How To Be Awesome At Everything

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275. Life Lately And Lessons Learned Dec 29, 2023

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In this episode, Lindsay shares the story of her father's battle with cancer and the heartbreak from all of it. She's sharing lessons learned and gems of information that she thinks will be helpful as we all go through life together. Even though the topic is very heavy, Lindsay wanted to make sure that listening to this doesn't make you sad, but rather think about who is really important to you and make sure you are spending enough time with them… and her new life mantra… If you have a chance take it If you have a dream chase it About really LIVING each day/month/year FULLY Also… Have the uncomfortable conversations. Be crazy proactive about your health - listen to your body and go in on the first day that you don't feel right. Be open to alternative treatment options. Spend time with people that you love and be very intentional about who that is. You have to pick- not go with what you should do or have always done. Thank you for listening and for being a part of this community. Sharing this very personal story is important and special to Lindsay and we are grateful for the lessons that come with it. Email Lindsay if you want to chat - Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com.

274. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Fails Nov 13, 2023

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Let's talk about failing. I've come to embrace failure in a way that I wish I did in years past. Because here's the thing.. if you're failing here and there as you go, it means you're out there doing stuff and trying new things and learning along the way.

If you tend to beat yourself when something does work… or you are super self conscious about it and worry what other people will think or say… or you stop trying the thing you were working towards- lean in here because I used to do all that and it's so much better on the other side.

I think the very first thing we do is own it and make it known. It's the only way to not keep thinking about it or worrying if people will realize. Listen, people are more concerned about what they're doing anyway- take full ownership of it, say it out loud and move on! It's not who are you - it doesn't mean you should stop- because now you have that lesson that you didn't before.

We are talking about so many healthy strategies when it comes to failing today like - learning fast from it and flip the script- it's not a setback - it's a set-up for a comeback! Know that your attitude about it is actually everything and how to position gratitude into this whole thing. We're talking all things failing and getting back up today.

Own It & Face The Reality

Don't blame others or the universe. Own your failures like they're your favorite success story waiting to happen. Failures happen. Own it, acknowledge it and figure out the lesson.

No Excuses Winners don't need excuses. That's it- we own it, even if it could be partially on someone else too.

Learn Fast

Failures can be the universe's way of telling you to level up. Learn from them at the speed of light. Extract the lessons, embrace the suck, and move on.

Flip the Script

It's not a setback; it's a set-up for a comeback. Use it as fuel for the fire burning inside you. Adjust the Strategy, Not the Goal: Your goal is non-negotiable, but your strategy might need an overhaul. Be flexible in your approach, but relentless in your pursuit of the goal. Fail Forward: Failure is not falling down; it's staying down. Use each failure as a stepping stone to a higher level of success. Reinvest Your Pain: The pain of failure is an investment. Reinvest it into your next move. Let it fuel your determination to come back stronger.

Have Patience

Zoom out and have patience with your journey, but when it comes to fixing your failures, move fast.

Embrace the Hustle:

If you're not failing, you're not hustling hard enough. Embrace the hustle, embrace the grind. Failures are just stepping stones on the path to achieving your goal.

Double Down on Strengths:

Your failures might be highlighting your weaknesses, but double down on your strengths. That's where the magic happens. Focus on what you're great at and watch the game change. Get help for what you're not great at.

Crush It Next Time

Failure is not the end- it's the setup for the next big win. Crush it next time. Use the pain of failure as momentum for a big comeback.

Gratitude Over Grief!

"Instead of grieving your failures, be grateful for the lessons they bring. Failure is a gift if you unwrap it with the right mindset."

Attitude is Everything!!

Your attitude will define your success. It's everything when it comes to this!! If you can shift the way you think and react to your failures, they can actually be some of your greatest gifts! Embrace your fails - it might just be what makes you actually soar!!

