Girls Gone Deep

Two sex-positive ladies in the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle chatting about how we use dating and sex as a space for personal development and growth, and creating the most joyous life possible. A podcast for the open-minded, curious and naughty. @girlsgonedeeppod www.girlsgonedeep.com

Latest Episodes:

083: Dildos and Fleshlights, Pregnant Sex Positions, First Times, and Formative Sexual Experiences feat. Brandi Aug 08, 2024

Show notes

In this episode, the girls bring back Brandi from Episode 047: Fulfilling Fantasies: Exploring Kinks and BDSM, the DC Fetish Ball, Sex Therapy and Hiring a Pro Dominatrix.
Together they play WHOREible Life by trying to guess whether or not each player has done the act mentioned on the card. This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!

Sex Positions While Pregnant: which positions create a boy and which create a girl, and why laying on your back doesn’t work while pregnant. (2:15)

Card 1: Had sex before the age of 15? First time stories. (9:41)

What is considered “full on sex” or “fourth base” with a female? (15:29)

Formative sexual oral experiences as precursors to the lifestyle. (18:07)

Card 2: Used a fleshlight. What is a fleshlight? Other toy options for penis owners. (23:01)

Card 3: Own 3 or more dildos. Sex toy closets and favorite sex toys. (30:41)

Dildos vs. vibrators, and when and why would you use each? Frozen glass dildo to relieve pussy pain. (33:57)

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082: Sex Party Etiquette and Tips from Experienced Sluts: Avoiding Common Assumptions, Establishing Connections, and Being Sexually Forward feat. Jess Aug 01, 2024

Show notes

There are plenty of podcasts that talk about do’s and dont’s at a sex parties. This episode goes deeper.
The girls share their "aha" moments, discuss common mistakes made by veterans in the lifestyle, and storytell through it all with real-life examples.

Joining Elle and Vee chat in this discussion is returning guest Jess from Episode 58: “Help! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!”, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play and Episode 37: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking

Episode Breakdown

Intro and The Need for this Discussion from the More Experienced Perspective on Sex Parties. (00:35)

DON’T yuck someone else's yum. Be open minded for to other’s desires and kinks. "What about that turns you on?" (04:51)

Tips for Making More Connections at Parties. (09:33)

DO Attend Sex Parties with other friends: How many is too many? What’s the right amount of people to ensure fun while still branching away to meet new people? (11:01)

DON’T Set Expectations, rather, DO Set Personal Goals. (13:44)

DO Create an Immersive Environment by Putting in Effort in Dressing Up for the Theme. (16:31)

DO Be Sexually Forward with Clear Communication and Honesty (20:08)

DON’T Take Anything Personally, and how not to lead People On. (26:45)

DO Ask “What Are Your Intentions For The Night?” To Uncover Compatibility. (30:43)

DON’T Assume It’s Free for All: Interactions Between Other People Does Not Mean It Also Applies To You. (32:24)

DO Use Your Words and Tell Others When You Feel Uncomfortable, otherwise, you’re a part of the problem. (37:52)
DO Read the Room for Energy and Vibe, DON’T Talk During the Orgy. (43:32)

DO Pack Your Slutbag, Organization Tips, Bringing Your Own Sex Toys, Toy Condoms. (46:42)

DON’T get too fucked up: Substances and Moderation. (48:54)

DON’T STINK! Preparation and Hygiene. (52:45)

DO Flirt Early, Arrive Early. (55:59)

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081: Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship, Creating a Sexy Environment in Temporary Spaces, and How to Pick Up a Vanilla Feat. Lolo and B Jul 25, 2024

Show notes

In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with couple B and Lolo to discuss their long-distance relationship and how they practice non monogamy. They share how they navigate being apart and how they keep their relationship hot and exciting.

The conversation touches on topics such as playing separately, sharing sexy content, phone and video sex, the importance of creating the right atmosphere for sexual experiences, and their successful approach to meeting new people and introducing 'vanillas' into the lifestyle.

