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Ep. 113 Married At First Sight Update and Controversial Review & Sexless in the City Author Kat Harris Dishes on Dating, Singleness, and Healthy Biblical Sexual Ethics Mar 29, 2021

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We are SUPER excited to share with you Doug’s chat with boss-babe, Kat Harris! She is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast, and Co-Founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. She coaches and equips women all over the world in dating, relationships, singleness, sexuality, faith and how to build a renewed and healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in freedom, truth and grace as opposed to the oh-so-common shame and fear narratives so many experienced growing up in evangelical culture. She is also an author (spoiler alert, her first book Sexless in the City will hit bookstores April 2021) and she has also been a full-time photographer for the last decade with her work featured in: Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, Who What Wear, US Weekly, Glamour UK, and more. Ultimately, her vision is for women to know their beauty, identity, worth and value and to experience untapped freedom and joy in their lives regardless of their relationship status.

Before Doug brings Kat on to have some serious REAL talk, Doug’s mom Bonnie shares her thoughts on this EXPLOSIVE season of MAFS and Doug and Jamie talk about celebrating their 7 year anniversary.

05:39 - Welcome back, Bonnie Hehner, to talk all about MAFS!

20:58 - Welcome to HMCP, Kat!

21:43 - Let’s start with having you tell everyone about yourself?

23:18 - Was there a certain point in life where you put the mission upon yourself?

27:13 - Is there any certain age where you would say is a good time to bring up some of the taboo topics?

32:03 - I wanted to ask you about sexuality and your choice as a more progressive Christian to remain a virgin?

42:18 - Was there anything in the Bible that stated that masturbation is a sinful act?

49:40 - What was your first so-called sin? Afterwards, is it more of you beating yourself up or is it just feeling guilt or shame and how do you overcome that?

52:11 - Can you share why its not a bad thing and shouldn’t have a negative connotation to being single?

58:40 - Do you believe in “the one?”

1:02:34 - Have you ever felt pressured sexually in a situation and what would you say to someone who didn’t want to have sex but their partner was guilting them?

1:04:37 - How can one practice consent outside of the bedroom and what are ways you can teach kids about consent and other aspects so that when they are older they kind of understand the meaning?

1:07:38 - Question from Jamie: How can we move forward in a society where unfortunately victim-blaming is almost the norm?

Kat’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therefinedwoman/

Kat’s book website: Sexless in the City

Sexless in the City on Amazon

The Refined Woman

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Ep. 112 Jamie Chats All Things Married at First Sight & Gives a Hehner Family Update Followed by Toxic Positivity & Fatphobia Discussion with Raffela Mancuso Mar 22, 2021

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As Jamie continues on her own journey to become more body positive, we are reminded daily that this is a shared space and there are SO many different stories and journeys. Body positivity is more than just about size...it is also about race, gender, etc. This week we have the amazing Raffela Mancuso on the podcast. Raffela is a mental illness activist and diet culture DISRUPTOR who uses social media to center people who are living in marginalized bodies, while also sharing about her own personal journey. She’s trying to be compassionate with herself during this pandemic, and she’s hoping you can do the same. She’s all around an amazing human and we are so stoked to have her on!

Before Rafella comes on, you asked for it and we are giving it to ya! Jamie shares ALLLL about their family’s real life and also gives a fantastic recap of the latest MAFS episode. This season is BONKERS!

33:50 - Welcome to HMCP, Raffela!

34:02 - Jamie asks, We’d love to know what got you started on this journey to advocacy and what your own experiences have been life navigating the world of normalizing normal bodies?

36:20 - Jamie asks, For anybody listening who doesn’t understand, what does body positivity mean to you?

39:11 - Doug asks, What is fatphobia?

43:23 - Doug asks, You called out thin influencers on social media saying that they are taking up too much space on social media. What did you mean by that?

45:57 - Jamie asks, What was their response when you tagged them to that message?

48:06 - Doug asks, What would be ideal for other influencers to bring awareness to this if they are not living in a so-called “fat” body?

50:50 - Jamie asks, I want to pass the mic to you and talk all about mental health and how it correlates with body confidence?