273. How To Be Awesome At Making Fast Decisions Nov 08, 2023

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First - why make fast decisions? Because a decision that you need to make that is pending takes up your time and attention. That problem you need to solve or that conversation you need to have or that project you keep procrastinating on or that email you need to send. When things are pending, there can be this feeling of anxiety or pressure or overwhelm… because it's lingering. So if we can develop what I think is a total superpower- the ability to make fast decisions - we will move closer to our goals faster AND get all the things done that need to and want to … so we can chill out and relax and have fun with our favorite people or have some awesome self care time. This is one of those lessons I've learned from not being awesome at making fast decisions but now that I'm on the other side of it- it's amazing. We're talking about how to become a fast decision maker and all the ways it will free up your time and improve your life. First thing each day... Eat the frog Hug the monster! -Do the hard thing first! -What truly matters is the time and attention we spend things. -All of that anxiety could be removed if you just did the thing, made the decision. -You can move faster than most people if you make decisions faster. -It's not paying the attention cost!! You decide and move on. You just move through life faster. -The crazy thing is once you get the momentum of this, it's like the most empowering. It's like well that's done, what's next!? -To be decisive is also just confidence… it's like I'm going to tackle this! -You can't multi-task and make fast decisions. Because we need too focus and not make careless decisions. 2.0 Mindset Course & Community info: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS!!

272. How To Be Awesome At The 2.0 Version Of You Nov 01, 2023

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2.0 you What does that look like? Who are you if you if nothing is holding you back. If you aren't defining success by with other people or society think but by what actually matters to you Who are you if you wake up on a Monday LOVING what you get to go do This whole thing is about living life FULLY and to your full potential. It's about next level goals and making a good action plan to achieve them. It's about eliminating all things negative and leaning into the version of you that when you're 90 and looking back, you're like… man did I really LIVE. I left it all on the field. To me, the ultimate driver is thinking about being 90 and not having all the opportunities we do now and thinking, I just went through the motions. I didn't do all that I wanted to. These are the golden years. We have so much access to information and education and doing what you actually want to do, has never been easier. It's hard - its consistent hard work everyday- but it's also easy - we just need a good plan to get there. That's what I had in mind when I designed this course and group… and I'm so jazzed to dive into what the 2.0 YOU looks like. In this episode I'm going through what the 2.0 version of you looks like and the method I created to help you get there. Not settling for mediocre, or believing we have limitations that we don't actually have. Not getting involved in anything negative or worrying about what other people think of you. The mindset course and group that I created to help people live in the best headspace, love what you do everyday, create your own definition of success, make good with the past and move on, develop deep self confidence and set massive goals and make progress towards them everyday. We are focusing on how to get what you want... Overall Health & Wellness Physical Strength & Longevity Freedom To Design Your Days How You Want To Deep Connection With Your People Financial Freedom FUN And Celebrations This program includes a 6 week course and journey that we go on together, tackling all the best concepts in personal development. And starting now, the community of growth mindset people and 2.0 daily habits system that I developed to support our priorities and experience more growth than ever before. We are digging deep to figure out what success, fulfillment and joy means to you. We are being very intentional about how we spend our time and money and we are avoiding distracting and ditching old habits that don't serve us. We are suffocating everything negative and getting in our 10s everyday. The words we say and the thoughts we think create the world that we live in- so we are prioritizing that. To go along with this is a 2.0 gift box with all of your materials to support this big program. It's called 2.0 because we are designing the next chapter of your life. The 2.0 you. Email me any questions at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com. To Sign-Up for the 2.0 version of you… here's the link! https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS to the 2.0 next level version of YOU!!

