Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Eps 529: Teen sexual health with Dena Moes Nov 25, 2024

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My guest today is Dena Moes and we’re talking about our teen’s sexual and reproductive health. We discuss methods & access to birth control and parental consent around reproductive health decisions. Both Dena and I share about the current political climate impacting access to health services, how to react when your teenage daughter is pregnant, and what the most crucial things to talk to your adolescents about sex are.

Takeaways from the show

Dena’s new book, for teen’s, “It’s Your Body: The Young Woman’s Guide to Empowered Sexual Health”
Current stats for teen sexual health & birth rates
Condom & birth control use
Explicit text messages
Reducing barriers for care
Reproductive rights & access to abortion vary substantially from state to state - consider what services your teen daughter may need in the next few years
Empowering our sons that are in heterosexual relationships to be supportive partners
Outdated beliefs & anxiety around birth control
Teens are the most fertile they’ll be in their entire lives
“Party ready” birth control
Getting your teen in to speak with a doc about birth control options before January 2025 and letting your teen speak independently to their doctor - “Get out of the room!”
Pulling in the extended family & village during the teen years
Finding out your daughter is pregnant
“It’s hard to hear no; it’s harder to say no.”

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Eps 528: Boundaries and Language for Building Consideration in our Teenagers Nov 21, 2024

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This week's solo show is about empowering your parenting journey by leaning into clarity, communication, and self-awareness. We get to shift focus from controlling teen behavior to creating a supportive environment with clear boundaries. Remember, teens learn through experience, not manipulation. Be explicit about expectations while fostering independence through responsibility (like budgeting). Manage emotional triggers by recognizing personal stories and responding with curiosity and respect. Create connections by acknowledging their growth and practicing calm communication. When frustration arises, pause and ask: What do I want to create? Your actions inspire change, shaping a positive dynamic. Parenting isn’t perfect, but intentionality builds trust, resilience, and lifelong connections. You’ve got this!

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Eps 527: Teenagers, driving and safety Nov 14, 2024

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This was such a fun episode to create! A parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens opened up about their concerns for their 15-year-old daughter, who’s beginning to ride with friends who are new drivers. As her peers gain driving experience, this parent is feeling understandably anxious about safety and how to guide their teen through this phase. I acknowledged these valid concerns and suggested a reframing approach, focusing on building trust in teens’ growth through their experiences. While emphasizing the importance of safety, I encouraged open, ongoing conversations about responsible driving to help build awareness and accountability. I also recommended that parents engage their teens with questions about friends’ driving behaviors and reinforce family rules constructively. To help manage parental anxiety, I shared practical tools like deep breathing, recognizing fears, and reframing thoughts to foster trust in the learning process. Allowing teens to make mistakes within safe boundaries, I explained, helps build their decision-making skills and strengthens the parent-teen relationship. Watching teens gain independence is challenging, but it’s a crucial step in their development.

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Eps 526: School avoidance and school refusal with Jenell Kheriaty Nov 11, 2024

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My guest today is Jenell Kheriaty, and we’re talking about school avoidance & school refusal. We discuss what school refusal is and if there’s certain “types” of kids who are predisposed to school avoidance or school refusal. Both Jenell and I share how we support families who are struggling with their teens not going to school, some specific questions you can ask your teen about school, and how and why parents need to stay curious about their teen’s school experience.,

We talk about how to handle our own feelings when changes are not happening as fast as we want. We get into figuring out if your child’s school is a good fit, finding alternative options to your neighborhood high school, and checking our own assumptions about our teen’s journey in school.

Takeaways from the show

School refusal is typically not a case of defiance, it’s an act of protection
All kids, even successful high-achievers, can struggle with school avoidance
School refusal is a symptom of something else going on
“Be curious, not judgmental”
When our timeline doesn’tline up with their timeline
When your teen has a different temperament and stress tolerance than you do
Alternative schooling options
Trusting the process, trusting the journey
Maintaining relationship during the bumpy times

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Eps 525: Support for parents with unmotivated teens Nov 07, 2024

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In today’s episode, I respond to a parent in the Facebook community who is seeking support for an “unmotivated” 14-year-old, wanting a coach for help with goals, motivation, executive functioning, and self-care, ideally within budget and virtual. I explore the difference between being “unmotivated” and “uninspired,” suggesting that teens may seem unmotivated due to broader issues like discouragement or lack of inspiration. Instead of trying to “fix” teens, I encourage listeners to reframe the situation by asking, “What is getting in my child’s way?” I emphasize curiosity, encouragement, and a connection-based approach, allowing teens to express their needs and experiences without judgment. I also remind parents to avoid labeling, stay present, and focus on personal growth, trusting that their child will ultimately find their way.

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Eps 524: Insights on being a young adult with Rowan O’Roarty Nov 04, 2024

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I am really excited about my guest today, and I have a feeling you will be, too! My amazing daughter, Rowan, is back to give us an update on her life. She talk about everything from teen mental health, navigating ADHD as a teen and young adult, the college journey, and more!

I ask Rowan what she’s learned in her first few years of adulthood while juggling working, living on her own, and going to school. We talk about motivation versus discipline, lessons learned through experience, changing perspectives, and boundaries. Rowan wraps us up by sharing what she wishes Gen X knows about the young adults of today.

Takeaways from the show

Describing and revisiting tough times & emotions
Returning to (and loving) college
Changing your mindset to achieve your goal
Learning how to be a college student
Navigating ADHD diagnosis & medications
The pressure of early adulthood
Takeaways from the first few years of being on your own
Motivation versus discipline
Lessons are learned through experience
How we respond to our kids when they are having a hard time influences the relationships we have with them later
Perspectives changing as you age and get out of the thick of it
Finding the humor, joy, and not taking life too seriously

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Eps 523: Exploring the layers of our teens experience and inviting them into their higher selves Oct 31, 2024

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Inspired by my conversation with Annie Donaldson this week, I explore the layered experience of being a teen and offer some ideas around how to invite them to consider their higher selves. Our teens are deep and thoughtful. Listen in for tips and strategies around communication and connection.

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Eps 522: Encouraging spirituality to support mental health for teens with Annie Donaldson Oct 28, 2024

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This episode is an interview with Annie Donaldson, coach for teens. We spend our time talking about how spirituality and considering a higher power and bigger picture can be helpful to our teens as they move through adolescence and navigate the beginning of realizing that change in life is the only constant. This conversation isn't about religion, but it is about deeply considering, sharing and normalizing conversations about our spiritual selves. Check it out and let me know what you think!

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Eps 521: Teenagers and lying Oct 24, 2024

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Getting into the nitty-gritty of how to navigate the lies we may be hearing from our kids. Why is it so triggering? Why do they do it? What is the most useful way to respond? And how can we keep in mind that mistakes (like lying) are opportunities to learn and grow? Listen in and we can dive into all of these questions together!

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Revisiting Episode 355: ADHD in the adolescent years with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart Oct 21, 2024

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My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart.

Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most.

Takeaways from the show

Keeping your focus on teaching life skills, not compliance
What does ADHD look like in an adolescent?
Misconceptions about teens with ADHD
Asking “what’s hard about it?”
Scaffolding & strategies like body doubling and creating a false sense of urgency
Do teens with ADHD need different things to support brain development than a neurotypical adolescent?
Rejection sensitive dysphoria
Talking to teens about their ADHD
Getting your teen to utilize an ADHD coach or other outside support
What do teens with ADHD need most?

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