Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

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Don't Miss The Guy Who Is Stacking Chairs: A Single Guy's Insights on Serving Jul 01, 2025

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#154 What if the kind of guy you hope to marry someday is already out there… quietly stacking chairs after a church meeting, helping a friend move, or giving someone a ride home?

In today’s episode, we’re talking with a single guy who’s learning to live a life of service—and why that matters more than you might think. Whether you’re hoping to spot character in someone else or grow it in yourself, this conversation will inspire you to start loving your future husband by becoming someone who serves like Jesus—right now.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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When God's Timing Feels Too Slow: A Guy's Take on Patience Jun 17, 2025

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#153 We're in our "Good Guys of Summer" series, and in this episode, we sit down with Danny to talk about something all of us wrestle with: patience. What does it look like to wait well—not just in dating, but in every area of life? How do we trust God when His timing feels frustrating or unclear? You’ll hear real-life encouragement, a few honest struggles, and some biblical wisdom that will help you stay grounded in seasons of waiting.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode #66 Four Reasons Why He's Not Asking You Out

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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One Single Guy's Honest Take on Singleness Jun 03, 2025

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#152: In this episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, we’re sitting down with Matt, one of our “Good Guys of Summer,” to talk honestly about singleness—from a guy’s perspective. If you’re single, love Jesus, and hope to be married someday, this conversation will encourage you to see your single years not as a waiting room but as a time of purpose.

Matt shares why singleness isn’t second place, how culture often sells us a smaller story, and what it really looks like to trust God with your future love story. He talks openly about the tension between desire and surrender, the freedom this season brings, and how to make the most of it—all with wisdom, humility, and just enough humor.

If you’ve ever wondered if God sees you, if singleness is really a gift, or if there are still good guys out there—this episode is for you.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

John Piper Video "Single in Christ: A Name Better Than Sons and Daughters" on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvhsYU1p3a8

Episode #86 Enjoying God

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Cooking 101: A Guide for Single Girls May 20, 2025

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#151: Feel like the kitchen is intimidating?

You're not alone--but it doesn't have to stay that way! In this episode, Hailey (star of "Cooking at Kaleo") joins us to share simple, motivating tips to help you grow more confident cooking at home.

Whether you want to eat healthier, save money, or just feel more capable, this conversation will give you a great place to start.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Cooking at Kaleo YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@haileypoints8825

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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Launching Strong: Life After Graduation May 06, 2025

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#150 Graduating from college is exciting… and overwhelming. You’re stepping into a whole new world—maybe a new job, new city, or new stage of life. In this episode, Kim and Char welcome Madison to help you launch strong. From building spiritual habits in a busy schedule to finding real community (even if it means sitting by strangers at church), this conversation is packed with practical wisdom for single women in transition.

Whether you’re feeling lost, lonely, or just ready for what’s next, this episode will help you root your identity in Christ, take initiative in your new season, and grow into the kind of woman who thrives—and loves her husband before she even has one.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

TheBibleRecap.com
#126 Inside the Community of an Aspiring Good Guy
#105 Can't I Just Watch Church Online?
#91 Dealing With Change
#49 Alcohol: To Drink or Not to Drink
#25 Tips for Being the New Girl

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Loving Your Kids Before You Even Have Any (ft. Rose) Apr 22, 2025

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#149 You’re single, you don’t have kids yet… so why should you care about parenting?

In this episode, Kim and Leah sit down with Rose—a mom of four—to talk about what single women can do now to prepare for motherhood in the future.

From learning the character of God to spending time with families you admire, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and real-life insights. Plus, Leah (who is about to become a mom herself!) gets some firsthand advice.

Whether motherhood is years away or just around the corner, this episode will help you love your future kids before you even have them.

Related Episodes:

#18 Sarah's Episode on Marriage and Family

#86 Enjoying God (ABCs of God's Character)

#51 Leah as a single girl

#110 Leah's Engaged!