271. How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Yourself (and 21 other gems of wisdom) Oct 23, 2023

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This is a little birthday thoughts wrap-up and lessons learned podcast episode. I would argue that it's easier to celebrate other people than celebrating yourself but I think it's super important and something I got a little better at this time around. I'm sharing lots of ideas of how to celebrate yourself - whether it's your birthday or an accomplishment or a milestone or something you're proud of - we should lean into celebrating ourselves, not feel weird about it. Just like how we should talk to ourselves really nicely like we would talk to our favorite person - same thing- it's important to prioritize celebrating YOU. And making the plan yourself, not relying on anyone else. It's empowering and fun! Also in this episode, 21 other gems of wisdom that I think you'll love and take with you! What I know for sure at 42… First off… CELEBRATING YOURSELF Get in your 10s! Prioritize things that you really like - big and small Prioritize rest and relax and unplugging Learn something new Challenge yourself Give yourself the time and space to just have a day Listen to loud music Host your own bday party Reflect and set goals Travel or plan travel Tell people what you want / expect There's nothing more important than love. Make sure your people how much much you really love them and then do anything for them, always. Most stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is. Adjust how you see things, look for the good, learn the lessons and change your response. Be very intentional about your priorities and spend your time and money accordingly. You never realize how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. (Bob Marley quote- love) Good or bad, this moment won't last forever. Breathe in and really enjoy those highs and buckle down and get through the lows. Better days are on the way. Just. Keep. Going. Most people give up way too soon. It wasn't a bad idea, you just didn't do it long enough. You can go down the wrong path and end up in the right place. Sometimes that's the process- losing your way can be the best way to find what truly sets your soul on fire. Work hard to get in a happy headspace then keep working hard to stay there. Avoid everything negative and complaining, no good comes from it. Take massive action… no amount of planning or intention actually moves you toward your goals. Make yourself uncomfortable as often as you can. It's good to be nervous before a big speech and miserable in a cold plunge- it means you're putting yourself out there and you're growing and learning and becoming tougher & more confident in yourself. Go to bed without crumbs. Be a good human and you'll never have to worry about something coming back around. Being able to be vulnerable is actually a superpower. So much growth and confidence comes from owning where you're at. Choose your pain- the pain of growth or the pain of staying the same. Prioritize your health everyday, not when you get sick. When you truly don't worry about the judgement of others, you'll see a world of opportunities that you didn't see before. Make sure you're running your own race. That you're intentional about what success means to you and stop at nothing to get there. The best way to make good decisions- don't put yourself in bad situations. You cannot lose if you do not quit. (Alex Hormozi quote- love) Saying nothing sometimes says the most. Spend as much time as possible doing the things you love with the people you love. Prioritize laughter, fun and celebrations. Celebrate the people you love - and yourself- as often as you can

270. How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life Oct 17, 2023

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How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life 1 Get Sunlight 2 Lift Heavy Weights 3 Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4 Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5 Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6 Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7 Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8 Take A Cold Shower/ Cold Plunge 9 Take A Hot Bath/ Sauna 10 Protect Your Happy Headspace 11 Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12 Do Some Grounding/ Feel The Earth 13 No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14 No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15 Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16 Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) (waking up at 5am to work out is hard, being 50 lbs. overweight is harder- choose your hard) 19 Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20 Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe) These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for.. Stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! These key pillars will get us there!! CHEERS to the superhuman version of you!

269. How To Be Awesome At Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict. Oct 13, 2023

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Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was really unnecessary and could have been avoided. This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it's more than that. Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there's no real benefit that can come from hashing it out we're just not going to engage And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person. Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend ourselves but if it's not someone that we love and their opinion really matters to us, it's a waste of bandwidth. We're not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing with everything you're told… we are talking about being a strategic about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there is no real benefit in doing so. We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that you engage in that doesn't really matter or align with your core priorities. It just doesn't matter. It feels like a big deal because of how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really care? You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them. Even if it's justified to respond in the way that they talked to you, that's not who YOU are. We aren't going to let them - walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we act. The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how did you handle it? Examples: -If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of their own issues or jealously -If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont want -Road rage -People at work poking into your stuff -People you don't know on social media leaving a comment or judgment -Tricky family members -Political statements that push your buttons -Parenting criticism -It's the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it going. -Maintain your strong self but -We just see this differently and I'm ok with that. (And not in a rude way) CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don't matter and protecting our headspace! To learn more about Lindsay's Awesome Mindset Course- email her at Lindsay@HowToBeAwesomeAtEverything.com Have an awesome day!

