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44. Isn't this Supposed to be Fun? Feb 27, 2024

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Society has this sneaky way of making us believe that we should actually be relishing every moment of the daily grind. Well, spoiler alert: that's not always the case. Today, we have an honest conversation about the myth of "loving every minute" and explore why it's okay not to be head over heels for the daily grind.

Listen to learn more about:

Cultural norms that led us to believe that the daily SHOULD be fun.
The crushing feeling of never feeling DONE with that to-do list.
The double binds that keep us stuck.
Guilt associated with questioning the daily grind and our relationship to it.
How the daily grind can lead to feelings of depression or actual depression.

Like this episode? Check out these:

May 3, 2023: Your Hard is Hard Dealing with the Responsibility and Stress of Life

May 3, 2023: Honey, I lost my village! Feeling Lonely in a Connected World

September 20, 2023: So You Lost Your Shit...

January 23, 2024: Is it Time to Break Up with Your Phone

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Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.

Disclaimer:

Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.

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43. Let's Hear it for the Boy (Moms)! Feb 20, 2024

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Raising a child is challenging, no matter their gender... but raising boys just hits different than raising girls! Today, we get honest about all things #boymom: the cultural narratives around raising as on, our own hopes and fears for our sons, and how the relationship we have with our sons is different than the one we have with our daughters.

Listen to learn more about:

the cultural norm of the "wild boy"
a possible origin story for the #boymom trend
how we both felt about having sons
how we identify - as boy moms or girl moms
the cultural narrative about the relationship between boys & their moms
how we REALLY feel about becoming THE mother-in-law
our fears and hopes for our own boys
how our goals for our sons impact how we parent them today

Plus, Andrea cringes at her own (former) traditionalist stance on why she wanted a boy first; Jessica seems unsure about how many children Andrea has; and we both wade deep into how our relationships with our sons are shaped by our relationships with the other women that will be in their lives.

Like this episode? Check out these:

41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters (February 6, 2024) - it's practically required listening after this one!
Feel Like You Can't Get it Right? Here's Why (August 30, 2023) - this episode, and the one on mothers & daughters, are FULL of binds. If you want to hear more of the binds that we're in as women, this is your episode!

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42. Transform Your Marriage Today: 10 Tips You Can't Afford to Miss! Feb 13, 2024

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As couples therapists, we've seen it all, and we know that love doesn't come with a manual. But hey, where's the fun in that, right? So today, we're sharing some lighthearted (slightly questionable) marriage tips peppered with a healthy dose of humor and a dash of honesty. Plus, we're throwing in some insights from our own experiences as wives because, let's be real, sometimes life teaches you more about love than any textbook ever could.

Listen to learn about Andrea and Jessica's top tips:

Stop attacking; stop defending.
Go to bed angry, yep, we said it!
Rewrite date night.
Be ok with them NEVER liking to do the dishes.
Acknowledge one another in passing.
Give what you want.
ASK for what you want; don't just assume.
Increase non-sexual touching...like, a lot!
Repair quickly.
Try not to fall out of love at the same time.

Yes, we know the irony here. The two of us giving tips when we are entirely against dishing out tips! We promise you this is not one of those episodes. Marriage is hard! In fact, we even did a couple episodes on the topic:

June 14th, 2023: Redefining Happily Ever After

June 21st, 2023: 3 Universal Reasons Why Being Married is Hard!

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41. The Complicated Relationship Between Mothers & Daughters Feb 06, 2024

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All relationships are complicated… but perhaps none are more complicated than the relationship between mother and daughter. Today, we get honest about some of the factors that make the mother-daughter relationship so loaded… things we’ve learned both as therapists, and have experienced in our own lives.

