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Ep. 133 How To Become More Confident, Find Your Passions, And Let Your Goals Dictate Your Life With Lisa Bilyeu Aug 16, 2021

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Lisa Bilyeu, who is literally SUCH a boss babe and honestly someone I really look up to in the business world is our guest today! She’s the cofounder and president of the company Impact Theory AND she’s the co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest nutrition. She also gets in front of the camera to chat all things female empowerment. Doug and I are super excited to chat all the things with her because she is literally SO inspiring! Tuning in you’ll hear Lisa share some of the valuable lessons she’s learned about shame and confidence, like why combating shame and establishing confidence is not something you arrive at but is more like a muscle that needs to be trained and maintained. We delve into the importance of identifying future goals, how to do it if you don’t know where to start, and why that internal knowledge is crucial to set boundaries. Later, Lisa opens up about the intense physical debilitation she experienced after years of not listening to her body and building her business, and what recovery meant for her. She shares how she had to reassess her values after her health crisis and why going forward she is keenly aware of whether her work aligns with her purpose. We loved having Lisa on the show and were blown away by her honesty and wisdom. Tune in today for a wealth of insight, compassion, and meaningful advice!

Before we bring Lisa on, we chat about how we literally just got back from a crazy heated therapy sesh with our couples therapist where we talked about support systems and how Doug and I have big issues on communication. We came to realize that I don't really have a support system - I don't have parents to go to, and I can't go to Doug's family if I am having issues with my marriage. I've come to realize that my girlfrans feel like my support system! This podcast is like THERAPY for me.

Show Notes:

17:25 - Welcome to HMCP, Lisa!

22:25 - Overcoming shame is a muscle. Facing inadequacies and not letting ego get in the way is something we have to keep training!

24:30 - We talk about our goals of what we are trying to get to in 2 sentences

26:48 - Was there a turning point in your life or what was that thing that kind of got you over the edge to start you on that routine of working on yourself and empowering women?

37:13 - What helped make the transition into sharing your story and empowering women?

45:20 - What would you say to the person who says I don't know what my goals should be - where do I even start?

54:08 - What were your goals at the age of 14?

58:00 - Tell us about your book!

"People think confidence is the end goal...but confidence isn't your end goal. Confidence is your TOOL to get to the end goal! .... Focus on the end goal of impacting others!!!!" - Lisa Bilyeu

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Impact Theory Website: https://impacttheory.com/

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Ep. 132 Unveiling The Curtain, Unmasking Doug, & Talking ALL About Our Juicy Past Relationships! Aug 07, 2021

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In today’s episode, we pull back the curtain on Jamie and Doug's past, and some of the experiences in her and Doug's life which have shaped how they both view and interact with the world. Jamie shares the guidance that her therapist has given her regarding managing her workload in order to protect her mental health. Also, we take a look at Jamie’s previous relationships and the influence that these have had on her. On a lighter note, prompted by a listener’s comment, we also pull back the curtain on Doug and Jamie’s experiences in the world of reality TV!

We also chat about Jamie's recent break from social media and why it was important.

We are so appreciative of all the support that you have shown us during this time. We truly have the BEST listeners!

Key Points From This Episode:

The mask that Doug usually wears.
An explanation of what batch-work is.
What we are hoping to achieve through the question-and-answer sessions with our listeners.
Jamie shares a story about the brand that duped her, and what it taught her about collaborations.
Advice that Jamie was given from her therapist about how to work in a way that protects her mental health.
Where the phrase “unveiling the curtain” comes from.
The various reality shows that Doug tried out for.
How Jamie ended up on the Bachelor.
Why Jamie’s ex-boyfriend was so instrumental in determining how she deals with issues in relationships.
Jamie runs us through some of the unhealthy relationships she had in the past.
Doug delves into what his relationship with his ex-girlfriend was like.
Jamie's recent break from social media including an audio clip of her story from Instagram

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Ep. 131 Doug & Jamie Share Recent Vulnerable Moments & Thoughts on the Stereotype of “Celebrity” Jul 31, 2021

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Welcome back to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents! In this week’s episode, we catch up with both Doug and Jamie. We are currently still in Cortland, New York visiting Jamie’s family, and have had to recover from an unfortunate bout of illness that’s been doing the rounds! Life is still crazy and we are both very much looking forward to being in one place for more than a few days!

After a quick rundown of how our family has been doing, we spend some time on feedback from our listeners. Doug gives a shout-out to an awesome review and shares why he’s so grateful when fans connect with him. We also hear a voice note from one of our listeners, who shares a painful story of ectopic pregnancy, and Jamie takes the time to unpack the issue and empathize with how difficult it can be to deal with. Next, we delve into the question of the benefits and challenges of being open and vulnerable about your struggles, especially when they’re painful and intimate. We discuss how Jamie’s therapist has helped with insights that have contributed to a healthier dynamic between us and what our hopes are going forward. Join us today as we reflect on life, relationships, and much more!

