena, and Char discuss three main benefits single girls can experience at a conference.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode #131: Navigating Loneliness

For more info about attending or volunteering at SMC, reach out to the StuMo staffer from your campus, or you can contact us at https://www.kimvollendorf.com/contact

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!

Screen Detox: Breaking Up With Your Phone (But Staying Friends) Sep 24, 2024

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#132: Among Gen Z'ers, 42% have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder, and the number one contributing factor to this mental health epidemic is the influence of digital technology and social media.

In this episode, Leah, Char, and Kim get real about our relationship with our phones. Leah, who is pursuing a master's degree in clinical mental health, leads our discussion with some alarming statistics. She shares four ways our smartphones hurt us and four practical ways to fight back.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt

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Episode #129: Three Things I'm Glad I Did When I Was Single

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠⁠@sixonesis⁠⁠

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening!

Navigating Loneliness Sep 17, 2024

Show notes

#131: Ever felt lonely? Yeah, we have too.

In this episode, Kim, Leah, and Jena explore the topic of loneliness. We each share our personal experiences with loneliness, and Jena shares three essential insights about loneliness and some practical tips for navigating it well.

We emphasize the importance of turning to God and building a solid relationship with Him to navigate loneliness. Our discussion offers valuable insights and encouragement for those who are experiencing loneliness.

Here's the Downline interest form link: https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

To learn more about Downline, visit their website:

⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠

To see video clips of this episode, please check out Kim's instagram ⁠⁠@sixonesis⁠⁠.

For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

Resource Mentioned:

Finding God in My Loneliness by Lydia Brownback

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Inside the Generosity of an Aspiring Good Guy (Simeon) Sep 10, 2024

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#130: Being around good, godly men can change how you view guys and relationships. Knowing that good guys still exist can influence the type of guy you're interested in and help you WAIT for that type of guy!

In this episode, you'll meet Simeon, Kim's middle son. He's a single guy working in Phoenix, and he's sharing his best insights on growing in generosity.

It was a fun episode to record, and Simeon brought co-host Adrienne out of "retirement" to do it with us!

For more information about the podcast or the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.

Aspiring Good Guy Episodes:

#126 Daniel
#99 Fisher
#65 Blake
#47 Tyler
#26 Logan
#22 Austin

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