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Ep. 54: Better Sex Maximized Feb 27, 2020

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Many of my current and potential clients come to me because something is wrong with their sex life and they aren’t having the mindblowing sex life they desire, and they think that if this one thing changes, everything will be better. I’m here to tell you that it’s never just one thing. It’s all of you. Accessing pleasure requires a whole system, and you need as many systems as possible turned on towards pleasure. In this episode, I share with you the different categories of areas that can be turned on toward pleasure, and how to check in with each category in order to access the mindblowing sex you seek.

I also wanted to let you know that I have been working on a new website and a new free training! In order to get all the details, be sure to sign up for my mailing list for this training, as well as my other regular fun and sexy emails.

Topics in this episode

We don’t have to have everything in order to have great sex. But the more areas you incorporate, the more pleasure you will be able to access.
Why it is that having an orgasm is not the goal of sex, and how your sex is affected if it is
The different categories in order to reach peak pleasure:
- Physical comfort
- Safety
- The connection between you and your partner
- The environment you’re in
- Mental state
You don’t have to have perfect conditions to have great sex, but taking care of those things will help you access to pleasure
Everything that you can tweak is going to enhance your pleasure
Ways to create safety with yourself and your partner
Getting primed for pleasure

Ep. 53: Being Turned On By Your Partner Feb 20, 2020

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When we think about pleasure, it requires all of you to be on board. All parts of your brain, all parts of your body, and all of your thoughts. Today, we are talking about thoughts that can take us away from pleasure, specifically, thoughts about our partners. This is something that I hear all the time from women is that there is something that their partner is doing, or not doing, that is keeping them from finding their partner desireable. I want to share with you that it’s not actually about your partner, and what they’re doing, or not doing. It’s your thoughts about these things that shape how you feel about them. In this episode, I share how to shift your thoughts so that you can get back to sexual pleasure.

Topics in this episode:

The kinds of things your partner does that can get in the way of your pleasure
Your partner is just being themselves, and you have thoughts about it. And then these thoughts create an emotional response.
Making the decision to be turned on by them
How to start celebrating your partner: start with neutral
Your partner gets to decide who and how they want to be, and you get to decide how you experience that behavior.
What if the behavior doesn’t change? Will I be ok? Is this a deal-breaker?
We choose our person, and then it’s our job to continue to put in the work to want them day in and day out.

If you want a better sex life, you need to become aware of what exactly is keeping you from pleasure. This is what I help my clients with, helping them become aware and navigate thoughts through a specific and effective process. If you’re really ready to take these concepts that I talk about on this podcast and begin implementing them so that you can have results of mindblowing sex, then I encourage you to go to my website and fill out an application. We can begin right away. To find the application and learn more, go to

http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

Ep. 52: UnF*ck Your Brain For Better Sex with Kara Loewentheil Feb 13, 2020

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Today you get to listen to a conversation I got to have with the wonderful and marvelous Kara Loewntheil. She is a master certified coach with a BA from Yale and a JD from Harvard Law. In the last three years, after pivoting from her law career, she has grown her life coaching business to 7-figures. She hosts one of the top-rated self-help podcasts called UnF*ck Your Brain, https://unfuckyourbrain.com/podcasts/, which has been downloaded over 5 million times. She’s truly a fun and witty human that I enjoy talking to so much.

In this episode, we discuss how to help feminist women create more confidence, of which sex is a huge part, especially in this day and age. We also talk about what has culturally influenced our views of sex and ultimately has created so many blocks to our pleasure. We share what it means to feel sexy so matter what, and how thought-work is key to better sex and so much more.

Topics in this episode

Women are taught that their sexuality is receptive or reflective
The problem with relying on somebody else for emotional validation
What would it mean if you were walking down the street being sexy for yourself?
Connecting to what it means to connect to being sexual by yourself
The first step to finding desire just for you.
Changing your conceptual frame and body image through thought work.
Being in partnerships with different levels of libidos

As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this conversation with you. I highly recommend listening to Kara’s podcast, UnF*ck Your Brain. If you love all of her smart and simple ways of explaining how you too can unfuck your brain, you’re going to love her online community even more. It’s called The Clutch and it’s a feminist coaching community, full of hundreds of other women who are just learning how to liberate themselves.

Contact Info

Website: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/
The Clutch: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch/

Ep. 51: How To Become Empowered Feb 06, 2020

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This week is a continuation of last week’s topic of what it means to be an empowered woman, and how confidence is different, yet plays an important role. Last week I shared that confidence is a feeling based on what we are thinking and that it is through practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. To listen to that episode, go here: http://daniellesavory.com/podcast/2020/1/30/ep-50-becoming-more-confidant

Empowerment, on the other hand, is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. When we’re empowered, we’re using the self-confidence we posses, and we direct the way we want our lives to go. In this episode, I share the steps to becoming empowered, how to think and feel as your future self in order to become her, and why sexual empowerment is crucial to becoming a fully empowered woman.

Topics in this episode

Healing is the first step in becoming sexually empowered
Be now who you needed then and learn how to love yourself
Take power over your story and define what those events mean for you
You can’t control everything that happens outside of you. But you can control how you feel by controlling what you think.
Know the results you want for yourself and how you want to show up in the world, and make decisions from the future you that has those results
Know thy sexual self
The transformation of feeling more confident in, and standing in, your body

This week I want you to think about owning your story in a powerful way and ask yourself, “What would a sexually empowered woman think or believe about herself? What decisions might she make today to prioritize her pleasure?” And from there, think about some small tweaks that you can you make right now to feel more purposeful in your pleasure.

