Holistic Trauma Healing with Lindsey Lockett

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Episode 13: The Language of the Nervous System, Why Affirmations Won't Regulate It, & Feeling at Home in Your Body with Sorina Mondan, CCTP Nov 30, 2020

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In this episode with certified clinical trauma therapist Sorina Mondan, we...

discuss how developmental trauma causes disconnection from our bodies
reveal that the language of our nervous systems is feelings and sensations, not words, therefore affirmations and mantras are not useful when we are in a hypersensitive, dysregulated nervous system state
expose that mantras and affirmations can create emotional dissonance or invalidate our emotions
discuss somatic experiencing
reveal that the belief that we just need to heal our minds is a trauma response and takes us further out of our bodies
imagine how we can bring survival responses to completion so they don’t have to be stored in the body
clarify our shared opinion that “diagnoses” like anxiety, depression, or OCD aren’t actually diagnoses but our bodies’ adaptations to a dysregulated nervous system and actually often box people into an identity of these diagnoses instead of moving forward in healing
talk about how our thoughts are a reflection of the state of our nervous systems, not the other way around
discuss that the goal is not to be happy all the time but to create nervous system flexibility
talk about how healing feels abnormal and unfamiliar which the mind resists
discuss the importance of working with a therapist and not “DIY-ing” your healing through social media
state that we cannot heal with the same mind that made us sick
remove the shame that we “failed” to feel better and instead offer support and validation that you can explore and experience the various feelings in your nervous system and that alone is powerful in healing

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Episode 12: 10 Tips for a Trauma-Informed, Mentally & Emotionally Happy Holiday Season Nov 23, 2020

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While full of joy and family and togetherness, the holidays represent a difficult time of year for many. The American Psychological Association reports that 38% of people feel overwhelmed with grief, depression, and anxiety during the holiday season. The sources of this overwhelm include the stress of gift-giving, family relationships, and financial pressure. Given the fact that the holidays are upon us during a pandemic, well, that just adds more insult to injury. For better or worse, 2020 has been a year of immense transformation. I propose that this be the year we choose not to have the same ol' holiday. However you celebrate (or don't), these 10 tips for a trauma-informed, mentally and emotionally happy holiday season will help you navigate awkward conversation topics, set boundaries, carve out time and space for self-care, and hold space for your own or others hard feelings during this time.

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Episode 11: Cancel Culture in Social Justice Movements, Challenging Neoliberal Identitarianism, & Restorative Justice for Traumatized Individuals with Clementine Morrigan Nov 20, 2020

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In this episode, Clementine and I…

discuss the shaming, punitive nature of social justice culture and how that plays into cancel culture
compare cancel culture to fundamentalist Christianity
explain the snowball effect of canceling, ostracizing, and harassment of cancel culture
discuss how cancel culture has created hyper-vigilance, self monitoring, and people-pleasing (hint: all trauma responses)
discuss the nervous system response, nervous system literacy, triggers, and cancel culture
reveal the hypocrisy of the left abolitionist beliefs and other social justice movements and cancel culture
dive into racial essentialism and the idea that racism is real but race is not
explore the individual, community, and collective trauma created by cancel culture
expose the lack of boundaries on social media
talk about restorative justice and how the climate of cancel culture doesn’t provide the compassion and community for accountability and healing
discuss the importance of community in nervous system literacy and distinguishing between past trauma and a current (potentially not dangerous) situation
examine the importance and necessity of humanizing those who have caused harm

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Episode 10: The Beauty Industry & Trauma, Exposing the Methods Abusers Use to Keep Us Adrenalized, and Energy Healing with Flower Essences with Lauren Geertsen Nov 18, 2020

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The beauty industry is a toxic, psychopathic abuser. Yes, you read that right! The tactics of the beauty industry are the very same tactics used by beauty culture to keep us, especially women, exhausted, manipulated, feeling inadequate, and coerced. I interview body connection coach and author of the book The Invisible Corset, Lauren Geertsen. In this episode, Lauren and I...

Share that our bodies are not our enemies and how beauty culture has convinced us that aging (our power) is a liability
Discuss Lauren’s spiritual awakenings that led to her career change from nutritional therapist to a body connection coach and author of the soon-to-be-released book, The Invisible Corset
Expose predatory dynamics and patterns that abusers use to feed off energies of fear and shame and how they purposefully instill isolation, hate, and separation
Share Lauren’s real and raw experience in an unhealthy relationship where she was preyed upon by an abuser and how she realized that this experience was necessary for her to awaken to the dark spiritual forces in the world
Reveal Lauren’s incredible past life regression that taught her the parallels between the beauty industry and psychopathic abusers
Ask how our uniqueness, our gifts and talents are being distorted into a liability to keep us controlled and in our “false selves”
Explain how the “false self” is culturally conditioned so that we play out the desires of our abusers (hint: beauty culture is an abuser)
Share about the energy healing offered by flower essences

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Episode 9: Uncovering Hidden Programming, Victim Mentality, Giving the Body a Voice, & The Trauma Triangle with Shelbi Dubord Nov 14, 2020

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Trauma coach Shelbi Dubord and I focus heavily on the hidden programming that is within each of us as a result of trauma. When we are operating under our hidden programming (on "autopilot"), we are ignorant of the awesome power of choice: that we get to choose to be who we are and how we respond to any situation. Shelbi shares her journey of going from a place of chronic illness and an inability to work to surrendering, quitting her corporate job, healing herself, and starting her work as a trauma coach. Shelbi and I also...