268. How To Be Awesome At Helping Your Kids Lead A Holiday Service Project Oct 11, 2023

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What if your child, this holiday season, started a project to help other kids in need?

How cool would that be?!

During a time when it's naturally a lot of making lists about what you want and gifts and buying and stuff- which is all part of it, nothing negative there- but what if we shift the focus so it's some of that but it's also a lot of thinking about others.

In this episode I am going to walk you through how you can help guide your child so they can create their very own community service project. Their own plan to help make the holiday season special in some way, for kids who are struggling or living in overcrowded situations or in the hospital..

The amount of growth and empathy and kindness that comes from doing this is not even describable. Especially if your child or children can meet or experience the world that these other kids live in, it's an impact that can't be made in another way.

The way that we all help the world become a more kind place where people look out for each other, is though our kids. Today's episode is all about how you can do just that - and it's much easier than you think.

It can't be made from them watching us volunteer or donate. It's that deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that only comes from experiencing something yourself.

**Action items

Contact shelters - ask them - how can we best support you

Know this going into it

Ask your child these questions (or answer htem for them if they are too little)

What are you most interested in right now?

(Examples: Spiderman, making bracelets, Legos, slime etc)

Talk to them about how other kids don't have the things that we are just used to.

Great opportunity to describe in an age appropriate way- how grateful you feel and how not everyone has these same comforts.

Ask them how they would like to help kids this holiday season.

Here are some examples:

Host their own toy drive

Plan to serve a meal in some way

Hot cocoa stand - raised money is used to buy toys for kids in a shelter or in a hospital for Christmas.

Set-up an adopt a family program

Create care packages

Whatever they love - do that- collecting Legos to donate to children in the hospital etc.

Host a drive - to build hygiene kits or

Build backpacks for kids for school

Help fund kids who need help paying for sports

Blanket drive for new blankets

Make friendship bracelets and sell them like a lemonade stand

Build holiday thanksgiving baskets with meals families can prepare for thanksgiving

The realistic ease of all of this...

**You don't have to pay for this- you guys are just the ones setting it up. Making the connections and the plan and then getting an army going to support your project.

CHEERS to teaching your kids about helping others at a young age, so it is ingrained in who they are.

267. How To Be Awesome At Transforming Your Pain Into Fuel Oct 03, 2023

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I've learned that the best motivator for change and growth is not motivation, it's not in your morning routine… it's a actually PAIN.

Pain from the past or pain that you are going through now, can be your superpower and your driver for starting the next chapter.

Maybe someone in your life told you that you're a loser and you'll always be a loser- you can either sit in the pain and anger of that - or you can get to work.

There's only one actual type of revenue and it's called success.

I'd rather be at rock bottom than in a mediocre situation, which might sound crazy but I believe this 100%. Because at rock bottom you have FIRE to change. When things aren't great but aren't terrible, most people don't make the decisions that are best for them or have the conversations they need to have.

We're leaning into your pain today and actually making it your superpower.

The second title of this podcast was going to be - the best type of revenge - because it's all very similar.

It's like this… pain motivates faster than pleasure. Use your pain!

Pain is the best motivator for change and growth.

We can either sit with the pain and think about who's fault it is and how shitty this is… OR we can take that pain and use it to give us gas baby.

It's pain both ways- the pain of staying the same or the pain of change and struggle to become the person that you really want to be. I'll take the second type of pain all day.

SUCCESS is the only revenge.

You don't beat them - they fade away because of what you've become.

So many high performers have used their past to increase how hard they are willing to work.

Think about this … which is more powerful

Saying..

I want to live a better life.

I want to prove my dad wrong who told me I've failed at this and that so I'll just going to keep failing.

