Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Eps 520: Disrespect and relationship with our teenagers Oct 17, 2024

Show notes

I see and field a lot of questions from parents about disrespect and kids who seem to have no desire to connect or be with the family. We talk so much about relationship here, but what happens when there seems to be no desire for a relationship on the side of the kids? This is where we head this week on the show…

Big shout out to a member of the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group member who gave permission to me to tease apart a post she shared there here on the podcast!

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Revisiting Eps 425: Setting boundaries around teen substance use with Brenda Zane Oct 14, 2024

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Brenda Zane is back this week!

She was on the podcast before (spring 2023) talking about how to be with teen substance abuse.

We had SUCH an amazing response to that conversation that Brenda and I thought it would be helpful to have her back to talk about “what do you do” for specific scenarios around our teens and substances that leave us feeling in the dark. Today we discuss how to set healthy boundaries around teen substance abuse while still maintaining a connected relationship with our teens.

Takeaways from the show

Creating conditions for positive change in children, and the plant analogy.
Why young people turn to substance use, including a desire to cope with emotional pain and shame.
Setting boundaries around drug use
The challenge of enforcing consequences
The importance of addition over subtraction in facilitating change
Have open and curious conversations with their teenagers about substance use, rather than resorting to shame or judgment
The importance of building a positive relationship with children, focusing on mutual respect and influence rather than control or manipulation
The "information sandwich" technique to discuss sensitive topics with teenagers
How humor and modeling positive behavior are useful tools
Focusing on boundaries and natural consequences, rather than reactive measures like drug testing and phone confiscation

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Eps 519: Finding flow in the current of parenting teens Oct 10, 2024

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This week's solo show teases apart the difference between being in resistance and being in flow when it comes to the ride we are on while parenting teenagers. The middle school and high school years are a current that is ever changing, and we have choices in how we lean into the ebb and flow. This week I share a post from a parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group that resonated deeply with me, and bring my own learning from a meditation practice I was invited into.

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Revisiting Eps 389: Motivational Interviewing with Dr. Emily Kline Oct 07, 2024

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My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline.

Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. This episode is all about motivational interviewing. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change.

Takeaways from the show

Relinquishing control
Motivational interviewing
Teens trying marijuana
The best tool for influence is relationship
Staying respectful & curious
How to deliver advice & why we listen first
Staying neutral & consistent around hard conversations
Expectations & limits without punishments
Avoiding socially isolating consequences
Listening for motivation for change

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Eps 518: Living in the tension of our teen's efforts during college application season Oct 03, 2024

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Inspired by Monday's interview with college admission coach, Janae Young, this week's solo show is all about how to let go of control and allow our teens to move through their own process. This is HARD! I get into WHY it's so hard and WHY it's so important to let this process be theirs. Not all kids are headed straight for college, and the ones who want to may not be showing up to the work in a way that aligns with what they say they want... It can be crazy-making!! Listen in and let me know what you think.

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Revisiting Eps 421: Best practices in the college application process with Janae Young Sep 30, 2024

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My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us.

Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs.

Takeaways from the show

What’s the college application process look like now?
Common application system
College application essays
“Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan”
How can parents best support their teen during this process?
Week-by-Week college application calendar
College applications are their job, not yours
Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes
What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process
Best time to take SATs

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Eps 517: When our teens are vaping nicotine Sep 26, 2024

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Today I am digging into a challenge that is plaguing way too many parents of teens - vaping nicotine. It is something I worked through with my kids, and something that shows up for so many of the parents I work with. One parent came forward asking for resources in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens group - their daughter had recently come clean about their use and needed help. Listen in and let me know what you think!

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Eps 516: Motivating teens with Dr. Melanie McNally Sep 23, 2024

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My returning guest today is Dr. Melanie McNally the author of “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential”.

Dr. McNally explains what inspired her to write her new book and a bit about what parents misunderstand about teens, motivation, and laziness. I ask Dr. McNally to tell us more about the difference between external and internal motivation and how we know when we can use external motivators while growing their internal drive. We tease apart the difference between autonomy and independence, and she helps clarify some differences between teens who are feeling unmotivated, depressed, or dealing with screen addiction.

This is such a juicy one - we also get into why and how our teens can grow grit, becoming versus being, and for tips on how to start conversations around motivation. We end on tips for finding your own motivation & purpose.

Takeaways from the show

Check out Dr. McNally’s new book - “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential”
Are teenagers really just lazy?
Internal versus external motivation
High achieving parents with “average” kids
Autonomy versus independence
Collaborating with our adolescent on expectations
Low motivation versus depression versus screen addiction
Handing energetic responsibility over to our teens & growing grit
Becoming rather than being

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Revisiting Episode 452: The dance of flexibility while parenting adolescents Sep 19, 2024

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Join me this week revisiting this solo episode as we play with the concept of flexibility while parenting through the teen years. Where are you finding flexibility? How might flexibility serve your relationship with your teen? What is getting in the way of flexibility?

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Eps 515: Back to middle school with Julietta Skoog Sep 15, 2024

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I am SO excited about today’s interview. You’ll recognize my guest today - Julietta Skoog my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable! She’s here today to talk about back-to-school season with middle schoolers.

Julietta and I cover so much this week - balancing caring for our kids & our aging parents, the jarring differences between elementary & middle school, and watching their decision-making and mistakes. We talk about why kids come home so upset & frustrated from school and how to create routines & systems that work for your family.

We really dig into the difference between scaffolding and witnessing, how to support middle schoolers with their homework, the friend drama (especially when it’s new friends/families that you don’t know), and how screens & texting affect those friendships.

Takeways from the show

“Sandwich season” - taking care of your young children & aging parents at the same time
What do summers look like when your kids aren’t little anymore?
Navigating phones & screens with middle schoolers
Fears & concerns around safety - “what if?” energy
The after-school release & attitude
“September is a month of grace” - it won’t always be back-to-school season!
Creating systems & routines that work for your family
Friend drama in Middle School (high highs & low lows)
Self-reflection as a growing skill

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