55:00 - Jamie asks, What are your thoughts on the diet industry & how we can change the narrative?

58:40 - Doug asks, Was there a rock bottom that made you get over the difficult part of your life with diet culture?

1:02:32 - Jamie asks, What is your work that you do regarding this?

And we will be back next week for another AWESOME episode! Until then, you are loved! 💞

Raffela’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raffela_mancuso/

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Ep. 111 Married at First Sight BIG CHAT with Lots of Fran Questions!!!! Mar 08, 2021

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Ep. 110 Married At First Sight Ep 7 Recap & Mikayla Petty Shares Her Journey from Joining the US Air Force, Battling Atypical Anorexia & Suicidal Thoughts, to Becoming an ED Recovery Coach Mar 01, 2021

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Continuing with our topic of body positivity, we have another AMAZING guest on, and she is allll about telling it like it is! Mikayla Petty prides herself on giving “no b.s.”; especially surrounding topics on body image, mental health, and motherhood. She is a proud woman of color who is now a veteran and also comes from a military household. She is also a mommy, wife, creator, and Eating Disorder Recovery coach. We are so excited to have her on!

Before Mikayla comes on, Big Doug and Bonnie are telling ALLLL their opinions on this week’s episode of Married at First Sight! This is a crazy season!

07:17 - Time to Call Big Doug and Bonnie to chat all things Married at First Sight!

26:39 - Welcome to HMCP, Mikayla!

26:44 - Jamie asks, Will you tell us about yourself?

28:09 - Jamie asks, How did you discover you had an eating disorder? Could you shed some light on how to figure out if you struggle with this type of problem?

30:44 - Doug asks, I know the military can also take a really hard impact on your body - did you find that you had this eating disorder even going through military and the beginning part of that?

40:00 - Jamie asks, What was your first step into recovery?

44:41 - Jamie asks, What are some of the things that you do - like what kind of recommendations do you have to help raise kids to be happy and confident in their own bodies?

49:58 - Doug asks, What was it that your husband recognized, and also it sounded like you didn’t really take that too well. What is a nice, delicate way to bring that subject up to somebody if you do notice it?

53:34 - Doug asks, What was your thing? What were you chasing?

59:00 - Jamie asks, Can you hone in on how you approach someone who is deeply struggling with an eating disorder or body dysmorphia?

As always, stay tuned for another GREAT episode next week!

We want YOU to join us on our journey to Become Body Positive and have self-love and acceptance! Come join our FREE Live HYPE Sesh on March 2 at 8 PM EST to try it out 😊 Just click on the link below to register for free! I promise there are no hidden fees!! ❤️

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Until then, be safe everyone!

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Ep. 109 MAFS Ep 6 Crazy Recap Plus Trisha Taylor Shares How She Defied The Odds Having A Baby Being 2 Ft. 10 In. Tall with Osteogenesis Imperfecta Feb 20, 2021

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As we continue with the theme of body positivity, we will continue to have AMAZING guests that radiate just that! Today we have Trisha Taylor on the podcast, a wife, mom, and blogger who continues to share about the blessings and the struggles of being a disabled woman. Trisha has Osteogenesis Imperfecta which is a brittle bone disorder which means she has had over 600 broken bones and seven surgeries! She is 2ft. 10in tall and only weigh 60lbs and 5 years ago she defied the odds and became pregnant!! She is SUCH AN INSPIRATION & we are extremely happy to be able to share our chat with you guys.

Before Trisha comes on, Big Doug and Bonnie are BACK AGAIN to share their thoughts on this week’s episode of Married at First Sight. What a rollercoaster of emotions right now with MAFS!

7:24 - Time to Call Big Doug and Bonnie to chat all things Married at First Sight!

25:48 - Welcome to HMCP, Trisha!

26:12 - Jamie asks, Can you tell us a little more about who you are, what you’re going through, and what all you’ve overcome?

28:05 - Jamie asks, Is the brittle bone disease painful?

28:38 - Jamie asks, Do you ever feel sorry for yourself that you’re in a wheelchair - you’ve obviously had to overcome more than most!

