Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

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Gratitude: The Glow-Up That Gets Noticed Nov 18, 2025

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#162 One of the most powerful choices you can make while you’re single is to invest in who you’re becoming. There are some things you can't change about yourself—but with God’s help, you can grow your character. And here’s the truth: you can fake character on a date, but you can’t fake it in marriage.

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, we’re bringing back a favorite episode all about cultivating gratitude—a habit that shapes your heart, your relationships, and your future marriage. The entire podcast crew (including Leah!) is here to share real-life stories, practical tips, and biblical insights on how to grow a genuinely thankful heart.

If you’ve been feeling spiritually stagnant, easily frustrated, or just craving a reset heading into the holidays, this episode will help you shift your mindset and your mood.

Listen in and start becoming the woman your future husband will thank God for.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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When God Becomes Enough: Lessons on Security, Success, and Surrender Nov 04, 2025

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#161 Haley joins Kim and Jena for a powerful conversation about what it means to feel secure — not in your job, your health, your accomplishments, or your relationship status — but in Christ alone. With honesty and humor, Haley shares how God met her in the middle of achievement, illness, and change, proving that His presence is more satisfying than anything the world promises.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

None Like Him by Jen Wilkin
In His Image by Jen Wilkin
The Bible Recap
For more information about the ABC bookmarks, please reach out to Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠ and Amazon.com.

Please note: The book is currently transitioning between publishers. If it isn't available yet, please continue to check back. It will be available soon.

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When Singleness Feels Hard: Real Talk + Practical Advice Oct 21, 2025

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#160 Being single can come with real challenges — from loneliness to questions of self-worth to the tension of waiting on God’s timing. In this week’s episode, Kim and Charlotte sit down with Shivani, one of their seasoned single co-workers, to talk honestly about what makes singleness hard and how she’s learned to navigate through those things.

Shiv opens up about:

• Loneliness — and what it looks like to come to God honestly instead of avoiding Him

• Self-Worth — how to stop settling for “scraps” of attention and anchor your identity in God’s delight

• Waiting — how to trust God’s timing, live fully now, and embrace the life He’s given you

If you’ve ever wrestled with unmet desires or wondered if God sees you, this episode will remind you that He does — and that He’s writing a beautiful story in your life, even in the waiting.

Listen in for honest stories, practical encouragement, and a reminder that you don’t have to wait for marriage to live a full, faith-filled life.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

None Like Him: 10 Ways God is Different Than Us by Jen Wilkin

The Attributes of God by A.W. Tozer

Some of the verses on Shiv's scripture ring:

Zephaniah 3:17
Galatians 4:7
Isaiah 49:16
Isaiah 43:4
Ephesians 1:4
Ephesians 2:10

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The First Year of Marriage: What No One Tells You Oct 07, 2025

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Repost of Episode #117: We all love a good wedding story--but what happens after the honeymoon? In this honest and hope-filled episode, Logan and his wife, Lindsey, open up about the highs, lows, and unexpected lessons from their first year of marriage.

If you're single and dreaming of marriage, this is your chance to peek behind the curtain. You'll hear what surprised them most, what helped them grow, and how God used that first year to strengthen their love.

If you want to love your future husband well--even before you meet him--this conversation will help you build realistic expectations and prepare your heart for the real thing.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Episode #63 When a Social Media Spark Leads to Marriage (Logan and Lindsey's love story)

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The Husband Prayer Dilemma: To Pray or Not to Pray? Sep 23, 2025

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#159 Should you pray for your future husband? In this episode, Charlotte and Kim delve into one of the most frequently asked questions by single women. Together, they explore what the Bible says about prayer, look at examples of people who prayed for deeply personal desires, and unpack how these principles apply to praying for marriage.

You’ll hear:

• Whether Scripture encourages us to pray for a spouse

• Do motives matter?

• The benefits of praying for your future husband—and how it shapes you

• Practical ways to start praying now, even before you meet him

If you’ve ever wondered “Is it okay to ask God for a husband?” or “What if He wants me to be single?”—this conversation will encourage your heart and point you toward God’s wisdom, His timing, and His love for you.

Because around here, we believe you can love your husband before you even have one. 💕

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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"God, I'm Tired of Waiting": Hope + Strength for Single Women Sep 09, 2025

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#158 Waiting can feel exhausting—whether it’s waiting for a husband, an answered prayer, or simply life to move forward. In this episode, Kim sits down with Jena and Charlotte to unpack Isaiah 40:31 and discover what it really means to “wait on the Lord.”

Together, they explore how biblical waiting isn’t passive, but an active choice to entwine your heart with God’s purposes—trusting Him to renew your strength and lift you above your circumstances. You’ll hear honest reflections about impatience, comparison, and control, as well as practical rhythms that help you “ride God’s thermals” instead of wearing yourself out.

If you’ve ever felt weary, overlooked, or tired of waiting, this conversation will encourage you with fresh perspective and give you practical steps to keep trusting God in your season of waiting.

Because loving your husband before you even have one often begins with learning how to love and trust God first.

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For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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REPOST: Love Where You Are At Aug 26, 2025

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Repost of Episode #84: Ever feel like life isn’t quite what you pictured? Maybe you’re walking through a transition, waiting for things to get easier, or simply wanting to grow in contentment where you are right now. You’re not alone—we get it! That’s why we invited Megan Coye to join us and share her top 3 practical tips for learning how to love where you’re at—no matter your season.

If No One's Ever Told You This...This Girl Dad Will Aug 12, 2025

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#156 In this final episode of our Good Guys of Summer series, we’re sitting down with Corey—a dad of four daughters—who’s giving us a rare look into the heart of a “girl dad.” From sweet one-on-one daddy-daughter dates to how he prays specifically for each of his girls, Corey shares the kind of wisdom, encouragement, and truth every young woman needs to hear.

Whether you grew up with a loving dad, a complicated relationship, or no dad at all, this conversation will leave you encouraged, grounded in truth, and reminded that you are deeply loved and valued.

So grab your coffee, pull up a chair, and listen in as a girl dad “spills the secrets” on what he hopes every young woman knows—before she ever says “I do.”

Resources mentioned in this episode:

A Praying Life, by Paul Miller

Listen to Tonya on Episode #15 and Episode #106

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

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For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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Ancient Wisdom for Modern Relational Messes (ft. Jamie Trussell of Downline) Jul 29, 2025

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#156 What does Proverbs have to say about relationships—and how can this ancient wisdom help you avoid modern-day relational messes?

In this episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, Kim and returning co-host Leah sit down with pastor, author, and clean-comedy fan Jamie Trussell for a practical and hilarious conversation.

Jamie shares four timeless (and surprisingly convicting) Proverbs-based tips for wiser relationships. You’ll laugh, reflect, and walk away with real wisdom you can apply now—even before you’re married.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

From Couch to Couch by Jamie Trussell
The Downline Podcast, hosted by Jamie Trussell
LYH Episode #147 Feel It, Heal It: Steps to Process Your Emotions
Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

To learn more about Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠

To learn more about StuMo, visit ⁠https://www.stumo.org/⁠

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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What Godly Guys Are Actually Looking For Jul 15, 2025

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#155 We're in our series "The Good Guys of Summer," introducing you to men who are pursuing God and giving us an inside look at what really matters to them.

Ever wonder what really stands out to a godly man when he thinks about who he might marry someday? In this honest and eye‑opening conversation, Dave—who mentors college guys in their faith—shares four qualities he tells them to look for in a woman. If you’ve ever questioned whether the choices you’re making now matter for your future marriage, this episode will both challenge and encourage you. 💛

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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