Key Points From This Episode:

We hear from Jamie about her time in Los Angeles doing Unfiltered.
Doug shares his shout-out for the week.
Why Doug and Jamie are grateful when fans connect with them.
We hear from listeners about their struggles and how the podcast has impacted them.
Jamie breaks down what it means to have an ectopic pregnancy.
Doug and Jamie discuss what it’s like for their lives to be so public.
Jamie empathizes with a listener who went through an ectopic pregnancy.
Why it’s important to be vulnerable and open in your life.
Doug shares his struggles with being open and vulnerable and how communication has helped him.
How Jamie’s therapist helped them find a healthier dynamic as a couple.
How the isolation of COVID 19 has impacted Doug’s opportunities for being open and communicative with friends.
Jamie’s hopes that Doug will become less closed off and be willing to share his inner life with her more.
Why Doug believes his and Jamie’s personalities complement one another.
Some of the details of their visit to Cortland, New York, Jamie’s hometown.
Jamie and Doug give a sneak peek into next week’s episode and encourage listeners to send voice notes.

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Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

Become Body Positive - https://www.instagram.com/becomebodypositive

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Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/

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Ep. 130 A Trip To Jamie’s Hometown Brings Back Raw Thoughts & Dark Memories. Plus, Jamie Talks Hollywood Gossip With Her MAFS Unfiltered Makeup Artist In LA! Jul 26, 2021

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Join us on our car ride to Upstate NY to visit Jamie's family after not seeing them for SO LONG! Jamie and Doug talk about her past and how she and her siblings have overcome so much, and Jamie also shares her exciting conversation with her makeup artist Alisha. She gives some REALLY fantastic tips on skincare and also she and Jamie give some good true crime suggestions! Don't miss this ep!

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Ep. 129 MAFS Drama in the Hehner Family Unveiled and Remembering Our Angel Baby Boy, Johnathan, in Heaven Jul 19, 2021

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So Jamie is out in LA (by the time this airs she will *hopefully* be home!) so Doug is going solo for this ep, but if you are a MAFS fan in the least, this is the episode for you! Doug brings his brother Matt on the podcast to chat allllll about how they felt when Doug first told them he was going on the show, their first impressions of Jamie, and SO much more!!!! This is a super insightful episode into some parts of Doug and Jamie's life that haven't been shared much if at all!

Also, Doug spends time remembering their sweet firstborn angel baby, Johnathan Edward, as well as shares updates from moving back to New Jersey and how school is going for Henley and Hendrix. He also chats about how learning love languages has greatly helped his and Jamie's intimacy struggles.

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Ep. 128 Airing The Skeletons In Our Closet Jul 10, 2021

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Welcome back to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. with both Doug and Jamie for the second week in a row! By the time you hear this, we will be back in New Jersey, finally! Well....actually we miiiiiight be in LA filming...

But anyway, our kids will be starting school soon, and we will have some time to breathe during the day!

Kicking off today’s episode, Jamie speaks candidly about her nursing struggles and how she has had to consult virtually with a lactation consultant during COVID, and Doug shares some hilarious shenanigans from a day he had with the kids at the Ringling Brothers Circus Museum recently. We discuss the value of airing the skeletons in your closet and how helpful our couples’ therapist has been in addressing some of Jamie’s insecurities about thinking that Doug cheated on her, and we share some updates and ideas for sleep training and the value of having someone to talk to about your fears! Lots to chat about! Tune in today!

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Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

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Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/

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Ep. 127 It's the Doug & Jamie Show!!! Starring Doug Hehner & Jamie Otis! 🤪 Jul 05, 2021

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Happy 4th of July everyone!

We are super excited to hang out with you guys and just talk a little bit together almost like we are sitting with ya in your living room! This week we spend some time chatting about the Free Britney movement - what are your thoughts on it? Let us know by emailing teamjamie@jamieotis.com!

Doug and Jamie also chat about Jamie's struggles to make friends and how things are going with getting the house ready to *hopefully* rent!!

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Ep. 126 How Much Should Each Partner Contribute to Make Your Relationship Last? Nate Klemp, Ph.D. & Kaley Klemp Share their Secrets!! Authors of The 80/80 Marriage & Featured on TedX & Good Morning America! Jun 28, 2021

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Here at Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. we love finding guests to motivate us to be better spouses, partners, friends, parents, and the list goes on. We are always looking for people with who we really resonate, and Nate and Kaley Klemp are definitely one of those couples!