Which gives you more fuel?

You think you'll go back to them later and be like SEE- you were wrong!! But here's the thing- by the time you get there - that won't even matter. You won't be thinking about them anymore.

But it helped you to get there.

Be honest about your pain- don't suppress or ignore or be self-conscious about it.

Define your goals and priorities- what will get you out of the current pain or what will make you move on from past pain?

Then let's turn that pain into FUEL baby!!

It's a burn the boat type of thing. It's all in. This is your new minimum standard for yourself.

Lose the ego… work on your resilience and toughen up muscles.

The things that hurt so bad in the short term can be what propel you so far forward in the long term.

GET SPECIFIC - I want to show this person that they're an idiot and what they said about me isn't.

This won't always be your fuel - it will fade away!

A chip on your shoulder could be a good thing!

Be SO specific about your pain is!

Dont say -

I hate my life I'm a loser.

Say...

I hate the way my dad makes me feel when he says im a loser and I won't achieve anything - and maybe because it stings because you worry the same thing.

It hurts the most when you feel like there is an element of truth to it.

If someone accusing you of being something that you aren't - it doesn't bother you as much.

Alex Hormozi says it this way.

"Success is the only revenge.

As you expand they shrink into irrelevance.

You don't beat them- you cast a shadow so big, nobody can see them to begin with."

CHEERS to focusing on the only type of revenge - success! And reshaping how we define and respond to our pain.

266. How To Be Awesome At Reshaping Your Identity With 5 Words Sep 25, 2023

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Have you ever woken up late and missed the work out you had planned? And you say something like God I always do that. I'm so mad at myself. Think about the identity that you are putting on yourself.

Now take that same example and your reaction is this… Wow… That's not like me.

I heard Ed Mylett say this, and it was such a massive lightbulb moment for me.

The first response is telling yourself - yup, that's who you are - you can't get your hot mess of a self up on time for the gym.

The second response is the opposite- it's saying… wow, this is not aligned with the person I see myself as.

This small reaction moment completely changes how this experience affects you and how you label it.

In the first way, you may feel frustrated with yourself all day and an overall lower opinion of your ability to get things done as planned.

And with the second response- you're like… ok let's pivot and carve out time at the end of the day to get it in because I'm a person that doesn't miss workouts.

This same method applies to so many areas of life that we are getting into today.

And it's just so simple - 5 words. Wow, that's not like me.

And the reason why this works so insanely well is because we know that stopping negative talk is more powerful than increasing positive talk.

You know, I love something that is easy to remember and apply to your daily life. This is one of those!

Whenever we make a mistake or make the wrong choice or fail, or lose it some thing… Instead of all the other negative things, we could say… What if we said… Wow, that's not like me.

You are recognizing that this action or behavior or choice or mistake… Whatever it is… Does not identify with the person you want to be.

Good activity - your life priorities list and brain dump the type of person that you are

Then schedule it!!

The other day, on the way home from school Presley was saying how she has so much homework and she really needs to get ahead… We walk in the door and she unpacks her backpack and she doesn't have her laptop.

It really hit her hard. She was crying and mad and said what is wrong with me… I always do this.

I sat down on her bed and said, wow, that's not like you.

Now for the record… This is the second time she has forgotten her laptop since we started school a few weeks ago

But I said to her… Did you forget your laptop yesterday… She's like no and I'm like what about the day before? And she's like no I'm like see?

I'm telling you… These five simple words, reframe how we label and interpret mistakes.

When you turn off your alarm and sleep through your work out… Rather than beating yourself up when you wake up… Your reaction is… This does not align with who I actually am!

Examples:

Losing it with your kids

Gossiping/ talking badly about someone

Talking bad about your own body

Wasting money

Being short with your spouse

Picking the wrong boyfriend

Overcommitting

Over apologizing

Wasting time scrolling

Going out of your way to make someone else's life hard

Picking a battle that you should have let go