Life of And

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Solving for challenges in two-career homes: a live coaching session Dec 07, 2023

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Life is all about choices. And if you and your spouse have chosen to raise your family in a 2 career home, there can be specific challenges that arise. How do you solve for things like who does what chores, and when? Who pays the bills? How do we know what we’re spending month to month? How can I better support my spouse when I barely have time for anything else?

Tiffany has lots of thoughts on this topic, so she welcomes Kyler and Morgan Mason on the podcast to test out some practical solving exercises she’s been working on. In this question and answer format, Tiffany listens in as the Masons share some of the pitfalls that they encounter as they try to get through their busy work weeks and care for their kids. Tiffany helps by giving her tips for creating systems and setting minimums for smoother weeks and a functional household.

Download the worksheet from today's episode here.

Kyler Mason is the President of Element Three and his wife Morgan has a full time career as well as a Training Support Specialist for an Indiana-based non-profit. They have a two year old and an infant at home.

[00:00] Intro

[03:05] Intro to Morgan and Kyler-background, childhoods and jobs

[08:48] Reactive vs. Proactive exercise

[11:07] Question 1: What is one thing you dread on your in home to-do list

[14:19] Creating new systems and minimums to help get it done

[18:36] Solving by 'Forcing Function'

[20:23] Question 2: What is one thing that you wish would happen more consistently in your home now that doesn't?

[31:36] What does balance look like for Morgan?

[32:30] Defining minimums

[38:16] Advice for your kids when they're at this stage

[39:17] Words to describe your relationship right now

[40:47] Closing

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1 Key Tip to Make Your Marriage Last Year After Year Nov 30, 2023

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Having a dual career household and a busy family schedule can leave very little time to focus on your marriage. What if you discovered the secret to keeping your marriage not only alive, but actually thriving year after year? One secret that will enrich your relationship, spark intentional conversation, benefit your family and even help you to understand one another better?

In this episode, Tiffany shares the one vital tip that she and JR have found to make their marriage last year after year…getting away together. She shares how having one yearly trip to look forward to has had an extremely positive impact on their relationship that continues to enrich their marriage all year long. Yes, it can be difficult to get away and you can find many reasons not to do it. But setting it as a minimum in your marriage is well worth it. Listen in as she explains why it’s so important, and how to make it happen in your own life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:46] Chemical peel thoughts

[01:24] Why getting away with your spouse is important

[03:54] Advice on how to get away - Consider your calendar flow and childcare

[04:53] Get away for at least 5 days

[05:41] Plan for what you want to talk about

[07:24] Patrick Lencioni seminar/book: Six types of working genius

[08:12] Tiffany and JR's working genius results

[09:14] Tiffany as inventor; JR as discerner

[12:38] Excuses of not planning a getaway

[17:28] Time away is revealing and exhilarating

[20:40] Closing

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Choose Your Hard Nov 23, 2023

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Happy Thanksgiving from Tiffany and the Scared Confident team!

Everyday we are faced with that fork in the road of choosing the easy path or the hard path. We come to it time and time again. The easy path is attractive and it calls out to us by making us believe that it will create more time and space in our lives. But do we really believe that to be true?

Tiffany comes to us this week with a power-packed reminder to never give into the easy path. It’s a temporary one that takes us farther away from who we are supposed to become. Instead, choose your hard…every time. Choose the path that aligns with who you are striving to be. Is it difficult? Yes. Is it worth it? Every single time. Listen in to be inspired to choose your hard and live your Life of And to the fullest.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:42] Choose your hard

[01:57] Great sailors were not made in calm waters

[02:30] Muscle memory

[02:50] Closing

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Do it or delegate it: A candid Q&A chat about in-home help Nov 16, 2023

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Juggling a big job, a two career household and raising your kids makes for a full life. And being the designated COO of maintaining your household, relationships and family schedule calls for a bit of creativity at times. Tiffany takes a deeper look into how to do just that.

In this episode, Tiffany is joined by Rachel Downey to expand on last week’s topic, ‘Do it or delegate it: An up close look at my in-home help.’ Rachel asks some candid questions about Tiffany’s take on what she means by ‘big job’, how to find time to maintain relationships, creative ways to show up for your kids and how to be judicious in spending your money on in-home help. If you find yourself wanting more ands in your life without sacrificing time for the things you love, you won’t want to miss this helpful conversation!

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Do it or delegate it: An up close look at my in-home help Nov 09, 2023

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Let’s talk about something very precious…your time.

Your career needs your time. Your relationships need your time. Your family needs your time. And what about you? Self-care is not optional to keep up with this pace. What can you exchange in your life to replenish that precious commodity of time?

If this is striking a nerve, maybe it’s time to consider some in-home help. And yes, Tiffany has some ideas!

Tune into this episode as Tiffany dives into all things covering the topic of in-home help. She explores different options and what has worked for her own family at different phases and stages. Getting creative in how you solve in exchange for more time can help you in your pursuit of a peaceful and sustainable Life of And.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[00:42] Let’s talk about having help inside the home

[02:14] Tiffany's background and childhood

[05:04] The time, mental and relationship demands in life

[06:29] Tiffany realized that there might be a better way

[08:25] Using your resources to get time back

[10:12] Everything you own takes more time from you because it has to be managed

[11:17] We can't just attend to our tasks and neglect our relationships

[13:34] Tiffany's phases and stages of care: Phase 1 - 1 kid, no money

[16:23] Phase 2 - 2 kids and a little more money

[18:12] Phase 3 - 3 kids, more help

[20:17] Phase 4 - 4 kids all in different stages, a traveling husband, and lots of help!