Listen as we discuss:

The messages we receive as women about having a daughter:
That we will either be best friends or have a lot of conflict with our daughters
That we are not complete unless we have a daughter
The ways that societal expectations for little boys and little girls are different
How trying to change the roles and expectations for women make parenting our daughters complicated
How our own experiences with female friendships and with our own mothers shape our relationships with our daughters
How our own insecurities show up in our relationships with our daughters
How we can sometimes try to correct things that we see in our daughters because we see them in ourselves, and how it can be really hard to separate what is ours from what is hers
The elephant in the room... how our relationships with our own mothers shapes our relationships with our daughters

Plus, Andrea channels her inner Freud; Jessica models receiving a compliment; and we both step into the confessional a record number of times as we discuss our raw thoughts and feelings about the complicated relationships we have with the relationship we have with having daughters (<< did you catch all of the layers here??).

Like this episode? Check out these:

Feel Like You Can't Get it Right? Here's Why (August 30, 2023) - all about the double binds we face as women!
Rethinking the 'Girl Squad' (September 6, 2023) - because our relationships with other women totally shape our expectations for our relationship with our daughters.
You Asked, we Answered! (October 18, 2023) - another episode where we spent a lot of time... maybe the whole time...in the confessional, as we answered the questions you have about therapists.

We want to hear from YOU! Email us at hello@honestwomenpodcast.com with your deep thoughts, kind words, or questions you'd love us to discuss on the show!

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40. The Ripple Effect of Loss: How Tragedy Touches Us All Jan 30, 2024

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The impact of a sudden loss can be profound, leaving us grappling with a range of emotions we may not fully understand. Moments like these remind us of life's fragility and the interconnectedness of our human experience. We're reminded that loss, in any form, touches us all in unexpected ways. Today, we're having an honest conversation about why tragic loss hits us so hard, even when we don't have a personal connection to the individual involved. We'll explore the complexities of grief, the ripple effects of loss, and how we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding.

Listen to learn more about:

The complexities of grief
The ripple effects of loss
How we can navigate these emotions with compassion and understanding

Like this episode? Check out these:

Breaking the Silence During Suicide Prevention Week (September 13, 2023)
Living and Parenting in the Age of School Shootings (October 11, 2023)

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39. Is it Time to Break Up With Your Phone? Jan 23, 2024

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We hate to say it, but one of the most significant relationships we have as modern women is the one we have with our phone. But while we have many good reasons for using them, we have to admit that our phone usage has an impact on our relationships and on our mental health. Today, we get honest about those impacts, and ask the practical question - short of building a time machine to the 1990s, is there anything we can do to improve things?

Listen to learn more about:

how our phone usage harms our most important (and even very casual) relationships
a few of the ways our phones damage our mental and physical health
some practical suggestions to change your relationship with your phone

Plus, Jess ruins everything for everyone by making a plan (and thereby causing a blizzard which kept her kids at home which wrecked the plan); Andrea and Jessica wrestle with the word ironic (thanks, Alanis!); and we reveal how we discover Tik Tok trends (via MSNBC articles about 3 months later… tell me you’re a millennial without telling me you’re a millennial!)

Like this episode? Check out these:

Exploring Mommy Wine Culture During Dry January (January 9, 2024) - if you want to explore another tricky cultural topic that has pretty straightforward research about it
So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're looking for the episode where we discuss the difference between guilt and shame.
New Year, New You? (January 2, 2024) - cause we mentioned that Jessica has some feelings about New Years Resolutions

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EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com

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38. Jealousy Unveiled Jan 16, 2024

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Jealousy is a feeling that often lurks in the shadows of our minds. From comparing ourselves to others on social media to feeling envious of a friend's success, jealousy can keep us stuck in a cycle of negativity. Join us as we unpack why jealousy is such a common emotion for women and explore how we can navigate it with honesty, a little humor, and empathy.

Listen to learn more about:

Jealousy vs. envy (Thanks to Andrea loving to "word nerd" out!).
Why leaning into jealousy can be useful.
How social media can enhance jealousy.
How jealousy can make us feel powerless.
How jealousy is introduced to women at a younger age than men.
How jealousy can lead us to inaccurate comparisons that keep us stuck in a negative cycle.