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Episode Breakdown:

Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship requires effort and communication, and the story of how Lolo and B met. (01:27)

How they explored the non monogamous lifestyle together, B had no experience and Lolo tried with her ex-husband. (7:19)

How they practice non monogamy in their long distance relationship. (15:17)

How to keep it hot while being long distance: sexy content and FaceTime sex. (18:20)

Orgasms: Frustration losing an orgasm, breathing through the orgasms or holding your breath. (22:10)

Creating a sexy environment in temporary spaces like hotels or airbnbs: the role of low lighting and color temperature with amber-hued incandescent light bulbs, led light strips. (28:40)

Preventing messes with waterproof fitted sheets, furniture placement and other essentials. (34:49)

Music recommendations: Create a party-like atmosphere without being distracting is ideal for setting the mood. (38:53)

Hedonism Jamaica Story Share: Naked, covered in squirt juice and room temperature to get naked plus how B and LoLo met Elle. (41:50)

Enthusiastic consent and how it's importance in meeting new people, the power of open and honest communication. (46:48)

Successful Sport Fishing: How they pick up 'Vanillas’ (non monogamous people) for threesomes or foursomes, while out at a bar. Creating a safe space for exploration. (51:56)

Their foundation for a successful journey their relationship, through ENM, and being long distance: No Secrets, No Lies: Everything Else is a Conversation. (1:02:18)

Navigating jealousy and conflict requires self-reflection, non reactivity in the moment and effective communication. (1:04:22)

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079: Working Through Personal Challenges in ENM: Ebbs and Flows in Libido, Breakups and Changing Dynamics in Your Polycule, and Oversaturation Jul 11, 2024

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In this episode, Elle catches up with Vee on everything she's been up to over the past few months while she's been gone on maternity leave. Vee shares her takeaways from various sex parties and the personal challenges she's been working through that have made getting sexual more challenging than usual.

Overthinking and using labels as a crutch: demisexuality. (1:57)

Trying to get sexy when you have a lot of stress in your life. (10:39)

Sex party takeaways: Squirting in public. Balancing and communicating with your partner, and using orgasms as stress relief. (13:16)

Don’t take anything personally: you never know what’s going on for someone in their own head and life. (20:19)

Likening sex parties to restaurants. If you’re not in the mood to participate, how can you leave the night feeling fulfilled and successful? (23:45)

Thinking for two at a sex party: how can you meet in the middle as a couple so that you’re both satisfied? Being a wingwoman/wingman for your partner so that you’re both fulfilled by the experience. (28:46)

Turning the conversation sexual: Getting turned on by talking about fantasies. (32:06)

Rooftop sex story: being attracted to androgyny. Getting out of your head and acting on instincts. (36:00)
The energetic difference when someone is “thirsty” vs when there’s no expectations. A subtle expectation for sex when you’re at a sex party. (39:37)

Oversaturation with sex parties leading to numbness. (41:41)

How to work through the feelings when the dynamics change in your polycule. When solo female unicorns leave the lifestyle when they find a monogamous partner. (45:31)

Setting intentions for upcoming events. (57:20)

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078: BABY JOY IS HERE! Elle's Birth Story feat. Postpartum Sex, Sex to Induce Labor, and Breast Milk Play Jul 04, 2024

Show notes

Elle had her baby! In this episode, she shares all the intimate details about how she and her husband, M, used natural sexual tactics to induce labor, and how they got back to being sexual after six weeks of healing.
How to induce labor with sex: nipple play, penetrative sex, nipple clamps, orgasms and Braxton Hicks. (3:07)

What is labor pain like? Comparing contractions to DVP, speculum spreading, fisting, anal discomfort: breathing through discomfort, and thinking of words as spells. (11:04)

Post-baby vagina: "the husband stitch", and does it look different? Is it loose? (17:31)

Postpartum sex: how long does it take to get back to sex after having a baby? Getting over the fear of having an orgasm. How to get comfortable with penetration again. The first orgasm after six weeks of vaginal healing. (20:43)