We all benefit when we are more pleasured, and it makes a huge impact on the world. This is why I love coaching women on this every single week. If you know for sure this is the missing link for you to show up more powerfully in the world, I encourage you to reach out for coaching. I can help you through every step of this process. To fill out an application, go here: http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

Ep. 50: Becoming More Confidant Jan 30, 2020

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I hear from women often who want to know how to feel more confident and how to have that “it factor”. Confidence is a feeling, based on what we are thinking, and it’s different from being empowered. In order to access confidence, we must understand and be aware of our thoughts, and hold space for the feelings that we experience. It is through a self-compassion practice and understanding of ourselves and our thoughts that we can become more confident. In this episode, I share the process of how to create the thoughts that are necessary to be a confident woman.

Topics in this episode

We aren’t born confident
The opposite of confidence is doubt
We don’t need evidence ahead of time that we can do the thing we want to do
Self-compassion requires:
Mindfulness of what is going on with our emotions
Acknowledgment that we are human
Kindness
As you believe in yourself, other people, and their thoughts about you, don’t have to mean anything
Creating an evidence file
Asking your brain for help to believe in yourself
When the doubtful thoughts come back

Ep. 49: Great Sex After Heartbreak w/ Heartbreak Coach Claire Byrne Jan 23, 2020

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In today’s episode, I talk with Claire Byrne, a heartbreak coach who helps women stop wanting Mr. and Mrs. Wrong back. She’s the host and creator of her podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and is also a regular contributor to Kourtney Kardashian’s Poosh.com. Claire is also a really good friend of mine. We met way back when we were just getting into coaching, and it has been really great to be on this journey of building our businesses together.

In our conversation, we cover a number of topics, things I often get asked about sex and heartbreak, emotional availability, and of course pain and healing and pleasure. It was so much fun talking with my friend, and I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did.

Topics in this episode

When should you have sex after heartbreak?
What is required in order to heal from heartbreak
Heartbreak is not a linear process
Being ok with rejection
The price you have to be willing to pay for healing and pleasure
Creating emotional availability and safety after heartbreak
Getting through times of feeling disconnected with your partner
Claire answers the question: What would change in the world if more women were sexually pleasured?

Claire’s Contact Info

Website: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clairetheheartbreakcoach/
Podcast, How to Stop Wanting Him Back: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast
Articles: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/articles

Ep. 48: Setting A Sexy Tone Jan 16, 2020

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The same thing applies to sex and having pleasure. When you say the word sex, what kind of tone do you have? Is it one of dread? Pleasure? Excitement? I want to share with you how the tone affects our body and how we think about sex, and what you can do to change it.

Topics in this episode

The tone changes the story in our head
The tone that we have when we’re talking about sex, this is going to set up the way that sex feels to you.
Your tone is going to guide your body about how you want to feel about it.
How do you want your body to feel about sex?
It’s not just sex - it’s also how you think about yourself
Uncovering negative associations and how to heal from them
You have the power to change your tone

This week I want you to practice saying “sex” and other words regarding pleasure. Say it in the mirror, or in the car. If it’s something you want to crave, think about how you might say something you already do crave. If it’s something you want to find pleasurable, then say it the way you already say something you do find to be pleasurable.

Ep. 47: Bringing Sexy Back Jan 09, 2020

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Topics in this episode

How disempowering our thinking can be
We don’t have to settle.
Sex is irrelevant to modern-day life
When you’re starting something new, that can be exciting. And that becomes more tantalizing than having sex can be.
Circumstances are neutral. It’s about how you think about them that will either make them an obstacle or not.
What’s keeping you from pleasure?

Thank you so much for joining. As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this information with you. I hope that it allows you to find all of those off switches that are keeping you from accessing your pleasure, and start to move them out of the way so you can create that flow once again. If you’re looking for more help to identify those turn off switches, I am taking applications for one-on-one coaching later this year. You can apply here: http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

Ep. 46: 2020 Your Sexiest Year Yet Jan 02, 2020

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As we kick off a new year, I want us to take some time to reflect and evaluate the last year that we had. It’s important to take a look back, to know what is working and what isn’t. And in the realm of sexuality, what is working for you in order to feel like a sexually empowered woman? In this episode, I share helpful prompts to use when thinking about the past year and the goals you want to set for 2020. Let’s make 2020 the sexiest year yet.

Topics in this episode

3 Questions:
- What worked?
- What didn’t work?
- What am I going to do differently?
How to move through negative thoughts and feelings that may arise
Getting specific with our goals
Stretch goals, and why they are good for us
Having a growth mindset
Be willing to fail
Productive vs unproductive failure
What sexual failure looks like
Not having sex
Changing your mind and deciding it isn’t worth it
Letting the “how” get in your way
Not following through
Being ok with “meh” sex
Giving up
Excuses and justifications for not doing it

I’m so excited for you to have your sexiest year yet! It’s your year to lean into your pleasure and to pursue your pleasure. I’m so grateful for you all, and if you want any help in reaching your 2020 goals, make sure to connect with me for some coaching at http://daniellesavory.com/coaching. As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to bring this episode to you today. Please consider sharing this with a friend and leaving a review. Let’s make 2020 the year of the pleasured woman, not just for you, but for all the ladies out there.

Ep. 45: Meditation WILL Help Your Sex Life Dec 19, 2019

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Topics in this Episode

Difference between mindfulness and meditation
There are different types of mediation, based on the desire results you are seeking
Insight meditation focuses on the inner connection between the mind and body
This focus allows you to notice when your mind has wandered so that you can bring it back
“I’m showing up for what is”
How meditation can help with your pleasure:
Meditation increases your focus
Sharpens your awareness
Meditation calms you down
Helps you become the observer of your thoughts
Follow-through

As always, it has been my absolute pleasure sharing this with you, and I hope that it helps you find more pleasure and gets you to the cushion to start meditating so you can have some mindblowing sex.