29:50 - Jamie asks, What would you say or how could you encourage people to be as positive as you are? Who taught you to radiate such positive energy?

33:47 - Jamie asks, How were you able to deliver this baby? And Doug asks, what was the conversation like with your doctor during pregnancy?

39:19 - Doug asks, Speaking from a male perspective, what were the conversations like with your husband? Was he completely on board with this or was that a tough conversation to have in the beginning?

41:31 - Doug asks, You get pregnant, and you get the results - is there a change in your husband’s mindset?

42:36 - Jamie asks, How was the pregnancy? Did you break bones? Was it really painful for you?

45:07 - Jamie asks, That sounds like a rough pregnancy journey! Was it?!

47:12 - Jamie asks, Would you say that you’re someone who loves your body just as it is?

49:40 - Jamie asks, Do you have any other tips for somebody who has struggled?

50:13 - Jamie asks, Can you explain to me why you have disowned yourself from your family?

51:22 - Doug asks, Have there been any steps to repair the relationship?

52:20 - Jamie asks, How do you know to set those boundaries and know when to recognize that someone is being more detrimental to you?

53:52 - Let’s flip the table and say I am a family member to somebody who is choosing something that I don’t agree with - Jamie asks, What can I do to kind of reach them and be able to support and love them in the midst of what they are choosing that I think isn’t great for them?

56:47 - Doug asks, What is the best thing about being a mom?

57:42 - Doug asks, What was the most difficult part of the journey that you are on up until now?

Stay tuned for another AMAZING episode next week!

HEY! We want YOU to join us on our journey to Become Body Positive! Come join our FREE webinar to try it out 😊 Jamie will be sharing 5 Secrets to Make You Look And Feel Confident, Sexy, and Desirable Instantly! Just click on the link below to register for free! I promise there are no hidden fees ❤️

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Until then, be safe everyone!

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Trisha’s Website: https://www.andshedid.org/

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Ep. 108 Married At First Sight Honeymoon Recap & Body Positivity and Self-Love Guru, Mary Jelkovsky, Chats With Us About Conquering Bulimia! Feb 13, 2021

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Our guest today is the AMAZING public speaker and published author known as @maryscupoftea on social media, Mary Jelkovsky! She has led thousands of women on their journey to healing body-image struggles and finding true, unconditional self-love - so basically she is a QUEEN!!!! But things weren’t always so sweet for Mary. All of this came from her 8-year battle with an eating disorder that left her feeling lost, lonely, and broken. After finally deciding to heal her body, mind and spirit, Mary started her online platform, Mary’s Cup of Tea, to help women be more confident in their bodies and love themselves unconditionally. She has been featured in TEDx, Teen Vogue, and Health Magazine! Now, Mary is sharing her life story and most sought-after advice in her new book, The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself.

Before Mary comes on, Big Doug and Bonnie share their thoughts on this week’s episode of Married at First Sight. This season sure is a crazy one!

3:40 - Special Guests, Big Doug and Bonnie are back with more thoughts about MAFS!

19:44 - Welcome to HMCP, Mary!

20:10 - Jamie asks, Can you share with all of our listeners your story?

25:23 - Doug asks, Were you the one that recognized that you had an eating disorder, or did somebody mention it to you?

26:46 - Doug asks, Were you ever happy with your body when you were competing versus how you feel about your body now?

37:47 - Jamie asks, Do you have any tips for those who are around somebody who makes a comment whether it be my body or someone else’s. And more importantly when it’s somebody that you love how do you hold those boundaries?

42:21 - Doug asks, Has your little sister struggled with anything that you are going through or does she kind of see you as the person you became?

45:31 - Jamie asks, What is your definition of fatphobia?

We want YOU to join us on our journey to Become Body Positive! Come join our FREE webinar to try it out 😊 Jamie will be sharing 5 Secrets to Make You Look And Feel Confident, Sexy, and Desirable Instantly! Just click on the link below to register for free! I promise there are no hidden fees ❤️

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Stay tuned for next week! We have Trisha Taylor coming on to share with us about living a disabled life and how she has overcome SO much! She’s 2 feet 10 inches tall and a real FORCE to be reckoned with! Don’t miss it!