Scheduling sex when you have a newborn. (28:09)

Breast milk play: Breastfeeding and nipple play. Tasting breast milk and squirting it during blow jobs. (28:41)

Being in the open lifestyle and parenthood: confidence issues with postpartum body. Diving back into sex parties and ENM (ethical non-monogamy) after having a child. (35:40)

Maintaining your sex life with a baby around. How having a short timeline can be hot! (38:34)

Major takeaways from giving birth and getting back to sex: Prioritizing sex to reignite sexuality in your relationship postpartum. Falling in love with your partner again. (42:01)

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🔮 WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your game deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com IG: @wlthegame

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077: Pro Domme and Professional Cuddler Bee on Therapeutic Kink, Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) Dynamics, Yoni Gazing and Squirting Upside Down feat. Physics Jun 27, 2024

Show notes

In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with professional cuddler and dominatrix Bee, who is also the co-founder of Temple in Chicago, a shibari and aerial performer, and the partner of previous repeat guest Physics (Episode 45: Yoni Massage vs Squirting, Episode 46: BDSM, DDLG and Shibari). In this wide-ranging conversation, the four of them touch on everything from DDLG dynamics to overcoming vulva shame through yoni gazing.
Temple: The feminine energy vs the masculine energy, creating a space for women to feel vulnerable enough to have those transformational experiences. Events at Temple from yoni gazing to massage to Littles Parties. (1:26)

Overcoming vulnerabilities about our vulvas by yoni gazing. Admiring, acknowledging and affirming your vulva. Porn star pussy vs real life. Uneven labia. (11:09)

Professional cuddling: platonic touch therapy. The importance of touch. What does a cuddling session entail? How can a professional cuddler maintain safety? (21:08)

Therapeutic Kink as a mode of healing and helping others work through trauma through professional domming. Do all clients have something to work through? (31:08)

DDLG (Daddy Dom Little Girl) Dynamics: how being a “little” allows Bee to be in her dominant energy during the day. (39:11)

Switchy Domme: Power dynamics and differentiating between personal pleasure practices and experiences vs. work experiences. (43:16)

Shibari: what does it do for the people practicing it? Showmanship with suspension combined with aerial skills and squirting. How to prep for squirting: regular hydration! (46:09)
Upside down squirting: wow factors and showmanship in erotic shibari performance. (50:47)

Links:
Find Bee on Fetlife: LilHoneyBeeBuzz
Find Physics on Fetlife: Physics
Websites:
CuddlesByBee.com
The Temple

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076: Rape Fantasies (Consensual Non-Consent aka CNC), Parenting Sex Positivity and "The Sex Talk", Double Ended Dildos, and Masturbation feat. Slutlana and Alexa Andre Jun 20, 2024

Show notes

In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest Slutlana (from Episode 31: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and Alexa Andre (from Episode 71: Relaxing While Receiving Oral, One Penis Policy, and Biphobia) to play the game Whoreible Life.

This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!

There are many many ways to play, so in this episode they play it two ways: “Would You Rather” and “Done It, Fantasy, No Thank You” -

1 Done it — share the story!

2 Fantasy — share your fantasy of this card!

3 No thank you - and why you're not interested in this act.

Have you ever had sex in your parents’ bed? How “the talk” and your parents’ approach to sex can affect your early relationship with sexuality. (3:13)
Different approaches to talking about sex with your kids. (8:48)

Have you ever role played in a rape fantasy or “Consensual Non Consent” (CNC) scene? Describing examples of CNC scenes, role playing, safe words and what needs to be discussed and agreed beforehand. (13:30)
Lowering our standards while dating during the Covid pandemic and putting ourselves in potentially unsafe situations. (22:52)
Catharsis in acting out fears through sexual fantasies like rape scenes and consensual non-consent. (30:34)