[22:43] Shared nanny, house manager, drivers, and laundry service

[25:27] Tiffany uses a laundry service called Poplin

[26:55] Summary of what it takes at this stage of Tiffany's family life

[27:31] Getting on the same page as a couple about the financial aspect of hiring help

[31:59] Being accountable to the time-exchange you've created

[34:15] Practical recommendations and resources to get started

[34:49] Task Planner resource reminder

[37:02] Closing

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Two careers, 4 kids and a clean house: a step-by-step system for success Nov 02, 2023

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Do you find yourself in a two-career household trying to get all the things done?

It can feel like insanity!

Work and kids’ schedules can keep you on the go most weeks (and even weekends), and the simplest of tasks at home can pile up way too quickly. Laundry. Making food. Home repairs. Cleaning. Grocery shopping.

Not only does it clutter your house, but even worse it can clutter your brain.

In this week’s episode, Tiffany introduces the first tool in her Own the Ordinary course that will help you get those tasks out of your head, onto paper and into a system that works for you. By implementing the Task Planner tool into your routine, you will feel confident in knowing that your household tasks are already built into your busy schedule. Tune in to learn about this tool that Tiffany has created to help her family and yours Own the Ordinary things in life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Intro

[03:01] Introducing the Task Planner tool and the 3 major components of it

[06:53] Task List PDF explanation

[08:40] Overview of the daily Task Planner

[11:10] What's in Tiffany's 'morning roundup'

[11:56] Tiffany's 'evening wind-down' list

[15:41] Overview of the weekly and recurring Task Planner

[21:10] An editable PDF is in process and will be available soon

[23:06] Closing

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5 Practical Tips for Managing your Family with a Traveling Spouse Oct 26, 2023

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Who has the better deal, the spouse who is traveling for work or the one who stays home to manage the family? Both roles have plenty of positives and negatives. But if you’re the one staying home, this episode is for you.

This week, Tiffany shares 5 practical tips to help navigate family life with a traveling spouse. Drawing from her own experiences, she explains how to take charge, plan ahead, get creative and have FUN. If you find yourself really struggling while your spouse travels, tune into learn some new strategies. This can be a win for your entire family!

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction to the episode

[00:24] Tiffany is touched by the most normal moments in life

[01:34] Navigating well a traveling spouse

[02:53] Ways to stay connected to your traveling spouse

[03:19] Send texts and pictures throughout the day

[05:21] Make sure you talk for at least 10 minutes each night

[06:24] Make the weekends fun

[08:32] Watch how you talk about your spouse to others

[11:08] Prep and plan your 'thing' before your spouse travels

[13:18] Keep in mind that it's hard to travel and be away

[15:17] There are both positive and negative things about staying home vs. traveling

[16:17] Getting creative and keeping busy

[19:59] Closing

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REPLAY: 6 principles for living a life of And Oct 19, 2023

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You want it all from life. A thriving family and a successful career. Good friends and authentic relationships. Personal growth and abundance. But how do you attain the goal of having it all?

Navigating your family, career and personal life can feel overwhelming at times. And yet, you want to excel in all of it, and you shouldn’t have to settle for anything less. Committing to certain behaviors and practices can help. In this episode, Tiffany explores six critical things to help you create space and balance for all the ‘ands’ in your life, so that you can say yes to more.

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How to Prioritize Like a Pro Oct 12, 2023

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We’ve all been there… A new opportunity comes your way, and it can be tempting to take on. It sounds interesting, fits your talents, and could lead to further personal growth. But would it take up too much time? Sounds like a conundrum, but it doesn’t have to be!

In this week’s episode, Tiffany shares the most fool-proof way to solve that problem - getting a firm grasp on your priorities. Setting your priorities and living by them makes it very easy to know what to say yes to and no. She also dives into the difference between implicit expectations and explicit agreements with people in your life and how that can help those relationships grow and thrive. Tune in and learn how to set your priorities to continue pursuing your Life of And.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[00:34] Homecoming season in Tiffany’s household

[02:20] How do you know what to say yes or no to?

[02:40] Time is a non-renewable resource in life

[03:13] If you don’t know what to say yes or not to, it’s a YOU problem

[03:31] It’s a problem if you don’t know your priorities

[07:21] Check in with your stakeholders to help set your priorities

[09:02] Implicit expectations and Explicit agreements

[09:30] Agreement is important to both parties

[12:19] Women’s talk - Muffet McGraw quote

[14:42] Putting yourself at the table or on the ballot

[15:56] 2 tips for holiday prep to do NOW

[17:09] Outro

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Tips for finding and hiring a nanny Oct 05, 2023

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If you have a dual-career family, chances are you’ve needed childcare, and know that that search can be daunting.

What type of care do we need? How many days a week? What will fit in our budget? There are so many choices.

In this episode, Tiffany invites her assistant, Samantha Johnson, onto the podcast to have a realistic chat about how they collaboratively solved both their childcare needs by sharing a nanny. This solution took some creativity and involved a well-thought-out process to hire the right person. They share their experiences and great advice for finding and hiring their nanny.

If you are considering hiring a nanny, tune in for a real-life overview of what it takes and how to begin!

Timestamps:

[00:00] Show Intro

[00:42] Introduce Samantha Johnson, AKA Sam

[02:03] Tiffany and Sam share their situations and experiences of what they looked for in a nanny and why

[07:05] They discuss the reasons that led them to do a nanny-share

[07:34] Where do you find a nanny?

[11:44] How to begin the interview process and what steps does it entail

[23:12] Five-week check-in… how it’s going

[27:35] Tiffany’s 3 pieces of advice if you’re considering hiring a nanny

[30:25] Sam’s 3 pieces of advice if you’re considering hiring a nanny

[35:11] Closing