Until then, be safe everyone!

Mary's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryscupofteaa/

Mary’s Website: https://maryscupoftea.com/

Mary’s Podcast: https://maryscupoftea.com/podcast/

Mary’s Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Self-Love-Workbook-Confidence-Recognize/dp/1950968278

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Ep. 107 Married At First Sight Weddings Recap and America’s Next Top Model’s Nastasia Scott Cancels Snapback Culture! Feb 08, 2021

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Okay so our guest today is a mama of two boys, she’s an entrepreneur, life coach, former teacher, and former model. Her name is Nastasia and she is the founder of a movement called Cancel Snapback Culture. The movement calls to eliminate the pressure women feel to "snap back" to their pre-baby bodies, and instead prioritize mental health. She also does so much to help support black moms which is SO important. Nastasia is truly a powerhouse and we are so happy to have her on to talk all about why saying things like “bouncing back” or “snapping back” are super dangerous terms for new mamas to hear! She also runs a really amazing blog called Moms Who Chilll at momswhochilll.com and it strives to make mom life easier, while giving mamas an honest community to turn to!

12:00 - Special Guests, Doug and Bonnie Hehner, once again come on and share their opinions about Thursday night’s episode!

31:57 - Welcome to HMCP, Nastasia! She shares how it all started and what made her create the movement.

35:39 - Jamie asks, Besides looks, what do you think is important to be more confident?

40:46 - Doug asks, What led you to finally free yourself?

42:32 - Jamie asks, You said you’re launching something soon?

43:48 - Doug asks, Being in the media and celebrities, do you feel like society is getting better at showing the realities of snapping back?

50:02 - Jamie asks, Do you have any good tips for those who want to learn how to love themselves as they are right here right now?

54:23 - Jamie asks, If someone is listening right now and they want to know the 1st thing they can do to help them not worry what a stranger thinks of them, what would you suggest?

1:04:45 - Doug asks, Was there, in the beginning, a sort of mantra - something that you did every day to get ready for the day? What changes were there?

1:08:42 - Jamie asks, Before we let you go, what was it like to be on America’s Next Top Model?

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Chat again next week! Until then, we love you. You are beautiful just the way you are.

Nastasia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nastasiascott/

Mom’s Who Chilll Blog: https://www.momswhochilll.com/

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Ep. 106 Exciting Recap on Ep 2 of MAFS and Anna Sweeney, Modern Dietitian, Convinces Us To Rethink ALL Things Diets! Jan 30, 2021

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This week on the podcast we are continuing with body image and body positivity, and we have a very special guest on to talk with us allll about our relationship with FOOD. Anna Sweeney is Certified Eating Disorder RD & Supervisor as well as an Intuitive Eating Counselor. She holds an INCREDIBLE space on Instagram and has an amazing business called Whole Life Nutrition where she holds counseling sessions, therapy sessions, and really bridges the gap between mindfulness and eating. We are OBSESSED!!!!

5:23 - Special Guests, Doug and Bonnie Hehner, come share their opinions about last night’s episode!

34:21 - Welcome to HMCP, Anna! Anna shares her backstory about having MS.

38:37 - Doug asks, Do you find that it’s easier now to recognize and treat eating disorders as it was back then?

46:35 - Jamie asks, What about limiting types of food (i.e. gluten, dairy) for thyroid issues?

50:32 - Doug asks, Could you quickly explain the differences between eating disorders and disorderly eating?

55:25 - Jamie asks, I happen to love McDonalds cheeseburger and fries with a coke - I also am told you can’t eat that all day every day...what are your thoughts on my eating that any time I wanted because that is what I am craving?

1:07:31 - Doug asks, Let’s say you were running The Biggest Loser - what advice do you give to the contestants if they want to lose weight?

1:10:25 - Doug asks, Was there any drastic change that you had before you started learning about or becoming a dietitian in the way that you approached food and life?

1:11:52 - Doug asks, If any of our listeners if they suspect or know someone who has an eating disorder or unhealthy habits, what advice do you have for that person?