Would you rather use a double ended dildo or make a girl squirt? Being surprised by a squirter. Glass vs silicone double ended dildos, and the first time orgasming with a double ended dildo - what position works best. (38:27)
Double ended dildo vs. Feeldo. (42:50)

Would you rather practice tantric sex or role play as submissive? Masturbating and focusing on the breath; breath orgasms without physical touch. (45:40)
Workout orgasms and Elle’s experience orgasming with an ab roller. (48:02)

Would you rather watch VR porn or be dominated to lose the right to orgasm? Orgasm denial, being a brat, and Reddit porn communities. (50:45)

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074: Sex Educator and Pro Domme Lola Jean on Fetish Wrestling, Choking Methods and Squirting Misconceptions (aka Why Squirting Sucks) Jun 06, 2024

Show notes

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Lola Jean (@lolajeandotcom) about her work as a sex educator. She's known for holding the World Record for Highest Volume Squirted, but this conversation steers away from that (after first touching on why squirting can be annoying) and dives into her work as a fetish wrestler (aka "play fighting" using jiu jitsu moves).
No frills sex education: what does that mean? Working the social media algorithm as a sex educator. All the courses Lola Jean has on her website from choking to masturbation to play fighting, and more. (1:18)

How did Lola Jean get to where she is as a sex educator, squirting icon and fetish wrestler? (6:58)
ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy): differentiating non-monogamy, just “being single”, and situationships. Figuring out what you want by dating all types of couples and relationship dynamics. Sex and love addicts anonymous (SLAA). Attachment styles. (9:27)

Squirting: how does it feel to be known as a squirter? Fetishizing and red flags. What should we know about squirting? When trying to do it, figure out WHY you’re trying to do it. Who is it for? (17:30)

Broad vs specific response squirting. (22:04)
Why squirting actually sucks. (25:24)

Fetish Wrestling: Different types of choking (Fantasy Choke, Blood Choke, Air Choke). (29:51)

What does a fetish wrestling session look like? Power dynamics? Vetting process? Types of fetish wrestling sessions: fantasy, semi-competitive, full competitive, lift and carry. (35:53)
What is the psychology behind fetish wrestling? What's in it for both the provider and the client? (41:56)
Sex workers' self care after sessions. (44:30)
Where to find Lola Jean:
Website: lolajean.com
Seven Days of Domination

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073: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation May 30, 2024

Show notes

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Kate Maxx, who is a "Jill of all trades": a former Naked News anchor, model, Young Swingers Week emcee (among other events), stripper, Only Fans content creator, and dominatrix specializing in humiliation. They go deep on all these topics. Additionally, they cover the importance of separating your work and personal life as a sex worker, and the shifts in perspective when you're a young widow.
Website: www.katemaxx.com
Instagram: kate_maxx_

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072: Guys Gone Deep on Age Play, Spreader Bars, Collaring, Prince Albert Piercings and Glory Holes with Daniel D'Ottavio and M May 23, 2024

Show notes

In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back repeat guest M (from Episode 5: Compersion, Episode 12: DP, Episode 34: How to Squirt) and Daniel D'Ottavio (@dottavio77) from Episode 64: SNCTM to play the game WHOREible Life together!

This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!

When we pulled a card, each of us responded with Done it, Fantasy or No Thank you.

1 Done it — share the story!

2 Fantasy — share your fantasy of this card!

3 No thank you - and why you're not interested in this act.
Crawled on a leash held by another. What might motivate someone to engage in age play? Comparing and contrasting using a leash for a sub/dom scene, role playing as an animal, or role playing as a baby. (3:16)
Used a glory hole. How to make your own! The difference between a glory hole and milking table. (15:36)
Received double penetration. M's first DP experience. (20:12)
Sucked a cock with a Prince Albert Piercing. The negative aspects of giving head to someone with a genital piercing. (29:13)
Had sex with someone who didn't speak the same language as you. How demisexuality interferes with this fantasy! (31:54)
Worn a collar in public. (36:00)
Worn or played with a spreader bar. Using BDSM gear with multiple partners. (37:46)

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