talk about victim mentality as a hurdle to healing and the one thing our inner child needs most when we are acting as victims
explain the connection between victim mentality and perfectionism
explain "wokeness" comparison and the ego in the spiritual and personal development spaces
reveal Shelbi's perspective on where our hidden programming actually lives (hint: it's not in our heads)
discuss The Drama Triangle, how each of us cycles through each of its points, and how to get out
talk about giving the body a voice using a simple but profound journaling technique
explore how to get into the body to listen and discern what it's trying to tell you
discern how to know what your body sounds like vs. the brain manufacturing answers
discuss using imagination to connect with your body

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Episode 8: Pain Avoidance and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy with Andrew Kerbs Nov 09, 2020

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In this episode, therapist Andrew Kerbs and I chat about about pain avoidance, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, target fixation, and values. We also touch briefly on religious trauma. In our conversation, Andrew and I…

reveal that most people live from a place of pain avoidance
discuss the limiting paradigm of symptom reduction as a measure of success in mental health treatment
discuss the over-prescribing of psychiatric medication, especially to young boys, and how meds potentially prevent us from feeling the very things we want to feel
speculate on humans’ reduced ability to cope with trauma and discomfort
discuss the weaknesses of popular therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
talk about target fixation
discuss how we can do what we want, stay aligned with our values, AND simultaneously feel like shit
speak to toxic positivity and how we cannot think our way out of discomfort
touch on religious trauma and how religion perpetuates pain avoidance
reveal the “miracle question” every person can ask themselves to stay aligned with their values even in the midst of discomfort

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Episode 7: Emotional & Religious Trauma in Women, Leaving Toxic Wellness Culture & Mormonism, & The Emotion Code with Megan Buer Nov 04, 2020

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In this candid conversation with Megan Buer, founder of Harmony Restored and the Rooted In Health healing system, we connect over similar pasts growing up in fundamentalist, patriarchal religions, expose the emotional trauma in women from the cult of toxic wellness culture, and discuss how emotions get trapped in our bodies. Megan shares her work as an Emotion Code practitioner and shifts the paradigm that symptoms are "bad" and need to be gotten rid of to revealing that symptoms are our bodies' amazing way of communicating with us that they are healing. We expose the guilt, shame, and inadequacy that women with fundamentalist religious backgrounds experience and how falling prey to toxic wellness culture is akin to being in a narcissistic, abusive relationship or cult. Megan emphasizes, "There is no magic pill. There is no guru. YOU are the guru!" Finally, Megan gives listeners valuable action steps they can take if they've forgotten how to listen to and reconnect to Self.

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Episode 6: Help for Relationship Anxiety, Embodiment of Emotion Through Dance and Movement Therapy, and Pole Dancing with Chelsea Horton Oct 30, 2020

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Are you constantly worried about your romantic relationships? Do you find yourself wondering if you and your partner are "supposed" to be together, if you're right for each other, if they're cheating on your or going to leave you? This is relationship anxiety and OCD. And, there's help! In this episode, I interview Chelsea Horton, a relationship anxiety specialist and body-mind integration expert. We talk about identifying relationship anxiety and the help and community that's available if you're experiencing relationship anxiety as a trauma response. We also discuss embodying emotions -- giving emotions full reign to be felt, moved, and processed by the body. For example, if sadness had a dance, what would it be? Or, if fear had a movement, how would it look? Furthermore, Chelsea explains how pole dancing has been a tool in her trauma-healing toolbox because it's allowed her to access her inner "bad girl" and embody all aspects of herself without shame. You'll gain insight on how dance, movement, and embodiment can be a powerful tool for dealing with relationship anxiety and general trauma-healing.

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Episode 5: How I Intentionally Used Psychiatric Medications as a Tool in my Trauma-Healing Toolbox Oct 26, 2020

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I'm a natural-crunchy-hippie-health freak, and I caused myself to suffer with debilitating anxiety and insomnia for months because of my desire to stay "100% natural" and for fear of side effects and dependency of psychiatric medications. In this episode, I'm sharing why I finally got to the point of asking for the help of pharmaceuticals and how I used them with purpose and intention as I excavated trauma and its resulting unhealthy coping skills, codependency, limiting beliefs, toxic thoughts, and fear. I dive into DNA mutations, pharmacogenetics, and why working with a skilled psychiatrist will yield a better, more therapeutic experience than going to the general practitioner. This episode is not intended to encourage or discourage the use of psychiatric medication; rather, it is to share my perspective, as an "anti-medication" person who finally stopped resisting the help of meds and used them to empower myself, move beyond fear, and work on healing trauma.

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Episode 4: Toxic Wellness Culture: How It Invalidates Trauma & Keeps Us Stuck & Sick Oct 21, 2020

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You've tried numerous dietary restrictions, have spent thousands on supplements, and have hopped from one natural practitioner to the next... and you're still chronically ill. Sound familiar? Did you know it never actually ends? The health and wellness industry has convinced us that we're sick and in need of special diets, numerous natural practitioners, supplement protocols, and cleanses to "fix" ourselves. This is a wolf in sheep's clothing that I refer to as "toxic wellness culture". Not only does it keep us over-focused on physical health, it also keeps those of us with trauma stuck in trauma loops -- trying to heal the manifestations of emotional, mental, ancestral, and mental trauma solely with physical means. Toxic wellness culture also invalidates trauma and keeps trauma survivors on a constant carousel, going around and around, trying supplements and restrictive diets, seeing little, if any, improvements. Are you ready to get off the carousel?

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