1:12:55 - Jamie asks, Is it okay for me to love my body and to love myself but to still want to lose weight?

1:14:10 - Jamie asks, What would you say to someone about a healthy way to lose weight?

1:16:15 - Doug asks, Based on your research, is there a healthy overweight?

Check back next Friday for an amazing episode with Nastasia - her motto is CANCEL snapback culture! Don’t miss it! And stay healthy as always!

Anna's Instagram: instagram.com/dietitiananna

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Be sure to take 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid every day
Get a pre-pregnancy checkup
Stay up-to-date on vaccines
Before you get pregnant, try to reach a healthy weight
Avoid substances that are harmful during pregnancy

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Ep. 105 Surprise Guests Recap MAFS & March of Dimes Mother Dani Kilgore Shares Her Heartache and Heartfelt Story in Becoming a Mother Jan 23, 2021

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Dani is a mom and a huge advocate for March of Dimes which has a very special place in Jamie’s heart at the moment because of her nephew Trevor who was born at 24 weeks. Dani’s story is ABSOLUTELY heartwarming and heartbreaking all at the same time. She is a powerhouse and SO inspiring so we are excited to share our chat with you!

8:45 - Special Guests, Doug and Bonnie Hehner, come share their opinions about this MAFS season!

39:47 - Welcome to HMCP, Dani!

39:50 - Jamie asks Dani to share her perspective on her journey to parenthood and what it was like trying to conceive for her?

1:00:19 - Dani shares about her surprise pregnancy when they weren’t expecting it!

1:07:19 - Dani, Jamie, and Doug discuss Dani’s involvement with March of Dimes and how they helped Dani and her husband. They also talk about the importance of January being Birth Defects Prevention Month.

Check back next Friday for another fantastic episode! Stay healthy, my frans! :)

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Protect yourself from COVID-19
Be sure to take 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid every day
Get a pre-pregnancy checkup
Stay up-to-date on vaccines
Before you get pregnant, try to reach a healthy weight
Avoid substances that are harmful during pregnancy

Learn more at:

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Ep. 104 Transracial Adoption, Miscarriage, and Rainbow Babies with Jamie’s Girlfran, Jeena Wilder! Jan 16, 2021

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We are super excited to share this raw and very vulnerable conversation we were able to have with Jeena Wilder. She’s not only a mama to 4 kiddos, but she is an ultimate boss babe! Her family is truly the modern all American family and it is so inspiring! She absolutely radiates positivity over on IG! Jeena and her hubby are an interracial couple with four beautiful children; one adopted and the others biological, but alllll loved the same!

5:59 - Jeena shares about life right now and also shares some exciting news!

15:12 - Jeena shares about the difficulties of going through a miscarriage as well as getting pregnant during the pandemic.

18:06 - Doug asks, with the pandemic going on, is your birth plan different than when you had your other children?

25:08 - Jeena shares about a time when someone questioned in front of her children if she was her daughter’s mother.

29:43 - Doug asks, how did you bridge the conversation or did you and your husband prepare for the day you had to give that talk?

39:56 - Jamie asks, when people say that their children are too young to talk about race or they don’t see color, what is your response?

43:41 - Jamie asks, if I am a momma, white, black, gray, yellow, whatever and I want to teach my kid about racism, what are some steps that I could take to ensure that my child is growing up with more of an open mind?

47:16 - Doug asks, as far as raising your children, is being Haitian part of raising them as well?

49:01 - Jamie asks, I want to clarify for those listening, so you have 2 biracial kids that you birthed and then you have your daughter who you adopted at the age 2 ½ or so? Is that right?

49:51 - Jamie asks, what brought your daughter to your family? What’s her story?

53:56 - Jamie asks, what is the biggest challenge you have had to face since adopting your daughter because as you know I am really interested!

59:00 - Jeena encourages Jamie and Doug that it is important to understand that adoption is not for everyone, but if you are considering things, she encourages you to look into fostering.

Check back next Friday for another fantastic episode! Wash your hands and wear the dang mask :)

Jeena’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeenawilder/

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