Plus, Andrea challenges a quote while Jessica stands to defend it! You don't want to miss this honest conversation.

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37. Exploring Mommy Wine Culture During Dry January Jan 09, 2024

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There are some things that are so baked into our culture that they can feel scary to even talk about… but we wouldn’t be Honest Women if we weren’t bold enough to talk about those things. Today, we explore Mommy Wine Culture: where it came from, how it impacts us, and where it might not be serving us.

Listen to learn more about:

How / Why / If Andrea & Jess do Dry January
Why shame makes it difficult to examine our drinking behavior
The origin of Mommy Wine Culture
Marketing of alcohol as an escape from the challenges of life
The history of using substances to deal with womens' distress (do NOT miss this!)
A few of the things that alcohol does *not* help us deal with

Plus, Jess gives an update on the dress she got stuck in; Andrea discovers that you *can* return alcohol to the liquor store if yor decide to become sober before you make special cocktails; and Jessica and Andrea nerd out about the history of substances being marketed to women instead of dealing with their real, actual problems. Were housewives in the 1950's really happy, or were they just f*ing high on valium? You'll have to listen to find out!

Like this episode? Check out these:

NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - cause you need the "Jessica gets stuck in a dress" story!
So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - if you're wanting Andrea & Jess to deep-dive into another tricky topic with a big dose of humor and self-disclosure

Want to learn about the health impacts of alcohol from real experts?? Check out Liz Moody's podcast series on alcohol, especially the effects on hormones and brain health and gut health and cancer.

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EMAIL US: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com

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36. New Year, New You? Jan 02, 2024

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New year, new you? We don’t know about that. Whether you can’t wait to implement your new life plan or cringe at the idea of setting a resolution, you are not alone. Today, we get honest about the chaos of setting or avoiding New Year’s resolutions.

Listen to learn more about:

· How Andrea and Jessica REALLY feel about New Year’s resolutions.

· Did either of our co-hosts set a resolution for 2024?

· The history of New Year’s resolutions.

· A few stats….because. why not?

· Ways to be realistic about resolutions.

Want to read more about the history of New Year's Resolutions? Read these:

Forbes New Year's Resolution Statistics

USA Today: The Most Popular New Year's Resolutions

The History of New Year's Resolutions: The History Channel

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Follow Honest Women Podcast @honestwomenpodcast

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Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast: www.honestwomenpodcast.com

Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands

of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s

all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts,

Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health

professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to

the outside world.

Disclaimer:

Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may

feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know

that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No

diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek

appropriate mental health support in the real world.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

35. Reframing Regret: How this Difficult Emotion Can Help You Grow Dec 19, 2023

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It’s impossible to count the times that we’ve been told to live life with no regrets… but is that a realistic, or even worthy goal? Today we have an honest conversation about the rather taboo topic of regret: what it is, what to do if you feel it, and even wonder if it is possible that this rather uncomfortable experience can be beneficial.

Listen to learn more about:

The difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction
Why ruminating on regrets of action - like moral failings - is not serving you
The three regrets of inaction - boldness, foundation, and connection regrets
How regret can lead us to our values and help us to shape our life going forward
The false promise of "if only" regret thinking (hint: your life would not be perfect and painless right now "if only" you had done X instead of Y)
What to do RIGHT NOW if you are feeling regret

Plus, Andrea works through a really raw friendship regret; Jessica explores a time she regretted in her relationship with Andrea; and Jessica almost spits out her coffee when Andrea shares her not-so-evolved reaction to a relationship that ended poorly. NO REGRETS, right?

Like this episode? Check out these:

So You Lost Your Shit... (September 20, 2023) - cause you NEED to know the difference between guilt and shame if you're thinking through regret!
NO-Cember: When to Say "Yes" and When to Just Say "NO" (November 28, 2023) - just in case you're regretting saying yes to so many things this season.

Want to do a deeper dive into regret? Read Dan Pink's thought-provoking book The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward

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