Nate Klemp, Ph.D, and his wife Kaley have impressive education degrees behind their names. Nate received a Ph.D. from Princeton University and Kaley has a Masters in Sociology from Stanford University. Nate is a founding partner of the company, Mindful, and Kaley has been featured on TedX. Despite their skills in education, they often find themselves disagreeing about fairness in marriage, so they worked together to come up with a new model that is grounded on radical generosity and shared success and put those ideas in a book called The 80/80 Marriage.

We sometimes struggle with this idea of fairness, especially with Doug becoming a stay-at-home dad, which is why we are SUPER excited to talk to Nate & Kaley allll about this!

Before Nate & Kaley come on, Doug tells a crazy story about their day at the circus museum and gives an update on their plans to go back to New Jersey.

12:35 - Welcome to HMCP, Nate & Kaley! Can you share how you met?

13:40 - You talk about in your book and in interviews that there was a sort of "breaking point" in your marriage. Could you tell us a little bit about that and the point where you decided something had to give or something had to change?

16:23 - Is it as easy as a mathematical percentage?

23:07 - What were some of the steps that you guys took to get back on the right track?

24:38 - Could you share a little bit about radical generosity?

29:35 - During your research, was there anything else that was sort of eye-opening for you guys?

36:18 - So if there's a spouse that wants change, they recognize this change, but their partner is kind of selfish and refuses to see any of the issues - what advice do you have for that person?

39:46 - What's some advice that you would give to help couples improve on that control or if someone is struggling with letting go of control?

43:16 - What are some of the things that you guys recommend for couples that are just getting annoyed with each other?

48:59 - For any couples that are listening and realizing that they have some work to do, what would be a good 1st practical step forward?

50:50 - What was the radical gratitude that worked in your relationship moving forward?

53:11 - What are some of your favorite challenges to do live?

Chat again with you guys soon! Until then, have a fantastic week!

80/80 Marriage Website - www.8080marriage.com

80/80 Marriage Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/

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Ep. 125 Inspiring & Uplifting Armless Artist & Mom Sarah Talbi Shares How She Lives Using Her Feet As Hands Jun 21, 2021

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We're extremely excited to chat with our amazing guest today! Sarah Talbi was actually born without her arms and seriously this girl is SO inspiring to us! Jamie found her on Insta and she just truly amazes us with her positivity even in times of difficulty! She is a Youtube Boss babe and shares how she is able to do things like put on a bra, cook, brush her teeth, even paint beautiful pictures...all with her feet! It’s all so amazing!

Happy Father's Day to all you amazing dads out there! 😊

Next week on the podcast we have Nate & Kaley Klemp who are marriage EXPERTS! Stay tuned because you guys are gonna like this one, too! 😊

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Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

Sarah's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcRttvE8IpP8T_STZIFrcSA

Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saritalbi/

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Ep. 124 The Bachelor REVEALED! Former Producer Katy Chen Mazzara Dishes Some Never Before Heard Behind The Scenes Dirt!! Plus, Tips & Strategies That ALL Financial Freedom Seekers Need To Know! Jun 14, 2021

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This week we are excited to welcome Katy Chen Mazzara to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents! Katy is a certified financial coach, former journalist, award-winning documentary filmmaker, AND my former producer on the Bachelor!!! Now, Katy is helping creative, freedom seekers make MORE, worry less and achieve true financial freedom, so they can create the life of their dreams!

We are spending LOTS of time today chatting about being on the Bachelor, what it's like behind the camera, and more! Money is a struggle for LITERALLY everyone, so Katy also shares some tips for our listeners to cause much less stress with finances!

Before Katy comes on, Doug and Jamie chat about some financial struggles they have had through marriage.

35:21 - Welcome to HMCP, Katy!

35:39 - What was it like working on the Bachelor?

39:23 - Katy shares what she remembers about Jamie when she was on the Bachelor.

42:29 - Working on a show as popular as the Bachelor, when you go to leave the Bachelor is it seen as a positive show to be a producer on, or does it make a mark on your resume?

43:47 - Katy, Jamie, and Doug talk about whether the Bachelor is scripted as well as give some juicy info about behind the scenes at the Bachelor!! (46:45)

51:58 - Can you share with us a little bit about what made you transition to being a financial coach?

53:58 - What was it that made you want to leave production in general?

56:34 - Is there a certain number you need to have in a bank account in order to benefit from a financial coach like yourself?

57:20 - What are some of the strategies or tips that can actually help people become more free with their finances?

1:01:40 - For anyone interested who is struggling from the pandemic, but need financial help, how would you recommend going about this without the one-on-one coaching?

Next week on the podcast we have the VERY inspiring Sarah Talbi - she was born without her arms and keeps the most positive attitude EVER! You definitely don't want to miss it! 🙂

For all things HMCP, check out our Instagram handles:

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Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

Katy's Website: https://www.katychenmazzara.com/

Katy's Financial Quiz: https://www.subscribepage.com/financialquiz

Katy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katychenmazzara/

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