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Ep. 44: Feeling the FEELS Dec 12, 2019

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‘Tis the season for a lot of feelings. Emotions, and how we deal with them, affect our capacity to experience pleasure. Feelings and emotions come from what we are thinking, either conscious thoughts, or what is in the background. I want to talk about how we often go wrong with emotions, how we can meet them and process them. When we practice feeling, that allows us to get closer to pleasure.

Topics in this episode

Emotions are labeled by the physical response we have to certain triggers
Feelings are created by a thought or belief in the brain our brain, and our mind’s interpretation of what’s going on around us or “to” us
The first step is to be the observer and to notice the quick thought that triggers our emotions.
How is it that I’m not able to automatically switch my feelings if I’m aware of the thoughts that are creating those feelings?
Emotions live in the body and may stick around for a while
The steps to feeling your feelings: noticing, giving compassion, and having curiosity

As always it has been my pleasure to bring this to you today. As you get better at this, you will feel increasingly safer being in your body, which opens you up to the possibility of being in your body during sex. I’m excited for you guys to do this. It’s really a game-changer. It’s going to make your life richer in all ways. I hope as you begin the journey to feel your feelings, you’re going to be able to have a more pleasurable life.

Ep. 43: Addressing Apologetic Energy in the Bedroom Dec 05, 2019

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I often hear women feeling bad about speaking up for what they want. This apologetic energy carries into the bedroom, and it can mean feeling bad for saying no or feeling embarrassed. To be a pleasured woman, this is something we need to work through individually and collectively. It is time. I hope this episode will help you realize how perhaps you are showing up with some apologetic energy in between the sheets and how might be able to shift out of it so you can go and get your pleasure.

Topics in this episode

Why we feel sorry in the first place
The role of cognitive dissonance
Having the belief that we are in charge of other people’s feelings.
What are you afraid of that keeps you from using your voice?
Delivering our requests with boldness and with kindness.
Open up the dialogue, without taking responsibility

Ep. 42: Gratitude: The Foreplay to Pleasure Nov 28, 2019

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It is holiday season and I think that I’m not alone with a say people are feeling the stresses. Today I want to hop on the gratitude train because around Thanksgiving there’s so much talk about gratitude, and what it can do for us. I think that it is such an important part of creating more pleasure in your life.

When we’re talking about having a good sex life, it’s not just about the sex we’re having. It’s about creating the internal structure in our brain so that we can open the invitation and it’s easy for pleasure to enter. Focusing on our brain as an internal resource, and asking ourselves: what are the things that we’re working on with our mind on purpose that is going to help us have more pleasurable sex?

Topics in this episode

Practicing pleasure on purpose
Creating a system of resilience
The opposite of gratitude
The key is awareness
Complaining is the ultimate killer of passion and pleasure
Article by Robert Emmons: Why Gratitude is Good, https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_gratitude_is_good
The acceptance of what is
How to begin a formal gratitude process

As always, it has been my pleasure. Have a wonderful week, you guys.’Tis the season to be grateful. Bring some more appreciation and gratitude into your life for yourself and your partner. I’m excited to see how this shifts things in you and helps you tend toward more pleasure.

Ep. 41: Enjoying Sex is More Important Nov 21, 2019

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Today we’re going to talk about the simple concept of enjoying sex and how to focus on enjoying it. As we learn that there’s more enjoyment in something, we’re much more likely to increase our motivation to do the thing that brings us satisfaction. It makes sense why so many women suffer from low desire and wanting to increase their libido. It doesn’t have a reward we are used to experiencing. But it is time for a reclamation to our pleasure and to actually wanting it, because we love it. In this episode I share tips on how to begin to want pleasure, how to open your mind to it, and how to keep it once you have it.

Topics in this episode:

The reward that comes from sex
There’s nothing wrong with male sexual pleasure, but there should be pleasure for you both.
Make it a habit to practice pleasure
You don’t have to do anything new. You just have to harness your attention to pleasure
The intention of finding the good
Warming up your awareness
What happens when pleasure goes away in the moment

As always it’s been my pleasure to be with you here today. And I hope that this episode will help you not only want pleasure for yourself but to go after finding it and enjoying it during sex. Because ladies, it is time to take a stand for yourself and equality for your pleasure. This is what I help women do boldly every single day. Standing in your pleasure is standing in your power. I have recently opened up three more spots for one-on-one coaching to help women finish this decade strong because this is so important. If this is something you want to do, hit me up, go to my website at

http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

Fill out the really quick form, and let’s talk.

Ep. 40: The Competing Selves Nov 07, 2019

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I was talking with one of my clients this week about last week’s episode. Desire and drive are different because it isn’t a biological need, but how does that change anything for us? This week I want to continue the conversation about how to want sex, and understanding our inner voices and what it takes to want to undergo change.

I love hearing your thoughts. It always helps inform what I should spend my time talking about in these episodes and what I want to share. I want to hear your thoughts and follow up questions. Hit me up directly at itsmypleasurepodcast@gmail.com. You can also follow me on Instagram and message me @DanielleSavoryCoaching.

Topics in this episode:

The thoughts and belief patterns that get in the way of sexual pleasure
How those thoughts take us to a place of rejection of ourselves and partnerships
Changing the tone of your thoughts
Learning how to want sex
The siren and the sage
Acting from a place of thoughts that were chosen ahead of time
Moving through discomfort for the sake of growth

I hope that today’s topic about the competing selves when making a change will help you create more space to become the pleasured woman you are wanting to be.

