Helping Couples Heal Podcast

Welcome to the Helping Couples Heal podcast. If you have lost hope around healing your relationship due to infidelity, relational or betrayal trauma you have come to the right place. Helping Couples Heal is an ongoing podcast designed to help couples recover and heal from the impact of betrayal trauma on their relationships. We cumulatively bring over two decades of experience and expertise in the field of betrayal. Throughout this podcast series, we will offer resources and support and teach you the tools and skills necessary to heal your relationship. You will also hear from recovered addicts, partners, and couples who will share their stories, as well as from experts in the field of betrayal. With compassion, love and fierce commitment, we will guide you and walk beside you as you navigate this journey of recovery, hope, and healing. Thank you for inviting us into your world; we are honored to support you.

Latest Episodes:

44: Imago Dialogue/Safe Conversations with Harville & Helen - Part 1 Nov 09, 2022

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In part one of this special episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt about their relationship history, the struggles that almost led to divorce, and how these experiences gave birth to the co-creation of Imago Relationship Therapy and more specifically the Imago Dialogue that they now refer to as Safe Conversations. Driven by a fierce commitment to promoting the transformation of couples, Harville and Helen created a safe and structured way to help couples overcome challenges and learn to communicate and, ultimately, heal.

43: Living in Limbo Oct 21, 2022

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In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane answer a listener's question about how to live in limbo, without safety, after choosing to stay in a relationship after betrayal.

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https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

42: Wholly Healthy Sex After Betrayal Oct 04, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Zoe Kors, certified Sexolgosit and HCH's resident Sex and Intimacy Coach, about healthy sexuality and sexual integration in the context of healing from betrayal and relational trauma.

Here is the link to the Sexual Reintegration Online Self-Guided Course.

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/reintegration-course/

41: Betrayed Partner Trauma Responses Sep 09, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the biology of partner trauma responses through the lens of attachment theory and safety. Conceptualizing partner trauma from this lens allows those who have betrayed to learn the necessary relational skills to help heal. In this short but informative episode, Marnie and Duane address the complexities of healing from betrayal trauma and the mistakes made by those who were betrayed when trying to help their partner recover from triggers and trauma responses.

40: Community Aug 05, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma.

Special Episode - Carol The Coach interviews Marnie about the HCH Couples Community Jul 21, 2022

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We hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma.

To learn more about the community, click the link below.

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

39: Life After Recovery Jul 06, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener's question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What's on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abuse? Marnie and Duane answer some of these questions and explore what life can look like beyond recovery when both partners are very much invested in healing the relationship

38: Transparency After Betrayal Jun 20, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.

Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place of trauma and despair to a place of security, trust, and healing. To those who have betrayed their partner, helping your partner and your relationship heal from betrayal trauma requires full transparency and the willingness to consistently provide evidence of fidelity and honesty when requested. Recognizing that a partner is seeking safety after discovery and taking action to provide full transparency without resistance, defensiveness, or anger is essential to relational healing.

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37: Time and Expectations May 18, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal.

Learn more about our workshop:

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/

Learn more about our online couples community:

https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/

36: Shame Apr 26, 2022

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In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal.

It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for their betrayal; shame doesn’t accomplish that. Shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible.

What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness because it tells you that this (what you have done) is who you have always been and always will be. Rather than conceptualizing your betrayal as behavior that caused trauma to your intimate partner (and perhaps others as well), shame frames the betrayal as an integral part of your identity. Most people who feel that, at their core, they are bad will not believe that they are worthy of forgiveness and healing.

While humility pushes you to change and become a better person, shame paralyzes and prevents you from growing and healing. It disables you, blocking your capacity to take the necessary steps to heal yourself or your relationship.

Relational healing requires the ability to be relational and present. Shame does the opposite; it pushes you away from your spouse at precisely the moment you should be trying to rebuild your connection.

If shame is keeping you or your relationship stuck, please listen to this episode.

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