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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The Girl Who Stole My Son's Heart: Meet Kim’s Future Daughter-in-Law Apr 08, 2025

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#148 What if you could love your future husband before you even meet him? In this special episode, Kim and OG co-host Adrienne sit down with Kim’s soon-to-be daughter-in-law, Kinsey, to talk about how she lived out the principles of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One—long before she knew she’d one day marry Kim’s son!

Kinsey shares her journey from chasing identity in sports to finding fulfillment in Christ, the intentional choices she made during her single years, and the prayers she didn’t even realize were being answered. From battling doubts about her standards to trusting God’s timing, Kinsey’s story is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and a beautiful reminder that God writes the best love stories.

If you’re a single woman wondering how to prepare for a future marriage while staying faithful to God right where you are, this episode is for you!

Key Takeaways:

✨ Ways to love your future husband before you meet him

✨ The power of spending time with God and trusting His character

✨ Why surrounding yourself with godly women is a game-changer

✨ The importance of staying faithful where God has placed you

No matter where you are in your journey, this conversation will encourage you to walk in faith, trust God’s plan, and embrace the season you’re in.

Listen now and be inspired to love well—before “I do”!

Related Resources:

Fisher's Episode #99

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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Feel It, Heal It: Steps to Process Your Emotions Mar 25, 2025

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#147 Emotions—do you ignore them or let them run the show?In this episode, we dive into why learning to process emotions with God is one of the most important areas to grow in as a single woman. Whether you tend to bottle up your feelings or let them dictate your decisions, understanding how to handle them biblically can transform not only your relationship with God but also your future marriage.

Join Kim and Jena as Leah unpacks:

• The two common ways people deal with emotions (and the pitfalls of both!)

• What the Bible teaches about emotions and how Jesus modeled them

• A simple process to help you name, feel, and surrender your emotions to God

• How unprocessed emotions can affect your spiritual, mental, and even physical health

If you want to grow in emotional maturity, deepen your intimacy with God, and prepare for a thriving marriage—this episode is for you!

Listen now and learn how to love your future husband before you even meet him by stewarding your emotions well today.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Feelings Wheel https://feelingswheel.com/
Search for Verses Resource https://www.openbible.info/topics/value
Praying Our Tears Article https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=DxOWWWVDGD0

Steps to Process Our Emotions:

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Pray
Name the Emotions
Feel the Emotion
Describe the Painful Event
How It Made You Feel
Lies You Could Be Believing (about God and Self)
Truth From Scripture
Pray and Ask for God’s Help To Believe What’s True
Share with a Trusted Friend

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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Celebrating 40 Years: An Honest Chat with Kim About Faith, Relationships, and Finishing Strong Mar 11, 2025

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#146 What does it mean to have faith in Christ? How does it relate to relationships and marriage? What will help your faith thrive in the seasons ahead of you?

Listen in as co-hosts Charlotte and Jena sit down with Kim as she reflects on her 40-year spiritual journey and shares candid insights on maintaining a strong faith in all of life's challenges.

Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating, seeking purpose in singleness, or striving to deepen your spiritual walk, Kim's experiences offer practical wisdom and encouragement for your journey.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

#86 Growing Closer to God

#68 Processing Your Hurts

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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What happens when you have two single women and two married women discussing important topics for single women?

You have the Season 8 Podcast Team!

In this episode, you'll get to know our newest podcast team member, and you'll be able to listen to our discussion on the loudest, most influential voice in each of our lives.

Click ⁠here⁠ to find out more about the bookmarks mentioned on the podcast.

POV: 3 Dating Pitfalls That Could Be Leading You Down the Wrong Path Feb 25, 2025

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#145 A lasting, enjoyable marriage doesn't just happen--it starts with how you date. If you follow the same dating patterns as the culture, you'll likely end up in the same place: frustration, heartbreak, and disappointment. But what if there's a better way?

In this episode, Kim and Jena sit down with Colin and Karisa to uncover three common dating pitfalls that can derail your path to a lasting, God-honoring marriage. Get ready for real talk, practical wisdom, and the kind of advice that could change your love life forever!

Related Episodes:

#28 Setting Boundaries in Dating

#28B Bonus Boundaries Episode

#107 K-I-S-S-I-N-G

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

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