You can access the worksheet that goes along with the episode at daniellesavory.com/sirensage

If you’re really ready to stop wasting time, working with me one-on-one, working with me is the most time-effieicnt fun and pleasurable way to discover how to enjoy sex again. I will have one opening later this month for a new client and I am currently having consultations to figure out who will take this spot. Apply for my coaching at

http://daniellesavory.com/coaching

Ep. 39: Men vs Women Sex Drive Oct 31, 2019

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When we take a look at sex drives, we are taking a look at belief systems. Most often, because of the way sex has been presented to us and is demonstrated in our culture, we have the belief that men have a higher sex drive than women. This belief can be getting in the way of your pleasure, and possibly have you think that something within you is broken. In this episode, I dive into where this belief comes from, how it is affecting your sexuality, and how to overcome this belief and be able to tap into your pleasure.

Listen to this episode and allow yourself to bring some curiosity to these belief systems that you might not have taken a look at when it comes to your sex drive and men’s sex drives. What have you made that mean about your partner? What have you made that mean about you? How is this getting in the way of your pleasure? It is so important to take a pause to look at because these are the things that are going to block you from feeling safe, empowered, and able to access your pleasure.

Topics in this episode

Why things might look a little different, and what to do about it
Saying yes out of guilt
The narrative that’s problematic to pleasure
When you think you “should”, how does that feel in your body?
Women have the capability to experience more pleasure than men
The definition of a “drive” and why sex is not one of them
Spontaneous vs responsive desire

As always it’s been my absolute pleasure having you here on this episode with me today. I hope that you can begin to unpack the idea behind your sex drive, knowing the difference between different types of desires and that it will allow you to tap more deeply into your pleasure.

Ep. 38: Clitoral Curiosity Oct 24, 2019

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Are you clit-erate? Most of us don’t know what we want, because it’s something we’ve never been educated on. We may know some about the hardware, but by now, having listened to this podcast, you realize there’s so much more that goes into having pleasurable experiences and mindblowing sex. In this episode, I explain the importance of having clitoral curiosity and how that can have such a big impact on getting what you want with your sexuality.

I also want to remind you guys that I’m doing an unbelievable retreat with one of my coaching colleagues Lindsey. We are doing a retreat in Palm Springs called the Pleasure and Profit Planning Retreat. We’ll be going in-depth to talking about what it takes to truly create a profitable business, and planning for a super pleasured and profitable 2020. To sign up and find more information go to http://daniellesavory.com/pleasureprofit-retreat.

Topics in this episode:

Defining clitoral curiosity
How important your mindset is to find pleasure in your sexuality
Creating new neural networks for pleasure
Being present and engaged with what’s happening
Having a point of focus
Making an old-time lover new again
Clitoral anatomy
Helpful prompts to create curiosity

I hope specifically that today’s episode helps you become more clitorally curious. You’re wired for extreme pleasure. Now go and allow yourself to find out what lights you up, what turns you on, and what you truly want so you can express this to your partner, or you can just help yourself find more and more pleasure. If you want to take this work even deeper, make sure you sign up for my master class and newsletter at https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining or even hit me up for some one-on-one coaching.

Ep. 37: How to Know What You Want Oct 22, 2019

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Last week I mentioned that I was doing a three-part masterclass: How to know what you want and be able to ask for it. What I’m going to do today is bring to you the first day of the masterclass, the foundation. Sometimes you have to look into what is going into the foundation of before you can even start the inquiry. When we’re beginning with the inquiry, there has to be a level of comfort with your sexuality. So in this episode, I discuss how to start with the foundation of pleasure, and how to determine what you want.

In day two of the masterclass, we covered the investigatoin, and day three was all about the conversation. Each session also comes with a set of resources that I provide to help guide you through to the end goal. To see all three trainings and get access to these resources, go to daniellesavory.com/training.

Topics in this episode:

How pleasure impacts so many aspects of our lives
Redefining what it means to be selfish, versus selfless
Why we don’t pursue our pleasure
Be in tune with the tone of noticing
The reward of sex
Regulating your nervous system, and it’s role in pleasure
How to identify things we need to work on

Ep. 36: Mind-blowing Midlife Sex with Dr. Sonia Oct 10, 2019

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In this conversation with Dr. Sonia Wright, a board-certified radiologist and mid-life sex coach, we discuss the role of sex coaching, particularly for women in their midlife. She shares how she got interested in being a life coach, and through that coaching, she heard from many of her clients that they were having difficulties in their sex lives. Since there isn’t much sexual education and training in medical school, she found herself doing a lot of independent research, which quickly developed into her pursuing a certificate program to become a certified sex coach.

I had a lot of fun talking with Dr. Sonia about some of the most common concerns for women, the difference in sex coaching for midlife as opposed to other phases of life, and how imperative it is for women to give themselves permission.

Don’t forget, if you want help getting clarity on what it is you want in the bedroom, please go to https://daniellesavory.com/freetraining to access free training that is available now.

Topics in this episode:

Why she pursued sex coaching, and what inspires her to continue doing it
Benefits of sex coaching for clients
Women in midlife are the sculpture and the sculptor
Peri-menopause and menopause and how it can change your sex life
Helping clients get to a place where they love themselves
The importance of grieving what was lost, and celebrating what’s to come
Dr. Sonia’s answer to: how do you think the world would change if more women were pleasured?

Contact info:

Email: drsonia@themidlifesexcoach.com

Website: https://www.themidlifesexcoach.com/

Ep. 35: Real Change Through Sex Coaching Oct 03, 2019

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I love having these episodes and this podcast to teach you concepts, and today I want to give you a glimpse into what it’s like to work with me as your coach. When you listen to the podcast, it may be hard to understand the power of what’s being said. It’s powerful to hear other people’s experiences and the transformations they’ve gone through, and I want to share some of that with you. I also want to explain some key differences between sex therapy and sex coaching. Having a coach is like having a personal champion, and through these client stories, you get to see how focusing on their sex life opened up to personal growth in every aspect of their lives.